Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 206
April 24, 2015
Excerpt from Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?
you must be willing to lose it all before you can
have it all.
What does this mean? It means that until you can let
go of everything, you will find it hard to hold onto
anything.
Detachment is the key. If you are so attached to
something that you are deeply unhappy without it,
then you are not simply attached, you are addicted Neale Donald Walsh
Excerpt from Nyabo(Madam)- Why are you Here?
I met my favourite farmer; we were planning a road trip, to the border of Kenya. There was a place she wanted to show me where hybrid maize was grown. “Nyabo, this place will make you smile, it is beautiful. It is a beautiful work. We go!”“Really?”“Yes, but it will be you and I alone, and you will drive.”“How long will the drive be Prossy?”“It will be all day Nyabo, we leave at 7 am and we get there by 7 pm. We will spend one or two nights if the roads are not ok. You will see waterfalls and hills that you will say ahhh Africa!”“If the roads are ok?”“Nyabo, the rains may not make the roads ok so we stay or drive slow, the last time I went I had to spend the night in the transport, we could not pass.”“Prossy, this is not giving me a warm fuzzy feeling, sleeping in the car, driving for an entire day! Hmm.”“Come on Nyabo, you will be very fine!”“Is there any Internet access there?”“Nyabo? What are you asking me? You people!”“We go or not?”“I need to see the emails and be in touch with the bank.”“The bank?”“Yes, they want to take my house.”“Nyabo, you people talk a lot, who can take what is yours?”“You do not understand Prossy but the bank is trying to take my house and I need to be able to have Internet access.”“So if you have Internet access the bank will not take your house?”“No.”“Then what?”“Then I can communicate with them.”“Nyabo, I do not know what you will achieve with Internet access or no Internet access for a few days. I do not know what you mean by someone can take your house, but this I know, no one can take what is rightfully yours, and if it is being taken it may not be yours, have you considered that?”“But it’s mine, I bought it, I spent a load of money and sacrificed for it.”“Does that make it yours?”“Yes.”“Nyabo what is yours? We are all passengers on the bus, we get on and we get off, what is yours? What is yours is what is inside you.”“We go to Kapchora and Mt Elegon? We go or we stay?”“We go!”
have it all.
What does this mean? It means that until you can let
go of everything, you will find it hard to hold onto
anything.
Detachment is the key. If you are so attached to
something that you are deeply unhappy without it,
then you are not simply attached, you are addicted Neale Donald Walsh
Excerpt from Nyabo(Madam)- Why are you Here?
I met my favourite farmer; we were planning a road trip, to the border of Kenya. There was a place she wanted to show me where hybrid maize was grown. “Nyabo, this place will make you smile, it is beautiful. It is a beautiful work. We go!”“Really?”“Yes, but it will be you and I alone, and you will drive.”“How long will the drive be Prossy?”“It will be all day Nyabo, we leave at 7 am and we get there by 7 pm. We will spend one or two nights if the roads are not ok. You will see waterfalls and hills that you will say ahhh Africa!”“If the roads are ok?”“Nyabo, the rains may not make the roads ok so we stay or drive slow, the last time I went I had to spend the night in the transport, we could not pass.”“Prossy, this is not giving me a warm fuzzy feeling, sleeping in the car, driving for an entire day! Hmm.”“Come on Nyabo, you will be very fine!”“Is there any Internet access there?”“Nyabo? What are you asking me? You people!”“We go or not?”“I need to see the emails and be in touch with the bank.”“The bank?”“Yes, they want to take my house.”“Nyabo, you people talk a lot, who can take what is yours?”“You do not understand Prossy but the bank is trying to take my house and I need to be able to have Internet access.”“So if you have Internet access the bank will not take your house?”“No.”“Then what?”“Then I can communicate with them.”“Nyabo, I do not know what you will achieve with Internet access or no Internet access for a few days. I do not know what you mean by someone can take your house, but this I know, no one can take what is rightfully yours, and if it is being taken it may not be yours, have you considered that?”“But it’s mine, I bought it, I spent a load of money and sacrificed for it.”“Does that make it yours?”“Yes.”“Nyabo what is yours? We are all passengers on the bus, we get on and we get off, what is yours? What is yours is what is inside you.”“We go to Kapchora and Mt Elegon? We go or we stay?”“We go!”
April 23, 2015
Power calls!
This resonated with me in a hug way I wanted to share this piece from Danielle La Porte!Take what you need and leave the rest!Peace!!
LIFE. It’s all energy. You know this.When we give energy away willingly, intentionally, with positivity, we get stronger. We become truer, purer, bigger. Power-full.When we give our energy away unconsciously, under duress, as we are victimized, or taken advantage of, when we over-give out of a sense of deficiency or obligation, we … don’t get stronger. We constrict, we get depleted, we start to stiffen from fear.
THIS IS HOW POWER RETRIEVAL WORKS:You don’t want to ever run into that person. The very thought turns your stomach.Get bigger than it.… I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
The love songs that make you sick. Own the beauty. Sing it for someone else. Take it back. I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
The scene of the crime, that words that broke your spirit, the time you got rejected — painful stuff … those situations all have your energy inside of them, waiting to be freed up and restored to you. I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
The places that you used to go to, but avoid now, extract your mojo out of them…I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
The years you tried to make it work, poring, praying, pleading, dancing on egg shells … take back every plea, take back every prayer — take back every time you wished for it to be different than it was — it’s over now. I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
The incident that traumatized you. The blow that caused the wounds. Call your strength home. Snap it back from the betrayer, from the abuser. Take it all back. NOW. I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
Triggered agony, symbols of defeat, waves of anxiety, emotions of disempowerment, memories that really hurt. Transmute it all into fuel. …I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
For all the times you were quiet about deception and disrespect, quiet about the life force that was being syphoned from your generous nature. Speak your power into fullness. …I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
LIFE. It’s all energy. You know this.When we give energy away willingly, intentionally, with positivity, we get stronger. We become truer, purer, bigger. Power-full.When we give our energy away unconsciously, under duress, as we are victimized, or taken advantage of, when we over-give out of a sense of deficiency or obligation, we … don’t get stronger. We constrict, we get depleted, we start to stiffen from fear.
THIS IS HOW POWER RETRIEVAL WORKS:You don’t want to ever run into that person. The very thought turns your stomach.Get bigger than it.… I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
The love songs that make you sick. Own the beauty. Sing it for someone else. Take it back. I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
The scene of the crime, that words that broke your spirit, the time you got rejected — painful stuff … those situations all have your energy inside of them, waiting to be freed up and restored to you. I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
The places that you used to go to, but avoid now, extract your mojo out of them…I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
The years you tried to make it work, poring, praying, pleading, dancing on egg shells … take back every plea, take back every prayer — take back every time you wished for it to be different than it was — it’s over now. I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
The incident that traumatized you. The blow that caused the wounds. Call your strength home. Snap it back from the betrayer, from the abuser. Take it all back. NOW. I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
Triggered agony, symbols of defeat, waves of anxiety, emotions of disempowerment, memories that really hurt. Transmute it all into fuel. …I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
For all the times you were quiet about deception and disrespect, quiet about the life force that was being syphoned from your generous nature. Speak your power into fullness. …I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole and complete.
April 22, 2015
New-ness
"We have a choice. We can spend our whole life suffering because we can’t relax with how things really are, or we can relax and embrace the open-endedness of the human situation, which is fresh, unfixated, unbiased
.” Pema Chodron
Today was a big day for me! I was able to debut a workshop called "Encounters, Journeys and Self Discovery" to 45 people! Hey, feel the fear and do it anyway, learn as you go along and just do your best! - Show up. Shine. Let it go!
I had a lot of fun! and I am ready to learn from it and do some more so it's full speed ahead!!!
Grateful for the opportunity to use these 45 people as my "testers"!!
Peace!!
Today was a big day for me! I was able to debut a workshop called "Encounters, Journeys and Self Discovery" to 45 people! Hey, feel the fear and do it anyway, learn as you go along and just do your best! - Show up. Shine. Let it go!
I had a lot of fun! and I am ready to learn from it and do some more so it's full speed ahead!!!
Grateful for the opportunity to use these 45 people as my "testers"!!
Peace!!
April 21, 2015
Words
Words infuse.
Words refuse.
Words bless.
Words protect.
Words energize.
Words heal.
Words create worlds because the universe is always listening . Danielle La Porte
Have you ever watched your words? Like really really pay attention to what you say and how you feel when you say it? Words....They create....Words....They create.....Words...They create
Watch them - see what you are creating!Peace!
Jumped into Houston for the next few days... the Journey continues
Words refuse.
Words bless.
Words protect.
Words energize.
Words heal.
Words create worlds because the universe is always listening . Danielle La Porte
Have you ever watched your words? Like really really pay attention to what you say and how you feel when you say it? Words....They create....Words....They create.....Words...They create
Watch them - see what you are creating!Peace!
Jumped into Houston for the next few days... the Journey continues
April 20, 2015
Stop Giving Away Your Power!
Thus you are giving away your power when you please others in order to fit in. Or when you follow the opinions of the crowd. Or when you decide that others matter more than you do. Or when you let someone who seems to have more power take charge of you
. Iyanla Vanzant
The past few days have been a super duper classroom of sorts for me! The book tour packed in a diverse set of places which allowed me to see a variety of people with different backgrounds and perspectives. I have never spoken in an Anglican church before, nor have I been at a Chamber meeting to talk to business leaders but what I have learnt is that people are people everywhere you go, we are all connected by our experiences and stories and as the Course of Miracles say - there is only one of us here! At every event the stories remained the same, how do I balance the fear of not making it with the responsibility of taking care of myself and my family? And here's the thing, love and fear cannot co-exist in the same space! Love heals everything- every. single.thing! No exception!
The Episcopal Church were great hosts, the TnT Association of Georgia were lovely hosts!!
The Women of Atlanta have also been so wonderful! Two more days and on to another journey!!!
Giving thanks
Peace!!!
The past few days have been a super duper classroom of sorts for me! The book tour packed in a diverse set of places which allowed me to see a variety of people with different backgrounds and perspectives. I have never spoken in an Anglican church before, nor have I been at a Chamber meeting to talk to business leaders but what I have learnt is that people are people everywhere you go, we are all connected by our experiences and stories and as the Course of Miracles say - there is only one of us here! At every event the stories remained the same, how do I balance the fear of not making it with the responsibility of taking care of myself and my family? And here's the thing, love and fear cannot co-exist in the same space! Love heals everything- every. single.thing! No exception!
The Episcopal Church were great hosts, the TnT Association of Georgia were lovely hosts!!
The Women of Atlanta have also been so wonderful! Two more days and on to another journey!!!
Giving thanks
Peace!!!
April 18, 2015
Every moment is an invitation to show more compassion
We all just need to be more loving. Every moment is an invitation to show more compassion, to be a better version of ourselves. It’s simple enough, of course, but not always easy. Any moment we get it right, though, is a moment when we help enlighten the world. Iyanla
Went off the beaten path today before my first radio interview. I visited a shelter, they feed the people on the streets presently without a home,provide them with medical attention and get this, a place where they can collect their mail/post!
I asked the lady, " A place to collect their mail?" She said let us not forget they are human only without a place to live. It made me stop and think, we are all humans, we are all people and a little bit of compassion goes a long way, who knows? we don't know what everyone's story is. Changing the way I describe this brings a different perspective. They are presently without a home, rather than they are homeless. Yea, a total reminder that we all have a story, we are all on a journey and anything can happen along the way for the lesson to be learned as all things are lessons that God will have us learn.
Ok just on a different note altogether...
Running is a great way for me to see my new surroundings, I decided to take a run this morning, I was able to see the place from a different perspective, the trees, the small pond, the grass, the people. Get the vibe of the place! and the vibes can't done....
One book reading and book signing event this morning followed by my second radio interview this afternoon! It's all good!
Peace!
Went off the beaten path today before my first radio interview. I visited a shelter, they feed the people on the streets presently without a home,provide them with medical attention and get this, a place where they can collect their mail/post!
I asked the lady, " A place to collect their mail?" She said let us not forget they are human only without a place to live. It made me stop and think, we are all humans, we are all people and a little bit of compassion goes a long way, who knows? we don't know what everyone's story is. Changing the way I describe this brings a different perspective. They are presently without a home, rather than they are homeless. Yea, a total reminder that we all have a story, we are all on a journey and anything can happen along the way for the lesson to be learned as all things are lessons that God will have us learn.
Ok just on a different note altogether...
Running is a great way for me to see my new surroundings, I decided to take a run this morning, I was able to see the place from a different perspective, the trees, the small pond, the grass, the people. Get the vibe of the place! and the vibes can't done....
One book reading and book signing event this morning followed by my second radio interview this afternoon! It's all good!
Peace!
April 17, 2015
Now is all I got - For Sure!
Two Truths About Time
We all have the same amount.
You cannot create more.
There are infinite ways to do thing called life. It’s miserable to try to endlessly cram things in; it’s joyful to pare back.
You actually have plenty of time, if you get clear on what you desire most. Kate Courageous
Hey peeps I’m touching base as promised. On the journey over to Georgia, I re-read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, one of my absolute favourite tools. I must have read this book about 4 times already but I felt I needed a reminder of being present in the moment and of the importance of presence. Now is all I ever have, this moment and presence is the awareness of that. How freaking awesome is that? To be reminded that each and every moment is to be savoured, each and every moment is to be present. I have been focusing on the future and neglecting and missing the now so this was a great reminder and here is what happened with my reminder, everything just suddenly started to made a difference. The sounds I heard, the people I met and the feelings I felt, less anxiety about what will happen or what should happen in the next few days on this book tour and less mad reflection of what happened in the past.So here I am in Hotlanta Atlanta with my gracious hosts, I’ve never met them before but it’s been a connection like family! Giving thanks! I have been more present in conversations, in looking at the beauty of my surroundings and focusing on where I am at presentlyStraight onto the planning of the week’s activities over dinner! Listen, take it from me, anything is possible with faith, persistence and putting in the work! Be present today!Thank you for being a part of my journey
Peace!
You cannot create more.
There are infinite ways to do thing called life. It’s miserable to try to endlessly cram things in; it’s joyful to pare back.
You actually have plenty of time, if you get clear on what you desire most. Kate Courageous
Hey peeps I’m touching base as promised. On the journey over to Georgia, I re-read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, one of my absolute favourite tools. I must have read this book about 4 times already but I felt I needed a reminder of being present in the moment and of the importance of presence. Now is all I ever have, this moment and presence is the awareness of that. How freaking awesome is that? To be reminded that each and every moment is to be savoured, each and every moment is to be present. I have been focusing on the future and neglecting and missing the now so this was a great reminder and here is what happened with my reminder, everything just suddenly started to made a difference. The sounds I heard, the people I met and the feelings I felt, less anxiety about what will happen or what should happen in the next few days on this book tour and less mad reflection of what happened in the past.So here I am in Hotlanta Atlanta with my gracious hosts, I’ve never met them before but it’s been a connection like family! Giving thanks! I have been more present in conversations, in looking at the beauty of my surroundings and focusing on where I am at presentlyStraight onto the planning of the week’s activities over dinner! Listen, take it from me, anything is possible with faith, persistence and putting in the work! Be present today!Thank you for being a part of my journey
Peace!
April 15, 2015
On the train to Georgia...
Affirm, pray, focus, ommm
. Danielle La Porte
The Journey takes me to Atlanta Georgia for a bit, Nyabo (Madam) - Why are you Here? is being launched in the US this week and this is where the train begins. To say I am grateful is a huge understatement- I am dripping with gratitude! I have been hearing everyday this week that something is being added to the schedule and I just say okay in awe, humility and gratitude!
The schedule is packed, two radio interviews, a Women's brunch, feature speaker at a business meeting and to end it off I go to a church to talk, on a Sunday to booth! Well who knew????
So, look out for the updates and see you soon!!
Peace!!
The Journey takes me to Atlanta Georgia for a bit, Nyabo (Madam) - Why are you Here? is being launched in the US this week and this is where the train begins. To say I am grateful is a huge understatement- I am dripping with gratitude! I have been hearing everyday this week that something is being added to the schedule and I just say okay in awe, humility and gratitude!
The schedule is packed, two radio interviews, a Women's brunch, feature speaker at a business meeting and to end it off I go to a church to talk, on a Sunday to booth! Well who knew????
So, look out for the updates and see you soon!!
Peace!!
April 14, 2015
Choices and its Consequences
Every situation, every condition and every circumstance present in your life today is the consequence of choice you made or did not make; a thought you held and the words you have or have not spoken. A consequence is what unfolds in relationship to how you do or do not honor your intentions and commitments.
It is the result, outcome, effect, ramification and the aftermath of everything you think, feel, say and do. In many cases, you may also face a consequence for what you choose not to do. Your life today is a function of what you did or did not do yesterday. Your life tomorrow, next week, next year and for the next 3, 5 and 10years will be a reflection and a consequence of what you think, say, do and/or fail to do today. Iyanla
I saw my grandpa (Daddy) yesterday, for the first time since 2005. Daddy and I were a team! I was his first born grandchild and he never let anyone forget or told anyone who was willing to listen or not listen even, until people would come up to me randomly even and say "Your grandfather, girl the man needs to stop it about you!" He would pick me up from school three times a week and I would hang with him sometimes until it was time to go home, I would go to his house for Christmas holidays and spend a few days, when I moved to London and I came home to visit we would sit on his porch and talk for hours! And then boys started coming around me! Daddy did not play! He would say "Kous bring them all here before you entertain them" I would laugh and ignore him but if he sees me out and about with them there would be a stern talking too!
I was going to get married, I called Daddy he said "Kous I never sat and asked that young man his intentions and you are getting married to him, I want to sit with the both of you" I told him not too worry Daddy I will be fine. And he was upset, he came to the wedding and then I moved away and our relationship changed, When I did go to see him with my new husband he said to him in front of me "young man you have no god or good intentions where my first born beautiful grandchild is concerned I know it and you know it" Boy oh boy I was embarrassed and vex, and my husband at the time said "Daddy needs to mind his own business" another sign I ignored! And that was it, I just let the relationship with Daddy die. So after that, feeling embarrassed that Daddy was right about the lack of good intentions I chose to ignore him when my marriage went bust, and just never visited him, called him, nothing! My mother always said to me, "please go and see your granpa he is grieving that you are not talking to him" I never answered her!
I got to the home yesterday in which Daddy is now living, as I walk in the front door I see him sitting there, looking so healthy, well dressed, handsome as ever. He sat there singing and tapping his hands on the table. He looks up at me and smiled, I bend over to kiss him and he stops me and asks " Do I know you? You don't look familiar"
I stood there feeling so stooopid! Ok yes they told me he was sick and that is why he now lives in a home, but he looks so normal, so healthy, so like Daddy I knew who was always active."Daddy it's Kous""Kous? Oh that name sounds familiar, sit next to me let us talk"I sat down next to him and as the tears was rolling down my cheek he said you look well I don't know you but I am glad you came, let us be happy now because you are here.
Unfinished business leaves you with power leaks, it drains your system of the power you were born with, unfinished business takes you away from the present moment, you take the unfinished business with you into the now and that is a recipe for repeating the same things over and over. Dealing with it clears the way for blessings to flow, the temporary pain or discomfort will pass but after that oh the feeling is sweet and light. Deal with it!
It felt good to see Daddy again, I cannot go back and fix it or change it but I have now and its all good! Power leak plugged, I'm powered up!! Boom!
Peace!!
It is the result, outcome, effect, ramification and the aftermath of everything you think, feel, say and do. In many cases, you may also face a consequence for what you choose not to do. Your life today is a function of what you did or did not do yesterday. Your life tomorrow, next week, next year and for the next 3, 5 and 10years will be a reflection and a consequence of what you think, say, do and/or fail to do today. Iyanla
I saw my grandpa (Daddy) yesterday, for the first time since 2005. Daddy and I were a team! I was his first born grandchild and he never let anyone forget or told anyone who was willing to listen or not listen even, until people would come up to me randomly even and say "Your grandfather, girl the man needs to stop it about you!" He would pick me up from school three times a week and I would hang with him sometimes until it was time to go home, I would go to his house for Christmas holidays and spend a few days, when I moved to London and I came home to visit we would sit on his porch and talk for hours! And then boys started coming around me! Daddy did not play! He would say "Kous bring them all here before you entertain them" I would laugh and ignore him but if he sees me out and about with them there would be a stern talking too!
I was going to get married, I called Daddy he said "Kous I never sat and asked that young man his intentions and you are getting married to him, I want to sit with the both of you" I told him not too worry Daddy I will be fine. And he was upset, he came to the wedding and then I moved away and our relationship changed, When I did go to see him with my new husband he said to him in front of me "young man you have no god or good intentions where my first born beautiful grandchild is concerned I know it and you know it" Boy oh boy I was embarrassed and vex, and my husband at the time said "Daddy needs to mind his own business" another sign I ignored! And that was it, I just let the relationship with Daddy die. So after that, feeling embarrassed that Daddy was right about the lack of good intentions I chose to ignore him when my marriage went bust, and just never visited him, called him, nothing! My mother always said to me, "please go and see your granpa he is grieving that you are not talking to him" I never answered her!
I got to the home yesterday in which Daddy is now living, as I walk in the front door I see him sitting there, looking so healthy, well dressed, handsome as ever. He sat there singing and tapping his hands on the table. He looks up at me and smiled, I bend over to kiss him and he stops me and asks " Do I know you? You don't look familiar"
I stood there feeling so stooopid! Ok yes they told me he was sick and that is why he now lives in a home, but he looks so normal, so healthy, so like Daddy I knew who was always active."Daddy it's Kous""Kous? Oh that name sounds familiar, sit next to me let us talk"I sat down next to him and as the tears was rolling down my cheek he said you look well I don't know you but I am glad you came, let us be happy now because you are here.
Unfinished business leaves you with power leaks, it drains your system of the power you were born with, unfinished business takes you away from the present moment, you take the unfinished business with you into the now and that is a recipe for repeating the same things over and over. Dealing with it clears the way for blessings to flow, the temporary pain or discomfort will pass but after that oh the feeling is sweet and light. Deal with it!
It felt good to see Daddy again, I cannot go back and fix it or change it but I have now and its all good! Power leak plugged, I'm powered up!! Boom!
Peace!!
April 13, 2015
It just feels right
Authenticity is about returning and magnifying who you are, instead of trying to become someone who you think you should be. It’s about peeling off the false adornments and standing wholly, holy, and true. What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
So my granma asks me why don't I get a "real job." I told her I found my purpose and my path, she asked me what does that mean?
It means - what I am doing feels right! It just feels right.
You know when you are on purpose and on the path when you do not have to betray yourself, Carolyn Myss (one of my favorite teachers says it well).
You are not put in a position to betray yourselfYou are no longer in a position where you have to negotiate your sense of integrity, which is another act of self betrayal.You don't have to compromise who you are!It isn't costing you your power!It isn't costing you your psyche!It isn't costing you your soul!You don't feel confused on some deep level!You don't feel drained - you may feel tired after a day's work but not drained feeling like you are losing yourself.
It just feels right!It feels right!
There is nothing, nothing worse than self-betrayal! And ask yourself this- what is more important that your own commitment to yourself?
Peace!!
So my granma asks me why don't I get a "real job." I told her I found my purpose and my path, she asked me what does that mean?
It means - what I am doing feels right! It just feels right.
You know when you are on purpose and on the path when you do not have to betray yourself, Carolyn Myss (one of my favorite teachers says it well).
You are not put in a position to betray yourselfYou are no longer in a position where you have to negotiate your sense of integrity, which is another act of self betrayal.You don't have to compromise who you are!It isn't costing you your power!It isn't costing you your psyche!It isn't costing you your soul!You don't feel confused on some deep level!You don't feel drained - you may feel tired after a day's work but not drained feeling like you are losing yourself.
It just feels right!It feels right!
There is nothing, nothing worse than self-betrayal! And ask yourself this- what is more important that your own commitment to yourself?
Peace!!
