Conflict Resolution Speaker - Imparting Insight and Perspective
Conflict resolution speaker imparting insight and perspective doesn't always come easy. Often I learn more experientially than theoretically, meaning life teaches us far more about conflict resolution than textbooks.
Mr. conflict resolution speaker was out last night driving a few blocks to LA Fitness to work out, when I saw a mother and her small child (a boy approximately 6 years old) crossing a busy entrance into the mall as cars from every direction (and no street lights, lanes or crossing signals to help) scurried to get in (and potentially cut the bicyclists off en route to the other side).
Having been hit myself as a boy when riding my bicycle and trying to cross a busy street when a truck driver made a fast turn and cut me off, knocking me off my bicycle, in this instance Mr. conflict resolution speaker stopped his car (in the lane of traffic prior to my right hand turn to let the lady and her son cross as I rolled the passenger window down and told them to "Go ahead" as I waited).
To my shock, within seconds of the mother and child crossing, another car made a left hand turn coming from the opposite direction and cut me off.
Thankfully we didn't collide and end in an accident. Intending to say something to the driver entering the same parking lot as myself, Mr. conflict resolution speaker followed the driver. :o)
The parking lot was quite full, but I persevered as the driver circled the parking lot numerous times until parking. Mr. conflict resolution speaker then also parked and walked up to the small compact car that had cut me off and knocked on the tinted window behind which the driver was sitting, crossed my arms and patiently waited for the window to be rolled down.
Once the window was rolled down I said, "You realize you cut me off after I left the mother and her boy cross on the bicycle?"
The driver replied, "I was trying to avoid getting hit from behind! I just got my bumper repaired having been hit from behind by crazy drivers just a short while ago."
I responded, "So you're justifying cut me off in order to escape those who are behind you?"
By now the driver (a guy) is getting aggravated and says, "I'm trying to keep my cool and not get into a fight. Stop harassing me or I'll call the police. Besides I had the right away."
"Sir," Mr. conflict resolution speaker says, "I'm not harassing you, nor endeavoring to start a fight. I just want to have a conversation."
Then the guy phones the police on his cell phone. I say, "Please! Ask the police if you had the right of way. Tell them you turned in front of me on Colonial Drive as I was going forward."
The guy replies, "But I didn't know what you were doing. You stopped for a second so I went. I was trying to avoid getting hit from behind."
By now the guy had gotten out of the car and was a giant (like 6'6" and 300 lbs ...a good size belly, but still). He probably could have put a hurting on me... (unless Mr. conflict resolution speaker had swiped his legs out, threw some belly blows, punched him in the testicles, or bit him like Mike Tyson).
Nevertheless Mr. conflict resolution speaker had some strong conviction and courage and kept talking. "Sir, I get it. You don't want to get hit from behind. But I'm just trying to get you to see that you can't worry about, nor control people behind you. If they hit you, that is their fault. You have to focus on what is in front of you."
He nodded his head and agreed, while trying to assure me his intentions were pure (but still wrestling with his male ego, as I too was no doubt).
"Sir, my mom was killed by a drunk driver. I don't like accidents any more than you do."
He then got a bit more gentle and sympathetic, understanding where I was coming from.
"Thanks for listening. God bless you! Have a good night."
I then proceeded to enter the gym.
Sometimes all people (and we ourselves) need is some perspective, additional insight and a willingness to listen to hear where people are coming from.
By doing so we both gain in wisdom, insight, understanding, compassion and learn how to dwell peaceably with one another and work together.
http://www.PaulFDavis.com/conflict-re... - conflict resolution speaker for peacemaking, reconciliation, personal transformation and reformation of tough situations
(info@PaulFDavis.com)
http://www.Facebook.com/speakers4insp...
http://www.Twitter.com/PaulFDavis
http://www.Linkedin.com/in/worldprope...
http://www.NYC-life-coach.com
http://www.PaulFDavis.com
Mr. conflict resolution speaker was out last night driving a few blocks to LA Fitness to work out, when I saw a mother and her small child (a boy approximately 6 years old) crossing a busy entrance into the mall as cars from every direction (and no street lights, lanes or crossing signals to help) scurried to get in (and potentially cut the bicyclists off en route to the other side).
Having been hit myself as a boy when riding my bicycle and trying to cross a busy street when a truck driver made a fast turn and cut me off, knocking me off my bicycle, in this instance Mr. conflict resolution speaker stopped his car (in the lane of traffic prior to my right hand turn to let the lady and her son cross as I rolled the passenger window down and told them to "Go ahead" as I waited).
To my shock, within seconds of the mother and child crossing, another car made a left hand turn coming from the opposite direction and cut me off.
Thankfully we didn't collide and end in an accident. Intending to say something to the driver entering the same parking lot as myself, Mr. conflict resolution speaker followed the driver. :o)
The parking lot was quite full, but I persevered as the driver circled the parking lot numerous times until parking. Mr. conflict resolution speaker then also parked and walked up to the small compact car that had cut me off and knocked on the tinted window behind which the driver was sitting, crossed my arms and patiently waited for the window to be rolled down.
Once the window was rolled down I said, "You realize you cut me off after I left the mother and her boy cross on the bicycle?"
The driver replied, "I was trying to avoid getting hit from behind! I just got my bumper repaired having been hit from behind by crazy drivers just a short while ago."
I responded, "So you're justifying cut me off in order to escape those who are behind you?"
By now the driver (a guy) is getting aggravated and says, "I'm trying to keep my cool and not get into a fight. Stop harassing me or I'll call the police. Besides I had the right away."
"Sir," Mr. conflict resolution speaker says, "I'm not harassing you, nor endeavoring to start a fight. I just want to have a conversation."
Then the guy phones the police on his cell phone. I say, "Please! Ask the police if you had the right of way. Tell them you turned in front of me on Colonial Drive as I was going forward."
The guy replies, "But I didn't know what you were doing. You stopped for a second so I went. I was trying to avoid getting hit from behind."
By now the guy had gotten out of the car and was a giant (like 6'6" and 300 lbs ...a good size belly, but still). He probably could have put a hurting on me... (unless Mr. conflict resolution speaker had swiped his legs out, threw some belly blows, punched him in the testicles, or bit him like Mike Tyson).
Nevertheless Mr. conflict resolution speaker had some strong conviction and courage and kept talking. "Sir, I get it. You don't want to get hit from behind. But I'm just trying to get you to see that you can't worry about, nor control people behind you. If they hit you, that is their fault. You have to focus on what is in front of you."
He nodded his head and agreed, while trying to assure me his intentions were pure (but still wrestling with his male ego, as I too was no doubt).
"Sir, my mom was killed by a drunk driver. I don't like accidents any more than you do."
He then got a bit more gentle and sympathetic, understanding where I was coming from.
"Thanks for listening. God bless you! Have a good night."
I then proceeded to enter the gym.
Sometimes all people (and we ourselves) need is some perspective, additional insight and a willingness to listen to hear where people are coming from.
By doing so we both gain in wisdom, insight, understanding, compassion and learn how to dwell peaceably with one another and work together.
http://www.PaulFDavis.com/conflict-re... - conflict resolution speaker for peacemaking, reconciliation, personal transformation and reformation of tough situations
(info@PaulFDavis.com)
http://www.Facebook.com/speakers4insp...
http://www.Twitter.com/PaulFDavis
http://www.Linkedin.com/in/worldprope...
http://www.NYC-life-coach.com
http://www.PaulFDavis.com
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