Jennifer F. Netto's Blog, page 2
December 5, 2015
When Are You Getting Married?
Ladies who are yet to be married really face a lot of bullshit from those around them.
As if it isn't difficult enough to find someone suitable for yourself, you are further tortured by having to justifying to every aunty, granny and sometimes even to the people who play no role in your life.
There many 'pun'ny replies already out in the open for you to use, but this, which I found yesterday, on the Internet, is by far the BEST!
It sure cracked me up! L.O.L
As if it isn't difficult enough to find someone suitable for yourself, you are further tortured by having to justifying to every aunty, granny and sometimes even to the people who play no role in your life.
There many 'pun'ny replies already out in the open for you to use, but this, which I found yesterday, on the Internet, is by far the BEST!
It sure cracked me up! L.O.L
Art Therapy or Torture?
Do not be mistaken, I love colouring and I love art, but somehow, surprisingly, whenever I look at these adult colouring books that are now so abundantly sold in local bookstores, I find myself suffering with palpitations rather than calmness.Strangely, I’m not attracted to them and I am shocked at my inability to grab a colouring book now that I can find them everywhere and not just on Amazon. Anyone who knows me well would know exactly how much I love to draw and colour both for leisure and work.
I’ve seen the posted images of the colouring pages done by my friends on FB and some of them have such talent to make their colouring seem just like a laser printed image. They must have been supremely calm? Bravo to them all!
Believe me, even to write this post about this topic is giving me a torturous ache in my chest, and writing is supposedly the one thing that calms my nerves down.
Well, I guess the judge of how therapeutic or torturous a hobby is, still remains personal.
To those who have found joy in reliving their childhood moments with their colour pencils - I say well done and keep it up, do more and post them for everyone to see. You should be proud of yourself!
To those like me (unexpected really!), I say please don’t kill yourself and go back to gardening, or sewing, or baking, or reading a book as your means of therapeutic calmness - you don’t need to take on something new just because it’s trending in the market right now, and in my case, give my heart a break!
March 7, 2015
Happy International Women's Day 2015
We've come to that time of the year again, where we honour and celebrate the women who had fought for equality, strived for peace and justice, those who reached great heights and those aspiring to do great things.
We celebrate and honour the women who have their names constantly
mentioned in the media for their honorable deeds, women who have made it into our history books for their achievements, and those whose names are engraved and highlighted in the hearts of their loved ones - the ordinary yet extraordinary women like you and me.
The role of a woman is beyond limits, you and I know that and we also know that when we put our mind and heart to something, we can take it real far and reach the greatest height of success. I always tell the people around me that we all have a purpose in life, no matter what our influential value is in society, we all have been given a role and a task to perform, we only need to discover it. These days, I've found myself saying so to my children too, either in context to their own life or in the books and movies, as well as the news that they've come in contact with
Therefore, in line with this year's theme, 'Make It Happen', I'd say,
1. Make your dreams happen! Do not give excuses for yourself and most of all do not doubt yourself. If anyone gets in your way and thinks you can't, tell them to stand on the side and watch as you make it happen!
2. Stand up for what is right, most importantly women's rights, and not for a minute say "this is not my quest" or "this is not my business". You'll never know, how your lifting of a finger could help change another person's life for the better.
3. Embrace your status - single, married, widowed or divorced, you're not in a hopeless place no matter what your circumstances are. Ignite happiness so that others can feel it's warmth and be consoled. It's a great feeling to know someone cares, it's even greater to know you're safe. If you don't think you have it all, don't be envious of those who have it a little better than you. Remember, everyone fights a battle of their own. Don't hope to be someone else other than a better person you were yesterday.
4. Forgive! It really helps you lead a fruitful life. If you can forget, better still, but if you can't, you can just move on and conclude you have nothing in common with your wrong-doers and wish them well anyway.
5. Be a beacon of hope to the younger generation of girls and educate the little boys around you to grow up respecting their opposite gender. No matter what role you hold, a mum, an aunt, a grandmother, a sister or a teacher - you have a moral obligation to raise your girls with values that can help them through their life and to teach our young boys that they are equal to women - not greater but EQUAL!
6. Make the right choices every time possible. Your kids/siblings/friends will appreciate you and learn from you.
So go make a difference!Remember, if you've made a difference in one person's life, be certain that its rippling effects will go far.
Happy International Women's Day 2015! We may all be different in our color, race, nationality and creed but we have one thing in common - we are women and the power to change the world lies in us!✌️
We celebrate and honour the women who have their names constantly
mentioned in the media for their honorable deeds, women who have made it into our history books for their achievements, and those whose names are engraved and highlighted in the hearts of their loved ones - the ordinary yet extraordinary women like you and me.
The role of a woman is beyond limits, you and I know that and we also know that when we put our mind and heart to something, we can take it real far and reach the greatest height of success. I always tell the people around me that we all have a purpose in life, no matter what our influential value is in society, we all have been given a role and a task to perform, we only need to discover it. These days, I've found myself saying so to my children too, either in context to their own life or in the books and movies, as well as the news that they've come in contact with
Therefore, in line with this year's theme, 'Make It Happen', I'd say,
1. Make your dreams happen! Do not give excuses for yourself and most of all do not doubt yourself. If anyone gets in your way and thinks you can't, tell them to stand on the side and watch as you make it happen!
2. Stand up for what is right, most importantly women's rights, and not for a minute say "this is not my quest" or "this is not my business". You'll never know, how your lifting of a finger could help change another person's life for the better.
3. Embrace your status - single, married, widowed or divorced, you're not in a hopeless place no matter what your circumstances are. Ignite happiness so that others can feel it's warmth and be consoled. It's a great feeling to know someone cares, it's even greater to know you're safe. If you don't think you have it all, don't be envious of those who have it a little better than you. Remember, everyone fights a battle of their own. Don't hope to be someone else other than a better person you were yesterday.
4. Forgive! It really helps you lead a fruitful life. If you can forget, better still, but if you can't, you can just move on and conclude you have nothing in common with your wrong-doers and wish them well anyway.
5. Be a beacon of hope to the younger generation of girls and educate the little boys around you to grow up respecting their opposite gender. No matter what role you hold, a mum, an aunt, a grandmother, a sister or a teacher - you have a moral obligation to raise your girls with values that can help them through their life and to teach our young boys that they are equal to women - not greater but EQUAL!
6. Make the right choices every time possible. Your kids/siblings/friends will appreciate you and learn from you.
So go make a difference!Remember, if you've made a difference in one person's life, be certain that its rippling effects will go far.
Happy International Women's Day 2015! We may all be different in our color, race, nationality and creed but we have one thing in common - we are women and the power to change the world lies in us!✌️
January 21, 2015
Parenting Advice From The KURAL (Indian Sangam Literature)
1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.
2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you've lost them.
3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.
4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.
5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don't let them chose what they want.
6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
7. If your child does not respect other people's feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.
8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour.
9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don't successfully complete it.
10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
11. If your child is openly defied, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don't follow through.
12. If your child is secretive, it is because they don't trust that you won't blow things out of proportion.
13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behaviour.
14. If your child doesn't listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to make decisions.
15. If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right
Share this with other parents if you think they could benefit from such advice.
2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you've lost them.
3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.
4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.
5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don't let them chose what they want.
6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
7. If your child does not respect other people's feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.
8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour.
9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don't successfully complete it.
10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
11. If your child is openly defied, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don't follow through.
12. If your child is secretive, it is because they don't trust that you won't blow things out of proportion.
13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behaviour.
14. If your child doesn't listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to make decisions.
15. If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right
Share this with other parents if you think they could benefit from such advice.
September 3, 2014
PG Recommended
Only recently since my children started watching Cartoon Network and Nickelodeon's noon shows which are meant for older children, did I notice each show now comes with a TV parental guide. I decided to look at the list of cartoons and their rating from those 2 channels and surprisingly, only less than quarter of Cartoon Network’s shows are actually meant for general viewing, some even comes as TV-PG-D which means its dialogue has sexual connotations.
It’s good that cartoon network has a parental control guide and I wonder how strictly parents follow them. In fact many times, although cooking in the kitchen, I have heard on Disney Junior and Disney Channel, characters addressing each other as “LOSERS” and throwing word like “DAMN”, etc.
I know in the end we can’t bubble wrap our child, I mean, we grew up with TOM and JERRY, and ROAD RUNNER as our cartoons. Look how well we turned out? Well, I can only speak for myself and my friends but I must say we never went running behind anyone calling them horrid names, and being bullies, but may be those cartoons thought us how to deal with bullies and how not to turn into one? There are many lessons in life that one can subconsciously gain from cartoons.
Whatever the case, the shows we let our children watch, or play on their devices leave an impact on them socially and psychologically and the way they carry themselves. The first signs to know when things are not right, is the language they speak when they are angry about something or with someone. Their choice of anger words and their body language must be observed and if required, evaluated and advised appropriately.
However, like the mischievous cartoon characters we come across on TV, some kids are very smart at pretending in front of their elders and being a real menace behind. Since my children started studying at a new school, my son especially has a lot of complains to share with me about the type of kids in his class especially about one particular boy who ability to switch modes just shocks the living daylight out of us. His parents of course believes no one but their son and that’s when you wonder, what’s going on back at home and how do these kids do it?
So the next time your kids watch something on a kiddy channel, don’t forget to check out if the show is meant for their age and exposure. These codes serve as a purpose - guidance for us as parents.
September 2, 2014
The Book Bucket Challenge - are you up for it?
The famous Ice Bucket Challenge brought about the Rice Bowl Challenge and as you see, the Book Bucket Challenge too. Listing 10 books and nominating your friends to do the same but for what purpose, is the big question.
The story behind the Book Bucket Challenge is clearly written in The Business Insider of India ’s article - being a charity drive to increase literacy rate and donation of books to villages by setting up one village, one library concepts initiated in Kerala, India, the land with 93.91% literacy rate (2011 census).
Anyway, over on the social media platform, we see this challenge going around and the question that comes to my mind is, what am I going to do with the 10 books I’ve listed? Donate them to the town library? The my club library? Display it on my soon to set-up library? Honestly, I’m very attached to my books, physically, mentally and emotionally. I want these books to be read by my kids and their friends if they are interested so what can I do in form of charity? I need to contemplate on it and come up with an answer for myself. Till then, lets do it the way some people have re-invented it to be; a challenge to ' FINDING YOUR BEST PAL ’ through books.
With that here is my list:
#BookBucketChallenge
1. The Boy In The Stripped Pajamas - John Boyne
2. Luka And The Fire Of Life - Salman Rushdie
3. The Alchemist - Paulo Coelho
4. The Fifth Child - Doris Lessing
5. Their Eyes Were Watching God - Zora Hurston
6. Inside the Whale - George Orwell
7. The Picture of Dorian Gray - Oscar Wilde
8. The Sky Burial - Xinran
9. Desert Royal - Jean Sasson
10. The Shopaholic Series by Sophie Kinsella
June 17, 2014
Game Of Thrones Theme Song
Don’t ask me why this a post on my blog - I’m a HUGE FAN of everything G.O.T, that’s why!
June 15, 2014
Pool Toys vs Beach Toys
If you took a minute to google these two items
Beach toys Pool toysand look at the images that appear in your search results, you’d know the distinct differences between these two sets of toys, which are:
their texture their edges their purposeThe reason I decided to write this post today is because I am deeply annoyed with parents and guardians who think it’s absolutely alright to place their toddlers in a kid’s pool (not private) and along with that child, dump a bag full of BEACH TOYS, which ultimately would float away and cover the entire pool of kids.
Beach toys are called BEACH TOYS for obvious reasons - they are meant to be used on the beach!!!!! The beach is where there is sand for raking and shovelling - activities which require edges to craft and shape. Do you think a rake is appropriate in a pool where kids are jumping and mini diving into water which is supposed to be clear of sharp and pointy objects? NO, it’s not the place for it.
Responsible parents and guardians would know, or rather should learn to know that in a bag of beach toys, only one or two items deem fit for a play time in a pool, such as the watering can or pail and the round head spoon which can be lots of fun for your child to scoop and fill water.
You don’t go dumping EVERYTHING you have in the bag of toys into the pool and create a hazardous environment for other people’s children. Accidents can happen in many ways and the most common one is with kids who have difficulty in sharing their toys and end up using their toy as a weapon to hit another kid - something I have witnessed many times and for many years in my life - kids being hit and scared by rakes and shovels. It’s not a pretty sight especially when the parent of the perperator acts like he or she is not at fault for creating trouble and destroying the peace in a pool, thanks to their inappropriate toy dumping.
So the next time you think about taking your child out to the pool where there are other children swimming in it too, consider taking a little time to sort out what toys should NOT go into the pool with your kid, better yet, stick to the right toys - POOL TOYS! Those won't go wrong for your kid and others.
Spread the word, educate and make a difference.
Beach toys Pool toysand look at the images that appear in your search results, you’d know the distinct differences between these two sets of toys, which are:
their texture their edges their purposeThe reason I decided to write this post today is because I am deeply annoyed with parents and guardians who think it’s absolutely alright to place their toddlers in a kid’s pool (not private) and along with that child, dump a bag full of BEACH TOYS, which ultimately would float away and cover the entire pool of kids.
Beach toys are called BEACH TOYS for obvious reasons - they are meant to be used on the beach!!!!! The beach is where there is sand for raking and shovelling - activities which require edges to craft and shape. Do you think a rake is appropriate in a pool where kids are jumping and mini diving into water which is supposed to be clear of sharp and pointy objects? NO, it’s not the place for it.
Responsible parents and guardians would know, or rather should learn to know that in a bag of beach toys, only one or two items deem fit for a play time in a pool, such as the watering can or pail and the round head spoon which can be lots of fun for your child to scoop and fill water.
You don’t go dumping EVERYTHING you have in the bag of toys into the pool and create a hazardous environment for other people’s children. Accidents can happen in many ways and the most common one is with kids who have difficulty in sharing their toys and end up using their toy as a weapon to hit another kid - something I have witnessed many times and for many years in my life - kids being hit and scared by rakes and shovels. It’s not a pretty sight especially when the parent of the perperator acts like he or she is not at fault for creating trouble and destroying the peace in a pool, thanks to their inappropriate toy dumping.
So the next time you think about taking your child out to the pool where there are other children swimming in it too, consider taking a little time to sort out what toys should NOT go into the pool with your kid, better yet, stick to the right toys - POOL TOYS! Those won't go wrong for your kid and others.
Spread the word, educate and make a difference.
May 15, 2014
Happy Teacher’s Day 2014
There are all types of TEACHERS around us both in specialisation and calibre. Whether you teach in the ministry or in a home, you deserve to know that your role is significantly important to the one you teach, so do what you do with pride and dignity as you hold the mould of the future generation. HAPPY TEACHER’S DAY 2014!!
P.S. Snape was my favourite fictitious teacher! Thank you JK Rowling.
P.S. Snape was my favourite fictitious teacher! Thank you JK Rowling.
April 16, 2014
Rest In Peace Karpal Singh - The Tiger of Jelutong.
Most of us grew up hearing his name uttered by our parents as they read the daily papers. We grew up knowing him as a man with guts - a man who feared no one and who's mouth questioned what no others dared. Titled a trouble maker by those who were threatened by his boldness but for those who loved him, we are grateful for how he rocked the boat for us. Malaysia has lost a political giant and will forever be grateful for his advocacy and fight for the better half of this nation! May his soul rest in peace. You were a TRUE MALAYSIAN!
