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The Caretaking Pattern

Here is another article about a pattern from the Pattern SystemSM. It tells the story of someone with the pattern and how they worked it through and developed the Self-Interst Capacity. The Caretaking Pattern If you have the Caretaking Pattern, you are caring and compassionate toward others, but often at the expense of your own [...]

Family Service Agency of the Central Coast Presents a One Day Seminar/Workshop

Internal Family Systems: Eating Disorders Richard Schwartz, Ph.D. When:    Saturday, January 14, 2012 Time:     9:00 A.M. to 4:00 P.M Where:  Seacliff Inn                   7500 Old Dominion Court                  Aptos, CA Course description: Eating disorder clients often say that they don't know who they are and have no sense of Self.  Instead they [...]

Winter Schedule of Phone Classes

We have a schedule of interesting phone classes this winter, including a new class on procrastination and a new time for the IFS Basic Class that should make it accessible to people in Europe. Winter 2011 Introductory Phone Calls Intro Call on IFS Taught by Bonnie Weiss Monday 10am – 12 noon pacific (1-3pm eastern) [...]

Working Through Procrastination and Achieving Your Goals

This article is one of a series on the Pattern System, a way of understanding personality that looks at the various parts of your psyche rather than your personality as a whole. Each article focuses on a specific personality pattern. This one highlights the Procrastination Pattern. Read over the following statements to see if they [...]

The Interpersonal Dimensions in the Pattern System

The Pattern System contains ten interpersonal dimensions, each of which describes a certain aspect of human relating. Each dimension contains both problematic patterns of relating and healthy capacities. By exploring a dimension, you can determine what your strengths and problems are in that area, so you know what issues to work on and what capacities [...]

Self-Expressions: A Part Art Gallery

I am ecstatic to announce the launching of Self Expressions: a free website for Part Artists to share their work and communicate with each other. Part Artists are people who represent the various parts of themselves through visual art. Many of these artists understand their internal landscape through the ideas described in Internal Family Systems [...]

Story of Passive Aggressive Pattern and Assertiveness Capacity

Passive Aggressive Pattern Description If you have the Passive Aggressive Pattern, you tend to act in a way that looks like you are agreeable and pleasing, on the surface, but in the end your behavior either hurts people or frustrates them. You may only be aware of your surface desire to please people. You may [...]

Patterns of Relating Phone Class

You have probably been reading the articles and stories I have been sending out over the last six months on various patterns, capacities, and dimensions in the Pattern System. Now I will be offering a six-week class that will cover the major interpersonal dimensions. The Pattern System is a systematic way of understanding your personality [...]

A Story of the Controlling Pattern and Cooperative Capacity

Here is a story about another one of the interpersonal patterns in the Pattern System and the corresponding healthy capacity. This is one of the patterns I will be covering in the upcoming class. Controlling Description If you have the [Controlling] Pattern, you often need to get your way, or be in charge of people [...]

Story of Defiant Pattern and Cooperative Capacity

Defiant Pattern You tend to rebel against people in authority by resisting or fighting against what they want from you, whether it is actually bad for you or not. You tend to oppose people by being rigid and confrontational, and this often leads to arguments or power struggles. You feel like people are trying to [...]