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LOVE Is More A Function Of Innocence And Compassion Than Intelligence And Passion…
When you ask someone, you love deeply, to do away with some nasty or not so good habit or idea with him or her. He or she would first resist it saying, ‘why do you want to change me?’ You may tell lot many things to convince him or her but with little success. Consider what this person’s subconscious mind can come up with. It can device a series of questions, which shall essentially be his or defense against the change you want. His or her subconscious mind shall create all possible patterns of action-behavior to ensure he or she wins against your suggestion for change. Homeostasis needs to always win for survival.
The person would ask:
1. Why is there a need for me to change, I am doing perfectly fine!
2. Why should you ask me to change, can’t you accept me as I am?
3. Why should I change and even if I have, why should I listen to you?
4. Oh! Do you think you are God! Even God cannot ask me that!
5. Why should I change if I am not convinced there is something wrong about it?
6. If I have to change, only I shall decide, no one has the right to judge me.
7. I am open to change but only for someone who first accepts me as I am.
8. I would change only for someone who loves me blindly.
9. I accept changes but it would be tough as I was made this way.
10. Give me time, I am a not good at it! Etc.
The general refrain of most people in love is, “why cannot you accept me as I am. The God accepts me and loves me the way I am, good or bad. Why can’t you? Are you greater than God? Love never puts conditions!” Etc.
Remember, the more intelligent a person is, more artistic and ingenious shall be his or her advocacy against change. More unsettled, ephemeral and indecisive one’s overall homeostasis is, more intense and vocally demonstrative he or she shall be in love. However, this person shall be tougher for you to change him or her and shall be equally demonstrative in denying changes.
LOVE Is More A Function Of Innocence And Compassion Than Intelligence And Passion…
(excerpts from my book, ‘Why We Flop In Love)
http://amazon.com/author/santoshjha
The person would ask:
1. Why is there a need for me to change, I am doing perfectly fine!
2. Why should you ask me to change, can’t you accept me as I am?
3. Why should I change and even if I have, why should I listen to you?
4. Oh! Do you think you are God! Even God cannot ask me that!
5. Why should I change if I am not convinced there is something wrong about it?
6. If I have to change, only I shall decide, no one has the right to judge me.
7. I am open to change but only for someone who first accepts me as I am.
8. I would change only for someone who loves me blindly.
9. I accept changes but it would be tough as I was made this way.
10. Give me time, I am a not good at it! Etc.
The general refrain of most people in love is, “why cannot you accept me as I am. The God accepts me and loves me the way I am, good or bad. Why can’t you? Are you greater than God? Love never puts conditions!” Etc.
Remember, the more intelligent a person is, more artistic and ingenious shall be his or her advocacy against change. More unsettled, ephemeral and indecisive one’s overall homeostasis is, more intense and vocally demonstrative he or she shall be in love. However, this person shall be tougher for you to change him or her and shall be equally demonstrative in denying changes.
LOVE Is More A Function Of Innocence And Compassion Than Intelligence And Passion…
(excerpts from my book, ‘Why We Flop In Love)
http://amazon.com/author/santoshjha
