731 Recovery for the Codependent Perfectionist with Alana Carvalho

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“We don’t realize that we create dependency often in our helping. We care a lot, and it’s often coming from a loving place, but it actually turns into something very un-loving when we make someone dependent on us.” – Alana Carvalho

Intro

I’m so excited to have a new pal, Alana Carvalho, a licensed mental health counselor, on the show to talk about two topics we’re both passionate about: codependency and perfectionism!

We talk about why these two things go together, our experiences of being in recovery from both, what inspired Alana to create The Codependent Perfectionist brand, how to ease up on perfectionism and codependent behaviors, and so much more. 

I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did!

Highlights:2:20 Alana’s origin story6:16 The cost to self-abandonment9:10 The intersection between codependency and perfectionism22:00 Choosing precise language25:50 The inspiration behind Alana’s book, Raising Empowered Children 28:20 Taking the pressure off of yourself: How to do it and why you should32:30 Alana’s most challenging boundary struggleConnect with Alana Carvalho

Alana Carvalho, LMHC is a licensed mental health counselor who specializes in helping individuals, couples and families build balanced, connected and rewarding relationships. She is especially passionate about helping individuals learn about codependency and perfectionism to start their healing journeys. Alana has lectured on child development at The College of Staten Island. Her first book Raising Empowered Children: The Codependent Perfectionist’s Guide to Parenting is available on amazon.com. Alana also created The Codependent Perfectionist’s Oracle Cards to give everyone the ability to utilize therapeutic tools at the touch of their hand. Alana is the co-owner of a group private practice in New York City.

Website: https://alanacarvalho.com

IG: https://instagram.com/thecodependentperfectionist

 

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