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May 3, 2017
Your Greatness Gaps
Lolly Daskal — The Leadership Gap from Adrienne Dorison
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7 Leadership Styles That Lead To Greatness
What is your leadership style?
We have within us seven archetypes each one of these archetype create and define our leadership style.
Which one is yours?
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Discover Your Leadership Archetype To Lead With Strength | Lolly Daskal
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In this episode, we’re going to talk about what gets between you and your greatness with our guest, Lolly Daskal. She is the founder of Lead from Within, a global leadership coaching and consulting firm based in New York City. She has been named a Top 50 Leadership Expert and a Top 100 Leadership Keynote Speaker. You may have already read her work on Inc.com, Fast Company, or the Huffington Post. Her new book is The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness.
Resources:
https://www.lollydaskal.com/ – Lolly’s Website
@LollyDaskal – Lolly on Twitter
Pre-order her book before May 16 and get a $97 assessment for free – https://www.theleadershipgapbook.com/
Are you a rebel? A hero? A navigator? Or something else?
If, as a leader, you’ve ever had a moment of self-doubt or uncertainty, then you may have accessed one of your archetypes. In any given situation, we can spring into action and either try to “fix” the problem or take control, neither of which are beneficial to leading a team. Finding your archetype can help you approach your weaknesses and address them head on.
Kevin Kruse and Lolly Daskal On Forbes
Lolly Daskal is the founder of Lead From Within, a global leadership coaching and consulting firm. Her new book is The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness. I recently interviewed Lolly on the LEADx podcast, and delved into her thoughts on archetypes and how to approach them. (The interview below has been lightly edited for space and clarity.)
Kevin Kruse: What are archetypes, and why are they so important?
Lolly Daskal: An archetype is a persona that is within us. It’s something that we can identify. It’s the Hero’s Journey talks about journey that we take within ourselves, that from birth until death, and all of us go through certain stages―what I call, in my profession―until we reach greatness, until we reach meaning, until we reach purpose. The thing about this book, I would like to emphasize, is that not only does it talk about archetypes, but I lace it with Jungian work.
And Jung’s work is about shadow work. So for every archetype which will get you to greatness, I actually talk about how the same archetype, the same greatness, can cause a gap, can keep you from that success, and can keep you from your greatness. By combining the work of Joseph Campbell, and by combining the work of Jung, it really gives you like an insight to who you are on a level that most people don’t have.
Kruse: Will you share several of these archetypes with us?
Daskal: Absolutely. I want to talk about two in particular, because these two show up in every single individual that is high-achieving. So if you’re out there wanting to have a successful business, if you’re a leader leading thousands, if you’re someone who has a startup who wants to make a significant difference in a business, you’ll identify. I mean, you’ll identify with all seven archetypes, but let’s talk about one in particular.
The first archetype of the RETHINK Model, because it spells out ‘rethink’. Each one stands―like you talked about in the beginning of the show―the Rebel, the Explorer, the Truth-teller, the Hero, the Inventor, Navigator, and Knight, but let’s talk about the ‘Rebel.’
For every rebel that is out there who wants to make an impact in the world, who wants to make a difference in the world in a big way, they need the characteristic of confidence. They need to be able to be extremely competent and confident in order to make that happen. For every single rebel that we meet, within them, there is a gap. The gap is of someone who feels like an imposter who has self-doubt.
It sounds like this. “If they only knew how I’m not as smart as they think I am, I’m in trouble. I don’t deserve to have this position. I didn’t go to the best schools. I don’t know why I’m leading them. There’s so many smarter people in this room. Why am I doing this?” Every single person has within them something that has self-doubt about themselves, and this gap can actually cost you in your greatness, so we have to learn how to leverage it. In the book, it talks about how to leverage your gaps. It’s not about only identifying them, but what to use and what to do about the fact that you feel like an imposter.
The second archetype is the ‘Navigator.’ A navigator is someone who’s really good at steering people, and guiding people, and they’re great at problem-solving. They’re fantastic at being pragmatic and practical. And, because they are that great at solving problems and challenges, people trust them. They tend to want to gravitate towards them. But for every navigator that exists, there is a gap. This gap, I think, most people will recognize within themselves, and the gap is, ‘The Fixer.’
When someone comes to the fixer and says, “Oh, I have a problem,” they jump in immediately and say, “Oh, you have a problem? Do this, do that, why didn’t you do this? Last week I did it and it worked. Why aren’t you doing it this week?” It’s someone that is constantly trying to fix people, and when you’re trying to fix people, guess what? You come across as arrogant. People don’t want to be fixed. We know this in our relationships. We know this in our partnership and leaders need to understand–to fix someone is not the way to empower them or engage them. So, knowing the difference between the greatness and the gap is imperative to having a really, truly magnificent life, a meaningful life, and a purposeful life.
The challenge for all of us, and for myself, is always, “Who am I being? Am I standing in my greatness?
Kruse: How do we build upon our archetype?
Daskal: Let’s take the last one, the ‘Navigator.’ If you’re finding that you tend to show up more as a fixer, let’s talk about four very significant ways that you can leverage it. The first way is to find out why you are the fixer. Why do you need to fix people? It has to start from within, right? You have to find out what drives you to fix people? Secondly, you should think about a fixer as somebody who likes to be a chronic rescuer. They like to rescue other people. The question is, “If you are rescuing others, are you truly empowering them the way they need to be?” So, it’s kind of like, you want to fix to help, but are you really helping them? Because, someone who is chronically rescuing others is not really helping them, is not really empowering them. The next one is fixers–they want control. They want to be able to control situations. They don’t like when things are out of control. So, the question is, “What about control and letting go of control is something that you need to work on?”
One of the archetypes, in particular, is the ‘Explorer.’ For the explorer, the way they truly learn to explore in a magnificent way is to trust their intuition instead of having to control things. I always say to the fixer, “What can you let go of to let come in?” Because you don’t want to be known as the controller or the micro-manager.
The last one is, this is very… We see this all the time. A fixer is a caretaker. They care about people. “I want to help you. I want to make you feel better,” but sometimes, the caretaker is really stepping over boundaries.
So, this is what I do with my fixers. I give them a little formula to remember. It sounds like this: If someone comes to you and says, “Oh, I have a problem.” Listen to what the problem is. “Do you think you could help me solve the problem?” That means, show up, as someone who we would call ‘The Fixer,’ but be very mindful of what people are saying. Most of the time, I would say, a good 80% or 85% of the time, they just want to talk. They just want someone to listen, and when they’re telling you about their challenges, listen to what they say. Don’t show up as the fixer because guess what? On a certain level, you look arrogant and that’s the last thing we want to do.
Kruse: I always like to challenge our listeners to become 1% better every day. Is there something from your work on archetypes, that you can challenge us to take away try today?
Daskal: One of the things that I want to talk about before I challenge anybody is I think this is very, very important for people to realize: I read a book a day. I read on the subjects of leadership and business, and it’s been a practice for 27 years. So most of the books that are out there, seem to have a certain tone about how we should be doing things, where we should be doing things, when we should be doing things, and why we should be doing things. And, so the challenge that I bring to everyone is what’s in my book. What makes my book a little bit different than most of the other books is that it is about who you are being while you are living and leading.
If we can challenge ourselves to ask ourselves, “Who we are at any given moment?” Because, my archetypes are more situational than they are, as I call ‘a banner’ of who you are. They’re not a poster for who you are. So, you could be a rebel in one moment, and a hero at the next, and a navigator in the next moment depending on the situation that you’re in. The challenge for all of us, and for myself, is always, “Who am I being? Am I standing in my greatness? Am I standing in my gap?”
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What Kind of Leader Are You? Ellen Rogin Interviews Lolly Daskal
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When it comes to leadership, are you The Rebel, defying the status-quo in order to get things done, or are you closer to The Knight, drawing motivation from your loyalty to your clients? In this AdvisorRadio interview, Ellen Rogin talks with Lolly Daskal, author of “The Leadership Gap,” about these, and other, leadership archetypes, and the common traps advisors fall into that keep them from being more effective leaders.
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May 2, 2017
Bridging The Leadership Gap in You
Leadership executive coach, Lolly Daskal identifies seven gaps – and how to fix them
• “It is these gaps that … keep us from the doing the things we really want to do”
After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal says even the top leaders can have gaps that prevent them, and thus their organizations, from realizing their full potential.
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“All of us have gaps and all of us have imperfections, but sometime we are not aware of them,” Ms. Daskal says. “Sometimes you want to do something wonderful in the world but it is these gaps that do exist that keep us from the doing the things we really want to do.”
Ms. Daskal says she has developed a powerful system to help top executives harness the virtues of their leadership style.
“There are seven archetypes that come with seven distinctive virtues that I have seen,” she says. “This is true for everyone.”
But while there are virtues, each archetype also can have a negative side. That’s what she works on with her clients.
(Lolly Daskal talks about the seven archetypes she sees in top leaders and the hidden impediments.
Ms. Daskal has expanded on his system in a new book, published this month by Penguin Portfolio, called “The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You And Your Greatness.”
She is also founder and CEO of Lead From Within, a leadership development consultancy that uses her proprietary mix of modern philosophy, science, and what she’s learned from nearly thirty years coaching top executives.
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The Leadership Gap Between You And Your Greatness
Confidence is believing you’re able,
Competence is knowing you’re able.
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On today’s show we have Lolly Daskal, who is phenomenal at everything she does, and she is helping CEOs and businesses to accomplish. She is the founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference. Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine, and Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World.
After sending out proposal after proposal for a new book, one publishing house finally asked Lolly, “What have you been training, teaching, and doing successfully the last 3 decades? That’s what we want to hear.”
Then came The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness, a powerful system about who we choose to be while we’re leading. For every leadership style we have, there is a gap, and it can cost us in our greatness. With each archetype there is the light and the dark, the greatness and the gap. It’s a system you can learn and teach in teams, a shortcut in language to push each leader to greatness.
“Confidence is believing you’re able, competence is knowing you’re able.” ~Lolly Daskal
Get The Leadership Gap Assessment (a $97 value for FREE) when you pre-order The Leadership Gap Book here: http://bit.ly/2peCLGS
On this episode, you will discover:
The 30 year old leadership system that led Lolly to success in executive coaching and leadership
Which archetype Lolly coaches me on personally
The Re-think model
The 7 different leadership archetypes in your business
The greatness and the gap for the 7 types of leaders
How to use the 7 archetypes on your team
Why it’s important to know your archetype
How your archetype can give you purpose and a legacy
Question: Which archetype do you most relate to, and how do you navigate?
Resources:
Get The Leadership Gap Assessment (a $97 value for FREE) when you pre-order The Leadership Gap Book here: http://bit.ly/2peCLGS
Next-Level Leadership LIVE Event
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4 Proven Reasons Why Intuitive People Make Great Leaders
Have you ever wondered how some leaders are more creative and innovative than others?
As a leader coach and business consultant I have seen two kinds of leaders, I have witnessed both, and I have seen the results of both.
One leader thinks that in order to create something new, they must use their analytic mind to be creative.
The other kind of leader who want to try something new they use their intuitive mind to be innovative.
I have seen leaders say that relying on your six sense- following your gut- your intuition- is being unreliable.
But for years, I have seen how the intuitive leader, can be more of an explorer, and discover more than those who don’t utilize their intuition and I have witnessed that Intuitive people make great leaders, they have a competitive edge over other leaders, they are quicker, faster, smarter and more decisive.
Maybe people have a misunderstanding on what intuition really is…
Many people call intuition, a gut feeling, a knowing, words spoken from the heart.
But intuition is more than that…here are 4 ways our intuition really works and how it can make your leadership great again.
1. Our intuition is the accumulation of all the experiences we have. Everything that you have experienced becomes data points in your mind, every person you have met, every success you have experienced and every failure you had to go through, the learning that you were taught, the mistakes that have becomes lessons are stored. as a memory chip – to be utilized.
2. Our intuition is the amalgam of all the books we have read: We all read, some read books, other read articles, or blogs or posts or signs or posters, we read and therefore the words make an impression, they leave an imprint, and we remember, maybe not right now, but when we need it – it can be available.
3. Our intuition is the combination of all the people we have met. Think of all your encounters, think of all the people you have met, I believe that every person we meet has something to teach us, that every person we bump into has something to teach us, think of all the lessons we have learned because when we need it can be put to use.
4. Our intuition is the facts and data we collected: for years I am sure you have due diligence, you have collected data, and facts and you have created spread sheets and variations of what things could be and should be, all of that is important, all of it is vital because that knowledge when we need it- you will employ it.
Now think of this, you have experiences, reading, and people, and data and facts, all of this are stored in your brain – within little chips of our minds, a combination of wisdom, knowledge, lessons, and experiences. and when you want to be creative and innovative, and when you need an answer quickly and decisively, our brain does a scan of our mind and collects the knowledge we have accumulated and it connects the dots for us and it says with a definitive voice.
Do it now!
It feels right!
That is the power of our intuition, it is the answers that are rewarded by our wisdom.
Think about it the more we know, the more we learn the more we experience the more we have stored in our minds.
That is why some leaders can be more innovative and creative than others, because they don’t use their control of their thinking mind, they let go of what they know to let all the dots of their mind connect, to let come in new information, in a way, that we cannot do for ourselves. That is the edge they have, that is the gift they possess.
Einstein said, The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant, we have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.
Lead from within: Embrace your gift of intuition, and allow it to lead you to uncharted waters and find creativity and innovation. Why …because greatness lies within you.
Learn more about the intuitive leader in my new book:
The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness
After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.
Additional Reading you might enjoy:
The Test Every Great Leader Must Pass
12 of The Most Common Lies Leaders Tell Themselves
Leadership: Claim Your Calling
The One Quality Every Leader Needs To Succeed
To Trust Means To Be Careless
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May 1, 2017
Gotham Girl and Lolly Daskal
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Lolly Daskal, sought-after executive leadership coach and founder & CEO of Lead from Within, sat down with me this week to talk about her unconventional path to a sustainable career as ‘the navigator’ for some of the world’s biggest CEO’s. Lolly’s independent spirit led her to break out on her own at a young age, and it’s that same boldness that informs her ability to empower others in their business leadership. She has some great insights that are sure to be useful for everyone.
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Your Path to Greatness
Leadership is a journey. It is filled with new challenges that cause you to evolve as a leader. I had a chance to sit down with Lolly Daskal, author of The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness. Lolly shares insights to take your leadership to a new level. After listening to this interview, you will want to dive deeper into Lolly’s work.
Target Audience: Lolly is a Leadership Executive Coach and Business Consultant, a speaker and an author. She writes for Harvard Business Review Inc Psychology Today as well as others publications. She serves Fortune 500 leaders/entrepreneurs and startups.
“There is always something we can do to stand in our greatness” ~Lolly Daskal
So, Why Did You Have to Write this Book:
Lolly shares that she was approached by people who requested it. She knew she had to serve them. Publications asked her to write about what she had been teaching. At that time, it was about the RETHINK model. And so, the book entitled, “The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness” was born. Get it HERE The book is a positive spin on Leadership. Lolly believes there is always something we can do to stand in our greatness
My Message is Different than Most:
Most books are about HOW and WHAT, WHEN or even WHY. Lolly believes WHO you are while you are leading is far more important than any of that other stuff. If the foundational work is correct, we can lead from WITHIN. If you don’t have yourself in check- the other stuff won’t fall into place. The book is about BEING- WHO are you BEING? The book will help you discover who you are.
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Archetypes:
For every archetype there is a shadow. When you acknowledge this, there is an inner awareness that is created which helps you develop an inner coach. That inner coach catches those moments where you can ask yourself- who are you being? It is also about not letting certain archetypes (dysfunctional ones) get in the way of your greatness.
Leveraging Fear:
Confidence comes from knowing your capabilities and competence. Confidence is believing you are able. Competence is knowing you are able. Once you know what you are able, you can build on that. At the end of the day, make a list of all the things you have done well. This daily habit can cause you to move mountains!
“Confidence comes from knowing your capabilities and competence” ~Lolly Daskal
Important Tip: Stop comparing yourself to others. Only Measure yourself against yourself. Have an inner circle (a fanclub) – who can reflect back to you your talents and skills.
The inner critic exists because there are parts of us that wants to please people, and want to be perfect. Many might believe that Greatness is destined for only a few. The truth is it is available to anyone. It is about making a choice.
In this episode we’ll cover:
Knowing your shadow side
Why greatness is a possibility for all
Why WHO you are being sets the foundation
Handling that inner critic
2 daily rituals that can change your world
“At the end of the day, make a list of all the things you have done well” ~Lolly Daskal
Practical and Actionable:
Every morning (before the day begins) writes about what you grateful for. Jot down all the things that are working. Create the balance with the tough stuff going on out there. This sets the day off right. People forget they are masters at what they do. Remind yourself of what you are great at. Make that list of what you did well that day. You’ll start to see things happening different in your life.
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Resources and Links:
Lolly’s Official Website
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April 29, 2017
Finding Your Greatness
Lolly Daskal is one of the most sought-after executive leadership coaches in the world. Her extensive cross-cultural expertise spans 14 countries, six languages and hundreds of companies.
As founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world.
Based on a mix of modern philosophy, science, and nearly thirty years coaching top executives, Lolly’s perspective on leadership continues to break new ground and produce exceptional results. Of her many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others.
Listen in as we discuss the 7 gaps and the 7 archetypes that exist for all of us and might be holding you back.
In This Episode:
How open-ended questions lead to new career possibilities
Why leading from your greatness means knowing your gaps
How embracing and telling your truth leads to authentic, human relationships
Why finding success and authentic happiness means understanding the gaps
Quotes From This Episode:
“What I was curious about more than anything else in the world was human behavior.” —@LollyDaskal
“All I did was ask open-ended questions and made them feel empowered.” —@LollyDaskal
“I want to be able to bring something new to my clients every day.” —@LollyDaskal
“Greatness lies within you.” —@LollyDaskal
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“There is a shadow part that if we’re not careful, in our times of crisis, those gaps show up and we end up leading not from our greatness but from our gaps.” —@LollyDaskal
“When you serve others, you get served.” —@LollyDaskal
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“Great leaders understand that when you lead, it’s about ‘we’ and it’s not about ‘me.’” —@LollyDaskal
“Sometimes the gaps you don’t like in others, is what you really have within.” —@LollyDaskal
H2H Lightning Round:
What is holding you back from greater success? If I only know what I know, it could be holding me back from who I can become. The only thing that could be holding me back is me.
Who do you look to the most for advice? Viktor Frankl. Joseph Campbell. Carl Jung.
What is your best personal productivity suggestion? Discipline gives me freedom.
What is one thing that has you excited to be working on right now? Talking to Bryan Kramer and my book because it is something I am extremely passionate about.
If you had to start over tomorrow knowing what you know now but you don’t get to take the money with you, just the knowledge, what’s the first thing you would do to build your career back up? I would ask myself “How can I make an impact today and with who can I serve today?”.
Resources:
Lolly Daskal on Twitter: @LollyDaskal
Lead From Within
The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness
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