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January 28, 2019
When the Internet Learns a New Term
I’m going to start this post off with a sigh, because this topic is exhausting. I wonder how many people are aware that they are actually in an abusive relationship with their social media account? I read posts all the time about: cutting people off, the healing is all within you, you don’t need a soul, and depend on you and only you. Has anyone ever stopped to ask how lonely that life is? It’s all under the brand of being TOXIC. A set of traits that are negative in nature but have been known to anyone who’s taken a freshman interpersonal communication course since 2008.
The “internet” decides when to make things cool.
I get it. I really do. I also get why people are becoming more and more introverted and lonely. I saw a post today that sparked the lazy hamster in my brain to get up on the wheel again.
It simply said:
“Sick of the excuse “they’re still your mom/dad/sister/brother/friend… etc” NO, toxic is toxic. You have the right to cut anyone off that’s unhealthy for you. Period”
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My spirit just hated that post so much. The post itself was toxic. Because they problem doesn’t always lie in the other person. People need to learn to assess and correct their own toxicity, not just “cut anyone off” every chance they get. Which brings me back around to being in an abusive relationship with your social media account. Whichever one be your poison. The reason I say that is because, if we go on the logic that this viral post produces, absolutely anyone can get the boot. How do you actually diagnose a “toxic person?” Because it means a lot more than the surface level garbage being promoted on timelines.
People don’t know the difference.
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All of a sudden, you’re cutting your mom off because she calls you everyday while you’re at work. You couldn’t possibly need that type of negativity in your life. Boom, moms on the block list now. Then, might as well go ahead and put dad on the block list too because you wouldn’t want mom using dad’s phone to call once she notices her calls aren’t going through anymore. It’s true that not all families are the same, and some families or relatives are truly unscrupulous characters, but in an average family, you’re all going to have you toxic days. A lot of the toxicity you judge in your mother was passed down to you, but, your blinders are on to your problems.
One of the main goals of an abuser is cut you off from a support system. To completely get you out there all alone that you only depend on them, or it. It changes your viewpoints first, then molds you to become whatever it wants you to be. In the case of social media, it just wants you to be mindless. To not really put too much thought into thinking for yourself and seek your validation in other people.
Stay relevant. Post things that make you seem cool. Be sarcastic and witty. Throw a little bit of facetiousness in there every now and again. Laugh at this kind of humor. Don’t laugh at this. Care about this Cause/Charity of the day.
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The list honestly goes on. Then one day you look up and you’re by yourself. I’m not writing this because I’m bitter about anything; it’s more so as an examination of myself and how much time I spend online. I’ve started to set some goals towards limiting my time and exposure.
December 13, 2018
#LongLiveBhoot
I have so many thoughts when it comes to this movie. My first is that I believed it to be better than Disney’s version of The Jungle Book. The second is that, this is gritty…and sad.
Sometimes I think it’s hard for people to view stories like this as they exist in their own universe. Somehow Disney monopolized these stories so that any other adaption is just seen as a remake of their version; when in reality, the story was never theirs to tell.
I will say that I read a few other reviews of this movie that say some pretty interesting things. For instance, one critic said that the addition of Bhoot to the storyline was unnecessary.
The opposite of that is true.
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BHOOT WAS NECESSARY! HE WILL ALWAYS BE NECESSARY.
I feel a little way about Bhoot because he reminds me of my puppy, Domino who was poisoned. You can read more about the sweet memory of my baby here. But, he was needed in a way that I think many people may have missed.
He was essential to explain deeper motives and served as such a call to action that the remainder of the movie hung on. Aside from him being the spirit of all good dogs, who just seek love and acceptance, Bhoot proved a point, even in death.
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You can not survive in the world alone.
This is going to bring me to tears all over again.
No one can survive on their own. Despite how many social media influencers and celebrities make you believe the world is self-made, because of a me-first attitude.
Some of the loneliest people have an entourage.
That’s where Bhoot’s lesson comes in. He was bullied relentlessly for being born albino. His only friend was Mowgli, but once Mowgli disassociated himself and cast Bhoot away, in a very heartbreaking scene, the next time we see that sweet puppy is stuffed and mounted on a spike.
That scene itself may just be a little too much for younger viewers because I sat with my mouth gapped wide open in full shock. Trauma definitely started to set in right there.
Let this movie exist in it’s own world. Not the Disney Universe. There’s a scene when Shere Khan, voiced my Benedict Cumberbatch, finally catches up with Mowgli with the help of the Monkey People and leaves him this scratch that’s so nasty it made me shudder. For the rest of the movie after that scratch, my eyes always caught it and as soon as I did, I would have to say: “Gah, that is such a nasty scratch…”
I like the deviation from what I’ve known The Jungle Book to be about. This provided a much more realistic retelling of what life with a wolf mother, uncle panther and grandpa bear would essentially look like in a fantasy world.
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The world is dangerous out there. Hunt or be hunted.
#LongLiveBhoot
5/5
September 3, 2018
Sweet Savagry
I’m just so excited about Sweet Savage! I’m back to tell you all that the official release date for paperback novels will be Friday, February 15, 2019. That’s the day after Valentine’s Day. However, Kindle Editions will be made available in a little over three months!
Kindle preorders are going live and you will be able to get a digital copy of Sweet Savage on December 2, 2018.
Here’s what’s on the back:
Often times, one of the hardest things to let go are the emotions you’ve invested in another person—the wrong person. Somewhere down the line my life became filled with so much outside noise that I couldn’t hear the battle-cry of the fighter, or the croon of the lover I have inside; just the sobs of the girl searching for validation in people. So, I guess that means I have to switch it up. It’s time to hear my roar.
In continuation of the bestselling novel, To Mend a Broken Heart, this is a narrative about finding the voice within yourself to make necessary changes. Sweet Savage takes a voyage to self-validation, and touches on subjects designed to help it’s reader toward becoming a better you when it gets a little more complicated than self-love.
Pre-Orders for Kindle Editions are available now. Click the image to be taken to the site. (Opens a new tab)
August 26, 2018
New Sets!
As a special thank you bonus for everything up to this point, I want to offer bundled sets at a discount! Each set includes 1 of the 3 books, along with the iWriteBooks Publishing feather pen and a notebook. I will be offering these sets for a limited time, so please, get in on this! Sets range from $10-$35. Compare sets and reserve yours today by filling out the form below.
August 22, 2018
Stay Tuned!
I’ve been gone for awhile just trying to get settled in with working and adjusting to my new living conditions, but, I’m ready to get back blogging and connecting with everyone. In my absence though, I did complete a major project.
I know I say this a lot, but I really do appreciate all of the love and support thus far of To Mend a Broken Heart. It really means the world to me, and I love reading your responses on how my experience has helped you to mend a part of yourself. It just validates the whole project and I’m so honored to be able to share a piece of my healing with you.
That kind of brings me back to some super exciting news.
A NEW BOOK!
Inspired by all of the love and admiration I received and my own experiences, I’ve put together another narrative that focuses on SELF-VALIDATION this go around. That would kind of make To Mend a Broken Heart a prequel, I guess.
I’ll be sure to go into more details throughout the coming weeks, but, I introduce to you SWEET SAVAGE.
May 29, 2018
In the Meantime
Another Kindle exclusive that’s short, sweet and not really meant to be taken seriously. New writing prompts for the win. Here’s the results of consecutive 16 hour security shifts. Enjoy both Observe & Report and Professional Development for 99¢ available as digital downloads. Click the image to be taken to the download site.
May 27, 2018
’13 Reasons Why’ I Probably Won’t Watch Season 3
Alright, so we’ve had a year to break away from the aftermath Season 1 of 13 Reasons Why left behind. But just when you thought you recovered, here comes the trainwreck that is Season 2.
So, you may already know how I felt about Season 1, and if you don’t go back and read it here.
There were somethings that I thought really worked with this season but there was so many points missed that by the last couple of episodes I was just completely over everything.
The season picks up about 5 months after Hannah Baker’s suicide and it’s showing everyone kind of moving on but still lingering to her and all of her deadness. If you remember from season one, everyone who had a tape had to do a deposition. Apparently the case was supposed to settle but then it didn’t, now all of a sudden everyone is being dragged into court to testify.
Hannah’s mom is annoying.
Hannah is annoying.
The dad is a whole adulterer.
Not only did he cheat before Hannah died and she caught him out there kissing on his young, blonde mistress, but after she dies he goes right back into the arms of said mistress. Doesn’t want anything to do with the mom or the court case, just goes off and lives his best life with his new family.
Trashy.
Hannah’s dad is trash.
Some of the things that worked well for me was the Hannah and Zach backstory. That whole episode was really just what the season needed to pick it up out of the trash and breathe a little life into an otherwise drab season.
It was fun and super cute seeing them together and it almost makes you think that Hannah couldn’t possibly be dead.
Gah. That loops me around to something that I borderline hated.
The Hannah apparition.
Completely unnecessary. I think Hannah herself is a character that I don’t really like which sucks when she’s the glue holding all of the other characters together.
I got so tired of hearing “Do it for Hannah…”
Every. Single. Character. Says it at least 39 times.
You also see the “makings of a school shooter” start to happen when Tyler is relentlessly bullied to his complete breaking point. That was another thing I didn’t like–by the end of the season, Tyler went from looking like your typical “mommy still picks out my clothes” kid, to buzz-cut, oversized grey shirt wearing, school shooter.
Definitely stereotypical, definitely an agenda item.
His parents are absolutely oblivious, and it’s almost criminal.
But golden boy, Clay. Let’s talk about him for a moment. Because Clay is still in love with Hannah, despite having a girlfriend.
So, naturally the Hannah apparition can only be seen by him and it’s really just a sign of him losing his mind and his grip with reality. At one point he storms over to Bryce’s house ready to shoot him dead. In true Clay-like fashion, he’s beat up, bruised and swore for most of the season.
One thing off the back that you’re going to notice about this season is that after all of the flack they got for season 1, they beefed up the suicide awareness public service announcements.
I feel like I’m jumping all around the place, but, really that’s how this whole season made me feel.
Disconnected.
Rushed.
The last episode was a joke if I’ve ever seen one, and I know that was just them trying to set it up for a season 3, but really, I probably wouldn’t watch it.
Well, I might. As long as they let Hannah stay dead.
Please stay dead, Hannah. Rest easy, girl.
One Last Time.
I’m going to start by saying that if one more person tells me that he was just a dog and that I can just “get another one” I’m going to give you a piece of my mind and it’s not going to be pretty. It’s taken me until now to even be up to writing this–as a memorial for my puppy. We buried him today. Writing this is therapeutic for me.
But for every person who lacks understanding there are people that get it. I appreciate those people. Thank you for checking on me, and sending me love. I’m doing a lot better today, but the last couple of days were hard. Especially coming home without him there to greet me and excitedly run circles around my feet.
[image error]July of last year I was out in field service when a guy dropped a box of puppies off in front of a gas station. All of the other ones were taken, but this little guy here was left alone.
When I first saw him I loved him. I put the whole box in the car and peeled off to get him everything he needed.
He was so tiny!
No collar fit, his belly was all bloated, found out later he had worms, so I had him treated. Discovered that he was much too young for puppy food and was still nursing. I was up for the challenge. When he came in the house, he stood up to the cat despite his size and let her know he was there to stay.
I named him Domino. Because of the three large, black spots on his back.
He was family. Next month he would have been 1 and gotten a big boy bone. He had grown so much!
Tuesday May 22, 2018 I routinely let him out, and after about 20 minutes he should have come back. He didn’t. I called to no answer. The next morning he still hadn’t appeared. I was optimistic about finding him soon but with the move to Atlanta approaching in 2 weeks I was still worried sick. I took off work and looked for him.
Thursday May 24, 2018 my neighbor found him. He passed away under my house.
Under my nose.
I’m stuck hoping that he at least heard me calling for him, to know that he was loved and I would never ever leave him like that. He didn’t deserve that. Not my sweet boy. I have no idea what happened to my poor baby and I was giving myself headaches trying to figure it out and getting nowhere.
I’m trying to be ok.
He’s buried in my yard with flowers set to grow, so that even in death he can still bring beauty to the world.
May 1, 2018
BO$$ UP Brand Activation Workshop Houston: A Look Back
Last Saturday I had the opportunity to be in attendance at Incline Magazine’s workshop event for Entrepreneurs and anyone looking to expand their brand. I’ve known the magazine’s Chief Editor, Lynn Williams, for awhile, so, of course I jumped at the opportunity to be a vendor. Plus, I truly believe in the whole “Be Your Own Boss” mindset, especially in the black community. One of the most charming things about this event was it’s ability to connect everyone. We were all there to support each other and celebrate the accomplishments of others while trying to gain information to push our brands forward from people who have been around different industries for a number of years. All of that was accomplished and more throughout the course of the day and by the end, it was almost bittersweet, I felt like we could have used a couple more hours. That’s just how great the vibes were.
I’ll start with the things that I really liked and stuff that I thought worked well. Since I was there as a vendor and apart of the workshop, I feel like I had the best of both worlds.
[image error]On the vendor side, I literally do not have a single complaint anyways. When I got there I was warmly welcomed and escorted to my table to setup; the event staff was really nice and helpful. It was also easy to pick them out from the snazzy shirts. When a member of my team asked for a couple of chairs and some other miscellaneous items to help with our setup they were very proactive.
The music was live and fresh, not offensive in any way. I could tell that the DJ was making every effort to get people up and networking, still, everyone kind of just sat around for the most part and talked to the people at their table.
As the event progressed though, people soon abandoned their tables and moved around.[image error] It was during that time I was able to do most of my networking. Met some interesting people. I enjoyed that the keynote speakers were able to mix in with everyone else and, for the most part, mingled humbly.
I can honestly say that I liked the vibe around the room. Everyone was in good spirits, there was food, desserts, and an experienced mixologist. I didn’t know what to expect when I was mixed up a random drink from Libation Station, but, it was delicious! Event staff, like JosiahsWorld TV, was constantly seen with a smile as he moved around taking pictures and giving interviews.
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Langston Carrier, of MobangMedia, introduced himself politely and looked around my table; I had the opportunity to share with him a little about what I do. There was one thing that he’d brought out during his lecture that will probably stick with me for years to come, “Business is black and white. It doesn’t care about whatever is happening to you, you’re sick? Can’t find anyone to watch the kids? That’s your problem, and people in business are concerned with, well, business.”
He may not have used those exact words, but, that was the gist of what he said. Still, it made me hold a mirror to my face. If I plan on being taken serious as a business woman, I would have to change not only the way that I view myself, but also how I manage my time and use of excuses.
A highlight for me was before I knew who she was, Day Edwards, owner of The Day Edwards Agency, actually approached me and wanted to talk about To Mend a Broken Heart. I enjoyed meeting her the most. She was approachable, modest, and had such a genuine Spirit. You don’t easily forget meeting people like her. [image error]
Alright, so of course, the largest room in the world is the one for improvement, and I think that as the workshop moves and grows it’s bound to get better. Right now it’s scheduled to hit three more cities over the course of the year.
I’m about to give you my humble, yet honest opinion. Now, there were parts of the actual workshop that were a little lackluster.
The hostess, Ja’Leah Davis, of Eyeconic Television, was absolutely stunning, equipped with an outgoing personality that got things off on a good foot. She transitioned each speaker smoothly and said things to keep the energy positive and open. However, she was the biggest bragger I’ve ever seen in my life. During her portion of the workshop, she made sure to give everyone a rundown of her many accolades and how she has this and that, I honestly grew exhausted of hearing her speak. It wasn’t so much that she had all of these things, but she failed at describing how they were accumulated. Listening to her was the equivalent of watching someone continuously pat themself on the back. Afterwards, I spoke with several other attendees who shared my sentiments. Did I mention she accidentally deleted her notes? So, maybe by default she just went into narcissistic-lecture mode. It was odd and unnecessary. Even still, we celebrated her self-love. Which is fine.
I don’t think Ms. Davis was a bad choice, but I do believe had she backed up her notes of concise thoughts, she would have delivered a more powerful segment.
Rappers Puntin and ESG were in the building. Although ESG was there as an attendee. I was intrigued by Puntin and a few things he said really stuck with me; he was honest and delivered his testimony in a relatable manner. I did have to step out for a moment because something else demanded my attention towards the end of his lecture, and I didn’t return until the Doing Far More female representative was finishing up. I heard later from a team member that they really enjoyed her pointers. The part that I did catch was just funny and I hate that I missed it.
[image error]Overall, I must say that I enjoyed it as both a vendor and audience member. There are moments where you could tell this was a first launch but once everything got into a good groove it was smooth sailing. I believe it’s a great steppingstone for all entry-level entrepreneurs. I say entry-level because I think there is an opportunity for different BO$$ UP Brand levels.
Like a Ruby, Gold, or Platinum Experience.
As it stands now, the brand is predominately for people who come with little to no experience, while people who have 7+ years are somewhat unfulfilled. But not in a bad way; it’s more of a feeling of wanting more, which can be a good thing depending on your perspective. The next step in the process is not only telling you what to do, but how to do it. So, essentially I say that because we’re all of different wavelengths in business, additionally, it would ultimately be nice to see this brand of workshops not only blossom but expand to reach those who may have their feet in the door already but could use more professional development.
I don’t want to reveal too much about the topics each speaker tackled, but I will say that for the most part it was delivered effectively with the intended outcome. I took home some pointers and things that I should begin working on over the coming months as I start expanding.
The event helped a young business owner who owns a home-based bakery by providing her with a portion of the proceeds collected from sales, and that moment was the most touching thing ever. Seeing her face light up when she found out she was the recipient was heartwarming and alone made me think about far along I’ve come on my own journey. [image error]
I think everyone who’s ever been in that situation–struggling with consistency, fighting to keep that same focus and love you started out with–felt that moment with her. It was touching.
If you missed the Houston launch, and you’re thinking about attending one of the other 3 stops on the tour, I recommend it. Definitely worth the money, even if you’re just going for the networking alone. A lot of work and preparation went into getting this together and it possesses a plethora of charm and positive energy. You will enjoy it. [image error]
Meanwhile, check out the Incline Magazine website for further updates on the upcoming tour dates, as well as catch up on interesting reads and other media entertainment.
BO$$ UP Atlanta is confirmed for September 29, 2018.
April 17, 2018
To Mend a Broken Heart
April has been a super productive month, and I’m so excited about all of the changes and things that are beginning to happen. So, I think it’s a mighty fine time for another FLASH SALE!
Fill out the form below to reserve a copy of To Mend a Broken Heart at this special pricing.
Standard Editions (Black Book) are only $8 and Special Edition (Pink Book) are $14, that’s over $10 off the regular pricing.[image error]
I’m so ready to share even bigger news with you guys over the coming weeks.
