Bryant McGill's Blog, page 42
March 5, 2015
Monstrous sociopath-like disengagementp
"We are told to love people unconditionally, but sometimes we must get rid of people unconditionally. Some toxic people just keep slithering and oozing in through the cracks in your resolve; they refuse to respect your boundaries. No more mixed messages. You must learn how to close a door permanently. Cut and cauterize. Monstrous sociopath-like disengagement is your right. Your life is worth more. Don't waste another minute. Let them say you are awful. Block, ban, delete and disconnect. Compa...
How we steady ourselves against the great trials of life
No matter how evolved we think we are, when we are caught up in a terrible tragedy we aren't sitting around wondering what lessons we can learn from it — we are just holding on for dear life hoping we can survive. Tragedy arrives in a blur; hopelessness, feigned calm and a fog-like numbness that feels like a surreal dream. The last thing we may need when in moments of tremendous trial is empty reassurances that it will all be ok. Oftentimes, it most certainly will not be ok. What it will like...
The repayment for your good acts are the good acts themselves
When you are generous, sometimes people will take advantage. You may be respectful and yet people will be unkind. You may be a good person, and people will nonetheless treat you terribly. We don't always get what we give, but that's fine, because you aren't giving it for them anyway, at least not exclusively. It's really all a statement by, about and for you. How you treat others is really about who you choose to be in this life. The repayment for your good acts are the good acts themselves....
March 4, 2015
Break the bonds of your abuser-victim relationship
"Forgiveness has nothing whatsoever to do with how wrong someone else was; no matter how evil, cruel, narcissistic or unrepentant they are, when you forgive a person, you break the unhealthy bonds between you and your abuser-victim relationship, and you redefine yourself as an independent victor in your own life."
— Bryant McGill
March 3, 2015
People are responsible for their own happiness
"Don't waste your time, money, energy and love on someone who is unappreciative and brings heartache into your life. Everyone may deserve love, but not everyone deserves your love."
— Bryant McGill
March 2, 2015
People are responsible for their own happiness
"You are not responsible for other people's happiness and they are not responsible for yours."
— Bryant McGill
March 1, 2015
Sometimes we hurt ourselves the way we struggle
"Sometimes we hurt ourselves the way we struggle and resist. Not just force; but finess. Not just battle; but tact. Acceptance can be its own form of dominant resistance — because survival is resistance."
— Bryant McGill
Viciousness
"When someone is vicious toward you they are giving you a glimpse of the pain they carry in themselves. Viciousness is suffering."
— Bryant McGill
When pigs fly
"When pigs fly... People will treat you the way you treat them; You will never be judged by appearances; You will never be taken for granted; Your heart will never be broken again; People will know what you have been through. When you fly... None of those things will matter. Spread your own wings and soar!"
— Bryant McGill
February 28, 2015
Breaking a piece of your heart off
"Escaping a toxic relationship can feel like breaking a piece of your heart off; like a wolf chews its leg off to escape a steel trap. Leaving is never easy, but sometimes it's necessary to save yourself and others from dying inside."
— Bryant McGill
