MeerderWörter’s Comments (group member since Jan 08, 2016)

MeerderWörter’s comments from the Our Shared Shelf group.

Elke wrote: "ja sowas ähnliches suche ich aber ohne Bücher."

Hmmm... da fällt mir leider nichts ein.
Zur Not musst du halt selber machen:)

Selbst ist die Frau:)

Hanita wrote: "I am so sorry to hear this. What is the reason behind these killings?"

It is not ONE in particular, but if you ask me there are definitely things that stand behind this:
Austria is in many ways a conservative country, yes, things changed a lot but with the far-right government, many people knew things wouldn't be nice.

Some things that happened:
The police used to have workshops on domestic violence, these were made by the same people running women's shelters...
What did our interior minister do?
Slash it without any explanation.
The government used to fund a lot of feminist initiatives like magazines and stuff - what happened?
They either slashed the funding completely or in huge parts, which is just another sign how conservative this government is and just to throw it in, another thing: The only time the word "women" shows up in the coalition plan (so basically what they want to improve, work on, whatever word fits) is in connection to family, so they think of women only as housewives (their actions with regard to labour rights made that obvious as well).

So, it's not a single thing, I'd say it is more a combination of many factors.

One thing that did show though, was the following:
It were husbands, brothers, it were Austrians, EU members and non-EU members who were the killers.
This is not about: Oh the bad refugees bringing all this crime into our country.
This is far from it.

What they all have in common though is that men killed women who they knew, who they were close to. Another one of those lies our minister of the interior wants to spread - that it is the unknown perpetrator (which yes, it does happen) but that is the small minority of the incidents.

Keith wrote: "James wrote: "Guess is wasn't just men having a hissy fit about it. I kind of figured this would happen"

Yep - it feels like a case of "damned if you do, damned if you don't" and I do love the fac..."

It questions social rules - and humans always get icky about this...

Elke wrote: "Ich würde so etwas wie ein Forum machen. Mit Themen und so."

Aber das haben wir ja hier schon.

Elke wrote: "Ich hätte gern so eine Art Comunity oder Plattform dafür. Quassi ein Stammtisch nur online."

Es ist auf Skype, was für mich gleichbedeutend mit online ist.
Ich find auch dass ein Stammtisch eine gute Idee ist.

I hardly can't believe it myself, and I am really shocked!
This past week 4 women have been killed by men in Austria. Today in the night was the 4th one.

This year is 15 days old!

Uff, einen online Stammtisch...
Vielleicht auf Skype?
Was du vorschlägst findest du vielleicht schon hier, schau mal unter Feminism Skype Debates nach:)

Das wär das eheste, was ich mir darunter vorstelle.

Pam wrote: "More items from today's headlines:

1) The Next Standing Rock? Wet'suwet'en First Nation is fighting to protect their land from a oil pipeline. A number of Indigenous groups held what they describ..."

It floods my social media for days now, and it won't stop.
There's much at stake, land rights, governance and who has a say over what. It could shape issues for the coming decades if not generations.

Barbara wrote: "Marina wrote: "what makes me angry? ableism and fatphobia most of all, because many otherwise "woke" people are very guilty of these. there's a lot to criticize about trump, and making fun of his w..."

I do agree, it is appropriate to judge a person for a given position. But it depends on which criteria we choose.

Do you think it is okay to say he is in a way disabled, when we have no doctors who have confirmed this? What does this say to disabled people who have a diagnosis?

Marina wrote: "what makes me angry? ableism and fatphobia most of all, because many otherwise "woke" people are very guilty of these. there's a lot to criticize about trump, and making fun of his weight or callin..."

Oh, yes, YES. Ugh, ableism sucks!

Thalia, for about 15€ plus shipping (or in any of their shops, in case you have to order it no shipping of course...)
https://www.thalia.at/shop/home/sugge...

Amazon: 14-16€, either Kindle or Paperback
https://www.amazon.de/Things-Would-Te...

Morawa: e-book, 10€ (or I think they would also order the hardcover or softcover for you)
https://www.morawa.at/detail/ISBN-224...

I'll check for Austria. Be back in a bit.

For me, it is important to raise the voices of feminist issues in an intersectional way. Women aren't a monolith, and we need to respect this and get our head around this.

Roy wrote: "Can I join in?"

Sure.

Merry Christmas and Happy Season!

Megan wrote: "Tracy wrote: "I’m an introvert who hosts Christmas Eve dinner each year with my side of the family and my husband’s parents. It is a challenge but because it’s in my home it’s a little easier to co..."

This is something I can really relate to!

I'm an only child and my family is, in total not very big.
The whole festivity thing is also rather easily dealt with: On 24th celebrating with my parents, then with each of my grandparents on the 25th and 26th (Christmas is a 3-day celebration in Austria).

That's basically it, this year I'm gonna spend New Year with my flatmate, and I look forward to that:)

And to everyone out there for whom Christmas is a difficult time because family is difficult to deal with: I've been there and I know how much it sucks, and I'm sorry that you have to deal with this.

Hmm, you're asking some really good questions, Florian!

Anger I think is an emotion that is very close to hate. Anger is an emotion that kicks the gears so you get shit done:) Is anger always violent? Hmm, I don't think it's necessarily always violent... when it leads to you changing the causes of your anger, then that doesn't have to be violent. I think there's always goal and measure, and according to the goal the measure might be violent, but it doesn't have to be.
On whether it's better to keep our anger for ourselves or not - I would say it depends on the circumstances. When you're in a safe space then I think you can express your anger, your frustration, but if you're not, it might be better not to, or you'll face repercussions.
When you let it happen that the anger eats you up, I think it can definitely hinder conversation. When it is in the right place though, and you control the anger rather than it controls you, I think then it really can stimulate discussion.
I also think that anger is something that is sparked by hurt - when you're hurt you tend to go through phases like anger and sadness, and finally, I'd like to say that, for me personally, I'd rather take anger because it let's you do shit, instead of sadness, which just numbs you down into a state where you don't get anything done... that's my experiences at least.

Gerd wrote: "Endure the traditional family dinner and hope that there will a re-run of "We're no Angels" on some channel.

Oh, and being German I'm genetically predisposed to enjoy viewing Three wishes for Cind..."

Drei Haselnüsse für Aschenbrödel?
I love that movie!

I will try to be there tomorrow, but can't say with certainty that I will be able to make it...