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Soulmate Or Past Life Relationship?

Ever been in a very intense relationship where you feel you have known that person your whole life? You feel that you know what the person is thinking and feeling, as if there is an emotional cord between you? You could be in a past-life relationship.

When you meet someone that you had a past-life relationship with it often feels as if that person is your soulmate. It feels that you know them , you recognise them, you understand each other and you have a bond even when you’re separate from each other. The fundamental difference between a past-life relationship and a soulmate relationship is that soulmate relationships tend to work. When you meet soulmate, you get on although you may have a few struggles, fundamentally you click and it works. Its a functioning relationship and you have each others best interests at heart.

If its a past-life relationship, often that relationship is hell , you’re getting ecstasy and agony,  you’re getting powerful intensity and a psychic connection. But at the end of the day its often plagued with problems and its seems as though you’re repeating the same relationship over and over again while your weary  soul hopes it will be different. These relationships mimic addiction and not unconditional love. No matter how long you have been apart, one call and you’re hooked.

So why do they happen? Your soul lesson is to heal this and to learn to let go so that you can find a deeper love which nurtures your growth. People find it very difficult to let go of these intoxicating experiences because they feel that they are more real than any other relationship. The irony is that your soul is reliving this so that you can GROW and do things differently. Your soul is trying to heal and show you new strength.

Many past-life relationships are not meant for this life and block us and our happiness. You can have great sex, intense emotional experiences, and big dramas, but it will only ever be a perpetual cycle of disappointment. Its like banging your head against a brick wall and the temptation to do it is like a line of heroin – you’ve got to have it!

When you’re in a past life love relationship it’s very difficult for you to think that its not for you, because it feels as if your life is over if it doesn’t work.  The key to surviving these and letting go is your own relationship with you. You need to love you as much as you expect to be loved. If you are not treating yourself  as precious and looking after yourself, how can the Universe mirror love back? Ultimately it’s about trust in your path and believing that you are worthy of a relationship that is worthy of you! The time has come to heal your soul and know that you deserve to and can have a relationship that nurtures you, a relationship that is equal.  You are a beautiful soul and have the right to a relationship that doesn’t destroy your heart and take away with your self-esteem.

When we do let go of these destructive relationships we make way for a new cycle of miracles and magic. The act of letting go and taking a leap of faith can shift eons of karma, moving us forward into a wonderful new phase that is often beyond our expectations.

Our Thoughts Do Create Our Reality!

The law of attraction and Quantum Creating both talk about how our thoughts create our world and the latest research from the US now backs that up. It’s not what we’re looking at, but how we perceive whatever we look at that determines our reaction to it, and by default, the outcome.

Professor Jessica Witt of Purdue University and director of the Action-Modulated Perception Lab, had in the past proved that the success of athletes changed how they perceived what was going on around them. She found that a tennis ball actually appeared larger to a successful tennis player and smaller to a struggling one! However, attending a basketball game, Professor Witt noticed that noisy fans never seemed to be able to distract top players from making free throws. This observation led her to re-examine her original findings. Could the inverse be true? Could deliberately affecting someone’s visual perception lead them to play better, or worse?

In order to test her hypothesis, Prof. Witt projected dark circles around a standard-size golf hole on a synthesized putting green and asked 36 volunteers to view the hole from a few feet away. By manipulating the circles around the hole, she could make the hole appear larger or smaller.  What she found was that most volunteers putted successfully when the hole appeared larger, and missed more often when the hole seemed smaller, even though the actual size of the hole never changed. – it just appeared to!

Publishing her findings in Psychological Science, Professor Witt suggests that the neural pathways for perception and action may overlap for certain tasks that require physical technique, such as golf or other target-based sporting activities. If this is true, then an individual’s perception of the playing field will influence how they perform, and manipulating that playing field could make tasks become easier, or harder! Professor Witt intends to follow up with assessing the confidence levels of participants next but is currently working to create on-field illusions that could make goals or hoops look smaller or larger – we can only speculate what certain teams might do to the visiting ones!

What this shows is that our perception of what ‘reality’ is and indeed, how large, small, near of far that goal is, could have a radical impact on our ability to reach the goals we set ourselves. What this study shows that what we want is within our grasp – how far away we perceive it to be is another matter entirely. So, when it comes to how we look at things, it’s all a question of perspective.

3 Steps To Heal Criticism

You’re certainly not alone if you’ve been hurt by someone else’s criticism especially if you are starting a new path. I get emails every day from people as diverse as novice psychics to budding authors asking how they can progress after feeling knocked back by criticism. Almost every single soul on Earth will have had their confidence shaken by an unkind and usually unasked-for comment at various times in their lives. Criticism also usually arrives when we are at a vulnerable point. We may be working on our self-esteem or we may be taking those first baby steps towards a major goal. Just as we’re building our self-confidence and starting to feel good about ourselves and our journey – BAM! We’re confronted with criticism which shakes both our image of ourselves and often our resolve. Very often the criticism comes from someone whose opinion or approval we valued – making the comments that much more hurtful. So, if you’re on the receiving end of someone else’s criticism what can you do and what’s the soul lesson?

1/ First of all, understand one thing. No matter what you set out to do in life, criticism is inevitable. Just take a look at film reviews if you don’t believe me. Every successful person in the world has faced their share of critics. What you need to do is look at the criticism and look at the source. Is the criticism constructive or destructive? For example, you give the draft of your novel to a friend who tells you the story is excellent but the characters aren’t believable. If your novel is a labour of love then this initially could be hurtful but they’ve not actually said ‘Don’t quit your day job – ever’. Step back and think whether they may have a point. Then ask for another opinion. If you receive similar comments then this criticism is actually feedback that can help you. In every area of life including becoming a fabulous psychic, we are always learning and growing and feedback can help.

2/ If the criticism is actually feedback there is another upside to this. The person is actually listening to you and interested in what you are doing. The alternative is disinterest! Embarking on a long term goal means you may attract short-term criticism but this doesn’t mean you should give up. Back to considering the source. Is the person making the criticism prone to being negative? Have they failed to fulfil their own dreams? There’s a saying – misery loves company. Often when we start to make changes in our lives certain people feel threatened by our success – before we’ve even become successful! They fear we will leave them behind and they don’t want to have to confront the reasons for their own lack of success. So they criticise in an attempt to get you to abandon your dreams and keep them company in their misery. This is why critics are often not telling your story but theirs.

3/ Finally, ask yourself this: does their opinion really matter? Remember, we can’t control what other people say to us but we can control how we respond. If you are dealing with a family member or anyone who is a persistent critic you can’t avoid, a good response is always: ‘You’re probably right’. Think about it. You’ve not said they are right. You’ve not agreed with them. But it allows you to keep your cool and the only word they will hear is ‘right’ which leaves them with nowhere now to go. Don’t give criticism more power than it’s due.

The more confident we grow as we move towards our goals the less impact other’s opinions will have on us. On a soul level it’s all about power. Keeping true to your vision of your life and how you want to live it. The power that comes from being who we are gives us the confidence to keep criticism in perspective.

3 Steps To Transform Criticism

You’re certainly not alone if you’ve been hurt by someone else’s criticism especially if you are starting a new path. I get emails every day from novice psychics asking how they can progress after feeling knocked back by criticism. Almost every single soul on Earth will have had their confidence shaken by an unkind and usually unasked-for comment at various times in their lives. Criticism also usually arrives when we are at a vulnerable point. We may be working on our self-esteem or we may be taking those first baby steps towards a major goal. Just as we’re building our self-confidence and starting to feel good about ourselves and our journey – BAM! We’re confronted with criticism which shakes both our image of ourselves and often our resolve. Very often the criticism comes from someone whose opinion or approval we valued – making the comments that much more hurtful. So, if you’re on the receiving end of someone else’s criticism what can you do and what’s the soul lesson?

1/ First of all, understand one thing. No matter what you set out to do in life, criticism is inevitable. Just take a look at film reviews if you don’t believe me. Every successful person in the world has faced their share of critics. What you need to do is look at the criticism and look at the source. Is the criticism constructive or destructive? For example, you give the draft of your novel to a friend who tells you the story is excellent but the characters aren’t believable. If your novel is a labour of love then this initially could be hurtful but they’ve not actually said ‘Don’t quit your day job – ever’. Step back and think whether they may have a point. Then ask for another opinion. If you receive similar comments then this criticism is actually feedback that can help you. In every area of life including becoming a fabulous psychic, we are always learning and growing and feedback can help.

2/ If the criticism is actually feedback there is another upside to this. The person is actually listening to you and interested in what you are doing. The alternative is disinterest! Embarking on a long term goal means you may attract short-term criticism but this doesn’t mean you should give up. Back to considering the source. Is the person making the criticism prone to being negative? Have they failed to fulfil their own dreams? There’s a saying – misery loves company. Often when we start to make changes in our lives certain people feel threatened by our success – before we’ve even become successful! They fear we will leave them behind and they don’t want to have to confront the reasons for their own lack of success. So they criticise in an attempt to get you to abandon your dreams and keep them company in their misery. This is why critics are often not telling your story but theirs.

3/ Finally, ask yourself this: does their opinion really matter? Remember, we can’t control what other people say to us but we can control how we respond. If you are dealing with a family member or anyone who is a persistent critic you can’t avoid, a good response is always: ‘You’re probably right’. Think about it. You’ve not said they are right. You’ve not agreed with them. But it allows you to keep your cool and the only word they will hear is ‘right’ which leaves them with nowhere now to go. Don’t give criticism more power than it’s due.

The more confident we grow as we move towards our goals the less impact other’s opinions will have on us. On a soul level it’s all about power. Keeping true to your vision of your life and how you want to live it. The power that comes from being who we are gives us the confidence to keep criticism in perspective.

This Weeks Horosocope Video’s With Michele 28th Jan 2013

Hello Gorgeous Soul,

Jupiter the planet of good fortune goes direct in Gemini this week. There is a Grand Air Trine and Venus goes into Aquarius. We are all thinking about what freedom means, freedom of ideas and the freedom to be who we truly are. Mars enters Pisces on the 2nd as we approach an incredible blossoming of our soul, which peaks in March. Pay attention to any bright ideas and build on them.

Love Michele x

 

Think Like A Psychic – How To See Your Problems Differently

When we have an experience we usually interpret something by our emotional reaction to it. It’s either good or bad.It is our ability to label something and then add the emotional ‘charge’ that goes along with it – which is usually based on our past experience with something similar or in some cases, someone else’s ‘take’ on it – in other words their ‘meme’, that determines not only whether we think what’s happening is a positive or negative event, but also its outcome. But the reality of any situation is that it is governed purely by our perception of it. In other words, things are not as they are – they are as WE are!

In a good psychic reading a psychic can help show you different perspectives to see your problem with ‘new eyes’.  A psychic can see the overview rather than just the present moment. What we need to remember is that when it comes to interpreting what is happening in our lives, all experiences are neutral. They have no meaning. We give them meaning by our thoughts and our thoughts create our reality. Say for example you have deep spiritual beliefs. These beliefs include a universe that responds to your thoughts and constantly sends you synchronicities and signs to guide you on your soul path. You will see synchronicities and signs everywhere! Someone who doesn’t share these beliefs will see nothing to support this belief system. Both life experiences are therefore determined by individual interpretation of reality. We can even take this one step further and see it being played out in the business world. 20 years ago IBM observed that nobody owned a personal computer. They concluded therefore that there was no market for personal computers. College dropouts Steve Jobs and Bill Gates looked at the fact nobody had a personal computer and saw only an opportunity. We construct our own reality by choosing how we interpret our experiences and we can choose another interpretation of what is happening in our lives at any moment!

Sometimes looking at something differently however is difficult especially if we are going through a challenging time. It’s easy to say ‘flip it!’ but harder to change your perspective if you’re in a crisis. But we need to remember that our perspective can be biased. Physicist Richard Feynman whom many regard as the father of Quantum physics used to invent new thinking strategies to get himself ‘unstuck’ when faced with a problem. He felt the secret to his genius was his ability to disregard how past thinkers thought about problems and, instead, would invent new ways to think. He was so “unstuck” that if something didn’t work, he would look at it several different ways until he found a way that moved his imagination. Genius is discovering a new perspective that you have been unable to see in the past.

So, if you’re faced with a problem, look for different viewpoints. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. How would Barack Obama, the Dalai Lama and Helen Mirren look at this problem for example? Try to imagine how they would see it. Chances are by shifting your perspective in this way you are already seeing things differently. Draw a picture of the problem, make a model, act it out. Take a walk and look for something that metaphorically represents your problem (a synchronicity!) and look for connections between what you see and the problem. Ask friends, older and younger relatives and even strangers how they would see it. When we see something through someone else’s eyes it looks entirely different, doesn’t it? What if your situation was a person? What would it look like? What would it tell you?

We are all uniquely gifted and creative whether we realise it or not. Don’t forget: When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

 

 

3 Steps To Manifesting Your Perfect Partner

One of the number one reasons that people call for a psychic reading, is love! Almost every person who is single out there would like to find that special someone. And as our psychics will tell you, love is our biggest area of soul growth. Given that this is such an important part of our lives and the thing most of us desire, why is it so many of us are still alone? And are there some simple steps we can take to attract that special someone above Quantum Creating or affirmations?

1/ First of all, we need to acknowledge our desire for the relationship and own up to the fact that we are missing something. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not advocating we come from a place of neediness as all neediness results in is bad choices. I’m talking about the power to know that having a partner would fill in some empty spaces in your soul – and your soul path! So, first own the fact that you do want a partner and the fact that the person would bring things into your life that you do not have and cannot provide for yourself.

2/ Next, we need to create love in our lives right now. Focus on how you will feel when you know you are loved by your future partner. This raises your ‘love vibration’ and if we can keep on connecting to this feeling over time, we will automatically attract the real thing into our lives at some point. This is probably the most crucial part of manifesting the person of our dreams. Of course, some people may wonder how we can create this loving feeling when there’s nobody around to love us right now. But the great thing is we can start loving ourselves right now – even with all our problems or what we consider to be faults. We can begin to love ourselves just as a parent loves a child – unconditionally.

3/ Finally, the biggest stumbling block most of us face when it comes to manifesting love in our lives is the past – or rather negative memories from it. The relationships that didn’t work out. The person who hurt or betrayed us. The ‘bad’ choices we made or even memories from our childhood can all get in the way of manifesting love mainly because they can stop us from entering into another relationship because we fear being hurt again.

This brings us to the third and final step and probably the hardest – forgiveness. The challenge is to forgive all the people that have hurt us in the past – and also to forgive ourselves if we need to. Often we continue to beat ourselves up long after a toxic relationship has ended. ‘How could I have been so stupid not to see what they were really like? And when I did, why did I stay so long?’. By forgiving them and ourselves if necessary, we release old resentments opening up our hearts for someone new to enter our lives and for us to love again free of the past. Because as long as our hearts are closed – we’ll never that person no matter how many dating websites we join or dates we go on.

So, acknowledge there is space in your life for love to grow and a partner to fill it. Love yourself unconditionally, and forgive those who were unable to do the same. The universe wants us all to experience love and it will only be a matter of time before you attract it.

 

Resistance is Futile: Releasing What You Don’t Want in Order to Get What You DO

Many people want an accurate psychic reading to help get rid of blocks. There are times in life when we feel like we are walking through treacle. Here are a few tips to help shift things!

What we resist, persists. Despite us all knowing the truth of that statement and despite knowing that our thoughts create our reality, why is it that so much of the time we get caught up focussing on what we don’t want to be happening in our lives?

If all our thoughts are energy then resistance is pretty negatively charged emotionally. To get to what we do want to be happening and doing in our lives we have to find a way to neutralise the negativity of resistance. Let’s say you don’t like your job. In fact, you hate every minute you spend there. Chances are that instead of focusing on a future where you are in a fabulous job that really utilises your talents, rewards you on every level and provides you with a fabulous working environment and supportive colleagues you are sitting there all day thinking: ‘I hate this. I really do not want to be here right now’ – and so on. When we do this we increase the negative emotional charge the situation has thus creating more resistance and fueling the entire cycle making it all the more difficult to bring about the changes that would release us from the cycle. So, what’s the solution to erasing the resistance/persistence cycle?

First – remove the negative charge from it. It’s that emotional negativity that keeps you trapped where you don’t want to be. Step aside and observe your situation as if it were happening to someone else or as if you were an actor in a movie playing a character in this situation. Once you start to do this you begin to dis-entangle yourself and your energy from it. While you can’t change the situation, you can always change your reaction to it and this is what you are doing. Don’t think ‘I hate this and don’t want to be doing this’. And I’m not saying you have to take refuge in denial either. All you are doing is removing the negative charge by taking the position of the observer. Think instead ‘I am having this particular experience right now and an experience is all that it is. Soon I will move on to another, better experience.’ Don’t label the situation ‘bad’ as this just adds to the charge. An experience is all that it is.

By becoming the observer of your experience rather than judging it, you will feel an energy change around the situation happen quite quickly. Whenever you feel yourself getting emotional about it again, quietly remind yourself it’s just an experience. Once you can do this you will then start resonating with the energy of alternatives for yourself instead of being locked in the resistance cycle – with no negative attachments keeping you stuck in place!

Resistance is a trap and a barrier to our goals because it splits our focus between what we don’t want and what we do. When we shift our focus away from what we don’t want simply by refusing to resist it, we then regain all that energy to move forward bringing us new choices and a universe full of probabilities. So, resistance really is futile so stop resisting and just let things BE.

 

This Weeks Horosocope Video’s With Michele 21st – 28th Jan 2013

Love Goal Manifestation: Getting Past Our Hidden Obstacles

When we begin to focus on our goals it’s often not just what we are looking for in a romantic partner that we start to clarify. We also begin to get clear on what we want in ALL aspects of our lives. This is a great process as without knowing what it is we want – we can’t ever get it. However, as we begin to move through the Quantum Creating process we may begin to notice that what we think we want is at odds with what we really need deep down inside. Nowhere can this become more apparent than with our romantic goals.

Despite what we may think it’s often not as simple as just deciding what qualities we are looking for in a romantic partner and then putting that desire out there. Often the reason people fail in this goal – and others – is that the actual, tangible possibility of having it brings up hidden issues and feelings we may have been unaware of. When we don’t have a partner we often fantasise about how great it would be if we did have someone. But in the cocoon of our dreams we neglect to include our reactions to them. So, when we do meet them these hidden feelings surface and can lead us to sabotage the very thing we’ve worked so hard to manifest and desired for so long. For example, you may be visualising yourself in a relationship with someone who is intelligent, successful and good-looking. The person turns up and appears to be smitten with you but suddenly you find yourself battling feelings of insecurity and jealousy. What is someone this amazing doing with someone like you? They say they love you but do they mean it? Soon you find yourself trapped in a cycle of paranoia and negativity instead of allowing love to flow.

For any goal you’re working with and especially one that involves a relationship take the time to step back and imagine your feelings once you’ve attracted the person or situation you want. How do you feel? Imagine yourself in day-to-day situations not the initial rush of euphoria we all feel when falling in love or getting what we want. Imagine your ideal partner talking to someone who is also very attractive at a party. They are laughing and it all looks a bit flirtatious. How do you feel? Are you secure in the fact it is you your partner wants to be with or are feelings of mistrust creeping in? If so, you have identified a potential issue and it’s important now to look at where these feelings originated from and deal with them before the person or a similar situation really does manifest.

In order to really live out our dreams, we need to let go of the past. Very often feelings of unworthiness, insecurity and lack-of-trust have their roots in previous relationships or even childhood experiences. Part of being a Warrior for Love in your own life is being fearless enough to look back at these situation and deal with the emotional fallout from your new perspective of empowerment and strength. By looking at what could be the reality of your emotional reaction before the event takes place you are now in a position to create the outcome you always wanted – free of the hidden obstacles that hold you back.