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Mind: Where All Mysticisms Emanate And End
The first and foremost dualism about love, which is very deep-rooted in our consciousnesses, is its acceptance as something mystical, at the cost of sustained refusal to see the more objective and elaborately realistic aspects.
The dualism is in the mysticism, magic and marvel of love. This mysticism of love is what most lovers get attracted to initially. This suits the consciousness of love. This marvel of love gives the young men and women huge kicks of life. Young minds get huge thrills in journeying amidst the mist of mysticism of love as precariousness of the enterprise always has its own joy. Similar is the human desire, when it comes to religion and spiritualism. Mysticism is preferred state here too. However, this mysticism further confuses those in love and faith and this confusion in turn leads to calamitous patterns of behaviors and actions in love. The resultant pain and chaos is cyclic.
Human mind is where all mysticisms emanate and end. The multilayered mechanisms of mind is one huge mystery, humanity has been attempting to unravel since thousands of years. The spiritualism and philosophy have given its own interpretation. Science has taken over and presented great facts about mind mechanism, its structure and functions and this has led humanity to understand lot many things about consciousness.
Human brain is the central mechanism for ensuring the survival and excellence of human body and it has to be accepted that the conscious and subconscious mind accepts and expresses almost everything in terms of its primary and pivotal role of ensuring a mechanism for survival and excellence. This interpretation of human mind looks so demeaning as we all are inclined to accept ourselves as something big and a lofty and special creation of God. Accepting ourselves as an entity, with base idea of survival is revolting.
That is why, science says, “the idea of a self, in objecting terms is often pitted against the ‘self’ itself, which we have been used to accepting subjectively since thousands of years.”
However, as we have talked about it earlier, the mechanism, as we are, may not be easy for us to accept but it is very helpful in enhancing our joy and satisfaction. Just for knowing the mechanism, we need to accept that human mind ensures this survival and excellence through a continuous and complicated maintenance of a process called homeostasis – better understandable as ‘poise’. All wisdoms, old or new, since thousands of years, have talked about the importance of this idea called ‘poise’, explained in terms of philosophy and spiritualism. Science unravels its physiological, bio-chemical and psychosomatic aspects.
(excerpts from ebook, ‘Why We Flop In Love’)
The dualism is in the mysticism, magic and marvel of love. This mysticism of love is what most lovers get attracted to initially. This suits the consciousness of love. This marvel of love gives the young men and women huge kicks of life. Young minds get huge thrills in journeying amidst the mist of mysticism of love as precariousness of the enterprise always has its own joy. Similar is the human desire, when it comes to religion and spiritualism. Mysticism is preferred state here too. However, this mysticism further confuses those in love and faith and this confusion in turn leads to calamitous patterns of behaviors and actions in love. The resultant pain and chaos is cyclic.
Human mind is where all mysticisms emanate and end. The multilayered mechanisms of mind is one huge mystery, humanity has been attempting to unravel since thousands of years. The spiritualism and philosophy have given its own interpretation. Science has taken over and presented great facts about mind mechanism, its structure and functions and this has led humanity to understand lot many things about consciousness.
Human brain is the central mechanism for ensuring the survival and excellence of human body and it has to be accepted that the conscious and subconscious mind accepts and expresses almost everything in terms of its primary and pivotal role of ensuring a mechanism for survival and excellence. This interpretation of human mind looks so demeaning as we all are inclined to accept ourselves as something big and a lofty and special creation of God. Accepting ourselves as an entity, with base idea of survival is revolting.
That is why, science says, “the idea of a self, in objecting terms is often pitted against the ‘self’ itself, which we have been used to accepting subjectively since thousands of years.”
However, as we have talked about it earlier, the mechanism, as we are, may not be easy for us to accept but it is very helpful in enhancing our joy and satisfaction. Just for knowing the mechanism, we need to accept that human mind ensures this survival and excellence through a continuous and complicated maintenance of a process called homeostasis – better understandable as ‘poise’. All wisdoms, old or new, since thousands of years, have talked about the importance of this idea called ‘poise’, explained in terms of philosophy and spiritualism. Science unravels its physiological, bio-chemical and psychosomatic aspects.
(excerpts from ebook, ‘Why We Flop In Love’)
She Chiseled A Man Out Of Him, Indebted He Stood
Mayank would call her the most beautiful enterprise in his life. That kept him in constant fear. He knew most beautiful things in life were ephemeral. Strange though, he never thought beauty was the best thing about her. He loved her vitality and valued as a huge complement to his own personality for his own was rather low. When she would come close to him, he could feel the pink of her health and vitality in the millions of specks of her heavily moist breath. He found it strange but her breath would remind him of the moist and strangely aromatic air which he had breathed in when sitting beneath a very old banyan tree in the backyard of his native village. He related it to a clear sign of her superior health and took a lot of security and confidence from it.
He admired more the fact that she from her very presence would raise the bar of his potential and possibilities as a person. Mayank would always be indebted to her for a strange realization, which dawned upon him only when she entered his life. She chiseled a man out of him; made him understand the multi-dimensionality of roles a man is invested with by the almighty or the nature. He could gain the importance of the pride of the burden of performances as well as the joy of actually performing these multi-dimensional roles.
Almost a year back, when he first met her, the first feeling he had was that of the protectiveness of a father. She looked so young and effervescent, almost like a college sophomore; capricious and vulnerable. It was one of the reader interactive programs organized by his newspaper and she was invited. There were other women in the program but she caught the attention of all men because of her spiritedness. Men are men and anywhere they will be too willing to extend ample proof of it. Men start speaking the language of their beneath the belt desire and even start picking up commensurate signals which may not actually be there but their accentuated and conditioned mind would see one. A bubbly woman, who does not wear a culturally self-imposed veil of nonchalance and pretentious aura of pre-eminence, automatically draws an ‘available’ label in the language of men.
Mayank could see it happening with her. He promptly took her in his authoritative custody as if he were her dad. She took proper notice of his gesture. Later, though he got to know that she was no college girl but a professional, working for a private bank; his dad-like feelings for her didn’t change….
(excerpts from novel, ‘Back To Bliss: A Journey To Zero)
http://amazon.com/author/santoshjha
He admired more the fact that she from her very presence would raise the bar of his potential and possibilities as a person. Mayank would always be indebted to her for a strange realization, which dawned upon him only when she entered his life. She chiseled a man out of him; made him understand the multi-dimensionality of roles a man is invested with by the almighty or the nature. He could gain the importance of the pride of the burden of performances as well as the joy of actually performing these multi-dimensional roles.
Almost a year back, when he first met her, the first feeling he had was that of the protectiveness of a father. She looked so young and effervescent, almost like a college sophomore; capricious and vulnerable. It was one of the reader interactive programs organized by his newspaper and she was invited. There were other women in the program but she caught the attention of all men because of her spiritedness. Men are men and anywhere they will be too willing to extend ample proof of it. Men start speaking the language of their beneath the belt desire and even start picking up commensurate signals which may not actually be there but their accentuated and conditioned mind would see one. A bubbly woman, who does not wear a culturally self-imposed veil of nonchalance and pretentious aura of pre-eminence, automatically draws an ‘available’ label in the language of men.
Mayank could see it happening with her. He promptly took her in his authoritative custody as if he were her dad. She took proper notice of his gesture. Later, though he got to know that she was no college girl but a professional, working for a private bank; his dad-like feelings for her didn’t change….
(excerpts from novel, ‘Back To Bliss: A Journey To Zero)
http://amazon.com/author/santoshjha
LOVE Ain’t – What We Want We Automatically Get Thing…
Love, as one ‘casual and unconscious venture’ of life, is usually launched, or better say gets auto-launched, without much preparations. There is a clichéd that love is not made to happen, rather it happens….
This somehow justifies the non-preparedness in love. However, when the associated troubles happen in love, we never repeat the clichéd that it happened and not made to happen.
We always say, he or she made it all happen to me. Or; this or that set of things made it happen.
When something starts with a hypothesis that ‘what we want is what we should automatically get’, then the script for the failure is readied.
Nothing qualifies for automatic qualification as a birthright in modern contemporary cultural milieu of humanity. Success may come random to some, for most, it needs huge preparations.
Even if ‘Love Happens’, We All Need Be Prepared For Its Celebrative Welcome & Nurturance…
(excerpts from book, ‘Why We Flop In Love’)
http://amazon.com/author/santoshjha
This somehow justifies the non-preparedness in love. However, when the associated troubles happen in love, we never repeat the clichéd that it happened and not made to happen.
We always say, he or she made it all happen to me. Or; this or that set of things made it happen.
When something starts with a hypothesis that ‘what we want is what we should automatically get’, then the script for the failure is readied.
Nothing qualifies for automatic qualification as a birthright in modern contemporary cultural milieu of humanity. Success may come random to some, for most, it needs huge preparations.
Even if ‘Love Happens’, We All Need Be Prepared For Its Celebrative Welcome & Nurturance…
(excerpts from book, ‘Why We Flop In Love’)
http://amazon.com/author/santoshjha
LOVE Is More A Function Of Innocence And Compassion Than Intelligence And Passion…
When you ask someone, you love deeply, to do away with some nasty or not so good habit or idea with him or her. He or she would first resist it saying, ‘why do you want to change me?’ You may tell lot many things to convince him or her but with little success. Consider what this person’s subconscious mind can come up with. It can device a series of questions, which shall essentially be his or defense against the change you want. His or her subconscious mind shall create all possible patterns of action-behavior to ensure he or she wins against your suggestion for change. Homeostasis needs to always win for survival.
The person would ask:
1. Why is there a need for me to change, I am doing perfectly fine!
2. Why should you ask me to change, can’t you accept me as I am?
3. Why should I change and even if I have, why should I listen to you?
4. Oh! Do you think you are God! Even God cannot ask me that!
5. Why should I change if I am not convinced there is something wrong about it?
6. If I have to change, only I shall decide, no one has the right to judge me.
7. I am open to change but only for someone who first accepts me as I am.
8. I would change only for someone who loves me blindly.
9. I accept changes but it would be tough as I was made this way.
10. Give me time, I am a not good at it! Etc.
The general refrain of most people in love is, “why cannot you accept me as I am. The God accepts me and loves me the way I am, good or bad. Why can’t you? Are you greater than God? Love never puts conditions!” Etc.
Remember, the more intelligent a person is, more artistic and ingenious shall be his or her advocacy against change. More unsettled, ephemeral and indecisive one’s overall homeostasis is, more intense and vocally demonstrative he or she shall be in love. However, this person shall be tougher for you to change him or her and shall be equally demonstrative in denying changes.
LOVE Is More A Function Of Innocence And Compassion Than Intelligence And Passion…
(excerpts from my book, ‘Why We Flop In Love)
http://amazon.com/author/santoshjha
The person would ask:
1. Why is there a need for me to change, I am doing perfectly fine!
2. Why should you ask me to change, can’t you accept me as I am?
3. Why should I change and even if I have, why should I listen to you?
4. Oh! Do you think you are God! Even God cannot ask me that!
5. Why should I change if I am not convinced there is something wrong about it?
6. If I have to change, only I shall decide, no one has the right to judge me.
7. I am open to change but only for someone who first accepts me as I am.
8. I would change only for someone who loves me blindly.
9. I accept changes but it would be tough as I was made this way.
10. Give me time, I am a not good at it! Etc.
The general refrain of most people in love is, “why cannot you accept me as I am. The God accepts me and loves me the way I am, good or bad. Why can’t you? Are you greater than God? Love never puts conditions!” Etc.
Remember, the more intelligent a person is, more artistic and ingenious shall be his or her advocacy against change. More unsettled, ephemeral and indecisive one’s overall homeostasis is, more intense and vocally demonstrative he or she shall be in love. However, this person shall be tougher for you to change him or her and shall be equally demonstrative in denying changes.
LOVE Is More A Function Of Innocence And Compassion Than Intelligence And Passion…
(excerpts from my book, ‘Why We Flop In Love)
http://amazon.com/author/santoshjha
Fear Is Good; Energizes Journey To Truth
He grew up to the realism that asking question was a greater virtue than giving answers. Keeping a question alive, not allowing it to die prematurely required a lot of courage, character and conviction. Almost everyone claimed to have the answers; some of them probably had. Most of them even fought for their answers to be the only justified one. Many had the authority to impose answers or the refusal of it on people. Only few however had questions and the courage to stand them. He realized, if necessity was the mother of inventions, inquisitiveness was the primary energy behind all inventions, all creations.
He refused the socially popular notion that a question was a sign of weakness as it exposed the ignorance of the questioner. He learnt it quite early in his youthfulness that a question is sign of innocence and courage. It required childlike innocence and courage of highest order to rise above the fear of being labeled an ignorant, to face the taunts of peer group and society to be a duffer, even retarded. He had made up his mind to always be on the side of questions. He had accepted that if something had fear in its side, it was good as it would lead to the ultimate truth.
(excerpts from novel, ‘Back To Bliss: A Journey To Zero’)
http://amazon.com/author/santoshjha
He refused the socially popular notion that a question was a sign of weakness as it exposed the ignorance of the questioner. He learnt it quite early in his youthfulness that a question is sign of innocence and courage. It required childlike innocence and courage of highest order to rise above the fear of being labeled an ignorant, to face the taunts of peer group and society to be a duffer, even retarded. He had made up his mind to always be on the side of questions. He had accepted that if something had fear in its side, it was good as it would lead to the ultimate truth.
(excerpts from novel, ‘Back To Bliss: A Journey To Zero’)
http://amazon.com/author/santoshjha
