714 Being Nice to Avoid Conflict Isn’t Nice, It’s Controlling – Here’s Why

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“Shoveling your elderly neighbor’s driveway is nice. Not telling someone the truth about what you feel to avoid them being upset is not nice. That’s more manipulative than nice.” – Terri Cole

Intro

Are you a nice person?

Do you think it’s possible to be too nice? Or that wanting to be nice is an excuse some high-functioning codependents hide behind to avoid conflict?

In my personal and professional experience, it is possible to be too nice, and it’s not great for your relationships.

In this episode, we’ll explore what it means to be nice, what being too nice looks like, why it matters, and how to shift your behavior to authentic niceness.

Highlights:4:15 Is it possible to be too nice?7:30 Cultivating a healthy balance of mutual investment in a relationship9:50 What is real niceness?16:00 Why honesty is actually niceLinks Mentioned:

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