Mosab Alkhteb's Blog, page 3
August 23, 2021
Toxic Friends Will Ruin Your Life
Toxic friends are a difficult problem.
After all, they are, well… friends!
But on the other hand, they are toxic.
They bring toxicity to your life and hack your psyche.
And you are not even sure if they wish you well or hell.
It’s a toxic friendship that ends up consuming you and making your life worse.
I wrote two books about dealing with toxic people in general.
In this article, however, I want to talk mainly about toxic friends. More specifically, how to deal with toxic f...
July 6, 2021
Why do We Focus on Negative Things and What to Do
Focusing on the negative things is a curse.
It makes you fixated on not only negative things but also wastes a lot of energy. That makes it harder to focus on what really matters, creating more negativity in your life for you to focus on!
Not to mention that it sometimes makes you focus on trivial things.
But does that mean you should “think positively”?
Positive thinking is a way of life for some people. It’s, however, arguably nothing but self-delusion and willful blindness when t...
July 6, 2020
6 Reliable Resources to Help You Deeply Understand Yourself
While ‘understanding yourself’ might not seem like a hot topic, it’s important.
With enough self-understanding, the weird shit you do will start to make sense. And from there, you can either accept it or improve what you can improve.
You will generally feel calmer and more in tune with who you are and what you are feeling. Your motives and beliefs and intentions will get clearer. And that’s good and healthy.
When it comes to your relationships, it can help you express yourself better an...
June 29, 2020
3 Types of People Who Will Bring You Down
Imagine you wanted to quit drinking.
You got so fed up with being drunk all the time and doing stupid things.
So, you genuinely want to quit.
You wholeheartedly decide that you are not going to drink again.
Never.
Ever.
But there’s one problem.
You live in a bar!
Your friends are usually either drunk or want to get drunk.
Alcohol is very accessible and everyone around you uses it.
You might be able to go a few hours or a few days without drinking, depending on your ...
June 22, 2020
6 Books to Help You with 3 (Problematic) Relationships Types
This article will help you deal with 3 major problems many people struggle with.
Those problems are about human relationships.
Or, as some call them, interpersonal relationships.
Why is it a big deal?
People can hurt you, and toxic relationships can be painful.
They can be dangerous to your mental health. And they can extend their harm to hurt your physical health.
On the other hand, having healthy relationships in your life is associated with psychological and physical benefi...
June 14, 2020
Having Something to Look Forward to is Crucial to Surviving Hard Times
I was thinking the other day about having something to look forward to.
What I realized was that it’s one of the things that can keep you sane. Especially during tough times.
In this article, I want to share with you some of my thoughts and why I believe this. And more importantly, I want to do that to help you push through hard times.
Keeping your sanity during tough times can be how you push through them.
But before we start, let’s clarify something.
I don’t mean to have somethi...
June 7, 2020
Instead of Screwing Up, Try These 3 Easy Tips
I have 3 tips that I believe can help you live a better life.
In fact, they are replacements to things that you normally do. But those things, I argue, aren’t quite helpful or useful.
So, this is the type of article in which I will tell you, “Instead of doing X, try doing Z.” then I will explain how Z is more useful than X (and how X can actually be demoralizing).
Those 3 tips are about 3 domains in your life:
The first one is about how you deal with yourself.The second one has somet...
May 31, 2020
Should You Disappear to Get Your Shit Together?
“Should I disappear to get my shit together?”
Be it after a major life issue, a break up, a job loss, or during depression.
This is one of these questions I don’t answer with a simple yes or no.
Disappearing is when you self-isolate and withdraw from social interactions.
It can be a full-blown disappear. You literally become out of reach.
Or it can be a withdrawal, physical or emotional, in which you are somehow unavailable for human connection.
And here come the questions and...
May 25, 2020
How to Tell Someone They Have Hurt You
When someone has hurt you, it usually means one of the following:
What they said/did was generally offensive.What they said/did touched an emotional wound. What they said/did prevent you from getting one of your needs met.A nice mix of all the above.
We will discuss them in detail, but first let’s look at the people who do these things and hurt us.
This person can be a toxic person and plain mean. Their intentions usually don’t have the best for you. In such a case, we need to stand up ...
May 17, 2020
Are You Kind to Yourself While Having Problems?
Are you kind to yourself at all??
When we have any type of problems in our lives, we tend to be harsher on ourselves.
And that’s not good.
It exasperates the problems.
And in the long term, it will erode our self-esteem and make shame grow bigger.
That, in turn, will make our problems worse. It’s like, we are not solving our problems; we are making them worse.
So, this article is here to help.
Surprisingly, I am not going to mention anything about being kind to yourself thro...
