Marguerite Bennett's Blog, page 251
August 29, 2016
birbwin:
hypochondriacdreaming:
quoting-shakespeare-to-ducks:
...
I think somebody wants attention
“I could claw this hapless human to death… but she’s so cute… and I love her…”
*very gently threatens*
"In 2012, blogger Cliff Pervocracy coined the term “missing stair” to describe individuals who pose a..."
In 2012, blogger Cliff Pervocracy coined the term “missing stair” to describe individuals who pose a danger to others, but are tolerated within a community because everyone is aware of their issues. If you know about a missing stair in an unlit stairwell, you can work around it and avoid it. No one bothers to fix the missing stair because jumping over it works just fine.
But if no one told you that there was a missing stair, and it’s just assumed that you’re aware, it’s all too easy to be hurt.
Every time you allow someone with a known history of harassment to drum for your band, or play at your venue, or come to your party, you’re saying that their presence matters more than other people at the event feeling safe. You’re putting the onus on potential targets to be aware enough to leap over the missing stair, rather than roping off the stairwell with caution tape. And if someone does get hurt, it’s their fault; that’s what happens when you use a shitty, jacked up staircase, dude.
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an easy to understand metaphor about why the scumbos should be driven out of communities of all kinds.
from IMAGINING A SAFER SPACE: BUILDING COMMUNITY & ENDING HARASSMENT IN PUNK by Lorena Cupcake
(via christophersebela)
I think a lot of people think of the missing stair only in contexts related to sexual harassment and violence. Don’t. The amount of utter bullshit that happens in large social communities (like fandom) over and over again because we’re trained to think we’ll be punished for warning people about those with patterns of abusive and toxic behavior is massive. That’s not our fault, but we gotta get better at it. The level we wait for shit to rise to until we do anything about it is, generally, probably a bit higher than it should be.
(via charminggoats)
August 28, 2016
bitchyblue:
So my friends have a little boy, he’s like 2.5 and they’re already teaching him about...
So my friends have a little boy, he’s like 2.5 and they’re already teaching him about consent. He has this friend at daycare, a little girl, and the other day he wanted to hug her goodbye but she didn’t want him to, and his dad said “No, buddy, not everybody wants hugs and she doesn’t so you have to just wave goodbye.” He was sad and confused for a sec but then he was just like “K bye” and waved. Later that night, he tried to pet the cat but she ran away and he was just like “[cat’s name] just wave bye, not hug!” Like he got it. Immediately. Teach kids about consent as early as possible. They’ll get it.
g0h0stgirl:
lukshiznits:
jamesbleach:
onceuponakhaleesi:
voidethered:
ask-omnipony:
luckydreami...
Are fedoras really that bad?
YES YES THEY ARE
I don’t really believe this mumbo jumbo
I mean it’s a goddamn hat.
Right..?
The white rose, it symbolizes the unique beauty of all the women who wish not to be with a nice guy such as myse-
I wonder if this works with other kinds of hat…
Nothing ventured, nothing gained…
WHEEEN THE MOON HITS YOUR EYE LIKE A BIG PIZZA PIE THAT’S AMORREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
Men of Tumblr are my favorite kind of people…
wait, does that mean?
oh boy…….
You guys are fucking silly
and I’m gonna prove it!
Because honestly, only an idiot would believe that you can simply-
I must say Reginald, the oil sales have been most disappointing in the last fortnight, it’s positively appal-
IT GOT BETTER.
Men of Tumblr, ilu.
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