Nick Ortner's Blog, page 43

Managing Parental Overwhelm – Free Tapping Meditation

You might remember all of the proud posts and blogs about when I became a father for the first time a while back.

3 of the Most Powerful Words You Can Say to Yourself

“I forgive myself.”

Try saying these words out loud now (or silently to yourself if you don’t want your co-workers to think you’re a little nuts – LOL!)

“I forgive myself.”

How does it feel when you say that?  What comes up?  Does a specific memory or event come forward?

Or maybe just generalized anxiety about LIFE, about what has gone wrong, about what you’ve judged yourself about for way too long?

One of the most powerful parts of the Tapping process is the setup phrase, “Even though [fill in the blank with the problem], I love, accept, and forgive myself.”

There is such POWER in acknowledging how you feel… and loving, accepting, and forgiving yourself for it.

But it’s not always easy.  I get it.  There are layers upon layers of guilt and shame that have built up (consciously and unconsciously) for years.

It’s my belief that to truly transform your life, you have to peel those layers back, let go, and discover the bright, shining, abundant, joyful energy underneath it all.

To help you get started today, I’ve pulled out a short and powerful Tapping Meditation from our 2014 Tapping World Summit.  It’s normally part of a $197 package, but it’s my gift for you today.

Listen to the Tapping Meditation to Support You in Forgiving Yourself below!
http://2014-tws-audios.s3.amazonaws.com/final/download/iyanla-vanzant-forgiveness-meditation-LQ.mp3

Get the Tapping Meditation Transcript Here

This is a general meditation to get you started, but as you tap, see if you can focus on one event, idea, memory, or belief for which you haven’t forgiven yourself.

Focus on it, give it a number on a 0-10 scale, and then check back in after these 10 minutes or so of Tapping.

How do you feel after listening to this Tapping Meditation?  Did a specific memory come to mind?  Perhaps a person whom you may have hurt in the past, or an unresolved event?  Please leave me your comments below!

The post 3 of the Most Powerful Words You Can Say to Yourself appeared first on The Tapping Solution.

Related posts:


 Louise Hay Talks Tapping

 Forgiving THAT Person… Post-Election

 How Your Pain Might Be Serving You

Releasing the Overwhelm and Frustration of Chronic Pain

Do you ever feel overwhelmed and frustrated when you’re dealing with your chronic pain?

Would you like some help in releasing it? 

What Is Mindful Leadership?

I support Democrats.  I support Republicans.  I support Libertarians.  I support the Green Party.

I support people with GOOD ideas.

And for too long we’ve been too focused on ideology, narrow-minded thinking, judgement, and anger towards anyone who doesn’t believe exactly the same as we do.

It’s a partisan, limited way of thinking in a system that once was built upon the foundation stones of freedom and liberty.

I can feel the confusion, the fear, and the anxiety that many people around the country are feeling right now.

Even if the person you voted for won, you’re likely still feeling the passion of the argument and its intensity… and frankly, it doesn’t feel good.

If the person you voted for lost, you’re feeling anger and confusion as to how this could have happened.

It’s Time to Come Together

To come back into alignment, I think it’s important that we do a couple of things during this time of transition:

A. Turn down the heat.  You can fight for things you believe in without feeling scared, anxious, or angry.  You can create change in the world AND respect someone who doesn’t agree with you.

B. Support those in the world who have a commitment to clear-minded thinking, and who open a dialogue to new, innovative ideas and solutions.

That’s why I’m asking today, regardless of who you supported in the election, that you help me in supporting someone whom I think can make a difference in our politics.

My dear friend Congressman Tim Ryan (not to be confused with Paul Ryan), is a Democratic Congressman from Ohio.

Forget what his party affiliation is though – take a look at the way of being he stands for and the energy of what he’s doing in the world.

I first met Tim while speaking for Hay House.  We shared the stage and I got to hear him speak about his efforts to bring meditation and mindfulness into those institutions that need it most.

He even has a meditation group for Congressmen!  Imagine that!

He’s been a huge supporter of Tapping, and has helped to introduce it into the Veterans Administration.  His second book, “The Real Food Revolution” focuses on healthy eating, healthy farming, and so many other things I know you care about.

Jessica sat down with Tim for an interview after his first book on mindfulness was published.  You can watch it below.

“While we’re doing the political movement from the outside… I also want to light a candle from the inside.”

Tim just won re-election to his House seat and now he has decided to challenge Nancy Pelosi for minority leader in the House.

I won’t get into the politics of it all.  I’m not even qualified to say whether Nancy Pelosi is good or bad at what she does, but I do know this:

We need to support leaders who are willing to think outside the box.

A Congressman who meditates???  A Congressman who cares about our food???  Imagine that passion in a position where it can make a difference!

That’s where you come in.

The House leadership is voted on by its members, so it’s up to you to let YOUR Congressmen know that you support Congressman Ryan.

Since each party votes for its leadership, right now, this would be for your Democratic Representatives.  (I’m working on finding Tim’s equivalent on the other side and I’ll let you know when I do!)

Show Your Support!

So if you would take just a few minutes today to tell your Congressman that you support Tim Ryan.  It could make a huge difference in our nation’s future.

Go here to find your local Congressman and let them know you want to bring a new energy to Washington.  An open, honest dialogue.  A focus on innovative thinking.  An appreciation for the individual human spirit that strives for peace, for love, and for compassion.

It’s easy to turn away from politics, to say it doesn’t matter and that it’s all a mess.

But if there’s something I’ve realized in my last decade of promoting Tapping around the world, it’s that we need to get these healing tools into institutions like the VA hospital, to reach those who need it most.

I believe Tim can be a powerful ally in making that happen.

Click here to support him!

Until next time…

Keep Tapping!

Nick Ortner

The post What Is Mindful Leadership? appeared first on The Tapping Solution.

Related posts:


 Louise Hay Talks Tapping

 Then the tears started flowing…

 You’d never say this to a child, would you?

How Your Pain Might Be Serving You

One of the things I discuss in The Tapping Solution for Pain Relief program is how pain can sometimes serve us and benefit us in ways we’re not consciously aware of.

And it’s these perceived benefits that often keep the physical pain locked in place.

Events from our past – times when we didn’t feel safe, didn’t feel like we were enough, or didn’t feel loved – can cause us to hold back in fear of getting hurt again.

I want to share a powerful video from The Tapping Solution for Pain Relief program to show you what I mean.

You’ll see me work on-stage with an incredibly brave woman named Joanne as we address the unconscious beliefs keeping her physical pain in place.

As you watch the video, make sure to tap along with us as if you’re just another member of the audience.

Before you watch though, I have 2 warnings for you:

#1 – This video is very moving, so have a tissue box ready.  There wasn’t a dry eye in the house at the event, especially during what happens at the end.  I won’t spoil it for you – you’ll want to see this for yourself!

#2 – I know that some people are offended by strong language.  There is one point in the clip where both Joanne and I swear, not just for the sake of it, but with a very specific purpose, as you’ll see.  I just thought I would warn you so that you’re prepared and not offended (and in case kids are in the room!).

Are You A Perfectionist?

Here’s one way to find out…

Watch this video, and tell me if you CRINGE as you view the photos.  (You don’t have to watch the whole video, just look at a few of the pictures.)

.

If they’re really driving you crazy, tap along as you watch! 

5 Tips for a Stress-Free Family Gathering

The holiday season is upon us!

It’s a time that’s often met with as much dread as joy.  For many, getting a big family together doesn’t always reflect the pretty picture we see in all the Thanksgiving and Christmas commercials.

In fact, it can feel downright overwhelming!

Will my mother-in-law judge my cooking again?  Will that annoying uncle make another inappropriate comment?  Will I have to deal with the tension between relatives?

What’s meant to be a joyous experience leaves us holding our breath and wishing for the best…

But it turns out we have more power than we think to create a great experience.

Here are 5 tips to support you, along with a Tapping Meditation to set you up for a wonderful holiday gathering:
1. Let Go of Expectations

You know those commercials we see of the ideal family laughing and passing the pumpkin pie?  They’re actors!  I hate to state the obvious, but we often have these unrealistic expectations, and the idea that things need to be perfect and run smoothly to have a good time.

So I’m here to break the news to you: that annoying uncle… he might never change.  And it’s not your job to change him.  That cousin who’s always late might be late again.  You may drop the apple crumble you spent hours making on the floor (I did that once!).

When we let go of the expectation that things (and people) need to be perfect, we are able to see all there is to celebrate.

2. Heal the Buttons

I have one relative who I would always complain about because he had a way of pushing my buttons.  Every year he’d make some comment about my weight.  Even when he said, “You look like you lost weight,” I’d smile and say, “Thank you,” when internally I was screaming, “Can you please not make my body a topic of conversation?!”

Whether it’s someone commenting on how you look, or asking about your relationship status or job, when you find yourself saying, “They push my buttons,” it’s time to leave the buttons at home.

Since I was struggling with my weight and body confidence, I was walking around with a giant open wound.

The moment anyone would make a comment, even a nice one, it burned and I would blame them.  Eventually, I realized I couldn’t change them; I could only heal my wound.

When we take responsibility for the button and heal it, then there is no button to press.  No one can make you feel bad without your permission!  If you’re expecting a topic of conversation that makes you feel uncomfortable, tap on it beforehand.

You might say, “Even though I get so angry when (insert relative) asks me / comments on (insert topic) I accept myself and choose to feel calm and confident.”

Then tap on the points while you give a voice to the movie you’ve created of what might happen, until you can imagine that scenario while feeling calm and confident.  The Tapping Mediation below will help.

3. Choose What You Bring

I’m not talking about what type of casserole.  When you walk in feeling tense and expecting the worst, that is exactly what you bring into the room.

Between the errands and cooking, take a few minutes to pause and check in.  What matters most is the energy you bring to the table, not the dish.

Consciously choose what you’re bringing – like gratitude, playfulness, compassion, excitement, and joy.  Doesn’t that sound delicious?!

4. You’re Only Responsible for Your Own Experience

You can choose what you’re bringing to the table, but you can’t control what others bring.

When we go into a family situation feeling like we are responsible for everyone having a good time, our minds begin to search for whatever we believe needs fixing.  Then we only see what’s wrong, and we let someone else’s mood impact our own.  Bring your best energy and forget the rest!

If you’re sensitive to other people’s emotions, it’s important to tap before the gathering.  Then after you tap, imagine a protective white bubble around you.  You still have the ability to give and receive love, but that bubble repels negative energy.  It’s a simple visualization, but a powerful one.

5. Remember What It’s All About

It’s not about the perfect table setting or the food; it’s about connection and gratitude.

We come together as a family to celebrate all of life’s blessings and to connect with each other.  The best way we can do this is by slowing down and allowing ourselves to be present.

We don’t need a single meditation pillow in the middle of a silent room to be present.  Be present with the joy, the excitement, and if you come from a big Argentine family like me, the shouting and playful teasing!

Take in the moment because there are no guarantees in life.  You’ll never get to relive this holiday season again.  It’s a moment in time – celebrate the gift!

.

Tapping Meditation for a Stress-Free Family Gathering.
http://ts-blog-images.s3.amazonaws.com/Tapping-Meditation-stress-free-family-gathering.mp3

Right Click to Download This Meditation

What was your “aha” moment during the Tapping Meditation?  What do you want to remember before you walk into that room full of family members to ensure you have a great time?

The post 5 Tips for a Stress-Free Family Gathering appeared first on The Tapping Solution.

Related posts:


 Forgiving THAT Person… Post-Election

 This hilarious video has some profound truth…

 Then the tears started flowing…

Forgiving THAT Person… Post-Election

It’s confession time…

And no, l’m not asking you to post your confession publicly, but to admit the truth to yourself.

How many people have you un-friended on Facebook, or disconnected from on other social media because of their views around this year’s election?

How many friends or family members are you still angry at for their opinions, and maybe also their votes?

Come on, it’s okay.  You can admit it. 

Meditaciones con Tapping en Español

Meditando con Tapping

La técnica conocida como “Tapping” (o más formalmente EFT, por Emotional Freedom Techniques – Técnicas de Liberación Emocional) está revolucionando al mundo con los asombrosos resultados que produce.

El “Tapping” (que en Inglés significa literalmente dar golpecitos ligeros) combina teorías milenarias Chinas de digitopuntura con técnicas de psicología moderna, logrando producir en muy breve tiempo lo que tradicionalmente tardaba meses o hasta años.

Esencialmente lo utilizamos para reducir la ansiedad y el estrés, pero como efectos secundarios está produciendo resultados extraordinarios en áreas tan diversas como el dolor crónico, la reducción de peso, el éxito financiero, y mucho, mucho más.

¿Pero cómo funciona?

En esta presentación de audio en español, la Dra. María Laura Ortner te explicará exactamente de qué se trata, y te guiará en una breve meditación acompañada del proceso de Tapping.  ¡Disfrútalo!

Para más detalles, dirígete a nuestra página principal (en inglés, por ahora) donde además podrás ver un video de Jessica mostrándote exactamente la ubicación de los puntos de Tapping.

Audio 1 – Introducción al Tapping
http://tappingsolution.s3.amazonaws.com/meditations/spanish/drafts/Tapping-Meditation-Spanish-Introduction-MariaOrtner.mp3

Haz clic derecho para guardar el audio

Haz click para la transcripción

.

Audio 2 – Meditación guiada, con Tapping
http://tappingsolution.s3.amazonaws.com/meditations/spanish/drafts/Tapping-Meditation-Spanish-Meditation1-MariaOrtner.mp3

Haz clic derecho para guardar el audio

Haz clic para la transcripción

La Solución Tapping: Un sistema revolucionario para deshacerte de tus miedos y tus límites

The Tapping Solution Book por Nick Ortner – Con prólogo del Dr. Mark Hyman

Precio regular: $15.94 (¡garantía de reintegro por 6 meses!)

La Solución Tapping – Un Sistema Revolucionario Para Deshacerte De Tus Miedos Y Tus Límites, un “bestseller” en el New York Times y en Amazon.com, enseña una manera rápida y efectiva de eliminar las verdaderas causas escondidas de cualquier desafío que te esté limitando, y todo con el uso del “Tapping” o “EFT”.

En este libro de fácil lectura, paso por paso, tanto para principiantes como para expertos, descubrirás cómo eliminar la frustración, el estrés, la ansiedad, y mucho más, usando el “Tapping.”

Descubrirás cómo llegar a las raíces de las causas de tus desafíos financieros, problemas de peso, problemas emocionales, dificultades para relacionarte, y tantos otros temas, y aprenderás cómo utilizar el Tapping para resolverlos en el momento, obteniendo resultados inmediatos.

¡Compre su libro hoy!

Hasta la próxima vez…

¡Sigue haciendo tapping!

The post Meditaciones con Tapping en Español appeared first on The Tapping Solution.

Related posts:


 Tapping and a few laughs…

 Cheryl Richardson from The Tapping Solution

 The Top 5 Mistakes People Make With EFT Tapping (And How To Correct Them)

Suddenly the Sole Provider

[image error]Teresa Mallon didn’t expect to be the sole family provider.  It just happened one day, when her ex-husband stopped working.

What happened a year later came as a genuine surprise.

Teresa’s income grew, and she was able to begin paying down her credit card debt while supporting herself and her three teenage sons.

It was a huge turn-around, not just financially, but in how she saw herself, her work, and her family.

Just months earlier, Teresa had been in a state of financial crisis.  As a part-time therapist, she hadn’t been prepared to support herself and her three boys by herself.

Before this new level of financial responsibility had been thrust on her, her life had already been uprooted.  She’d gotten divorced, and moved herself and her three sons to a new house.

To suddenly stop receiving any financial support from her ex-husband had been shocking, and devastating to her sense of security and sense of self.

Have you had that experience?  Been suddenly faced with major changes in your finances that rock the entire foundation of your life?

So many people I’ve worked with have had similar experiences, and it’s incredibly stressful!

Knowing that she needed to make significant changes, Teresa joined the Tapping Solution for Financial Success & Personal Fulfillment 7-Week Program.

Using tapping, she “took a brave leap to look at my relationship with money.”

She discovered that her relationship with money had been shaped by something else altogether – her relationship with herself.

After years of struggle, Teresa’s sense of her own value had been whittled down to almost nothing.  But while tapping, she was able to release years of anger, sadness, shame, and blame.

Once that incredible burden was lifted, Teresa’s life began to transform.  Her self-appreciation began to blossom, her income increased, and along with it, her financial security and peace of mind.

For the first time, she also began to feel comfortable with money.  As she explained,

“ l am working more, earning more and paying off my credit card debt at the same time as l pay for 3 teenage sons.  l am so grateful for all l have learned so far.  l now write in a gratitude journal nightly as my boys are in bed sleeping, giving thanks for the good that occurs each day.  Tap, tap, tap… every day l am growing in pride for my achievements.  l needed a helping hand, and still do, so thank you for giving out a hand for me to grab hold of and become able to lead to a life of thriving, not just surviving from my wounded places.”

Teresa was so excited about how tapping is changing her life that she asked me to share this photo (below) of herself and her three sons. It hangs on the wall in their home, a reminder to her that she needed to turn her life around not just for herself, but for her sons, as well.