Review or NOT to review...?

As authors/writers, whatever we like to think of ourselves, we meet other like-minded people on our travels. It's a lovely thought that we help each other, guide each other, share information and support. Inevitably, we will be asked to review work. I had never had a problem with doing that until recently.
I am an honest person, lying is not something I enjoy or feel comfortable doing. I expect from people what I put out. If I ask for a review, it's because I genuinely want to know how another 'author' felt about it from a professional side of things. NOT what they think I want to hear.
Anyone, mostly friends, can tell me how great my writing is, but that isn't helpful, it's nice and boosts my feelings into the 100%, but it doesn't help my writing.
Why was it great? What made it great? How did it make you feel? Think? If you didn't like something, why? Etc.
I find honesty to be more helpful than flattery!
So, I am honest in my reviews to other authors - I think perhaps my mistake is assuming they want the same honesty as I do; I've learned lately that isn't the case and it made me sad for a while as I obviously 'hurt' someone's feelings.
Being an author is hard on all aspects - mentally, physically but I think emotionally is the hardest. If I can't take honest reviews of my work, then I'm in the wrong business and I have to always be aware that out of hundreds of happy readers, it's o.k that there might be one who for whatever reason, didn't like my work, because we are all human and different, not boring and robotic!
I see some reviews that are, quite honestly, tearing an authors work to shreds, while others lavish the author with ego boosting flattery that makes me wonder who is being honest or who has an agenda?
I guess that's yet another hurdle to get over on this learning journey. So, I will make it perfectly clear from now on, want a review - then it's an honest review of my personal thoughts and feelings as an author and as a woman.Freya's Child
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