I’m angry; he isn’t. This makes a change at least.

Forum: Anger, Frustration & ADHD

My ex and I split about a month ago. It was the culmination of long years of difficulty, loneliness and stress for me; a supportive and nurturing marriage for him. He’s successful and high earning in his field. I am stalled, burned out, part time, looking after the kids still, struggling to get a professional role. I left because he didn’t hear me when I asked for change. I left because he didn’t think what I was saying mattered. I left because I became so unhappy I was thinking of killing myself.

He now wants to have a ‘good’ relationship with me for the sake of the kids. He’s suggesting holidays together. He wants to be friends. I really don’t want anything whatsoever to do with him. 

The way I see it, he the only anger he has to get over is about me leaving. I have half a lifetime of his ADHD, his thoughtlessness, selfishness and laziness to process.  

I know I should rise above, and just be glad it’s over - but how do you process your anger when it’s all one side - mine! - because all along he’d been having a really nice time while I struggled?