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Goge (BARRONS) le Moning Maniac, wrote: "Danielle, I find that I am a "possessive, bossy, and unsharing" individual when it comes to someone I love. Therefore it's understandable if my other half displays the same towards me. I'd want h..."
I understand what you mean. It's nice to feel like someone thinks of you as belonging to them, and that's about as far as I would go with the possessive thing in real life. I don't think jealousy is very healthy in a real-life relationship, and I think that trust is important, and where there is trust, then there shouldn't be jealousy. Not that I am putting down anyone's relationships. I'm just speaking based on my own life and thoughts.
I would like my spouse to trust that if I say I'm going somewhere, that I didn't lie and that he can trust me not to cheat on him, because that's how I want to be with my husband. I couldn't live under a shadow of doubt, trust, and jealousy. My father was a cheater, and so that's why I am very intolerant of infidelity, and if I thought I couldn't trust my husband to stay faithful, I don't think I would want to be married to that person. And I hope he would know me well enough that I would never betray my marriage vows. Hope that makes sense.
As far as historical dangerous heroes, i think I would prefer more of a western type hero (lawman, sheriff, clean mountain man). The earls and dukes don't always work for me, personally, since I have a stick up my rear about entitlement and privilege. If he was more of a Lisa Kleypas, Courtney Milan, or Christina Dodd historical hero, maybe. Probably my preferred historical hero would be Jodi Thomas.
I gravitate towards beta guys in real life.
Thanks for posting such a great question, Andrea!
Pamela(AllHoney) wrote: "I could dig a dangerously smart dude! ☺"He would definitely keep his missus on her toes!
I just finished When Shadows Fall. Although this is more of a thriller/suspense book, the heroine's boyfriend is definitely dangerous hero material. He's ex Army Ranger and his training comes into play quite a bit in the book.
It depends on the kind of dangerous hero. Probably not the possessive/jealous/stalkerific kind that I love so much in books. I don't think I would do well with a clingy/needy spouse. I tend to want my time to myself regularly and that isn't compatible with that kind of man. I wouldn't want a man who was edgy or on the wrong side of the law. Although I have a weakness for assassins/black ops heroes in the books, definitely not for me in real life.
On the other hand, I think I would be okay married to some kind of law enforcement type, as long as he wasn't too macho, because I can't stand that.
The most compatible dangerous hero for me would be a cerebral/dangerous mind type like Sherlock Holmes or Spencer Reid, although more polite than Sherlock. That would make for an interesting marriage.
I wish Kinley MacGregor would publish more books!
Congratulations, Suzanne!
I still need to watch the Romola Garai Emma.
Hi Andrea. No one is signed up this week, so knock yourself out.
DHASG February Challenge
Introduction: The second month of the year is exciting in that it has some iconic holidays, and it’s the second full month of winter. With this challenge, the goal is to take some representative aspects of February, most notably St. Valentine’s Day, and challenge ourselves to read books that showcase these elements of the month. Hope you’ll join us!
Instructions:
1. Each participant can can sign up at any time from the opening of thread and post their final stats when finished.
2. Books must be read between February 1st and February 28th, 2013.
3. One book counts for one part of the challenge.
4. Books can be of any genre unless specifically stated.
Levels:
1. Love Doctor: Read 10-12 books
2. Love Jones: Read 5-9 books
3. Love is a Four Letter Word!: Read 4 books
1. Let Love Rule!: Read a book that has a sublimely happy ending in which love conquers all.
2. Cupid strikes again!: Read a book in which one of the characters matchmakes or engineers a successful love connection between the two leads (or at least prominent secondary characters). The main character could also be the embodiment of Cupid/Eros or at least figuratively acts as Cupid.
3. Black History Month: In the United States and Canada, February is the month in which we celebrate the history of black people or African-Americans. Read a book that touches on the many contributions of and the diverse and rich cultural heritage of black Americans.
4. Love Stinks!: Read a book where the main character hates love and is determined not to fall in love (but does eventually).
5. How do you say I love you?: For this challenge, I will give you the phrase, “I love you.” In several different languages. Read a book that represents one of these translations. “Yo te quiero”-Spanish, “Je t'adore”—French, “Ich liebe dich”—German, “Ani Ohev/Ohevet Otach”—Hebrew,“Thečhíȟila“ –Lakota Sioux, “Ja teb'a l'ubl'u!”—Russian. You can find another translation and use it here as well. Let us know where it’s from in parentheses for your stats.
6. Honest Abe!: Abraham Lincoln’s birthday is celebrated in February (February 12th). Abraham Lincoln was born in Kentucky, but associated highly with the state of Illinois, which is called the Land of Lincoln. He was the 16th president. He was president during the War Between the States, signed the Emanicipation Proclamation, which freed all the slaves in America, was assassinated, he was very tall (6’4”), he was considered homely or unattractive, he wore a beard later in life, and was black-haired with gray eyes. Read a book with character(s) who embody any of the above traits of Abraham Lincoln.
7. Romantic Comedy: Since it’s February, read a book that reminds you of a romantic comedy in storyline, characters, or even has a similar or the same name as one of your favorite rom-coms.
8. When they first met: Read a book that has a very unique ‘first meeting’ between the main couple.
9. Love in other forms: Love isn’t just of the romantic variety. Read a book that showcases another kind of love. The four types of love are: Storge-Affection, Philia-Friendship, Eros-Romance, Agape-Unconditional Love. Choose any of the three except for Eros, and read a book that represents that love in some way. The book can be a romance, but you should reflect on another type of love in its storyline. The alternative is to read a book about something you love. Please tell us what that is in parentheses in your stats.
10. Let’s Celebrate!: Pick one of the following February holidays to showcase in your reading: Ash Wednesday, Mardi Gras, Chinese New Year, Groundhog Day, International Friendship Day.
11. They Celebrate That Day in February?: Here are a few really strange holidays in February. Choose one and read a book for it. Working Naked Day, Dump Your Significant Jerk Day, Get a Different Name Day, My Way Day, Love Your Pet Day, Be Electrific Day.
12. Leap Day: Leap Day only comes around every four years, so we’ll honor it by throwing in a few book for you. Pick any book you want to read for this one.
Information about the month of February taken from various sites I don’t own!
Challenge Participants
Elizabeth
Tina Theresa
Danielle The Book Huntress
Brandi
Suzanne
Congrats, Tina Theresa!
Oh man, I love Ethan! Hid From Evil sounds good too.
MaryReadsRomance wrote: For me, my current hard limit is that I do not like books that glorify abuse of woman or that promotes severe physical or emotional abuse that leaves permanent physical or emotional scars OR books that have an abusive anti-hero who never actually reforms...This is for me as well. I am a huge Anne Stuart fan, and she writes some very edgy heroes, but I believe that they love the heroine and that has impacted them deep inside. And I think that there is a thin line between showing a morally questionable hero and a completely amoral, psychopathic character who enjoys hurting others. That doesn't work for me and never will.
@ Andrea, I agree with this: I've been titillated by things I'd never tolerate in real life. I just think we should keep emphasizing that we aren't giving a license to victimize people. There are sickos who think that's what the romance genre is about. I'll be the first to admit there can be a high level of exaggeration. But it's about escapism and folks I've met on Goodreads appreciate that.
That's why we do give a forum for discussing these aspects of Dangerous Hero reading on this group. We don't need to justify our choices, but it's okay to talk through our concerns and misgivings and what we can and cannot deal with.
Anne wrote: "Love that series, Heather!!!!"Ditto!
Welcome, Madel!
I appreciate everyone's comments. I think it's important to be able to talk about these subjects in a safe place where people will listen and think about what people are saying. I won't pretend I haven't read or enjoyed books where there is a rape/non-consent scenario. I just want to be clear that I am not judging anyone's reading tastes. I like forced seduction books, and I love a possessive/jealous hero. I think that I do have a comfort zone that can be crossed, which is why I avoid BDSM books and dark erotic/well most erotica in general. I think that readers need to make informed decisions about their reading, and I hate when a book is unclearly marketed where a reader ends up reading content that is way beyond their comfort zone.
I also have this concern that books are getting more and more extreme in content, and that content is bleeding over into 'mainstream' novels where an unwary reader can be exposed to objectionable content they can't deal with. I feel that the publishers need to be more responsible in that regard.
Welcome, Madel!
