Don't engage with angry people

It is so easy to get thrown off balance by reacting to hostile people who push our buttons.  When we do, it distracts us from accomplishing important things in our lives. 

Cheryl is learning how to avoid be reactive: "I've had a problem overreacting when someone is angry at me.  However, I am being coached to detach from that person--because their agitation probably has little to do with me. I don't have to get defensive.  As a result, I find myself having more time to do my work."

If we realize that the people who attack us are really in need of help, we take back our power and put the focus on ourselves. 

How have you acted with compassion recently to someone who was harsh with you?

Taken from In Her Power: Reclaiming Your Authentic Self, Helene Lerner, Beyond Words/Atria