Karin Pinter's Blog, page 7

Attention does not always mean love, and love is not just about attention.

Some people weren’t shown love as kids or had to fight for it, so they learned that, “getting attention = love.” Attention usually goes to whoever “screams” the loudest. This can show up as emotional manipulation, unruly behaviours, actual screaming, seeking attention from anyone, and getting the most “Likes” or comments on social media.

It’s a learned behaviour based on a need to feel loved.
It’s normal to want to feel loved and desired.
But getting attention doesn’t always mean you’re get...

Do your best not to let your past hurts define or cloud your future love.

We all have a past, a history filled with victories and losses in love. But whatever we’ve gone through, for good or for not so good, need not define our future love. Especially if it clouds our vision of that new person.
Of course, if you’re with someone loving and compassionate, you’ll be able to express your concerns about past experiences and work through them together. But it’s always going to come down to your inner work first. Letting go of fears, worries, insecurities and those little...

Have a little patience.

Patience is a virtue because when it comes to relationships, it can be a life saver and a love saver.

It gives space for personal clarity and understanding, and it gives a relationship some healthy spaces to bear the fruit of certain necessary aspects for both people to grow stronger – individually and together.
It means going into something without rushing into it.

Most of all, being patient with yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. To understand who you are and...

What about that person makes your heart sing?

What makes your heart sing about him or about her?

Their qualities, certain gestures, the things they say or do – right down to those special details or even the daily things they do to nourish the love between you?

And when was the last time you told them you appreciate those things?
Why don’t you stop what you’re doing right now and tell them, make that call them, or send that text?

PS: what makes your heart sing about you?

Go gentle on your soul.

Go gentle on your soul. You need to sleep with it your whole life, and then some…

Keep the faith.

Keep the faith. It’s fertiliser for love to grow.

Forgive yourself for whoever cheated on you.

Forgive yourself

For not listening to your intuition sooner when certain things didnt add up with them.

For not understanding why your body and soul felt sick more and more after every excuse they gave you.

For not sensing clearly when they were lying to you in your face and in your bed.

For not stepping away sooner when they started to try and turn it all against you to hide the truth of their actions.

For letting yourself get caught up in someone elses confusion, lies, deceit, and tricks ...

Love is wonderful…

Integrity of intentions, words and actions.

Integrity is one of the cornerstones of building a solid relationship. Make sure youre aligned with yours and youre with someone whos aligned with theirs so you can build something that lasts. And if youre not aligned with your personal integrity, find you whats keeping you from it, and find your way back. Youll sleep better and your soul will thank you.

If you keep running from love, how do you expect to keep it?

Runners. Wanting love but running from it when it shows up.

Its usually triggered by fear, insecurity, lack of trust (in self), a perception of inconvenience. Past relationship wounds or unresolved family issues. Concerns over what some might say. Most times, its the runners own stuff, though some will sometimes try to project it onto others.

If youre the one who keeps running, what do you really need to have emotional stability and confidence? Do you ever consider how your person feels...