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lefuckinsoleil:monsieur-j:Christopher Kane S/S 2018 Runway...

lefuckinsoleil:

monsieur-j:

Christopher Kane S/S 2018 Runway Details

A dress revealing your butt or boobs is nothing compared to a dress revealing THE INNER VOID™.

real adult™ tip from a real adult™ with executive dysfunction

dontbearuiner:

scripturient-manipulator:

backstageleft:

vaspider:

mad-maddie:

shithowdy:

do stuff while waiting for other stuff

like that sounds intuitive and vague but so much of the day is spent in a period of wait and if you struggle to motivate yourself to do things then this is the best time

waiting for your water to boil? bag up your garbage. waiting for your coffee to drip? wipe down your counters. roommate taking up the bathroom? scoop the cat box. waiting for your food to cook in the microwave? do however many dishes you can while it’s in there. 

waiting is the perfect time to do a limited amount of something for yourself where you would be otherwise just standing around doing fuck-all

THIS IS REALLY HELPFUL!

I actually turn this into a game!

“How many chores can I do while the water is boiling for my tea?”

“Can I put away the dishes and wipe the counters before my lunch finishes reheating?”

“Can I sweep the floor AND change the laundry while the dogs are out back?”

You can totally do this! If you make it like a game, also, you will get better at it, and you can be like ‘yes, now I put away the dishes AND wiped out the sink before my water boiled, I am a level 2 Adult!’

This is the REALEST, SERIOUSLY. 

The tip is real, please do yourself a favor and use it.

I originally got this idea from @unfuckyourhabitat, and it has really made a huge difference in keeping my kitchen clean.

kramergate:kramergate:you ever think about how funny Devil Went Down to Georgia really is?...

kramergate:

kramergate:

you ever think about how funny Devil Went Down to Georgia really is? conceptually? people are being so good I guess that the devil himself is strapped for souls and decides to scrape the bottom of that holy barrel. throws a dart at a map and is like “Georgia it is I suppose” cause I know he didn’t pick that on purpose. goes down to Georgia as it were and just picks the first kid he sees. how old is Johnny? I like to think 11 or so. doesn’t matter. the only way the devil knows how to run shit is with battle of the bands style rules. picks the fiddle because that’s just what he happens to have on hand in solid gold I guess. he just so happens to pick a child fiddle prodigy. what did you expect? its Georgia bitch Johnny doesn’t have anything better to do. so the devil gets his big red ass spanked. and then a child calls him a son of a bitch

thanks for coming to my ted talk

STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING

fucktrecool:

Look at this wolf

OK now you can continue

"I think if you get quiet and honest with yourself–really honest, the kind of honest you need to get..."

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I think if you get quiet and honest with yourself–really honest, the kind of honest you need to get to your best work–you know when you’re stalling. You know when you’re working, when you’re bored, when scared, when you’re lost, when you’re stuck and when you’re stalling. It’s remembering to have that gut check and act on it that’s hard.

You working? Building something, losing a sense of time passing as you engage with your characters? Great. Keep going. Remember to take breaks and whenever possible stop when you still know what comes next.

You bored? Tough shit. If it was always fun everybody could do it. Take a short break and get your ass back in your chair. If you really need to, connect with the WHY–why are you doing this? If you can’t answer that, you’re sunk.

You scared? That’s normal. Keep going. Writing is telling truth by telling lies. It isn’t safe; it’s scary. But bravery isn’t defined by a lack of fear, it’s definied by what we do in the face of our fears. Be brave. You have it in you.

You lost? Get up. Go for a walk, take a drive, take a shower. Call somebody and talk the problem through. This IS the discipline of writing.

You stalling? You’re scared or bored or lost. See above.

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- the amazing Kelly Sue DeConnick, answering a letter asking “How can I stop doing stuff that isn’t writing?” in Bitch Planet Issue #8. (via sbyzmcpherson)

lysikan:geekdawson:one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a...

lysikan:

geekdawson:

one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have. 

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation. 

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying. 

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.  

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age. 

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse. 

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships. 

The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery. 

If it wasn’t stated outright - it wasn’t said.

dontbearuiner:colleendoran:YMMVDown with “Women in Comics”...

dontbearuiner:

colleendoran:

YMMV

Down with “Women in Comics” panels.

Up with women panelists on every other goddamn panel.

mcgonagollygee:i want to talk about the characterizations of ben wyatt and jake peralta. arguably...

mcgonagollygee:

i want to talk about the characterizations of ben wyatt and jake peralta. arguably jim halpert could be included in this conversation, but i want to focus on ben and jake because they’re such clear subversions of well-known tropes

firstly, you have ben wyatt. the nerd. he’s established as a hard-ass and a geek early on, and it would have been so easy for the writers to fall into that trope of presenting him as below leslie, as her eventual agreement to date him has a victory for all male nerds, because he had successfully tricked a woman into being interested in him. 

instead, we get ben wyatt, a dork and a feminist. he’s nationally ranked in settlers of catan and he likes to sit around in a batman costume and he loves game of thrones. he also loves his girlfriend enough to lose his job for her, and it’s never even addressed whether he minds that leslie will probably end up with a higher status job than him - because why would he? he loves and supports her, and his nerdiness is presented not as a flaw, but as a complement to her single-minded determination - they’re both total nerds with an overlapping ven diagram of interests.

secondly, jake peralta. the character we’re introduced to in the first episode is cocky and a smartass, and while he’s loveable, we completely understand why he would drive amy up a wall. jake and amy are less alike than ben and leslie are; arguably they’re opposites. again, there’s a trope that the show could have fallen into: “endearing idiot eventually wears down woman who is too good for him, and she realizes she was too uptight all along”.

but again, we get something completely different. jake peralta, known for being Too Much, consistently respects amy’s boundaries and tries as hard as he can to be honest about his feelings, while understanding that amy is her own person. she buys orange soda for him and he gets a new mattress for her. there are so many examples of the respect in that relationship - they’re both so stubborn, but they love each other so much. he’s always known that she was going to be his boss. they’re different, but they love it about each other.

all i’m saying is, this purposeful subversion of gross male stereotypes is so important - and so much easier (and so much funnier!) than people think

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dirtandleather:

gaymilesedgeworth:

brehaaorgana:

gaymilesedgeworth:

gaymilesedgeworth:

brehaaorgana:

gaymilesedgeworth:

one of my friends is a very pregnant dog and like 3 times a day i say to her “hello! you are full of several other smaller dogs!” and she wags her entire body at me like “it’s true!!! i contain multitudes”

i love that ur friend is the pregnant dog. what a nice friend to have.

ya she’s my buddy i love her!

update: there were five (5) smaller dogs inside my dog friend, but now they are all outside of her instead (!!) 

GREAT UPDATE NOW YOU HAVE SIX FRIENDS!!!

ya they’re my buddies i love them!!!!!

i found my new favorite post on this website