How to Appreciate Yourself

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We all want to be appreciated - we hope others notice the efforts we make. But sometimes we may feel as if we don’t get the recognition we deserve. And let’s face it, there are people who don’t always express their gratitude.

This feeling can lead to resentment. But the truth is, it’s more important to seek approval and validation from ourselves than from others.

Here’s how to give yourself the credit you deserve:

Take note of everything you’ve done recently to help someone else. You are writing it down not to let others know, but to remind yourself.

Acknowledge your work. Don’t ignore even the smallest exertion it takes to complete a task. Tell yourself, “It was hard, but I did it successfully!”

Value what you do. Don’t downplay your accomplishments or the help you give to others. Place a value on whatever you’ve achieved. Did it take three hours of your time? A couple of sleepless nights? Was it worth $500? This will make it easier to see the significance of your time and effort.

Enjoy the feeling of helping. Completing a difficult task is rewarding – especially when it benefits other people. Consider that feeling a reward in itself and you won't need as much validation from others.

- Cecile Peterkin, career and retirement coach