Advice from The “Perfect” Parent

Today’s blog post comes from TOG friend Elizabeth. A mother of two, she is expecting her third daughter any day now. Feeling nervous about adjusting to life with three young children, she turned to Roma for advice and found solace in The “Perfect” Parent, specifically this passage.

Affirmations serve as easy reminders when we’ve started to drift away from our intentions. Repeated affirmations also strengthen our communication habits. And yes, it does take a little practice, but the good feeling and confidence that follow are well worth the small effort. Even though there are suggested affirmation reminders at the end of each chapter and in the toolbox at the end of this book, feel free to use your own words to write your own affirmations; they are most powerful when they reflect your natural style of speech. Let your affirmations reflect your own personality.

In fact, your entire parenting personality might be different from that of other parents. Even siblings brought up by the same parents may ave different parenting styles. And that’s okay. Remind yourself that you are “perfect” just the way you are. Our parenting personalities are as unique and perfect as a thumbprint. Why? Because we are as unique as our thumbprints, and so our are kids.

From Elizabeth: My affirmations for this new stage in our family is “Things will be different, but still full of love.” and “All I need to do is what works for us.” Knowing that I don’t need to live up to some idealized version of parenthood, but simply be responsive and in touch with MY children is such a relief. It takes away a lot of anxiety and stress (which no pregnant woman needs!) and gives me a feeling of security and capability. Thank you Roma!

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