Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 209
March 19, 2015
When the "noise" gets turned up....
Everyone and everything around you is your teacher. If your washing machine won’t work, you are being checked out on your ability to peacefully accept the unacceptable. If you are addicted to your appliances always working, you will suffer. If you prefer them to operate well, you will not
compound your problem by superimposing your uncomfortable emotions on
the here and now realities of repairing them . Ken Jeyes Jr.
Ever so often I go back and read Ken Keyes' work to remind myself of a few things, one, everyone and everything around me is my teacher and two that we can become so emotionally programmed that we feel that we must have power to control and manipulate people in order to be happy, and going down that road is a slippery slope! Our lives speak to us daily and it is when we are not fully present, not paying attention is when the noise gets turned up! Think about it, many many times we get signs and we completely ignore it, so what happens, life then does something to make us pay attention and usually its a shock factor! So pay attention to the signs, I have been paying attention again over the last few days, the noise has been turning up.
So it is good to remind myself ever so often that I need to pay attention, be aware and know that even a broken washing machine can be giving me a message! (ps no, my machine is not broken)
Peace!
compound your problem by superimposing your uncomfortable emotions on
the here and now realities of repairing them . Ken Jeyes Jr.
Ever so often I go back and read Ken Keyes' work to remind myself of a few things, one, everyone and everything around me is my teacher and two that we can become so emotionally programmed that we feel that we must have power to control and manipulate people in order to be happy, and going down that road is a slippery slope! Our lives speak to us daily and it is when we are not fully present, not paying attention is when the noise gets turned up! Think about it, many many times we get signs and we completely ignore it, so what happens, life then does something to make us pay attention and usually its a shock factor! So pay attention to the signs, I have been paying attention again over the last few days, the noise has been turning up.
So it is good to remind myself ever so often that I need to pay attention, be aware and know that even a broken washing machine can be giving me a message! (ps no, my machine is not broken)
Peace!
March 18, 2015
Are you addicted to external validation?
Recognize your role in creating the reality of your life.....your life reflects back to you the state of being you are in right now...you are responsible for your life, it's not happening willy nilly...Oprah Winfrey
Brutally honest, some of us are addicted to external validation, being right about everything, to having things our own way so that we can feel safe.To say whatever you want to whomever you want without any regard for the necessity or appropriateness of our speaking! To be seen and heard at the same time!Addicted to being unacceptable and guilty and you don’t even know it!It is easy to point out in others the things we deny, dismiss, avoid, excuse , resist acknowledging that we actually believe are true about usAsk –What do I need? What’s in my way? What needs to go?
Then go do it! No excuses, no procrastination!
Peace!
Brutally honest, some of us are addicted to external validation, being right about everything, to having things our own way so that we can feel safe.To say whatever you want to whomever you want without any regard for the necessity or appropriateness of our speaking! To be seen and heard at the same time!Addicted to being unacceptable and guilty and you don’t even know it!It is easy to point out in others the things we deny, dismiss, avoid, excuse , resist acknowledging that we actually believe are true about usAsk –What do I need? What’s in my way? What needs to go?
Then go do it! No excuses, no procrastination!
Peace!
March 17, 2015
Confessions on the Journey – I like you!
Write it into the emotion, not away from it, write it into the wound, not away from it, write into the joy not away from it. Write into it! Nayyrah Waheed (my new absolutely favourite writer)Confessions on the Journey – I like you!I like your positive outlook on lifeI like how you think that family is important I like how you take care of your body templeI like how you make fun a priorityI like how you laugh I like how you don’t judgeI like how you like football I like you
All these likes crept up to me and whispered in my ear, you must reveal these likes, say it, say it the “likeeee”; it must come out of your mouth from your heart and hit the air. Why do you want to keep it to yourself?
I responded, are you crazy? That is not going to happen
It whispered, pull out the lessons you have learnt and walk your talk!
I said OK, here is my compromise I will pull out the lessons, I dipped into the lessons and pulled out the following · There is nothing to fear, it is all just lessons· Feedback is guidance, good or not so good· It could be good, it could be not so good, it is just a matter of your own perspective· The Universe loves you· Be grateful· Stop thinking about how difficult it is and start believing in yourself· Stop trying to control it, stop trying to control everything· Start, there is nothing left to discuss, what is the worst that can happen? So here I am having this conversation with myself and still haven’t done it yet in person, thought I would start it this way!And then it hit me, perfection is not a requirement for this process, willingness is!
Peace!
All these likes crept up to me and whispered in my ear, you must reveal these likes, say it, say it the “likeeee”; it must come out of your mouth from your heart and hit the air. Why do you want to keep it to yourself?
I responded, are you crazy? That is not going to happen
It whispered, pull out the lessons you have learnt and walk your talk!
I said OK, here is my compromise I will pull out the lessons, I dipped into the lessons and pulled out the following · There is nothing to fear, it is all just lessons· Feedback is guidance, good or not so good· It could be good, it could be not so good, it is just a matter of your own perspective· The Universe loves you· Be grateful· Stop thinking about how difficult it is and start believing in yourself· Stop trying to control it, stop trying to control everything· Start, there is nothing left to discuss, what is the worst that can happen? So here I am having this conversation with myself and still haven’t done it yet in person, thought I would start it this way!And then it hit me, perfection is not a requirement for this process, willingness is!
Peace!
March 16, 2015
Can you relax into productivity?
You only have now!You do not have yesterday.
You do not have tomorrow.The power of who you are is
present right where you are right now!How do you choose to use who you are And What you have? Iyanla
Can you relax into productivity?
Can you surrender into getting the job done?
Can an open bliss state be the conduit for what you want to make happen?
Been finding out over the last few days and so far the answer is a big fat yes!
Someone told me once that rest is productive and I keep that in mind and now I never feel guilty for resting, I think about the power of silence, how so many amazing things happen in silence?
The sun comes up, do you hear it?
The moon comes up, do you hear it?
The baby in a womb? heard that?
I make it a point daily to sit in some type of silence, confessions on the journey though, sometimes my balance of silence is skewed and I have to remind myself that there is a big ole world out there with people and family and friends and activities and that is important to get involved in them.
Do you take any time to get away from the "noise"?
This weekend I took the opportunity to mix the silence and the play, I woke up early just in time to see the sun rise, all in silence. It felt good as the days out there were long and intense and then I rested, which was super productive!
Awesomeness all round!
Peace!
Can you relax into productivity?
Can you surrender into getting the job done?
Can an open bliss state be the conduit for what you want to make happen?
Been finding out over the last few days and so far the answer is a big fat yes!
Someone told me once that rest is productive and I keep that in mind and now I never feel guilty for resting, I think about the power of silence, how so many amazing things happen in silence?
The sun comes up, do you hear it?
The moon comes up, do you hear it?
The baby in a womb? heard that?
I make it a point daily to sit in some type of silence, confessions on the journey though, sometimes my balance of silence is skewed and I have to remind myself that there is a big ole world out there with people and family and friends and activities and that is important to get involved in them.
Do you take any time to get away from the "noise"?
This weekend I took the opportunity to mix the silence and the play, I woke up early just in time to see the sun rise, all in silence. It felt good as the days out there were long and intense and then I rested, which was super productive!
Awesomeness all round!
Peace!
March 14, 2015
Nyabo (Madam) arrives....
Desire...Let go. Expect... Trust
Last night at 8 PM, "Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?" dropped ... Boom!!
As I got the news I was about to go to bed because I was leaving at 4am for my trip. I sat on the bed and thought woweee, this feels pretty darn awesome.
I want to really say thank you to everyone who assisted me in any way, big, small, minute, macro any way! Thank you very much!
The journey continues!!!
Peace
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March 13, 2015
We grow or we stagnate!
We grow, or we stagnate. We form good habits, disciplines, or destructive ones. Or sometimes both. We learn from our mistakes, or we keep repeating them until we’re in enough pain to make changes.
Dani Shapiro author
What Did I Learn Today? Thank you Gail Hilgendoff
You are not as important as you think you are at work. While people need you, rely on you and think you do great work, if you were not at work, someone else would be doing your job. Apple is still a very successful company without Steve Jobs. Every four to eight years we still get a new president. Life will always go on, even without us. Other people are just as smart, if not smarter, than you. You do not need to solve every problem, create every new product or have the best idea in the meeting. In fact, the more you allow others to share their knowledge and ideas, the more others can contribute to getting the work done. More minds -- better product.Your boss/client doesn't always need you to answer their question -- they just need someone who can answer the question. The important thing to your boss/client is that the question gets answered or the problem gets solved, not who answers or solves. Asking others to complete work that you cannot do is not a sign of weakness. In fact, it's the sign of a well-developed leader who understands their limitations of time and brain capacity.You will be remembered for the impact that you made in this world to your family, friends and environment, not how much work you got done. Being too busy does not make you important. In fact, being too busy makes you annoying and useless to those who really want or need your time.Spending time telling other people how busy you are is a waste of time -- yours and theirs.Bragging about how much vacation time you have left over at the end of the year says more about your priorities than it does your importance.
Peace!!!!
I am off on a small trip for the next few days to be a part of a facilitating team, I am not sure of the Internet access in the area as its considered a rural community. Looking forward to learning lessons on this leg of the journey!
What Did I Learn Today? Thank you Gail Hilgendoff
You are not as important as you think you are at work. While people need you, rely on you and think you do great work, if you were not at work, someone else would be doing your job. Apple is still a very successful company without Steve Jobs. Every four to eight years we still get a new president. Life will always go on, even without us. Other people are just as smart, if not smarter, than you. You do not need to solve every problem, create every new product or have the best idea in the meeting. In fact, the more you allow others to share their knowledge and ideas, the more others can contribute to getting the work done. More minds -- better product.Your boss/client doesn't always need you to answer their question -- they just need someone who can answer the question. The important thing to your boss/client is that the question gets answered or the problem gets solved, not who answers or solves. Asking others to complete work that you cannot do is not a sign of weakness. In fact, it's the sign of a well-developed leader who understands their limitations of time and brain capacity.You will be remembered for the impact that you made in this world to your family, friends and environment, not how much work you got done. Being too busy does not make you important. In fact, being too busy makes you annoying and useless to those who really want or need your time.Spending time telling other people how busy you are is a waste of time -- yours and theirs.Bragging about how much vacation time you have left over at the end of the year says more about your priorities than it does your importance.
Peace!!!!
I am off on a small trip for the next few days to be a part of a facilitating team, I am not sure of the Internet access in the area as its considered a rural community. Looking forward to learning lessons on this leg of the journey!
March 12, 2015
Radio Interview Number 2 Today at 10am EST
I am a huge fan of the Universe, I know for sure that it always has my back even when it appears to me that shit is about to hit the fan or things are not going my way. I remind myself how much the Universe is always right in time and on time. So having said that, there I was arbitrarily today minding my own business dropping off a book that someone requested after the show yesterday. She said to me, do you want to go on another radio show tomorrow, do you have time, let's go and chat with them now if you do! Hell yea! Let's do this!
So we go and meet the host of a show called Matters of the Heart and she is telling me, listen the lady I booked for tomorrow cannot make it, you must have been listening to my conversations and reading my emails! I laughed, and just said a silent thank you! So just like that I am on another show tomorrow at 10am EST for on hour.103.5 Radio For Women, who knew???
Doors of opportunity gratefully fly open and right now I am dripping with gratitude.
I have some confessions on the journey after the first radio show to share but I will leave that for another time!
For now, I celebrate the awesomeness of this opportunity to appear on the show!
Peace!
So we go and meet the host of a show called Matters of the Heart and she is telling me, listen the lady I booked for tomorrow cannot make it, you must have been listening to my conversations and reading my emails! I laughed, and just said a silent thank you! So just like that I am on another show tomorrow at 10am EST for on hour.103.5 Radio For Women, who knew???
Doors of opportunity gratefully fly open and right now I am dripping with gratitude.
I have some confessions on the journey after the first radio show to share but I will leave that for another time!
For now, I celebrate the awesomeness of this opportunity to appear on the show!
Peace!
March 11, 2015
Let us not grow weary while doing good
And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart. Therefore if we have the opportunity let us do good to all especially those who are of the household of faith
Galatians 5.9
There are some people who have serious challenges in doing good and even so much so that they call others who are doing good names such as pushovers, walkovers, sissies and so on! I am talking here about genuine efforts, the selfless ones, the ones who know their worth so it's not a "free for all" as we call it where I am from in Trinidad meaning a case where people can get away with anything!
Doing good is more about the person doing the good than the receiver. To me, it seems more of a way of life to them. Once one is comfortable in their skin, knows that we are really all connected and have a strong sense of self, doing good becomes really natural. And what exactly what do I mean by "doing good"? Default to kindness, default to compassion, default to a position of no judgement, be honest and leave the anger and cussing at the door!
This "good" attitude or default to kindness, I think, can be based on a person's upbringing or outlook or mindset. It's a case of challenging core beliefs and those who know better can be an example.
Peace!!!
There are some people who have serious challenges in doing good and even so much so that they call others who are doing good names such as pushovers, walkovers, sissies and so on! I am talking here about genuine efforts, the selfless ones, the ones who know their worth so it's not a "free for all" as we call it where I am from in Trinidad meaning a case where people can get away with anything!
Doing good is more about the person doing the good than the receiver. To me, it seems more of a way of life to them. Once one is comfortable in their skin, knows that we are really all connected and have a strong sense of self, doing good becomes really natural. And what exactly what do I mean by "doing good"? Default to kindness, default to compassion, default to a position of no judgement, be honest and leave the anger and cussing at the door!
This "good" attitude or default to kindness, I think, can be based on a person's upbringing or outlook or mindset. It's a case of challenging core beliefs and those who know better can be an example.
Peace!!!
March 10, 2015
Radio Interview today at 11am est
. Being prepared is an act of love. And intelligence. Danielle La Porte
International Women's Day was celebrated last Sunday. I am very privileged to be born in a country where strides women have made has been incredible, paving the path for me and many of us to do basically anything that we want to as women. I now don't take these luxuries or benefits lightly, travelling the world has opened my eyes to the incredible challenges and sacrifices women still face. I think about my people, my tribe of women in making decisions because for me I made a commitment to myself to not just honor those that came before me but also to leave this earth a better place than when I met it.
With this in mind I accepted an invitation to talk at an International Women's Day event. The women were all elders, imagine my surprise when I walked in and saw some elders that I knew from either TV or hearing about them from my grandmother. I sat with them for about an hour soaking up their stories all the while thinking " Okay that speech I wrote ain't gonna cut it!" And what I learnt right there is that being authentic is the beginning and the end. I told my story, I paid respect to the elders which, truth be told, is something that I have noticed is missing more and more in society. I had so much fun doing that gig! I am truly grateful that my journey took me to that spot.
When I was leaving they gave me a plant and the lady who gave me said "put this in the earth and plant some roots" with a huge smile!
Give thanks!
Peace!!!
This morning at 11am EST, I'm on the EveryWoman Programme on Ebony Radio 104.1FM. If you can, tune in, leave a comment, would love to hear from you
International Women's Day was celebrated last Sunday. I am very privileged to be born in a country where strides women have made has been incredible, paving the path for me and many of us to do basically anything that we want to as women. I now don't take these luxuries or benefits lightly, travelling the world has opened my eyes to the incredible challenges and sacrifices women still face. I think about my people, my tribe of women in making decisions because for me I made a commitment to myself to not just honor those that came before me but also to leave this earth a better place than when I met it.
With this in mind I accepted an invitation to talk at an International Women's Day event. The women were all elders, imagine my surprise when I walked in and saw some elders that I knew from either TV or hearing about them from my grandmother. I sat with them for about an hour soaking up their stories all the while thinking " Okay that speech I wrote ain't gonna cut it!" And what I learnt right there is that being authentic is the beginning and the end. I told my story, I paid respect to the elders which, truth be told, is something that I have noticed is missing more and more in society. I had so much fun doing that gig! I am truly grateful that my journey took me to that spot.
When I was leaving they gave me a plant and the lady who gave me said "put this in the earth and plant some roots" with a huge smile!
Give thanks!
Peace!!!
This morning at 11am EST, I'm on the EveryWoman Programme on Ebony Radio 104.1FM. If you can, tune in, leave a comment, would love to hear from you
March 9, 2015
Why do you not have what you desire?
A consequence is the result, outcome, effect, ramification and the aftermath of everything you think, feel, say and do. Some consequences are immediate. Others take a while to manifest at the physical level. In either case, you will pay a consequence for every thought and emotional experience or expression you dwell.
There will also be a consequence when you do not honor your commitments or remain in alignment with your intentions. (taken from Pump of the Power Level 3)
What do you really want? Can you answer that in 25 words or less? Not a whole long story, a declaration of what you really desire. Can you be clear and short and precise?
If you do not have what you desire, why not?
Why do you not have what you desire? Not the stories and excuses, the real reason, the brutal honest truth.
I am using the word desire rather than want as the word want denotes lack and limitation.
So why not?
If you do not know what you want then how can you get it?
If you have not taken the time to search your heart and soul for the desires that you wish to manifest then how can you take actions to achieve them?
This is how simple it is.
For example, I know I want a life of joy. Now, what does joy look like to me? Do you know what brings you joy? I took the time to evaluate it because when I was asked the question I could not give a straight answer! Watching Arsenal FC play football brings me joy, travelling the world brings me joy, sitting talking politics and history with my granma brings me joy, curling up with a good book brings me joy. I know now, I took the time to know.
I know I want to serve the world by speaking, teaching, writing books, working with women, developing rural communities, have a family. This is my desire. Why do I not have all of it yet?
Fear! Fear of opening up myself, fear of being judged, fear of a broken heart, not trusting the process, not letting go when I am supposed to (all decisions made in fear). I know that now, so I am working on this and asking myself daily what would you do if you were not afraid? Its a work in progress but I do something everyday to overcome it, sometimes it doesn't work but hey, at least I tried and I learn the lessons from the decision and I am ready for the consequence.
So ask yourself, what do I really want/desire? What do I really really want/desire? And then spend some time with that, then ask yourself Why do I not have it yet?
If you feel like sharing, drop me a line or a comment, we can make the journey together!
Peace!!
Look out for my new book Nyabo (Madam) Why are you Here? - Chapter Two Who am I Becoming?
There will also be a consequence when you do not honor your commitments or remain in alignment with your intentions. (taken from Pump of the Power Level 3)
What do you really want? Can you answer that in 25 words or less? Not a whole long story, a declaration of what you really desire. Can you be clear and short and precise?
If you do not have what you desire, why not?
Why do you not have what you desire? Not the stories and excuses, the real reason, the brutal honest truth.
I am using the word desire rather than want as the word want denotes lack and limitation.
So why not?
If you do not know what you want then how can you get it?
If you have not taken the time to search your heart and soul for the desires that you wish to manifest then how can you take actions to achieve them?
This is how simple it is.
For example, I know I want a life of joy. Now, what does joy look like to me? Do you know what brings you joy? I took the time to evaluate it because when I was asked the question I could not give a straight answer! Watching Arsenal FC play football brings me joy, travelling the world brings me joy, sitting talking politics and history with my granma brings me joy, curling up with a good book brings me joy. I know now, I took the time to know.
I know I want to serve the world by speaking, teaching, writing books, working with women, developing rural communities, have a family. This is my desire. Why do I not have all of it yet?
Fear! Fear of opening up myself, fear of being judged, fear of a broken heart, not trusting the process, not letting go when I am supposed to (all decisions made in fear). I know that now, so I am working on this and asking myself daily what would you do if you were not afraid? Its a work in progress but I do something everyday to overcome it, sometimes it doesn't work but hey, at least I tried and I learn the lessons from the decision and I am ready for the consequence.
So ask yourself, what do I really want/desire? What do I really really want/desire? And then spend some time with that, then ask yourself Why do I not have it yet?
If you feel like sharing, drop me a line or a comment, we can make the journey together!
Peace!!
Look out for my new book Nyabo (Madam) Why are you Here? - Chapter Two Who am I Becoming?
