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January 4, 2017
How to Experience Radical Change – and LOVE IT!
I want to talk to you today about a decision that could change your life forever. It’s the idea that a small moment, a small decision, that doesn’t SEEM radical, can create radical change.
Whoa… You say, “Radical change?” Who wants “Radical change?” Frankly, I think most of us do.
No, not change as in upheaval, distress, movement, etc.
Change as in, “Everything is better, feels better, life is flowing, relationships are healing, money is coming in, joy has come back into the very core of my being…”
That, to me, is Radical Change.
Why do we need Radical Change?
Because when I look around, most people are simply NOT feeling this way on a daily basis, or with any consistency.
It seems like we, as a society, have lowered the bar in a significant way.
It’s like an awful game of “Limbo”!
The issue is, there’s nobody out there in the mainstream media, in our communities, or in our families, looking at us and telling us, “You CAN feel good all the time!”
That message simply does not exist. Imagine that, it doesn’t EXIST! Look at the messages we are receiving if we dare to turn on the television. They say, “Here is happiness, joy, and abundance, all you have to do is take this little pill (and please ignore the list of horrible side effects, just look at the pretty pictures).
Or
“Here’s a great time with friends and family. Everyone looks great and healthy AND they’re drinking beer.”
Those are the “positive” messages.
If you actually watch the programming (and it is “programming”!) you are likely to see awful news on the “news”, or a game show where people are basically gambling to make any money, or a cop/detective show where someone is brutally killed in the first 5 minutes, and then we spend the next hour going after all the suspects and trying to uncover the mystery.
It’s almost laughable, if it were not so painful….
Now, you might say to me, “I don’t watch TV!” Well, that’s fantastic, a great start. So the questions then become, who are you interacting with? What are you talking about? What are you thinking about?
And if most of you take an honest look at that question, you’ll see it’s not a pretty picture.
So what do you do?
What do you do when everyone around you acts this way and it’s so much easier to “fit in” by just going along with it?
Easy to say, harder to do…
You make a CHOICE!
You make a CONSCIOUS CHOICE to no longer participate in energies that don’t support you and your well-being. You pay attention, close attention, to how something makes you feel and if it doesn’t make you feel good, you move away from it, stop speaking about it, turn it around.
And you use TAPPING, every step of the way, to make the whole process MUCH easier.
You might be wondering, how exactly do I do that? Let me give you an example:
You just got home from work, later than you wanted to… again. You’re tired, stressed, just fed the kids and put them to bed, and you’re overwhelmed with all the stress and responsibility. Your habit and instinct is to put on the TV and watch CSI (a crime show).
You think, it’s a well put together show, and entertaining, and you get to zone out for an hour, but you never feel great afterwards and you often have nightmares from the violence in the show. It would seem obvious not to watch it, but you’re just compelled to do so, and you just need to zone out…
Instead, here’s what you can do:
In that moment of making the choice between turning on the TV or not, you pause, tap on the karate chop point, and say, “Even though I’m totally stressed out, the kids are driving me crazy, work stinks, and I just want to disappear for an hour into the drama of that TV show, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
You repeat it three times while tapping on the karate chop point and then tap through each of the other points, repeating, “This stress… tap, tap, tap… I just want to watch TV… tap, tap, tap… I don’t have the energy to do anything else… tap, tap, tap…” and so forth, through the points.
You finish one round and take a deep breath… Sigh…
All of a sudden, something has shifted. Your body has relaxed in a big way. The stress has lifted just enough for you to say, “I feel ok, and I think I’m going to read my book…”
And that subtle but important choice, is ALL the difference.
Because you just keep making that better choice, again and again. And you just keep using Tapping to balance your energy and come to that place of peace.
Again and Again.
Tap, Tap, Tap
Sigh… I can now make the better choice.
Again and Again.
And next thing you know… Radical Change!
You feel better, happier, and more fulfilled.
Sigh…
Tap, Tap, Tap…
Radical Change IS possible. Start now! What can you tap on to bring some relief into your life? What empowering CHOICE can you make?
NOW.
Until next time….
Keep Tapping!
Did you do the tapping? How did it feel for you? Did you experience a Radical Change? Please leave me your comments below!
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Then the tears started flowing…
December 22, 2016
Leave What’s Heavy Behind
First off… wishing you a wonderful, safe, fun, joy-filled end to 2016!
I can’t wait to see what magic 2017 brings for you!
Secondly…
The other day I was driving to an event where I was speaking, and was listening to Spotify’s “Relax and Unwind” channel to prepare for it.
A song came on that wasn’t just musically beautiful, the lyrics also seemed to perfectly capture what that evening was all about…
I think it’s a PERFECT inspiration for 2017, for what our #1 biggest goal or resolution could be…
Listen to it and read the lyrics (and my comments on them) below.
Birdtalker – “Heavy” Lyrics [with my comments in brackets]
VERSE 1
If you’re lost and you’re lonely
Go and figure out why
[don’t just accept that pain, find out why it’s there]
Take a trip to your dark side
Go on and have a good cry
[Step 1 in Tapping: LOOK at the negative, the pain, the truth. Acknowledge it, have a good cry!]
Cause we’re all lonely
Yeah we’re all lonely
Together
[We tend to think we’re the only ones facing these challenges]
I want to see your sadness
I want to share your sins
I want to bleed your blood and
I want to be let in
[It’s in being vulnerable that we heal ourselves, our relationships, our lives]
Don’t you just,
Don’t we all just
Want to be together
[We sure do]
CHORUS
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
[That’s exactly what we do when we tap… We leave what’s heavy behind]
VERSE 2
If your face is down
Take a look around
Do your fingers move
Do your lungs inflate
Are you tired are you weary
Of the hidden hate
You’ve been holding
Yeah
[I see that “hidden hate” as old anger we haven’t fully let go of]
Did you lose that love
Or have you never had it
Are you feeling sad
because you did a bad thing
[A lost love, a love unfilled, sadness from past things you’ve done that you’re still holding on to…]
CHORUS
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
[It’s time to leave it behind, my friend…]
BRIDGE
Are you feeling fearful brother
Are you feeling fearful sister
The only way to lose
That fearful feeling
Replace it with love that’s healing
Are you feeling fearful brother
Are you feeling fearful sister
[Replace fear with love. We start tapping on the negative, then it magically opens up to the positive, the love]
CHORUS
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
[Yup, it’s time to leave it behind…]
Bookmark this page and listen to this song whenever you need a reminder to let go! Or buy and download the song to support these beautiful artists.
What did this song bring up for you? Comment below! Are you ready to leave what’s heavy behind in 2017?
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Leave what’s heavy behind
First off… wishing you a wonderful, safe, fun, joy-filled end to 2016!
I can’t wait to see what magic 2017 brings for you!
Secondly…
The other day I was driving to an event where I was speaking, and was listening to Spotify’s “Relax and Unwind” channel to prepare for it.
A song came on that wasn’t just musically beautiful, the lyrics also seemed to perfectly capture what that evening was all about…
I think it’s a PERFECT inspiration for 2017, for what our #1 biggest goal or resolution could be…
Listen to it and read the lyrics (and my comments on them) below.
Birdtalker – “Heavy” Lyrics [with my comments in brackets]
VERSE 1
If you’re lost and you’re lonely
Go and figure out why
[don’t just accept that pain, find out why it’s there]
Take a trip to your dark side
Go on and have a good cry
[Step 1 in Tapping: LOOK at the negative, the pain, the truth. Acknowledge it, have a good cry!]
Cause we’re all lonely
Yeah we’re all lonely
Together
[We tend think we’re the only ones facing these challenges]
I want to see your sadness
I want to share your sins
I want to bleed your blood and
I want to be let in
[It’s in being vulnerable that we heal ourselves, our relationships, our life]
Don’t you just,
Don’t we all just
Want to be together
[We sure do]
CHORUS
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
[That’s exactly what we do when we tap… We leave what’s heavy behind]
VERSE 2
If your face is down
Take a look around
Do your fingers move
Do your lungs inflate
Are you tired are you weary
Of the hidden hate
You’ve been holding
Yeah
[I see that “hidden hate” as old anger we haven’t fully let go of]
Did you lose that love
Or have you never had it
Are you feeling sad
because you did a bad thing
[A lost love, a love unfilled, sadness from past things you’ve done that you’re still holding on to…]
CHORUS
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
[It’s time to leave it behind, my friend…]
BRIDGE
Are you feeling fearful brother
Are you feeling fearful sister
The only way to loose
That fearful feeling
Replace it with love that’s healing
Are you feeling fearful brother
Are you feeling fearful sister
[Replace fear with love. We start tapping on the negative, then it magically opens up to the positive, the love]
CHORUS
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
Leave what’s heavy,
What’s heavy behind
[Yup, it’s time to leave it behind…]
Bookmark this page and listen to this song whenever you need a reminder to let go! Or buy and download the song to support these beautiful artists.
What did this song bring up for you? Comment below! Are you ready to leave what’s heavy behind in 2017?
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The Tapping World Summit 2017
Wow! I can’t believe that 2017 marks our 9th annual Tapping World Summit!
It seems like yesterday that The Tapping Solution launched its first one…
And we’re excited about making 2017 the BEST Tapping World Summit ever!
They just get better every year. 
December 20, 2016
FOUR things to let go of this holiday season…
There are FOUR things that you might just be able to let go of this holiday season…
And if you do…
Oh boy… it’s going to be a good one. But if you don’t… well, it might be a little tricky. 
A Taste of My Own Medicine (How Gratitude Can Change Your Life)
Read this post if…
You fall into the trap of thinking everyone else has it all figured out (especially the “experts”) and you’re the only one who can’t seem to get it right!
I had to laugh at myself the other day…
In the midst of editing my next book, “The Tapping Solution for Manifesting Your Greatest Self” (Fall 2017), I was… shall we say… a bit stressed.
I felt overwhelmed, rushed, just too much to do and not enough time to do it. I had to get this editing done, and we were in the midst of launching my brother Alex’s new (amazing) kids book, which was exciting but taking a lot of work.
I was tired from a live event I had held just a few days earlier for my local community of Newtown, CT, an amazing evening where we came together to tap and heal. I could feel the pressure of so much to do, so many projects, so many people to help, so much creative energy to unleash… and it was just a bit much.
And of course, I was editing a book about the importance of releasing the stress response… About how to bring our deepest resources back online. About how we manifest our greatest self not by being miserable, and pushing and striving and stressing, but by letting go, being present, being grateful, and releasing these old patterns.
But…
Umm…
I wasn’t following my own advice. It’s funny isn’t it? Stressing out while editing a chapter about not stressing? Lol! Yes, I am profoundly human.
But… in that moment, I said to myself, as you’ve probably often said to yourself, “This isn’t working” and “What if I did something different? What if there was a better way?”
Fortunately, that better way was literally at my fingertips…
It was both within the text of what I was editing and within the magic of Tapping.
The particular chapter or “day” (it’s a 21-day process) I was working on was about gratitude and how we each respond to success differently. I’m sure the idea of gratitude and its importance isn’t new to you as a concept, but if you’re not using it consistently, well… then it doesn’t do any good!
So I paused, recognized I wanted to have a different experience of life and a better approach, and I used the tapping within the chapter itself.
I took the time to actually CELEBRATE the amazing things that were happening, as opposed to rushing on to the next thing.
I tapped in celebration of launching a kids book that I truly think will change lives around the world (we’re already getting incredible feedback from it). I took the time to really FEEL the love and beauty behind the Newtown event – the years of work that led up to that and the continued dedication to a mission of healing.
I looked at my bookshelf, which is lined with Tapping Solution books (including over 30 foreign translations which are just the coolest thing ever) and really, almost for the first time, took in the joy and magic of it.
There is beauty ALL around you.
There is success ALL around you.
There is love ALL around you.
But you have to stop to notice it. And then you have to stop again to notice it. And then again.
Because that’s where the magic of life lives. That’s where the miracles unfold, from that state of gratitude, from that place of joy.
To help you do that today, here’s an excerpt from what I’ve been working on. It’ll be a little out of context because it’s not the whole chapter, but I pulled the tapping section out so you could do some tapping now. If you’re new to Tapping, learn the basics here.
I hope you enjoy it and use it to SAVOR your amazing life!
Savoring The Smaller Wins
When you think back on recent days, what everyday “wins” have you had?
For starters you’re on day 5 of this book.
That’s a win unto itself! (Please accept my virtual congratulations and big hug for making it this far!)
You’re also probably not climbing Mount Everest, which means you’re far less likely to suffer frostbite. (reference to earlier in the chapter!)
Win #2!
Really think about what good has happened in your life.
Have you tapped today? That’s a win.
Did you go to bed earlier and wake up feeling more rested? Great!
Were you calmer than usual when you got stuck in traffic? Well done.
Were you more patient with your children, spouse, or co-worker? Impressive.
Think back on the last few days or week, and notice any and all victories.
Either on paper or in your mind, list three of those wins now:
My 1st win is _______________
My 2nd win is _______________
My 3rd win is _______________
With your list in mind, we’re going to do some positive tapping.
Positive tapping is a powerful way to train your brain and body to notice those everyday wins in your life, and feel the positive emotion they can generate.
To start, focus on your list of wins, and notice how much positive emotion you feel.
Give that positive emotion a number on a scale of 0 – 10, with 10 being the most positive (joyful or grateful, excited, etc.) that you can imagine feeling.
With positive tapping, instead of lowering stress, the goal is to elevate positive emotion. This means that your goal is to INCREASE you SUDS number, which is the number of intensity scale.
For example, if your joy begins at a 3 out of 10, you goal with positive tapping is to make the number go up, perhaps to a 5 out of 10, or 8 out of 10.
So let’s get started!
Take three deep breaths.
We’ll begin by tapping three times on the Karate Chop point.
KC (Repeat three times): Even though I forgot to notice the good in my life, I can see it now and let myself feel joy and gratitude.
Eyebrow: I [insert win #1]
Side of Eye: It feels good to notice!
Under Eye: I also [insert win #2]
Under Nose: It feel good to notice this, too!
Under Mouth: I also [insert win #3]
Collarbone: It feels great to notice all of this!
Under Arm: It’s safe to feel good about this
Top of Head: It feels weird to celebrate these little wins
Eyebrow: I forget to notice them most of the time
Side of Eye: I can see them now
Under Eye: I can see that they resulted from positive choices
Under Nose: I can start noticing these everyday wins more often
Under Mouth: And let myself celebrate each one
Collarbone: I can feel more joy more often
Under Arm: I can stop and feel gratitude for these everyday victories
Top of Head: Even though they seem small and meaningless sometimes
Eyebrow: I can stop and notice them
Side of Eye: I can feel joy about them
Under Eye: I can give them the meaning they deserve
Under Nose: It’s safe to feel this joy more often
Under Mouth: It’s safe to notice these little things
Collarbone: It’s safe to value these everyday wins
Under Arm: Letting myself feel joy now
Top of Head: Feeling joy and gratitude now
Take a deep breath. Give your positive emotion a number on a scale of 0 – 10. Keep tapping until you get the desired effect.
Tapping Tip: If at any point, you struggle to feel genuine positive emotion from positive tapping, you may need to release something negative first, before positive tapping can feel authentic.
If that happens, pause your positive tapping and do a few rounds of tapping while asking yourself questions like:
Why can’t I feel good about these everyday wins?
What is holding me back from feeling more joy about them?
Once you have a clearer sense of why positive tapping isn’t resonating, tap on releasing the negative emotion, limiting belief and/or event that’s distracting you. Then, when that negative charge has gone down and you are ready, return to positive tapping.
Comment: What came up for you in this Tapping? How important is gratitude in your life?
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December 19, 2016
Tapping Meditation for Morning Clearing with Jessica Ortner
6 mins and 51 seconds…
Is that enough time to completely transform your day?
Is that enough time to shift your energy, to release stress and anxiety, and to draw in new, positive energy into your life?
Find out if that is enough by pressing the play button above. In this video, you’ll find a free, short morning Tapping Meditation.
Here’s the deal: You can either keep powering through your day, running the same patterns over and over and getting the same results, or you can find the space, the presence, and the guidance to try something different.
(AND there is no better time to do this than during this often busy and hectic holiday season!)
Those who use this morning meditation regularly, report a whole new experience of life.
Life actually changes when WE change.
Now it’s your turn. Press the play button above!
Until next time…
Keep Tapping!
How do you feel after listening to that Tapping Meditation for morning clearing? Please leave me your comments below!
An Evening of Healing and Transformation
Two weeks ago, I held a free event here in my hometown of Newtown, Connecticut: “An Evening of Healing and Transformation”.
You might know that Newtown was the site of the Sandy Hook school shootings back in 2012, and what prompted us to form The Tapping Solution Foundation in order to provide stress and trauma relief to the local community.
In a beautiful local theatre that seats 500 people (where I used to watch $2 movies when I was growing up!), we gathered to talk, tap, and find ways to heal.
I’ve been trying to write about the evening to tell you about what happened, but some experiences are so complex, so full of mystical meaning and hope, that they’re hard to put into words.
So I’ll just say this…
It was magical. It was healing. It filled me with the knowing that within darkness, light ALWAYS shines.
Here are a few pictures from that night…
Edmond Town Hall – The most beautiful setting for this amazing event
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So neat to see “The Tapping Solution” name where they normally show what movie is playing that night!
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Welcome!
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Chatting and Tapping with some members from the audience
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The view from the top!
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My brother Alex, and dear friend Erin Mariano (the illustrator), signing “Gorilla Thumps and Bear Hugs” our new Tapping Solution kids book. Everyone who attended received a free copy of the book and we’re already seeing it being used with kids.
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Love wins!
Until next time…
Keep Tapping!
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December 13, 2016
Make yourself happy by doing this one thing…
Have you ever heard the phrase “Money can’t buy you happiness”?
Well, new research is in fact showing that it actually can make you happy… but only if you spend it in a certain way.
I think you’ll find this fascinating…
Check out this short Ted talk where Michael Norton describes the research and how it could help make YOU happy during this holiday season, just by doing one important thing:
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Project Light: From Rwanda to Newtown – A Journey of Hope, Healing, and Possibility
If you’ve been with us for a little while, you might know about the work we’ve been supporting in Rwanda for the past several years, helping genocide survivors through the use of Tapping.
You might also know that I live in Newtown, Connecticut, the site of the Sandy Hook school shootings, and started The Tapping Solution Foundation in order to provide stress and trauma relief to the local community.
The work we’ve been doing on the ground here has been profound, extremely well received, and effective!
And some of the many miracles that have happened, not only here in Newtown but around the world, are simply breathtaking.
Especially the powerful connection between Rwanda and Newtown, the levels of healing that have occurred, and the possibilities for the future.
To show you the power of Tapping in transforming ourselves and the world, we’re showing a powerful documentary film for free entitled:
Project Light: From Rwanda to Newtown – A Journey of Hope, Healing, and Possibility
I think this film will help show you what’s possible in your life when you use Tapping…
Here’s why I think it’s so important for you to view this movie, and I urge you to share it with everyone you know:
• It will give you profound hope about humanity and its potential for the future.
• If you’ve faced any trauma in your life, big or small, it will explain much of what its effect has been, and how you can heal it.
• It’s guaranteed to make you laugh and cry, sometimes both at the same time!
December 12, 2016
You’re like Voodoo… (But good Voodoo!)
“You’re like Voodoo… but good Voodoo!”
That’s what Rebecca, who lost her son Chase in the Sandy Hook school shootings, said to me just a few weeks ago.
In our continuing work in my hometown of Newtown, CT, I’ve had the pleasure of meeting and working with Rebecca over the past few months.
And every time we get together, she’s shocked at just how well Tapping works, and how strange it is that it’s so powerful (thus the Voodoo!).
The weight, fear, sadness, and stress lift right off of her shoulders.
I asked her to tell me more about her experiences, and here’s what she said…
“I couldn’t be more thrilled with my experience tapping. Tapping takes the mean girl in my head and makes her quiet, I feel more in control.
I am new to Tapping and I don’t fully understand how it works, but I can tell you 100% it calms the feelings of self-doubt and insecurities I have. I can walk into a session a hot mess full of tears and walk out feeling confident, feeling stronger, and feeling like I can do what I need to do to help myself feel good about me again.
I leave the negative behind, and I love that I am able to love and accept myself for who I am and for how I choose to evolve into the new and better me.
We lost our son Chase four years ago, and I thought I had dealt with his tragic death. What I didn’t realize, it was just buried and compartmentalized. So Nick took me back to that day and we were able to release a lot of the feelings that had been hiding.
I will forever be thankful to Nick for releasing that day, and for helping me move forward and conquer other issues that have been buried for decades.“
The work here continues, and it’s expanding in beautiful ways!
If you’d like to learn more about it, I invite you to view a film we made, in collaboration with my friend Dr. Lori Leyden, titled:
Project Light: From Rwanda To Newtown – A Journey Of Hope, Healing, and Possibility
We’re streaming the film for FREE!
You can view it here or press the play button on the image below.
We’re also doing some fundraising during this holiday time period.
If you donate any amount of money (even a dollar!) I’ll gift you a $97 package of 10 Tapping Meditations!
December 14th is the fourth anniversary of the Sandy Hook shooting, and our commitment to help this town heal continues on a daily basis.
In fact, I’m finding that more and more people are coming to us at this point, once they realize the traditional solutions just simply aren’t cutting it.
I’ll be sure to keep you updated as the work progresses, and you can also learn more about the Foundation itself and its life-changing efforts by going here.
Until next time…
Keep Tapping!
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