Bryant McGill's Blog, page 39

Disappointment is coming, for sure!

Disappointment is coming, for sure! People are going to hurt you in ways you would never have believed even possible. You are going to be let-down and deeply betrayed. And there is only one thing to do when you are tragically let down — let-go. No matter how wrong they were, holding on will not make it right, it will only eat you alive over time. You are worthy of not reacting negatively to negativity. Don't let them kill you twice. Letting go is the only way. Quit hanging on to the past; fan...

Beneath the suffering we are all the same vast beings

This life can be brutal, but it is never harder than when you feel alone. Aloneness is one of the great illusions of the world. When we feel alone we forget our great commonality. We can then become pessimistic or fatalistic about life. You are not alone and there is so much goodness in the world. Our goodness is so resilient and ever wanting to express and serve. You can escape from ugliness and flee to reverence, beauty and awe. Seek out spiritual communion with nature and different ideas a...

All conflict can be resolved by listening

"All conflict can be resolved by listening."
— Bryant McGill

Embracing failure and staying positive and enthusiastic

You know how your old entrenched bad habits harm you. You know how your negative self-talk and limiting beliefs continue to paralyze you. You know how you have talked about "change" and "working on yourself" forever, but it never seems to happen. Abandon your excuses and fears, and move forward. Don't be afraid of failure. Don't fool yourself — everyone fails constantly. Failure is an essential part of the success process. Embrace it. When you make a mistake or something doesn't turn-out righ...

Beyond right and wrong to the genesis of new understandings

When you are embroiled in conflict, disagreement or a challenging and painful circumstance remember that this is the time to practice openness. There is seldom a clear solution to complex problems and sometimes the best way to find a solution is to not look for it. Instead of looking for a solution try to expand widely in openness and communications. Don't listen to critics who may say your ideas are useless because they are without a clear solution. It is also unnecessary that everyone be of...

Basic respect for life is the foundation for treating all people and all life with the utmost dignity

I remember in vivid detail the moment each of my daughters were born into life's keeping. Two things about that moment had a true, lasting impact on me: What I consider most awe-inspiring was their very first amazing and miraculous breath and with that breath the animations of life and their helpless, compelling cries. I have thought intently about it over the years, about its profound implications on my understanding of the mysterious world around us and ultimately about its beauties. The se...

Keeping steady and true to your principled journey toward success

Do you sometimes feel like being honest has held you back? Of course no one wants to believe this, but in a dog-eat-dog world any of us can become disillusioned. It can seem that the honest people go nowhere, while undeserving snakes slithered ahead. As much as this may seem true it is only part of the story and in many ways it is an illusion. It is a common false impression because as you are moving-up, you sometimes, depending on where you started, pass through a strata of people who have n...

All beautiful things carry distinctions of imperfection

We are all damaged. We have all been hurt. We have all had to learn painful lessons. We are all recovering from some mistake, loss, betrayal, abuse, injustice or misfortune. All of life is a process of recovery that never ends. We each must find ways to accept and move through the pain and to pick ourselves back up. For each paign of grief, depression, doubt or despair there is an inverse toward renewal coming to you in time. Each tragedy is an announcement that some good will indeed come in...

If you act falsely everything around you will be false

Do you want to avoid a meltdown? Start with being a little selfish and irresponsible occasionally. It's okay to flirt with disaster a little. Some people need a little risk to feel alive. You can still be a solid person and have a little adventure in your life. People who deny themselves the space for adventure often snap and lose their whole stable life just for a little excitement, when a brief experience would have sufficed. You don't have to always play it so safe; the grave is very safe....

You become rich by having a rich heart

"You become rich by having a rich heart. You become wealthy by spending your poverty well and kindly."
— Bryant McGill