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"Through your memoir, ‘Splitting the Difference,’ you offer readers exactly what you..."

“Through your memoir, ‘Splitting the Difference,’ you offer readers exactly what you asked of your friends and family: ‘Stop telling me what I SHOULD be doing and start showing me what I COULD be doing.’ (Go out with friends, travel, find new hobbies, write, allow ourselves a routine for memorializing, etc.). Thank you for having the strength to share your story and help heal others’ pain.”

- — Brittany, Los Angeles

thegoodolddabes:A mini @harrisonshriftman reunion to celebrate...

thegoodolddabes:

A mini @harrisonshriftman reunion to celebrate this incredible brave soul @tremillernyc - congrats! #HeartShapedMemoir (at The Lexington)

Wait, my former PR colleagues are on Tumblr?!

Hey, Internet: Meet Alberto’s Sister (Lexington Hotel, NYC)

Hey, Internet: Meet Alberto’s Sister (Lexington Hotel, NYC) 

See your frozen faces at 6:30pm tonight! P.S....

See your frozen faces at 6:30pm tonight! P.S. Reading/wining/signing happening in first-floor Lobby Library, not Mezzanine of The Lexington Hotel (511 W. Lexington Ave. @ 48th).

Under Our Skin: Memorial Tattoos

Sound Waves of a Mother’s Last Voicemail to her Son

While Tumblr has tons of memorial ink, an upcoming column for ModernLoss.com will feature tribute pieces that are outside the usual tropes.

A rose and a banner of a cousin’s name is certainly meaningful, but has anyone mixed their late cousin’s ashes with tattoo ink for a reproduction of her handwriting? Or inked the heartbeat tracing from a late friend’s heart monitor? If you’ve got a tattoo of Nana’s handmade lace—though maybe not Nana’s face or the phrase “In Loving Memory of”—you have the kind of unobvious memorial tattoo we’re looking for.

To be considered, send 125 words or less explaining the tattoo’s significance plus a med-res photo of it to splittingthedifference@gmail.com. Or hashtag #modernlosstattoo on Tumblr and include an explanatory caption. Submission deadline is Feb. 1, 2014. 

"I read about your story on a Portuguese blog…and it’s made me think. (Should a..."

“I read about your story on a Portuguese blog…and it’s made me think. (Should a 21-year-old be thinking a lot?) In between my literature courses in college and my readings, I have been thinking of praying. Of going to church. I have been thinking about true love and how life changes out of the blue. Thank you for the reminder.”

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— Mariana, Lisbon

Love, Loss + Listicles for a New Year

I’m no therapist. My memoir is the opposite of a grief manual. But I am a 30-something New Yorker who has experienced the death of her husband, brother, several friends and ex-boyfriends. I’ve known unhealthy grief and embraced the healthy kind, too. Qualifiers aside, here’s my unapologetic listicle of 2014 grief goals for you, for me, for us.

1. Let’s not go numb.  Shock is the coping mechanism that kept us functioning in the first months after our loss. But when it wears off, you may feel as though your nerve endings have been exposed to raw air. So you glue yourself back together-ish and put on a brave face. But grief, like student loan debt, doesn’t go away if you ignore it. If it’s been less than a year since your loss, stop apologizing for anything. Lean into the panic, sorrow, guilt, anger, loneliness, resentment, anxiety. Acknowledge these emotions — and any I’ve missed — for what they are: normal. 

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Rubber-Shaped Heart (34th St, NYC)

Rubber-Shaped Heart (34th St, NYC) 

"I found you by way of your Modern Love essay and it led me to your blog and Modern Loss, which is..."

“I found you by way of your Modern Love essay and it led me to your blog and Modern Loss, which is precisely the community I needed to find. I felt my first loss this summer at 27, when I lost my grandfather, and am suffering through the illness of my 61-year-old father, who has early onset Alzheimer’s. For the past year, I have been living in my own universe of hate, guilt, fear frustration, and resentment towards everyone NOT in my situation. I just want to say thank you for putting yourself out there. I am finding great comfort in reading your essays and now your memoir too.”

- — Nicole, Florida

NYC Wine + Sign: January 23

That fancy PR firm that I quit so I could finish my memoir in Cuba and become a starving writer?

One of their clients is a NYC hotel that hosts a weekly author series.

I’m the January 23rd author.

If you work in Manhattan and we haven’t met IRL or I haven’t signed your copy of “Splitting the Difference,” where have you been all my Tumblr life this year?

Plus, free cheese platters and wine because we fancy again.

RSVP to pcao@lexingtonnyc.com.