Feeling Nonexistant

Forum: Anger, Frustration & ADHD

I've been married to my ADHD partner for several years, and after the initial hyperfocus phase, I suspected infidelity. My wife, diagnosed with ADHD since college, seems to have lost focus on me. As a lawyer, she works extensively, and when she does focus on me, things can go well, but this is now rare. Do others feel the same sense of loneliness I do? We maintain intimacy on weekends, though she struggled with the schedule I established due to our busy household with six children, one with special needs. She admitted that without this schedule, we wouldn't be intimate. We still exchange daily kisses and expressions of love, but I feel her absence. When she's home, she's often preoccupied with her phone or focused elsewhere. When I try to hug or kiss her, she claims I'm overwhelming her. I acknowledge being a touchy-feely person, which leaves me feeling isolated and unfulfilled. I contribute to household responsibilities, handling cooking, cleaning, and laundry. I desire some form of intimacy and affection. Do others experience similar challenges with their ADHD partner?