Questions?

Sometimes the answer to conflict can be found in asking ourselves a question, in this case, whether the question that’s in question is truly a question.

For example: “What’s wrong with the person I’m in conflict with?”

or “How do I get them to do what I want?”

Those are judgments and beliefs – not inquiries.

The inference is that we know how they feel and that their experience is, at best, mistaken or invalid or, at worst, just flat out wrong. This does

not create much room for resolution, solution, connection or even partnership.

Perhaps the question to look at is –

“If I could see their position how would I be feeling?”

And then go there.

See if in being “over there” with their experience and coming from empathy, you are not only more compassionate towards them but also you may start to judge yourself less and have a more loving attitude towards Self.

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