692 Navigating Codependent Relationships When You’re in Recovery + They’re Not

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“Love is not fixing other people’s problems. It’s having the emotional courage and fortitude to be in the foxhole with someone during a dark night of the soul for them and being able to hang there with them, compassionately holding space for the pain they’re in without making a suggestion, without trying to fix them. That is aspirational.” – Terri Cole

 

Intro

Are you in a relationship with a high-functioning codependent (HFC)?

Are both you and your partner HFCs?

In my experience, HFCs tend to flock together. Many of my friends identify as HFCs, and my husband is also an HFC.

Some of you have asked how to navigate relationships with fellow HFCs, especially as you get into recovery and become more aware of (and perhaps annoyed by) their behavior.

If you can relate, this episode is for you because I’m talking about the dynamics of high-functioning codependency in relationships, how I’ve managed this in my marriage, and steps you can take to stay on your side of the street while shifting this dynamic into a healthier space.

Highlights:5:15 A refresher on high-functioning codependency11:15 How I resolved my own HFC relationship dynamic with my husband Vic14:00 Finding the courage to be present with others’ suffering without trying to fix it17:50 More common HFC relationship dynamicsLinks Mentioned:

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