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June 5, 2017
bead-bead:
mercy-misrule:
one of the most amazing things that has been said to me in therapy is...
one of the most amazing things that has been said to me in therapy is that self esteem doesn’t exist.
and that floored people and the psych went onto say that what she meant was that self esteem is a concept that actually includes a vast array of things and labelling them all as one thing is really limiting and prevents actual improvement
you could have real strong pride in the things you create and hate your body
you could hate your creations but also want to share them with people
you could not hate yourself at all but not take care of yourself, engage in reckless self endangerment
thats all bundled under ‘self esteem’ but saying ‘i need better self esteem’ doesn’t mean anything
whereas if you say ‘i need to work on ways to keeping myself safe, refusing to act on destructive urges’ or ‘i want to be in a place where i believe compliments trusted people give me’
thats concrete, thats a goal.
having it said in therapy helped a lot of people in my group stop saying ‘i have low self esteem’ and start specifying about the actual issue they have
Wow, that is so, so helpful.
sumerianlanguage:
tainbocuailnge:
gilgamesh: tell the whole world we’re bros
enkidu: you’re the...
gilgamesh: tell the whole world we’re bros
enkidu: you’re the only bro for me bro
gilgamesh: bro why’d you only tell me
enkidu: because you’re my world bro
gilgamesh, holding back tears: bro….
gilgamesh: namsheshme sharra heben
enkidu: zae ngar sheshashmen, shesh
gilgamesh: shesh, anaash ashbi maedug
enkidu: zae sharngumen, shesh
gilgamesh, er gugule: shesh…
Possessiveness 101
Totally cool: “Hey, do you want to be exclusive?”
Red flag: “No one but me is allowed to touch you.”
Totally cool: “It makes me feel weird when you flirt with other people, can we talk about that?”
Red flag: “If you loved me, you would stop being friends with them. You KNOW it makes me jealous.”
Totally cool: “I hope we’re together forever. I’m so in this for the long haul.”
Red flag: “If you ever left me, I would kill myself.”
Totally cool: “Your mom is really unkind to me, can we try to minimize how often you bring me when you visit her?”
Red flag: “Your mom hates me, you need to stop talking to her. She’s trying to ruin our relationship.”
Totally cool: “I love you so much, oh my god.”
Red flag: “It’s a good thing I love you so much, because no one else would. You’d be alone forever without me.”
Other important red flags to keep in mind: someone who wants to jump into emotional/financial co-dependence very fast (like moving in together right away, or becoming each other’s only confidantes right away) and won’t take no for an answer; someone who tries to minimize how often you leave the house or interact with other people; someone who threatens you or themselves or your family or pets or possessions or financial future; someone who uses guilt to keep you from leaving a relationship.
Very important reminder: You do not need a reason to leave a relationship. Neither does the other person (or people). A relationship is over when one of the people in it says it’s over, period. Obviously it’s kind to take the end of a long relationship seriously, but abusers and manipulators have lost the right to that conversation. Lie if you need to–your safety is much more important than their feelings.
Trust your instincts!
This is so important.
June 4, 2017
pidgepitchu:
strict-constitutionalist:
constitutioncutie:
Mini...
Minimum wage: $7.25
$7.25 x 40 hour full time work week: $290
$290 x 4 weeks per month: $1,160
In every Southern state (didn’t have time to look at the rest of the country) you can find some sort of studio apartment for around $500 per month, sometimes less than that. Why bother lying about something so easily disproven?
Because Bernie Sanders supporters aren’t going to fact check him, and they’ll ignore any contrary evidence that’s presented to them anyways.
Things like this really tick me off and It’s not political or anything but it’s the fact that you think all that money is there. Here’s what I mean;
That weekly check comes to, according to you, 290. Most places DO NOT pay for your half hour lunch that is required by law. So your beginning number was wrong. $7.25 x 7.5 hours a day x 5 days a week only gets you $271.88.
Most people in America get paid bi-weekly, so let’s double it to get the budget. $543.75. That’s GROSS, not NET. Out of that comes anywhere between 10% and 15% taxes depending on state so we’ll low ball it at 10%. Automatically down to $489.38 a pay check. Now health insurance. Usually anywhere from 70-100 a pay check for the cheapest plans. Again, we’ll low ball and go $70. So now we have $419.39 a paycheck. x 2 = $839.
Eight hundred thirty nine dollars. A MONTH.
But again, you seem to think that’s fair. So let’s proceed. You say rent is $500? Okay. This person now has $339 left to buy groceries for the whole month, pay utilities, car payment, car insurance, and gas money to get to work.
Those are the bare needs. You have to eat. You have to pay for heat, water, garbage removal, gas and or electricity because apartments do not always include things and rarely all of the above. Most cities in America do not have public transportation. Mine doesn’t despite the fact that our population is over 15,000 people, not counting a taxi. If you have a car, you have to pay that. If you have a car, legally you have to have car insurance. You have to pay that. You have to have gas in that car to get to work to make that money.
Now if you can tell me you can get all of that out of $339 you’re lying.
You are so focused on rent that you aren’t thinking about everything else people have to pay for. Rent was an example. This is a breakdown of the budget you gave me and it’s not possible to live off that in 2017 America.
And BECAUSE this person makes over $800 a month, they probably won’t qualify for financial aid or food stamps. $800 is the line in my state where they won’t help you. No food stamps, financial aid, or government housing if you make more than $800 a month.
Why does it bother you that people deserve to live above the poverty line?
reuniclus:
phantomgames:
meckamecha:
kazensaruaire:
gingersnapwolves:
lastroseofspring:
awkwardy...
the inarguably best three avatar moments in no particular order
that’s rough buddy
no firelord ozai YOU’RE not wearing any pants
that part where they’re all completely baffled by there being just a regular bear
Consider:
Maybe it’s friendly
Can your Science explain why it rains
The Boulder feels conflicted
HOW can you SAY that
We have defeated you for all time! You will never rise from the ashes of your shame and humiliation!
Hello, Zuko here
ALSO:
It’s Sparky Sparky Boom Man!
I’m Wang Fire. And this is my wife, Sapphire… Fire
And this is Katara, my flying sister
ZUKO, I WANT YOU TO DANCE WITH ME
when Aang grabbed Ozai by his stupid goat beard right before kicking his ass
Sokka: I can’t see ANYTHING! Toph: Oh no, what a nightmare! Sokka: Sorry.
Honorable mentioned:
Originally posted by luckybabythecat
How have you all forgotten “I am not Toph! I am M E L O N L O R D”
Please also consider:
- SECRET TUNNEL
- “You know my favorite thing about Appa? His sense of humor.”
- The one where Sokka is stuck in a hole the entire episode
- “I’m taking my vacation AT THE LIBRARY!!”
BUT ALSO:
-“THE MOON SPIRIT IS A GENTLE, LOVING LADY. SHE RULES THE SKY WITH COMPASSION AND…LUNAR GOODNESS”
-that one epic fight of Katara vs centuries of years of traditional misogyny
-“wHAT ARE YOU DOING??”
“saving the jerk who dumped me.”
-THE ENTIRE PARODY PLAY OF THE CREATORS LITERALLY ROASTING THEMSELVES AND THEIR STORYLINE
-that one fight between Sokka and Master Piando where he liTERALLY WHIPS OUT ALL THESE GYMNASTIC PARKOUR MOVES THAT NO ONE KNEW HE HAD?? AND LOOKS BADASS EVEN THOUGH HES LOSING?
-“aPA ATE MOMO”
-“i’M COMIN FOR U BUDDY”
aren’t yall forgetting:
Originally posted by bucketofhugs
and
Originally posted by trustedealcosplayandcostume
Basically AtLA is gold
and ALSO DON’T FORGET
- “Well that is a big relief”
- “My friends need to suck on those frogs!”
- “take a bite out of the silver sandwich”/”no, what you were saying made no sense at all”
- “it’s upside down, isn’t it”
“ You’re the only other person who can defeat the fatherlord.”
“ You mean the firelord?”
“ That’s what I said.”
” Hey it’s the captain speaking. Everyone please go to the loading dock for hot cakes and sweet bread. We have a very special birthday to celebrate.”
“I can’t believe the captain remembered my birthday. He really does care.“
-also the moment when Zuko was imitating Iroh before he tries to join the clan.
• “mY CABBAGES”
• Suki Sand sculpture
• Starting a riot
• “Do you know why they call me The Dragon of the West?”
I love how this list gets longer each time I see it
horusporus:
scrumpyfan43:
deutschedeutscherevolution:
Interestingly, part of the reason that,...
Interestingly, part of the reason that, until now, Trump has been supported in Russia is due to translation. If you read the Russian language papers like I do, you’ll notice that the Russian translators don’t verbatim copy what Trump says. Instead, they’ll translate what he’s saying into short, professional, statesman-like statements, instead of what he really says. So instead of “I think nuclear weapons should be way down, and reduced, that’s part of it.”, the Russian audience gets a statement that translates back into English as “I think we’ll start with a substantial decrease in nuclear weapons stockpiles.” When Trump calls something “dumb” or “sad”, the Russian press will have him call it “damned”. “Bad hombres” becomes “armed bandits” and so on.
The Russian support for Trump becomes a lot easier to understand when you realize they’re literally not listening to the same person we are.
It’s really weird to see translation add nuance to a politician’s talk rather than take it away, but this makes so much sense.
this is a genuine problem for practically all translators right now.
But some interpreters, like Tsuruta, are concerned that translating the U.S. president too accurately might reflect badly on them. Alina Cincan, a Romanian interpreter and translator, tells Newsweek: “He’s not known for his eloquence nor his diplomacy. Either you translate exactly what he says which means it’ll be repetitive and sometimes gibberish—you’ll be saying ‘tremendous’, ‘very’ or ‘great’ a lot, or you try to make some sense out of it and ‘beautify’ it. If you choose the former, some may judge your interpreting abilities as poor, whereas if you choose the latter, you’ll make him sound better.”
‘Make America big again’? The headache of translating Trump into foreign languages.
“Most of the time, when he speaks he seems not to know quite where he’s going,” Viennot said. “It’s as if he had thematic clouds in his head that he would pick from with no need of a logical thread to link them.”
She is left with a dilemma: either translate Trump exactly as he speaks — and let French readers struggle with the content — or keep the content, but smooth out the style, “so that it is a little bit more intelligible, leading non-English speakers to believe that Trump is an ordinary politician who speaks properly.”
brainstatic:
I’m really glad this anti-Confederate backlash has picked up steam, because we’ve...
I’m really glad this anti-Confederate backlash has picked up steam, because we’ve allowed Confederate apologists to completely seize control of Civil War history. The fact that we even think of it in terms of “North vs. South” or “Union vs. Confederacy” is a sign of that influence. It should be “America’s Slaveowner Revolt.” We ask questions like “what if the South won the war”, as if that was remotely possible given their numbers and logistical failures. The Confederacy was barely a government. Within a year of forming there were riots from food shortages. The whole notion that this was between two equally formidable and legitimate sides is a fallacy of the so-called Lost Cause.
This isn’t griping from a history buff by the way, the Lost Cause has been one of America’s chief guardians of white supremacy for 150 years. The Big Lie about states rights affects politics to this day, and always in the context of letting states curtail civil rights that the federal government has guaranteed. Prior to the Civil War, when Northern states tried to push back against fugitive slave laws and make themselves sanctuaries for runaway slaves, the government cracked down hard on them. There was not a peep about states rights on that. We see it happening today. The states rights scolds have not said a word about Jeff Sessions threatening to destroy cities that refuse to hunt undocumented immigrants. Yet somehow the rights of states become sacrosanct when they want to keep gay couples from adopting kids. All of this is relevant to our current situation, and hopefully taking down some statues of (frankly overrated) treasonous generals is just the beginning.
hellokittyismyspiritanimal:
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this is important
Warning signs of depression (generally) in order of appearance
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