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October 23, 2013
Real Life – Microdermabrasion Facial at Beauty Retreat Westbury Wiltshire
A fantastic microdermabrasion facial, which makes you look younger and fresher, from therapist Susan King at the beauty salon, Beauty Retreat, 21 Maristow Street, Westbury, Wiltshire Tel: 01373 827 255
Now that I have passed the 40 threshold I feel it’s now more important than ever to look after my skin. Real life is aging – I have two children that suck the living lifeforce out of me at times and I am not getting any younger. The first time I had a microdermabrasion facial I was astonished at the results. They were so good that people actually commented to me on how fresh my complexion was looking. Some even went and tried if for themselves.
The Microdermabrasion Facial is very relaxing and also regenerates your skin. If I could I would have one once a month but try to have one at least every six months. This is my little treat to myself.
Click on the image to watch the video and see how the treatment is delivered.
To book a facial call - Susan King at the beauty salon,
Beauty Retreat, 21 Maristow Street, Westbury, Wiltshire
Tel: 01373 827 255
Clare Macnaughton is a modern military mother; a feminist British military spouse and lifestyle journalist writing about real life adventures.
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If you don’t have a pension, read this. If you think you might need one.. read this.
There is little point in fighting for equal rights in relatively speaking, marginal areas, if we don’t address the basic fundamentals.
Normally, when a product provider releases a ‘study’, I treat it as a glorified sales hack. Not so the latest Scottish Widows annual Women and Pensions Report, released this morning. It shows the latest pension savings position for women and, for the first time, breaks it down by age group. It highlights that just 40% of women, compared to 49% of men, are preparing adequately for later life – a drop from 42% last year and 50% in 2011.
I have long argued that whilst service personnel complain about changes to AFPS (rightly so, what is happening to the military pension is shocking, but unavoidable in my opinion), the impact on a partner making no provision for retirement is just as bad.. but it slips under the radar.
These past few weeks have been working on developing a new offering which would see a simple, cheap and straightforward way for partners (mainly women) to get access to a good quality pension. There is much that I cannot do; I cannot simply sell a pension like Clare can sell her book for instance and I am required by legislation to ensure that you buy something suitable, fit for purpose and relevant; you have as many rights as I have legal obligations. It might be that really, you wouldn’t benefit from having one.
But as an Independent Financial Adviser who owns the business, I can hammer down the cost through refining the process. Anyone interested? If so, add a comment or pipe up on Clare’s facebook page. Anyway, which group (below) do you fall into? Key findings from this year’s report:
18–21 year old women
81% don’t have a pension scheme
30% aren’t saving for a pension as they don’t understand them
22–29 year old women
54% don’t have a pension scheme
83% don’t know what an annuity is
30–39 year old women
21% expect to rely on their partner’s income in retirement
35% are unsure how automatic enrolment affects them
40–49 year old women
23% prioritise supporting their children over retirement saving
24% expect to rely on their partner’s income in retirement.
http://www.scottishwidows.co.uk/documents/generic/2013_women_and_pensions_report.pdf
Please remember that not having a pension carries real risk, but so can having one. There are a number of areas that you should know about before investing. Make sure you choose wisely and make sure you are aware of all potential pitfalls and do as much as possible to avoid them. Be informed!!
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October 21, 2013
Real Life: The Book the RAF Wanted to Stop – ‘It’s not all baking, bunting and choirs’
Modern Military Mother
In the studio
CLARE MACNAUGHTON
New Audio Book Release on Audible
31 October 2013
Real life
The Book the RAF Wanted to Stop
‘It’s not all baking, bunting and choirs’
A MODERN MILITARY MOTHER
TALES FROM THE DOMESTIC FRONTLINE
What’s it really like being married to the military in real life? And why don’t the military want you to know?
Clare Macnaughton’s no-holds barred blog A Modern Military Mother popped the monocles of RAF top brass from the moment she started posting in 2007. Shortly afterwards the phone calls, anonymous insults and threats to end her husband’s career began.
This year with the publication of her choicest selection of home truths in her book Tales from the Domestic Frontline the flak kept pouring in but so did the praise with military wives contacting her to personally thank her for finally speaking the truth.
Now Strathmore Publishing are releasing an audio version on Audible, with Clare herself, reading her frank, hard-hitting, candid account.
Meet:
‘Hagar’, the Chinook-flying husband frequently on secret missions in ‘Afghan’, and the children The Grenade, 10, and The Menace, 5
The handbag bashing, bake-offs and backstabbing concealing the isolated and unpleasant truth of the life for wives and girlfriends
The long celibate months alone with the kids waiting for news from the war zone
Hagar’s return, addicted to the high-octane thrill of combat and in need of action at home
The end of the party – Hagar’s midnight grope and the court case that destroyed the marriage and hit the front pages.
Clare’s battle with the RAF to be allowed to tell the truth still goes on. She couldn’t be prouder of her ex-husband and of all of those who have sacrificed so much, often including their own lives, for this country. But does this have to be at the cost of the truth? Are threats and intimidation really the way it has to be?
Clare Macnaughton is the co-writer of Sunday Times bestseller, Immediate Response with Major Mark Hammond (Penguin). She has appeared on BBC Breakfast and femalefirst.co.uk. She has a regular column in Wiltshire Life and the Salisbury Journal and writes occasional blogs for the Huffington Post. She now lives in the country with her two children and animal menagerie of two pigs, six chickens, five ducks, a Maine Coon cat, a hamster she hates and VW Golf GTI, while Hagar bunks in the officer’s mess and has weekend visiting rights.
Deciding to release an audio book Clare went into the studio with her neighbour, 80s pop musician and music producer, Anthony Clark, who has toured with artists such as, Rick Astley, T’Pau, Haircut 100, Joan Armatrading and the Bay City Rollers, to professionally record the two-hour audio book.
Publication 31 October 2013
Audio Version
Available from 31st October
- Amazon
- iTunes
A MODERN MILITARY MOTHER
TALES FROM THE DOMESTIC FRONTLINE
ISBN: 978-1-909277-04-5
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More Information:
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Amazon Book Page: A Modern Military Mother by Clare Macnaughton
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You Tube clip: BBC Breakfast
Huffington Post Blog: Clare Macnaughton
Clare Macnaughton is a modern military mother; a feminist British military spouse and lifestyle journalist writing about real life adventures.
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October 17, 2013
Five top tips for building your pension
For many, the idea of a pension – or having to actually do something about it – seems remote and strange. It seems like a bridge they’ll ‘cross when they come to it’ and, strangely enough, they refuse to come to it for many years.
In short, it seems to many like something to live on when you’re old and to save for when you’re old. In reality though, if you want security and a high standard of life in your autumn years, you need to start planning early.
Here are just a few tips on how to get your pension plan on its fee
1. Seek detailed, tailored advice
This is a profoundly important matter: get as much and as detailed advice as possible. Initially try online tools, such as a pension calculator from Money Vista and know what you affects your pensions. Don’t be afraid to invest money in getting professional advice on this either.
2. Employer pension schemes
If you have not already done so, go straight to your employer and find out what pension schemes they offer. Many employers pledge to pay regularly into workplace pension schemes on top of salaries so if you’re not benefiting from this you’re simply throwing away extra wages!
3. Assess your debts and regular outgoings
In order to assess what you can afford to pay into your pension scheme and when (a major factor in deciding on a pension type), you need to make a general assessment of your finances.
Calculate all your outstanding debts and judge whether it’s best to channel your income into paying these off more quickly or if it’s feasible to start paying into a pension fund.
4. Research
Do plenty of research into the types of pension out there and the rates different firms are offering. Don’t end up with a fixed payment personal pension if you’re unable to commit to the set monthly pay-in amount.
If you’re only able to pay in variable amounts, research stakeholder pension schemes which can accommodate this.
5. Investment
Though this will be most important later, when your pension fund has grown through your chosen pension scheme, look into possible stable investments for your pension.
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October 8, 2013
Salisbury Cathedral Concert – in aid of British Military ABF The Soldiers’ Charity and Help for Heroes
Salisbury Cathedral Concert
in aid of ABF The Soldiers’ Charity and Help for Heroes
Friday 6th December 2013.
In aid of British Military charities The Soldier’s Charity and Help for Heroes
We, Jenny Snowball and Caroline Cary (in a previous life both British military army wives!) along with Melissa and Patrick Cordingley and a committee of friends, have a vision to produce a spectacular carol concert in Salisbury Cathedral. This will include traditional carols, outstanding music from the Band and Bugles of The Rifles, the famous Military Wives Choir, a soloist and the renowned Cathedral Choir, all in the glorious surroundings of Salisbury Cathedral.
There will be readings by: *Actress Emilia Fox, a familiar face from the BBC1 series ‘Silent Witness’, her father, the highly respected stage and screen actor *Edward Fox OBE, stage and television actor *David Oakes well known for playing George – Duke of Clarence in the BBC’s recent production, The White Queen; plus a British military veteran from Afghanistan, Captain David Henson, Royal Engineers.
A champagne and canapés reception will be taking place prior to the concert for VIPs, special guests and £55 ticket holders, at the Wardrobe (The Rifles Regimental Museum). This is located in The Close itself and is a few minutes’ walk from the Cathedral.
Tickets: Champagne Reception and Concert Ticket (Limited Numbers)
£55*
SOLD OUT
Concert Tickets Only £28* £22*
Please note, there is no parking in The Close.
*All tickets purchased online will be subject to a £1.50 booking fee per ticket. Tickets purchased in person or on the telephone do not incur additional charges.
*Professional Engagements permitting.
To view all terms and conditions of sale please click here
Help for Heroes, a company limited by guarantee. Registered in England and Wales under number 6363256. Registered charity number 1120920. Registered office: 14 Parkers Close, Downton Business Centre, Salisbury, SP5 3RB. ABF The Soldiers’ Charity is a registered charity in England and Wales (1146420) and registered as a company limited by guarantee in England and Wales (07974609). Registered Office: Mountbarrow House, 6-20 Elizabeth Street, London, SW1W 9RB
Proceeds for this event will be equally shared between both charities.
To book please click on link to City Hall Salisbury
Clare Macnaughton is a Modern Military Mother, a feminist, British, military spouse and lifestyle journalist writing about real life adventures.
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October 3, 2013
Macnaughty UNCUT – Real Life Adventures – Read all about it!
I wrote recently about my real life adventures and it’s not going to be used so I am going to use it. I hate waste after all and so why waste it.
My take on being a military wife:
I don’t pretend it’s easy. I didn’t know what I was getting myself into. I don’t always enjoy it. It’s a rollercoaster. It’s not all bad. I liked the cheap booze and the drinking culture. Summer balls were awesome, but I was always getting myself into trouble. Classic quote by me, when mounting the bucking bronco, pissed as a fart, wearing a ball dress, at an Officer’s Mess Summer ball, “if you make me cum I’ll give you a tenner” I said to the bronco operator. Two lunges of said bronco and I hit the deck. My behaviour at summer balls became a thing of lore as tales of my real life adventures spread like wildfire. I got my tits out on the dodgems once, and got told off by a senior officer; but the irony of this tale is that he turned out to be the biggest philanderer on the planet having multiple affairs. He got caught with his pants down by his mistress, and then his wife found out about his dirty doings because his mistress called her to tell her he was being unfaithful to both of them! Getting your tits out is nothing compared that level of deceit. Oh yes, and he was a devout Christian who sported a fish symbol sticker on his car. Thankfully, the Lord is man of great forgiveness, or so I have heard anyway.
On the other hand the male officers know that I am good for a laugh. At one ball I was having a little dance, then all of a sudden a naked officer streaked in, picked me up, carried me in a fireman’s lift to the stage, climbed on the stage, spun me around, put me down and ran off again. The next day he rang me up to apologise but I hadn’t remembered it happening until he reminded me. I didn’t mind. I thought it was funny.
I didn’t particularly respect the rule of ‘wife observes shenanigans at dining in nights (Officer Mess dinners where everyone gets shitfaced – big alcohol culture in the military), tuts lovingly and shakes head ‘those boys’. I tended to get stuck in and raise the stakes. Such as, crawling out of dining room to go for a wee during speeches (rule is no weeing until after the speeches) and then heckling the station commander shouting ‘boring’ because he went on a bit. I just said what everyone was thinking! The apocryphal myth of the night has been replayed that I called him ‘a boring cunt’ but I am not sure if that is strictly true!
I also enjoyed the adventurous nature of the service as we had many real life adventures. Before children, we were wakeboarding regularly, sailing and skiing. It was all joie de vivre. I also liked the intensity of the debates within our peer groups. We were always having heated arguments around the dinner table. But this was because I was the lone girlfriend; it was Hagar and his bachelor mates and I was one of the lads. Then when they got girlfriends everything changed. The girls took over the social life and they didn’t like me because I wasn’t very fluffy or particularly interested in shoes, handbags or where they bought a particular garment. I was much more interested in whether we should be going to war with Iraq or not.
On the whole I am not self sacrificing. I express my opinion. I am not in the military. I don’t want to be in the military. I take the piss out of the military just like they take the piss out of people who aren’t in the military. I think I am normal.
The audio book:
I recorded the audio book with producer, Anthony Clark who lives in my village. He’s a musician who played with Haircut 100, T’Pau and Rick Astley and last year he did a tour of Canada with The Bay City Rollers. He did it for mate’s rates. I tried to publish it with Audible (the audio platform for Amazon) but they need a minimum of 5 properties. Self-publishing in the UK isn’t as well set up as it is in USA. In USA you only need one property. Sally Page at Audible was very understanding of my plight and she put me in touch with Nic Jones at Strathmore Publishing and he agreed to publish it for me. It should be ready to go live in the next two weeks.
The 1st edition:
I published it via Amazon KDP and Createspace – I did it in 72 hours from deciding ‘fuck it I am just going to do it’ to it being live on the bookshelf. I did all the graphic design, layout and cover myself in a crazy marathon of preparation so needless to say it’s not as good as it could be. There are a few typos but I have managed to shift 628 copies so I am happy and it has tested the water. I know it resonates with some military wives because they have thanked me and messaged me privately to say it was like a breath of fresh air. Some of the reviews reflect this. It makes it all worthwhile. I am not alone and neither are those wives who feel like they are going crazy because they don’t fit the mold.
For the 2nd edition, which I am currently working on, my friend Fiona, who is a professional graphic designer and previously worked at Carlton books, is going to redo it. I have had it professionally proof read so it will be better. Createspace isn’t set up to distribute print on demand into retail in the UK in the same way it is in USA so I am looking at how to overcome that hurdle. The Amazon self-publishing platforms are tailored towards the USA market so this has been limiting for me because I know there is a demand. People saw my interview with BBC Breakfast and are curious about the book because I have met people who have heard of the book but didn’t know how to get hold of it. Books need to be in shops to be more accessible.
The French Version
The French translation has been done. Hagar is working on this massive tank exercise in France next year because we are sharing our military assets with France now. I think it’s relevant to do this – so why not. Amazon makes it possible and maybe the French will get behind it. My French translator was uncertain at first but even she is batting for team Macnaughton now. I have had to remove the chapter ‘Bumholes’ out of the French version because the expression ‘blowing goats’ doesn’t translate very well other than ‘goat fellatio’ so the subtlety of the gag is lost. (The blowing goats chapter has already had one Amazon reviewer wanting to report me to child services)
The court case:
When Hagar was arrested it ceased to be about his infidelity and it became more of a survival situation as a family. There was a lot of soul searching and many hours of discussion. If anything it re-created our friendship that had been eroded after the pounding of intense military operations. For me, I could see that my children need a positive constructive relationship with their father, and to be honest, I think their needs are greater than mine, so I am willing to swallow how I feel in order to give them as stable an upbringing as possible. The dialogue continues between Hagar and I, and it is ongoing, but we are eternally separated. We are not going back. How we move forward is taken one step at a time. I want my independence; but by this I don’t want to asset strip our marriage so for now Hagar is supporting my choices. Finally, the military can’t influence what I do because we are separated.
How the military has treated me:
We talk about the military as a whole entity but the reality is that it is a sum of the people who deliver the rules, which are always open to interpretation. Individuals in the military have treated me appallingly in the name of the military, but these actions have not always been officially sanctioned. It’s often sabre rattling, and so then it’s for me to establish- what are my rights? What is the perceived threat? How do I respond? Hagar has been summoned into his boss’ office and told to stop me. They have threatened me with his career – if you do this, he will be court martialed, if you do that, he will lose his job; but it’s bullying and threats, which those who issue them forget about this minor detail called the legal system and statutory rights. Fortunately, I am lucky enough to have access to some friendly lawyers who let me know the lay of the land.
The marital problems:
The stress of combat cannot be understated. The pressure to be perfect is something unique to the particular squadron Hagar was working for. The workload they undertake is top secret and unprecedented. But it’s a volunteer squadron and some level it’s a drug. They need the best pilots, they do the best, grittiest jobs and so it’s addictive – the conveyor belt works hard and fast. It’s inevitable that they are going to come out of it fucked up. And yes, most of them are fucked up. But then the greater the danger, the greater the highs and undoubtedly, the greater the comedown. Somehow, I ended up raising two kids alone, but also running my business and the house. It’s very mechanical and exhausting. You think ‘shit how did I end up here – married, single, celibate, fucked up and in a prison, of sorts.’ Fortunately, I am not there anymore.
Available from 17th October
- Amazon
- iTunes
Clare Macnaughton is a modern military mother a feminist British military lifestyle journalist writing about real life adventures.
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Macnaughty UNCUT – Read all about it!
I wrote this recently and it’s not going to be used so I am going to use it. I hate waste after all and so why waste it.
My take on being a military wife:
I don’t pretend it’s easy. I didn’t know what I was getting myself into. I don’t always enjoy it. It’s a rollercoaster. It’s not all bad. I liked the cheap booze and the drinking culture. Summer balls were awesome, but I was always getting myself into trouble. Classic quote by me, when mounting the bucking bronco, pissed as a fart, wearing a ball dress, at an Officer’s Mess Summer ball, “if you make me cum I’ll give you a tenner” I said to the bronco operator. Two lunges of said bronco and I hit the deck. My behaviour at summer balls became a thing of lore. I got my tits out on the dodgems once, and got told off by a senior officer; but the irony of this tale is that he turned out to be the biggest philanderer on the planet having multiple affairs. He got caught with his pants down by his mistress, and then his wife found out about his dirty doings because his mistress called her to tell her he was being unfaithful to both of them! Getting your tits out is nothing compared that level of deceit. Oh yes, and he was a devout Christian who sported a fish symbol sticker on his car. Thankfully, the Lord is man of great forgiveness, or so I have heard anyway.
On the other hand the male officers know that I am good for a laugh. At one ball I was having a little dance, then all of a sudden a naked officer streaked in, picked me up, carried me in a fireman’s lift to the stage, climbed on the stage, spun me around, put me down and ran off again. The next day he rang me up to apologise but I hadn’t remembered it happening until he reminded me. I didn’t mind. I thought it was funny.
I didn’t particularly respect the rule of ‘wife observes shenanigans at dining in nights (Officer Mess dinners where everyone gets shitfaced – big alcohol culture in the military), tuts lovingly and shakes head ‘those boys’. I tended to get stuck in and raise the stakes. Such as, crawling out of dining room to go for a wee during speeches (rule is no weeing until after the speeches) and then heckling the station commander shouting ‘boring’ because he went on a bit. I just said what everyone was thinking! The apocryphal myth of the night has been replayed that I called him ‘a boring cunt’ but I am not sure if that is strictly true!
I also enjoyed the adventurous nature of the service. Before children, we were wakeboarding regularly, sailing and skiing. It was all joie de vivre. I also liked the intensity of the debates within our peer groups. We were always having heated arguments around the dinner table. But this was because I was the lone girlfriend; it was Hagar and his bachelor mates and I was one of the lads. Then when they got girlfriends everything changed. The girls took over the social life and they didn’t like me because I wasn’t very fluffy or particularly interested in shoes, handbags or where they bought a particular garment. I was much more interested in whether we should be going to war with Iraq or not.
On the whole I am not self sacrificing. I express my opinion. I am not in the military. I don’t want to be in the military. I take the piss out of the military just like they take the piss out of people who aren’t in the military. I think I am normal.
The audio book:
I recorded the audio book with producer, Anthony Clark who lives in my village. He’s a musician who played with Haircut 100, T’Pau and Rick Astley and last year he did a tour of Canada with The Bay City Rollers. He did it for mate’s rates. I tried to publish it with Audible (the audio platform for Amazon) but they need a minimum of 5 properties. Self-publishing in the UK isn’t as well set up as it is in USA. In USA you only need one property. Sally Page at Audible was very understanding of my plight and she put me in touch with Nic Jones at Strathmore Publishing and he agreed to publish it for me. It should be ready to go live in the next two weeks.
The 1st edition:
I published it via Amazon KDP and Createspace – I did it in 72 hours from deciding ‘fuck it I am just going to do it’ to it being live on the bookshelf. I did all the graphic design, layout and cover myself in a crazy marathon of preparation so needless to say it’s not as good as it could be. There are a few typos but I have managed to shift 628 copies so I am happy and it has tested the water. I know it resonates with some military wives because they have thanked me and messaged me privately to say it was like a breath of fresh air. Some of the reviews reflect this. It makes it all worthwhile. I am not alone and neither are those wives who feel like they are going crazy because they don’t fit the mold.
For the 2nd edition, which I am currently working on, my friend Fiona, who is a professional graphic designer and previously worked at Carlton books, is going to redo it. I have had it professionally proof read so it will be better. Createspace isn’t set up to distribute print on demand into retail in the UK in the same way it is in USA so I am looking at how to overcome that hurdle. The Amazon self-publishing platforms are tailored towards the USA market so this has been limiting for me because I know there is a demand. People saw my interview with BBC Breakfast and are curious about the book because I have met people who have heard of the book but didn’t know how to get hold of it. Books need to be in shops to be more accessible.
The French Version
The French translation has been done. Hagar is working on this massive tank exercise in France next year because we are sharing our military assets with France now. I think it’s relevant to do this – so why not. Amazon makes it possible and maybe the French will get behind it. My French translator was uncertain at first but even she is batting for team Macnaughton now. I have had to remove the chapter ‘Bumholes’ out of the French version because the expression ‘blowing goats’ doesn’t translate very well other than ‘goat fellatio’ so the subtlety of the gag is lost. (The blowing goats chapter has already had one Amazon reviewer wanting to report me to child services)
The court case:
When Hagar was arrested it ceased to be about his infidelity and it became more of a survival situation as a family. There was a lot of soul searching and many hours of discussion. If anything it re-created our friendship that had been eroded after the pounding of intense military operations. For me, I could see that my children need a positive constructive relationship with their father, and to be honest, I think their needs are greater than mine, so I am willing to swallow how I feel in order to give them as stable an upbringing as possible. The dialogue continues between Hagar and I, and it is ongoing, but we are eternally separated. We are not going back. How we move forward is taken one step at a time. I want my independence; but by this I don’t want to asset strip our marriage so for now Hagar is supporting my choices. Finally, the military can’t influence what I do because we are separated.
How the military has treated me:
We talk about the military as a whole entity but the reality is that it is a sum of the people who deliver the rules, which are always open to interpretation. Individuals in the military have treated me appallingly in the name of the military, but these actions have not always been officially sanctioned. It’s often sabre rattling, and so then it’s for me to establish- what are my rights? What is the perceived threat? How do I respond? Hagar has been summoned into his boss’ office and told to stop me. They have threatened me with his career – if you do this, he will be court martialed, if you do that, he will lose his job; but it’s bullying and threats, which those who issue them forget about this minor detail called the legal system and statutory rights. Fortunately, I am lucky enough to have access to some friendly lawyers who let me know the lay of the land.
The marital problems:
The stress of combat cannot be understated. The pressure to be perfect is something unique to the particular squadron Hagar was working for. The workload they undertake is top secret and unprecedented. But it’s a volunteer squadron and some level it’s a drug. They need the best pilots, they do the best, grittiest jobs and so it’s addictive – the conveyor belt works hard and fast. It’s inevitable that they are going to come out of it fucked up. And yes, most of them are fucked up. But then the greater the danger, the greater the highs and undoubtedly, the greater the comedown. Somehow, I ended up raising two kids alone, but also running my business and the house. It’s very mechanical and exhausting. You think ‘shit how did I end up here – married, single, celibate, fucked up and in a prison, of sorts.’ Fortunately, I am not there anymore.
A Modern Military Mother – Tales from the Domestic Frontline – Paperback
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Available from 17th October
- Amazon
- iTunes
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Campbells Soup is Souper Art – I don’t want to eat mine!
CAMPBELL’S SOUP SALUTES ANDY WARHOL
WITH LIMITED EDITION TOMATO SOUP CANS
Fifty years after Andy Warhol developed his iconic series, 32 Campbell’s Soup Cans, Campbell’s is paying tribute to his work by introducing limited-edition cans of Campbell’s Condensed Tomato Soup with labels derived from original Warhol artwork.
The cans will be available in supermarkets from mid September 2013. Three years ago Warhol’s Big Campbell’s Soup Can With Can Opener sold at auction for $23.8 million. Thankfully for UK soup lovers, these Warhol-inspired masterpieces will retail at less than a pound!
The stunning four new designs have been produced in partnership with The Andy Warhol Foundation. They reflect Warhol’s pop-art style and use vibrant, eye-catching color combinations like red and blue, and pink and teal.
“We are delighted to celebrate the enduring legacy of these two icons by bringing Warhol’s art back to the Campbell’s soup cans that provided him with inspiration,” said Michael Hermann, Director of Licensing at The Andy Warhol Foundation. “Moreover, it is wonderful to note that this project shall contribute generously to the Foundation’s endowment from which it distributes grants in fulfillment of its charitable mission to advance the visual arts.”
Campbell Soup Company never commissioned Warhol to paint the original soup cans; he found his own inspiration from the classic red-and-white Campbell’s label that made its debut in 1898. When once asked why he painted the soup cans, Warhol noted, “I used to have the same (Campbell’s soup) lunch every day for 20 years. ” Further reflecting on his career, Warhol claimed that 32 Campbell’s Soup Cans was his favourite work.
When the Campbell’s brand was first featured in Warhol’s 1962 artwork, then President and CEO, William Beverly Murphy, indicated that he had some initial concerns. The company took a ‘wait and see’ approach and quickly became a supporter of Warhol’s work – sending him cases of Campbell’s Condensed Tomato soup, commissioning two paintings and establishing the Andy Warhol Scholarship Fund with the New York Art Academy.
Campbell’s Tomato soup was the first soup created by Campbell Soup Company, 116 years ago. Today Campbell’s Condensed Tomato soup continues to be enjoyed by more than 25 million people in over 100 countries every week.
Campbell’s offers several delicious varieties of Condensed Soup including favourites like Cream of Tomato, Cream of Mushroom, Cream of Chicken. These tasty soups can be enjoyed on their own or used as a versatile ingredient for casseroles, stews and pasta bakes.
Campbell’s Condensed Soup RRP 95p, is available from all major supermarkets. For more details visit www.campbellsoup.co.uk
About The Andy Warhol Foundation for the Visual Arts, Inc.
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September 30, 2013
Rugged Interiors
I live in a big, old house in the country. With the best will in the world I can’t be precious over my carpets. We made a decision when we agreed to the rent the property that they could leave the old, stained carpets down as I have two children 10 years old and 5 years old, who traipse in and out without any concern for the flooring.
Not to mention in the garden; two piggies, five ducks and six chickens that need tending to daily, feeding, flushing and collecting the duck and chuck eggs. Our lives are messy, so doorbells and phones ringing tend to cause rapid leaps from outside to in. Yes, we made a decision that we will manage the mess with an array of rugs to cover the stains of everyday living.
Inspiration leaves rug
I like to mix the rugs up with the old and the new. I have either a modern style rug or older kilims that we have picked up on our travels. Before children, we visited Morocco, which is great for rugs and it’s amazing how well they can be crammed into hold luggage if you put your mind to it. There are not many advantages to being deployed to Iraq but one of them was that Hagar was able to pick up a very nice Berber rug that adorns the hall floor. Not quite the war memento you’d expect but the Middle East and carpets go hand in hand. It definitely isn’t magic but it’s not bad at hiding the dirt. I also bought a big coconut matting rug for my son’s bedroom. It has an amazing way of collecting the plasticine of the models he moulds day in and day out. Little malleable men who adventure far and wide into the make believe worlds he creates on his massive mat.
In my head when my children are older, these carpets will be professionally cleaned and sparkle and maybe I’ll live in a world where people take their shoes off before they walk through the door. It’s like a utopian fantasy. But for now, we are rugs a-plenty, literally pushing the dirt under the carpet.
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September 24, 2013
My partner isn’t my pension!
Parallel play is a form of interaction where children play adjacent to each other but do not always try to influence each other, or even engage with each other. They benefit from proximity, they are interested in what each other are doing and they’ll sometimes modify their play accordingly.
I wonder then, in these days of independently minded thinking and living, is the traditional concept of life after work an accurate reflection of how many people see retirement, with their partners? A more satisfying approach to retirement may be one of ‘parallel play’, or more accurately, ‘parallel retirement’. In fact, I spoke with Clare (she of this parish) about this last week, and that chat made me come up with this blog.
I’m not suggesting a life in self imposed isolation in order to support trendy dogma, a life where ‘he’ spends his life in the potting shed and ‘she’ spends her days at the WI is the norm - far from it. But more and more couples are finding that an easier, more harmonious existence where diversity and independence is not advocated and promoted – but recognised and accepted where it is appropriate is becoming more popular.
Reported this morning on the BBC, this is interesting.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-24106220#
Ivy Singh and her husband Lim Ho Seng had their retirement all planned out. They planned to move to Margaret River in Western Australia and have a place with enough land to grow plants. But circumstances have a funny way of changing things. The death of her best friend’s husband meant they successfully tendered for a lease on a 10-acre plot and turned it into a farm called Bollywood Veggies. Instead of the life of languid comfort, they found themselves thrust together to focus on a common goal.
This idea, of course, doesn’t always clash with the traditional view of retirement, where togetherness and mutual dependency have long been seen as a virtue. Many couples imagine that being joined at the hip when they’re no longer working, is a vision of contentment and peace after (invariably) a hard life in the service of the Crown and usually, an airline afterwards.
But then, if I entered retirement in say, 2023, I will have lived a dramatically different life compared to my mum and dad, and their parents. Women and men of my age (harrumph, 40 something for the record) have experienced womens lib and we are all aware that women have held responsible professional, voluntary and commercial positions.
As a man, I have worked with women and for women and as a member of the RAF, I have saluted them. I respected them and I see them without question, as a equal and not an underling. When I see reps from pension houses, insurance companies and fund managers, they are invariably female and I value their calm insight and patient, objective qualities. Indeed (whisper it quietly), I have even learned to cook and clean a little and as you see from the other week, know my way around an ironing board.
Men and women in their 50s are more adventurous than previous generations and have been, as well as much more independent, very comfortable with change. We have fewer social rules and constricts, we are less judgmental, and we are more accepting of people who are different from us – and the norm.
Why the shock horror then, that couples in retirement are becoming less tied to each other, and more interested in parallel play? It meets our needs for freedom and involvement and is quickly becoming the system in which many older adults are thriving.
I’m not supporting the idea that we trash our ideas of togetherness (the idea of spending the next 40 years or so with my girl makes me very happy) and neither am I advocating wholesale changes to society which see aged retirees burning, not so much their bras, but their compression stockings.
But for so many reasons, whether they be financial, legislative, legal, emotional, rational.. partners should plan for, and grow their own pension funds. Whether not wanting to be being the victim of a shabby pension sharing order in divorce or simply wanting to be as tax efficient as possible, or maybe having income of your own and a sense of independence is what you’re after.. the sooner you start setting money aside for yourself so that you might live that harmonious retirement, however it evolves, with your partner the better.
Here’s the bit to keep my insurers happy. A pension isn’t for everyone so as ever, always take regulated financial advice you trust!
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