20 WAYS TO REDUCE ANGER IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Anger is considered to be at the root of most destruction. In fact, no marriage can be destroyed literarily except at least one person has gotten angry and refuse to forgive the other. Literarily speaking, it is a major marriage killer. It has destroyed many lives, families, destinies, companies, etc. As such, it is very imperative for one to know how to deal with anger in their marriage. Pejoratively, anger is a strange and bitter feeling of displeasure and irritation that makes you to desire to harm, hurt or criticize someone because they have done something you think it is unfair, cruel and offensive to you.
Anger is a secondary emotion caused by the following depending on the way you wish to unravel it:
1. When you feel your spouse is mistreating you, whether true or not; anger is the kind of feeling that will come over you.
2. Unmet expectation. We all have our expectations which can be reasonable and unreasonable. When these expectations are not met, they can lead to anger if not handled with wisdom.
3. Absence of love makes it easier to get one angry because it is only love that can cover multitude of sin.
4. Lack of patience in marriage will always lead to anger. If we are not patience with our spouse’s weaknesses, mistakes, foolishness, failures, inadequacies etc. it will easily get you angry.
5. Strife is resentment, wisdom and repressed anger. It begins with gossips, backbiting etc. it do leads to argument, yelling, hatred etc.
6. Jealousy and envy. When you begin to feel that you are the one that supposed to have what your spouse has; anger is the end result.
7. Lack of trust between spouses is an easy trigger of anger. If you don’t trust, you don’t love but lost.
Here are few tips to reduce anger in your marriage;
1. Keep communication channels open
2. Never take each other for granted
3. Never use sex as a weapon
4. Appreciate each other generously and unconditionally
5. Be patience with each other
6. Always remember that your spouse is not perfect
7. Try as much as possible to meet the needs of each other
8. Respect each other
9. Don’t ever permit any third party to come between you
10. Recognize your husband as the head of the family regardless of societal laws.
11. Imbibe the culture of praying together
12. Clarify anything
13. Recognize your wife as the queen of the family and second to none
14. Pray together always
15. Listen to each other’s opinion always and all times
16. Create alone and quality time together
17. Remember the good things, and bring them to mind often.
18. Always put each other’s interest first in anything and everything you do
19. Study the Bible together always.
20. Always see your spouse as somebody you are privileged to marry.
It is the same with love. Give yourself some strength. The Lord has given you two to each other, to wear down the rough edges, to help you become the person he intends you to be, to bring you closer to Himself by bringing you closer to your spouse. Rejoice in the confidence of God’s faithfulness to your marriage, and be faithful to each other even in those unexpected moments.
Anger is a secondary emotion caused by the following depending on the way you wish to unravel it:
1. When you feel your spouse is mistreating you, whether true or not; anger is the kind of feeling that will come over you.
2. Unmet expectation. We all have our expectations which can be reasonable and unreasonable. When these expectations are not met, they can lead to anger if not handled with wisdom.
3. Absence of love makes it easier to get one angry because it is only love that can cover multitude of sin.
4. Lack of patience in marriage will always lead to anger. If we are not patience with our spouse’s weaknesses, mistakes, foolishness, failures, inadequacies etc. it will easily get you angry.
5. Strife is resentment, wisdom and repressed anger. It begins with gossips, backbiting etc. it do leads to argument, yelling, hatred etc.
6. Jealousy and envy. When you begin to feel that you are the one that supposed to have what your spouse has; anger is the end result.
7. Lack of trust between spouses is an easy trigger of anger. If you don’t trust, you don’t love but lost.
Here are few tips to reduce anger in your marriage;
1. Keep communication channels open
2. Never take each other for granted
3. Never use sex as a weapon
4. Appreciate each other generously and unconditionally
5. Be patience with each other
6. Always remember that your spouse is not perfect
7. Try as much as possible to meet the needs of each other
8. Respect each other
9. Don’t ever permit any third party to come between you
10. Recognize your husband as the head of the family regardless of societal laws.
11. Imbibe the culture of praying together
12. Clarify anything
13. Recognize your wife as the queen of the family and second to none
14. Pray together always
15. Listen to each other’s opinion always and all times
16. Create alone and quality time together
17. Remember the good things, and bring them to mind often.
18. Always put each other’s interest first in anything and everything you do
19. Study the Bible together always.
20. Always see your spouse as somebody you are privileged to marry.
It is the same with love. Give yourself some strength. The Lord has given you two to each other, to wear down the rough edges, to help you become the person he intends you to be, to bring you closer to Himself by bringing you closer to your spouse. Rejoice in the confidence of God’s faithfulness to your marriage, and be faithful to each other even in those unexpected moments.
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