Bryant McGill's Blog, page 41

You are the angel of your own life

"Remember that you are the angel of your own life. Look past your ugly thinking; your fears, mistakes, worries and doubts. Your struggles seem to be external, but we are always destroyed from the inside out. The way you transcend your challenges is by listening to the inner-guide within you. Your good judgment, your discernment, your kind thoughts and your own loving heart — in service of your highest good — is the angel you have been looking for to deliver you. The moment you accept your own...

The difference is called freedom

"There is a difference between loyalty and bondage. There is a difference between faithfulness and fearfulness. There is a difference between being devoted and being dominated. The difference is called freedom, and it is all the difference in the world. This is your life and you get to choose what is acceptable in your relationships with absolute authority. Don't give your authority to someone who will abuses your trust. If you have mistakenly entrusted your authority to an abuser; revoke and...

Your biggest opportunity for growth

"Whatever makes you uncomfortable is your biggest opportunity for growth."
— Bryant McGill

Do not underestimate your power of influence

"In today's world, any average effort or caring is a triumph. Don't underestimate your power of influence. Simple caring and simple effort are heroic strivings. Those who have attained wisdom from the difficulties intrinsic to every life — can and should try to be there for others. Like experienced midwives, we should all assist those who are inexperienced in the painful birthing of psychological maturity and greater spiritual consciousness. This is the least we can do; lead people from their...

Maybe it is time to stand-up for yourself

"If they were really strong they wouldn't yell, they would reassure. If they were really strong they wouldn't put you down, they would lift you up. Maybe you're the one who is really strong. Maybe they just want to hold you back. Maybe it's time to stand-up for yourself!"
— Bryant McGill

Toxic relationships wake-up call

"Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. There is an undeniable mind-body connection. Your arguments and hateful talk can land you in the emergency room or in the morgue. You were not meant to live in a fever of anxiety; screaming yourself hoarse in a frenzy of dreadful, panicked fight-or-flight that leaves you exhausted and numb with grief. You were not meant to live like animals tearing...

Handling the moments of profound loss and pain

How do we handle the moments of profound loss and pain? I have been so low before that all I could do is get through one breath at a time and one heartbeat at a time. Sometimes all we have left is to try to make it breath by breath. Have you been there in that surreal space; disoriented — a numb humming, like ringing ears from an explosion, but an explosion of trauma or bad news? Your disbelief simply will not make it go away. Everything seems in slow motion; hope like a tiny speck at the end...

It will feel impossible; like you are dying inside

"It will feel impossible; like you are dying inside — this is your soul crying out for life. It may take everything you have; every ounce of will and strength. You will lose a part of yourself trying to save something essential and innocent. And when you have given everything, you will recover and you will be set free, and you will discover there was even more in you than you ever knew."
— Bryant McGill

Forgiving another may be the ultimate act of self-love

They caused the first wound, but you are causing the rest; this is what not forgiving does. They got it started but you keep it going. Forgive and let it go, or it will eat you alive. You think they made you feel this way, but when you won't forgive, you are the one inflicting the pain on yourself.

Whatever you do — don't wait to forgive someone until they ask for your forgiveness or acknowledge they have harmed you. If you are waiting for someone to acknowledge they hurt you, you could be wai...

Monstrous sociopath-like disengagement

"We are told to love people unconditionally, but sometimes we must get rid of people unconditionally. Some toxic people just keep slithering and oozing in through the cracks in your resolve; they refuse to respect your boundaries. No more mixed messages. You must learn how to close a door permanently. Cut and cauterize. Monstrous sociopath-like disengagement is your right. Your life is worth more. Don't waste another minute. Let them say you are awful. Block, ban, delete and disconnect. Compa...