TIPS AND RED FLAGS FOR SPOTTING A SEXUAL PREDATOR

As many as sixty percent are abused by people the family trusts, including relatives, coaches, teachers, clergy, and others who are in positions of authority, power, and influence. Imagine how difficult it is for children to say no to such people, especially if the abuser describes his behaviour as “loving” or “caring.” Those who sexually abuse children are drawn to settings where they can gain easy access to children, such as sports leagues, religious youth centers, clubs, and schools. They go to extraordinary efforts to gain the trust of parents and other relatives. Imagine, for example, the vulnerability of a single parent’s children when a coach or teacher volunteers to watch them after school, when the parent must be at work, or when the parent has some form outing to attend. Despite the frightening facts and statistics that exist about online predators, the real truth is parents can do a lot to protect their children from real and perceived threats. Here are some safety tips and red flags I have put together for spotting a sexual predator:
 Someone who often wants to spend more time with your child than you;

 Someone who is married or in a relationship;

 Someone who buys expensive gifts or gives children money for no reason;

 Predators are not always strangers. Often they are family members, family friends, and neighbours;

 Someone who is a good manipulator (Seduction is an integral part of sexual abuse.);

 Someone who is overly self-indulgent;

 Someone who is arrogant and narcissistic in nature;

 Someone who is lascivious in nature;

 Someone who sexualizes and objectifies women at all times;

 Someone who always insist on hugging, touching, kissing, tickling, wrestling or holding a child, even when a child doesn’t want this affection;

 Someone who is typically known to rationalize, intellectualizes, and justify;

 Great helpers, who are there to lend a helping hand and to prey on people in need when they can insinuate themselves in their life;

 Someone who takes advantage of stressful and vulnerable situations finds a need they can fill and use that to get next to the victim and so on;

 Someone who inappropriately makes comments about the way your child looks etc.


The greatest risk to our children doesn’t come naturally from strangers but from friends and members of one’s family. For more guide and resources on how to protect your child from sexual predatory attacks, grab a copy of my book, ‘Cybersex - A Nightmare of the 21st Century’ available on Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Cybersex-Nightm...