Tre Miller Rodriguez's Blog, page 83

For a girl who has trouble unlocking her bike, this is quite the...

For a girl who has trouble unlocking her bike, this is quite the glory moment. 

"I am loving these articles about you and your daughter. I can see her in you, and you in her, and I..."

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I am loving these articles about you and your daughter. I can see her in you, and you in her, and I remember how I felt the first time I saw it in my birth mom. And now, how special it is to seeing it in my own daughter.

I think it’s really important for people to see positive examples of adoption (instead of the twisted Lifetime-movie version), so thank you for sharing your story!

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- — Kris, Chicago (ashamedtosay)

Getting interviewed by celeb journalist Jane Mulkerrins for...

Getting interviewed by celeb journalist Jane Mulkerrins for Grazia’s Mother’s Day issue was absurdly flattering.

Being the subject of a photo shoot—rather than a behind-the-scenes PR girl—was a giddy, memory-making experience with Laurie. 

But seeing the article in print with the faces of Alberto and Phil on one page and those of me and my bio daughter on the other takes the difference-splitting to a wholly visual level.

Does this candle make my tattoo look big? #MartiniNumberSix...

Does this candle make my tattoo look big? #MartiniNumberSix #Gayson

"Does this candle make my tattoo look big?"

"Does this candle make my tattoo look big?"

Celebrating Gayson’s nameday @boborestaurant with the...

Celebrating Gayson’s nameday @boborestaurant with the force of nature that is designer and style icon @blisslau.

Celebrating Gayson’s nameday at Bobo with the force of nature...

Celebrating Gayson’s nameday at Bobo with the force of nature that is designer and icon Bliss Lau.

5 Ideas for Facing Deathiversaries

In the five years since my 40-year-old husband, Alberto, died of a sudden heart attack, I’ve had a recurring nightmare involving his funeral.

Specifically, I’m tasked with planning it all over again. Making the awful phone calls. Writing the obit. Delivering the eulogy. I wake in a sweaty panic that evaporates only when I remember that it’s no longer 2009.

The dream usually comes to me in the month leading up to his March 15 deathiversary: a not-so-subtle nudge to make a plan for the date. Whether it’s the first or fifteenth year since your loss, anniversary reactions shouldn’t be a thing we’re embarrassed about. Our lives were permanently altered on that date, and there’s no shame in acknowledging it. While there’s no one-size-fits-all prescription for a deathiversary, my hope is that these ideas offer a guide for making your annual peace.

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Seeing your essay mentioned on the same Australian cover as Drew...

Seeing your essay mentioned on the same Australian cover as Drew Barrymore is surreal. Landing a bylined, 3-page story in this publication is the stuff writers’ dreams are made of. But reading Laurie’s 500 eloquent words (click red sidebar above) about her adoptive childhood + our reunion = immeasurable prouds of the motherly kind. 

"So glad to see that the dates which once knocked you down so hard are now becoming a time of joy and..."

“So glad to see that the dates which once knocked you down so hard are now becoming a time of joy and remembrance of what you and Alberto were, of what you two are now, and will be, forever.”

- — Scott, California (scottswords)