Emotional Cognition Theory (pt 9A) A New Psychoanalytic Therapy
What to do about those embarrassing perceptions which effect our realities !! Are 'sweating' and 'perspiring' due to physical or mental considerations?
(9A): We may see that 'workbook' and 'workshop' solutions differ from that of physiological and individual societal issues as are shown in the previous 'reference' books by Joseph LeDoux and Robert N. Franz.
In the workbook -- Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies
there are identified simple precepts, steps, and goals that we may learn in the presence of others which would help us solve our innermost problems. Once again, we must look at what the basic unit (or 'cell' -- or 'part') can do so that we can be part of a whole. In short, by having the courage to 'take action' it becomes possible to begin to solve personal problems.
"Emotional Intelligence" is a system of beliefs which brings us to solutions by melding our emotions with our intellect. The past solutions contrived by intellectual knowledge do not offer enough by themselves to solve our problems. Not everything can be solved like a math or physics problem. We can have all the intellectual knowledge in the world, but if we have inadequate 'people skills' advances will lead us nowhere. Our true problems have not helped us "get along" with others and have made for isolation between those who really want to associate in a constructive manner. Each individual -- by themselves -- must work to attempt to hold up their own part.
For example only at certain times -- especially when there may be not be exorbitant pressure -- may we initiate actions which make one well. Exercise precedes the true flexing of a muscle. In some cases in order to perform a magic trick one has to "load the deck."
According to S. Michael Kravitz and Susan D. Schubert three parts of the brain must work together in the individual -- they are: (1) the instincts, (2) the emotions, and (3) logic (or the intellect). When they work together we can be part of a whole. We can be part of the fellowship of man -- much like having the energy by being a member of a honeybee hive -- or the industry of a member of an ant colony. Whether we know it or not our actions lead us to a higher calling or higher value, as each of us move to be part of a whole.
It is seen that when we work with others that our emotions are used in positive and constructive ways. Problems are solved by the use of both logic and feelings -- all needs are expressed -- and we provide calm, thoughtful, and optimistic responses. This is using 'Emotional Intelligence' at its best.
Here described is a personal problem in which fear paralyzed me during those embarrassing years of middle school -- particularly in 7th and 8th grades:
I feared that others would see the wetness -- perspiration and sweat -- in my armpits during the school day and went to great lengths to cover up. Even on hot days I would wear a sweater over top of my shirt so that both students and staff would not be able to see my shame -- and discern my issue. When I was able I would try to smell the area to see if I should use more deodorant. [At that point I also spent an inordinate amount of time experimenting with different deodorants.] As days wore on the problem increased not only because of the warmth of the season, but because of my increased nervousness as well. I dreaded the thought of going to high school in the next year. My thoughts only produced more anxieties.
What did I do to solve these feelings? Before the beginning of 9th grade -- over the summer -- I broke down and told my mother of my fears. Quite calmly and with understanding she told me that I wasn't as strange as I thought was and that it was not such an odd problem. With her help we devised a plan:
a) First, I would have to practice wearing shirts without sweaters. At first I did this on brief excursions outdoors and then went further by lengthening each trip from home until I was more confident in not wearing a sweater over my shirt.
b) Second, I would have to think of others in an effort to not be so self-conscious. I learned how to ask others about their lives and to not be so concerned about myself.
c) Third, I would pray for God's protection -- have faith -- and realize that basically other people are more concerned with their own issues and not mine. Agnostic alternatives also became apparent -- concentration on outside issues became important.
The plan worked -- both my emotions and logic prevailed. I did not have to be shamed and I learned how to adjust. Not only that but I was learning how to ask for help and have others have input into my questions -- at that point I trusted my mother -- and it worked !!
I want to note that even in subsequent years when acquaintances would call me nothing more than a "social animal" -- I felt the strength that my mother had instilled in me and my humane social usage became even stronger. I now feel truly one with fellows.
The problems addressed in Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies are judged by the following criteria; five points determine how they are solved. Here are the points:
(1) We need to have the self-awareness to state and identify our problems.
(2) We need to gain or maintain social skills.
(3) We need to have positive beliefs and optimism.
(4) When stress comes-- instead of alarm -- we need to act with calm.
(5) We need to know a variety of answers -- In the face of change, flexibility must come -- adaptation instead of rejection must be used.
Finally it is good to know that for us there will always be problems to solve -- "We are a problem people" and that all of us at some time can be instrumental in helping others.
This ends (9A): look for (9B) and then the (10) conclusions after that. My essays -- though now more family and socially concerned -- are wrapping-up and coming to a close. So if you will, please concentrate on the final topics as they are presented for understanding.
Thank you !!
Sincerely yours;
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
See book linkage: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Or check: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
(9A): We may see that 'workbook' and 'workshop' solutions differ from that of physiological and individual societal issues as are shown in the previous 'reference' books by Joseph LeDoux and Robert N. Franz.
In the workbook -- Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies

"Emotional Intelligence" is a system of beliefs which brings us to solutions by melding our emotions with our intellect. The past solutions contrived by intellectual knowledge do not offer enough by themselves to solve our problems. Not everything can be solved like a math or physics problem. We can have all the intellectual knowledge in the world, but if we have inadequate 'people skills' advances will lead us nowhere. Our true problems have not helped us "get along" with others and have made for isolation between those who really want to associate in a constructive manner. Each individual -- by themselves -- must work to attempt to hold up their own part.
For example only at certain times -- especially when there may be not be exorbitant pressure -- may we initiate actions which make one well. Exercise precedes the true flexing of a muscle. In some cases in order to perform a magic trick one has to "load the deck."
According to S. Michael Kravitz and Susan D. Schubert three parts of the brain must work together in the individual -- they are: (1) the instincts, (2) the emotions, and (3) logic (or the intellect). When they work together we can be part of a whole. We can be part of the fellowship of man -- much like having the energy by being a member of a honeybee hive -- or the industry of a member of an ant colony. Whether we know it or not our actions lead us to a higher calling or higher value, as each of us move to be part of a whole.
It is seen that when we work with others that our emotions are used in positive and constructive ways. Problems are solved by the use of both logic and feelings -- all needs are expressed -- and we provide calm, thoughtful, and optimistic responses. This is using 'Emotional Intelligence' at its best.
Here described is a personal problem in which fear paralyzed me during those embarrassing years of middle school -- particularly in 7th and 8th grades:
I feared that others would see the wetness -- perspiration and sweat -- in my armpits during the school day and went to great lengths to cover up. Even on hot days I would wear a sweater over top of my shirt so that both students and staff would not be able to see my shame -- and discern my issue. When I was able I would try to smell the area to see if I should use more deodorant. [At that point I also spent an inordinate amount of time experimenting with different deodorants.] As days wore on the problem increased not only because of the warmth of the season, but because of my increased nervousness as well. I dreaded the thought of going to high school in the next year. My thoughts only produced more anxieties.
What did I do to solve these feelings? Before the beginning of 9th grade -- over the summer -- I broke down and told my mother of my fears. Quite calmly and with understanding she told me that I wasn't as strange as I thought was and that it was not such an odd problem. With her help we devised a plan:
a) First, I would have to practice wearing shirts without sweaters. At first I did this on brief excursions outdoors and then went further by lengthening each trip from home until I was more confident in not wearing a sweater over my shirt.
b) Second, I would have to think of others in an effort to not be so self-conscious. I learned how to ask others about their lives and to not be so concerned about myself.
c) Third, I would pray for God's protection -- have faith -- and realize that basically other people are more concerned with their own issues and not mine. Agnostic alternatives also became apparent -- concentration on outside issues became important.
The plan worked -- both my emotions and logic prevailed. I did not have to be shamed and I learned how to adjust. Not only that but I was learning how to ask for help and have others have input into my questions -- at that point I trusted my mother -- and it worked !!
I want to note that even in subsequent years when acquaintances would call me nothing more than a "social animal" -- I felt the strength that my mother had instilled in me and my humane social usage became even stronger. I now feel truly one with fellows.
The problems addressed in Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies are judged by the following criteria; five points determine how they are solved. Here are the points:
(1) We need to have the self-awareness to state and identify our problems.
(2) We need to gain or maintain social skills.
(3) We need to have positive beliefs and optimism.
(4) When stress comes-- instead of alarm -- we need to act with calm.
(5) We need to know a variety of answers -- In the face of change, flexibility must come -- adaptation instead of rejection must be used.
Finally it is good to know that for us there will always be problems to solve -- "We are a problem people" and that all of us at some time can be instrumental in helping others.
This ends (9A): look for (9B) and then the (10) conclusions after that. My essays -- though now more family and socially concerned -- are wrapping-up and coming to a close. So if you will, please concentrate on the final topics as they are presented for understanding.
Thank you !!
Sincerely yours;
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
See book linkage: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Or check: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
Published on September 04, 2016 19:48
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