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July 28, 2014
Which Will You Choose This Week?
A couple months ago I shared the story of my daughter scoffing incredulously at the idea that I would call myself a “happy” person. That was hard for me to hear because most of the time I feel happy and optimistic on the inside, but it seems that the people who live with me every day — and those who are most precious to me — end up absorbing the stressed out, unhappy moments instead.
I hope you’re not tired of hearing about my efforts to live and embrace joy this year, because I’m still thinking about both a lot. I have a feeling this year will be a banner year in my life, and I hope the things I’m learning and striving for will characterize my life moving forward.
For the past few months, I’ve been collecting quotes on the type of life I want to lead, starting with the one I got tattooed on my wrists.
As we start a new week, I’m going to keep these top of mind and practice choosing happiness. Will you join me?
“Love to live. Live to love.”
~Amy Carmichael
“Instructions for living a life: Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.”
~Mary Oliver
“What’s your favorite thing about your mother?”
“She loves life more than anyone I’ve ever known. I hope she doesn’t mind me telling you this, but recently she’s had some health problems. And her health got so bad at one point, she called me and said: ‘I was starting to wonder if there was any reason to go on. But then I had the most delicious pear!’”
~Photo caption from Humans of New York
“I begin to suspect that the world is divided not only into the happy and the unhappy, but into those who like happiness and those who, odd as it seems, really don’t.”
~C.S. Lewis
“An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered. An inconvenience is only an adventure wrongly considered.”
~Gilbert K. Chesterton
P.S. This trick is still working for us when somebody’s feeling grumpy.

Mandi Ehman is the blogger behind Life Your Way. She and her husband have four beautiful girls plus one baby boy, and together they live, work and homeschool on a little slice of heaven in wild, wonderful West Virginia. Mandi loves coffee, chocolate, easy meals, beautiful things and minimalist spaces.
Which Will You Choose This Week?
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July 26, 2014
Giveaway: Net Nanny 1-Year Membership (2 Winners!)
While I try not to be overly fearful as a parent, the internet is a scary place for kids, where a wrong keystroke can take kids from the educational site they’re trying to access to pornography that will affect them forever.
As parents, our rule is that the computer is kept in our main living area so that our kids know that someone could walk by at any minute, just to eliminate the temptation of sneaking around on the ‘net. However, even YouTube or Google can be a scary place, and it’s not hard to stumble upon inappropriate content when doing innocent searches.
In fact, did you know…
Most kids are first exposed to porn at less than 11 years of age?
An unsolicited image is the beginning of a long battle with porn addiction?
1 in 5 children ages 10-17 have been approached for sex online?
57% of kids have accidentally accessed inappropriate material online?
75% of these young people do not tell their parents about these incidents?
The porn industry is now the 7th largest industry in the U.S.?
Unprotected Internet access can lead to identity theft, cyberbullying, and social network dangers?
The folks at Net Nanny know that most kids aren’t seeking out this inappropriate material, and their goal is to protect kids from cyber bullying, predators, unwanted charges, and more through comprehensive tools for every device in your home:
Net Nanny for Windows and Mac ($39.99/year)
Net Nanny for Android ($12.99/year)
Net Nanny for iOS (iPhone, iPad, and iPod Touch ($4.99/year)
Net Nanny Social (Facebook, Tumblr, Pinterest, Instagram, Twitter, Google+ and LinkedIn —whether accessed on from a smartphone, PC, or tablet; $19.99/year)
Net Nanny 3.0 for Mac ($39.99/year)
To protect kids, Net Nanny uses proprietary technology that includes:
Dynamic content filtering: Offensive material is removed according to your settings
Parental controls: Set access by specific keywords, games, and websites according to each user
Email alerts: Have emails sent to you when your child visits inappropriate sites
Social media monitoring: You can monitor your child’s posts and chats on Facebook
Enter to Win
This week, Net Nanny is giving TWO lucky Life Your Way readers each a 1-year membership for the computer of their choice (PC or Mac)!
To enter, fill out the form below:
The giveaway ends at 11:59 p.m. ET on Friday, 7/11. The winner will be selected randomly and notified by email, and this post will be updated with their name as well. Unfortunately, due to the international laws governing sweepstakes and lotteries, we’re only able to offer these giveaways to U.S. residents 18 years and older.
Giveaway: Net Nanny 1-Year Membership (2 Winners!)
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Weekend Reading: July 26, 2014
From Instagram: My schedule is so screwy because our summer has been so crazy! It goes like this: We do something fun during the day. Then I stay up late working. But I still get up early because I LOVE my morning hours. And then midmorning I am just DONE for the day…which means I’ll be up late working when my second wind kicks in. I need a caffeine IV!
I don’t really have much to add to that picture caption other than to say I am flat-out exhausted — physically and mentally. Honestly, it’s like my brain refuses to dump the stress because I feel like I’m still trying to hold onto and organize all of this information in my head, even though I’ve written everything down multiple times.
It goes a little like this:
“Soccer is starting. We need cleats. And socks. I think I have shin guards. Where are those shin guards? Wait, is that the weekend we’re going to my Dad’s? Does that interfere with soccer games? Can I move it to — nope, have an Essentials meeting that day. Oh! Peyton still needs a binder and school supplies. I wanted to take her shopping to make it special. Shoot — I also need to order our American Heritage Girls stuff. And get the uniforms out of the attic. September? How did we get this close to September already?”
Anyone else relate? (I know you do…)
Here are some of my favorite posts from this week. As always, check out what I’m reading and what I’m pinning to see the other posts that make me stop and think (or, you know, drool…). You’ll find new posts all week long!
What I Want You to Know About Essential Oils
I love natural remedies, and it never ceases to amaze me how much goodness can be found in the plants that grow all around us. While our family uses essential oils, we use them with caution. These posts highlight some of the reasons why we approach them the way we do:
A Short PSA: Using Caution and Care with Essential Oils | SortaCrunchy
A Survivor’s Guide to the Essential Oil Craze | Madhupa Maypop
For Your Mama Heart
What You Probably Need to Hear the Most Right Now | Scissortail SILK
The gray hair, it’s growing on me | The Art of Simple
Social Media Gone Bad
Local Woman Prints iPhone Photos Leaving Friends and Family Shocked | PetaPixel
Why you’re worth more than the perfect selfie | Finding Joy
A Diet of Distraction | Unfiltered
Scientists Link Selfies To Narcissism, Addiction & Mental Illness |Collective Evolution
Have a great weekend!

Mandi Ehman is the blogger behind Life Your Way. She and her husband have four beautiful girls plus one baby boy, and together they live, work and homeschool on a little slice of heaven in wild, wonderful West Virginia. Mandi loves coffee, chocolate, easy meals, beautiful things and minimalist spaces.
Weekend Reading: July 26, 2014
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July 25, 2014
Question of the Day: Do You Judge Books by Their Covers?
Back when Life Your Way was Organizing Your Way, we used to do a weekly “Question of the Day” feature, and I thought it would be fun to bring it back from time to time!
Last night I bought books for our upcoming school year, which is my very, very favorite part of homeschooling.
Don’t get me wrong: I’d have books even if we weren’t homeschooling, but this way I can totally justify the purchase of a ton of books as part of my curriculum budget!
Anyway, in years past I’ve spent hours and hours putting together the perfect list of books to go with our curriculum. This year, however, I’m feeling stretched from all sides, and I decided to breeze through the unofficial booklist from Brandy at Half-a-Hundred Acre Woods and select a few books for each topic without worrying about evaluating all of the options.
About halfway through the process last night, I realized that I was totally judging books by their covers. I want pretty, interesting books, not boring, stodgy-looking ones, even if the information in the “ugly” books is better!
I probably made some poor decisions with that as my criteria, but it did make the process a lot faster, and I ended the night with an order for 100 new-to-us books for our library!
So today I want to know…do you judge books by their covers?
Do you do it more for children’s books or books for yourself? Fiction or nonfiction? Have you ever discovered an ugly book you love that you originally overlooked because of its cover?
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Mandi Ehman is the blogger behind Life Your Way. She and her husband have four beautiful girls plus one baby boy, and together they live, work and homeschool on a little slice of heaven in wild, wonderful West Virginia. Mandi loves coffee, chocolate, easy meals, beautiful things and minimalist spaces.
Question of the Day: Do You Judge Books by Their Covers?
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CommentsOh, I do, too! I think publishers are more aware of this now ... by KristenI definitely do for myself, my son, and my classroom. There are ... by mmm619I don't so much for me but probably tended to more for the ... by Donna ParsonsI hate to say it, but I do too. Even if it is a book that was ... by Victoria @ Creative Home KeepeYes I do that too! I am sure I have overlooked plenty of good ... by Sara KilpatrickI totally do the same thing. I'm in the same boat with book ... by Hilarie LaughmanRelated Stories9 Picture Book Treasuries for Your Home LibraryAny Bets on How Many of These Books I’ll Actually Read? {Summer Reading List}Who’s Your Favorite Strong Female Character?
July 24, 2014
Inspiration for Entrepreneurs and Small Business Owners {Free Printable!}
The following post is from Jason & Jennifer Bruce of New Season Design :
As a small business owner, I occasionally find myself discouraged. I question why I’m doing certain things or wonder why a particular idea isn’t working. There are some times when I’d prefer to just throw in the towel.
Often when this happens, someone will speak a word of encouragement, or I’ll find a quote or Scripture verse that speaks right to my situation. The words are just what I need to hear, and I’m encouraged to get back up and keep going.
If you need a word of encouragement from time to time, these printable business inspiration cards are for you. Print them, cut them apart, and tuck them here and there as little reminders to keep pressing on. I hope they remind you that you can keep going and realize those dreams.
Click here to download or print the full set of business inspiration cards.

Jason & Jennifer Bruce are the husband-and-wife design team behind New Season Design, where they work together to help clients put their best foot forward online. Jason is a pastor-turned-graphic designer, and Jennifer is a teacher-turned-blog designer who also blogs at The Simple Pen about life, learning and the things she loves.
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Inspiration for Entrepreneurs and Small Business Owners {Free Printable!}
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July 23, 2014
The Two-Years-of-Kindergarten Approach for Fall Babies
Grade levels are a funny things for homeschoolers. They still matter on state forms and for church and community activities, but they don’t really mean much otherwise. Yet grade-level decisions were still a source of stress for us as we began our homeschool journey, so I thought I’d share our approach for anyone struggling with the same questions.
Four of our kids’ birthdays actually fall within a tiny six-week window in the fall. While the proximity of their birthdays presents its own challenges, one of the biggest was trying to decide whether we wanted them to start kindergarten when they turned 5 or wait an extra year until they turned 6. Did we want them to be the youngest kids in their grades or the oldest?
For years I struggled with this decision, and it wasn’t until I read the words of a wise blogger with older kids that the solution for our family became clear. She said they made the decision to hold their kids back in the early years, knowing it would be easy to move them up later. They then chose a path of dual enrollment at a community college in the late high school years to give their kids a head start on college without actually turning them loose a year early.
Oh, the relief. The concern about college was one of my main reasons for not wanting to push them forward, and her solution felt perfect.
However, our oldest is very precocious, and she was clearly ready for kindergarten the year she turned 5. Because her birthday is October 3rd, and the Virginia cut-off is September 30th, she was automatically grouped with the younger kids in church and community activities. At the time, we strongly felt she needed to be with older kids, as she was getting a little too good at bossing around younger kids thanks to her experience as the oldest of four. So that year we bumped her up a grade.
However, as the end of the year rolled around, my concerns about keeping her with the older class returned: she wasn’t reading yet, she was struggling with math, I was afraid she’d have to be held back at some point later in her school career, and I didn’t necessarily want her graduating high school at 17 years old.
We decided to go ahead and hold her back for a second year in kindergarten, knowing it would be easy enough to bump her up later if we felt it was warranted.
We found that a second year of kindergarten really helped her stretch her wings and strengthen her skills. Creativity, vocabulary and critical thinking come easily for her, but “school” does not, so the extra year allowed those academic skills to catch up with her natural abilities.
When our third daughter approached kindergarten with her slightly earlier September birthday, we went ahead and let her move up (at church and in activities) with the other 5 year olds…but then we held her back for a second year of kindergarten as well.
Unlike our oldest, she had actually completed most of her kindergarten-level work in both reading and math, but we don’t use grade levels as the be-all and end-all for what they should be doing in each subject, so we continued moving forward in those areas even though “officially” she was still in kindergarten.
This coming year she’s moving into 1st grade with strong math skills (she’ll be starting Teaching Textbooks 3rd grade math in the fall) and reading skills that have really blossomed in the last month.
Because “two years of kindergarten” is the norm for our family, they’ve both handled the transition very well, forming friendships with kids in both the older group and younger group without feeling bad or like they were actually being held back.
But the biggest benefit for us is it allows us to approach kindergarten in such a relaxed way, without the pressure to master certain skills by a certain date.
I debated simply waiting an extra year before starting kindergarten work with our youngest daughter (who has the earliest birthday, in mid-September), but I like that she’ll have an extra year to practice her school skills, moving slowly through them and without pressure. Maybe she’ll take both years to get through her kindergarten work or maybe she’ll surprise us (like her big sister has) and fly right through it. Either way, we’ll have plenty of time to discover her learning style, form habits and master skills!
How do you handle the fall birthday dilemma?

Mandi Ehman is the blogger behind Life Your Way. She and her husband have four beautiful girls plus one baby boy, and together they live, work and homeschool on a little slice of heaven in wild, wonderful West Virginia. Mandi loves coffee, chocolate, easy meals, beautiful things and minimalist spaces.
The Two-Years-of-Kindergarten Approach for Fall Babies
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July 22, 2014
Simple is Best: The Easiest Side Dishes You Might Be Overlooking
I’ve never been great at side dishes, and our meals often consist of one-dish wonders — simple casseroles that cover all the major food groups — rather than a main dish and sides.
And yet, side dishes are the recipes I’m most drawn to on Pinterest. I love the idea of perfectly managing multiple dishes in the kitchen and serving deliciously seasoned meat alongside several beautiful and tasty side dishes…even if I’m not very good at it.
What I’ve realized, though, is that the best side dishes for our family (at least at this stage) are often the simplest. Our favorites? Cut-up veggies, sometimes raw, sometimes roasted. Not only are they simple to prepare, but they’re colorful and healthy and oh so easy.
I often keep cut veggies in the fridge ready to go, so serving a veggie platter alongside dinner is as simple and throwing a few things on a plate and adding a bowl of dip. And when we’re done, I can cover the dish and put it back in the fridge for another day.
Because even my pickiest eaters like salad, the girls will often cut up lettuce and a few other veggies and set them out in bowls for everybody to assemble their own salad.
These sides aren’t gourmet or fancy, and they’re certainly not Pinterest-worthy, but that’s okay; they do their job anyway!
On nights when I think about it early enough in the dinner preparation process, I’ll take those same cut-up veggies, toss them with some olive oil and bake them at 400 for 20 minutes or so. (I sprinkle them with kosher salt when they’re done baking.) The possibilities are endless!
All veggies taste better roasted, but here are a few of my favorites:
cauliflower
carrots
onions
brussel sprouts
potatoes
radishes
asparagus
bell peppers
I also like serving fruits raw or roasted with a little coconut oil, but we pretty much consider those dessert because they’re so good!
What is your favorite simple side dish?

Mandi Ehman is the blogger behind Life Your Way. She and her husband have four beautiful girls plus one baby boy, and together they live, work and homeschool on a little slice of heaven in wild, wonderful West Virginia. Mandi loves coffee, chocolate, easy meals, beautiful things and minimalist spaces.
Simple is Best: The Easiest Side Dishes You Might Be Overlooking
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July 21, 2014
How Do You Make Decisions? {And Why We Decided to Sell Our Dream Home}
Sean and I are a lot alike in a lot of ways, which is both good and bad, I suppose.
One way we’re very similar, though, is the speed with which we make decisions. Basically, thinking means doing in our family.
As I was thinking about our decision-making process this weekend, I realized we’ve been making quick decisions since we were engaged.
Sean proposed on my 20th birthday, and we set a wedding date for approximately 53 weeks later. And then within a week we decided to move our wedding date up by 7 months. (My poor mom…)
Seven months after we got married, we decided to move to St. George, Utah, where we knew literally not a soul. We had our home listed and under contract within a month, drove out and put a contract on a house, came back, packed up our condo and moved.
Two years later, just before we found out we were expecting our second daughter, homesickness took hold and we decided to move home, listing our house for sale and selling it within 6 weeks.
Although we’d purchased our current land soon after coming home, we didn’t build right away. However, we decided it was time to build in April of 2007, signed a contract with a modular home company that month, and moved into our brand new home in August.
And now…
As my parents began discussing their transfer and move to North Carolina last month, Sean and I realized we were both really feeling the urge to move. While North Carolina was tempting because of the home prices, I really just cannot see walking away from our community in Winchester (VA), and so we started pricing homes closer to “town” instead.
Here we are just a few weeks later, after meeting with a realtor on Friday, working frantically to finish a few house projects so we can get it listed.
In some ways, I cannot imagine walking away from our home. The home we built intending to live here forever. The home that showcases so much of Sean’s creativity and handiwork. The home that is as close to a literal slice of heaven as you can get.
And in others, I’m so anxious to move I can hardly stand it.
I’ve been practicing my word of the year a lot this year. Living. Really living. Investing in community and relationships and saying yes more than no.
But our community is far away, and that 30-, 45-, sometimes even 60-minute drive up and down three tall mountains is wearing on me. Even though I say it less often these days, I still feel each of the nos because I know if we lived closer they would be easy yeses.
That said, despite the speed of our decision, who knows how long it will actually take to sell our home.
I’m trying to be realistic: It’s a unique home in the boonies with some wonderful selling qualities and some that will need the perfect buyer to appreciate them. So it could be weeks or months.
I don’t know how I’m going to survive fall — my favorite season by far — without wanting to pull it right off the market. And what if our traditional Christmas decorating day (October 31st, of course) arrives and we haven’t sold? Do we pull out the decorations, or do we leave them packed away with the assumption that we will move before Christmas?
I love this house, but it is just a house. And for our family, moving closer to town just makes sense. Despite the old stereotype, most homeschooled children these days don’t have any trouble with socialization, but as homeschoolers, we have to be intentional about providing those opportunities. And that’s hard when you live in the boonies!
Our agent has a professional photographer take photos of his listings, and I can’t wait to put together one final home tour showcasing the house as it stands today…not just to share with you but so we’ll always have it to look back on as we remember the home where we grew from a family of four to a family of seven.
A home where we went through the toughest times in our marriage and came out stronger. A home where I’ve twice fought postpartum depression and spent countless hours rocking babies and toddlers and kids. A home where we’ve cried tears of hurt and pain and anger and where we’ve laughed every single day. A home where we’ve spent the last 4.5 years as an “at-home family”, together day in and day out.
A home where we became us.

Mandi Ehman is the blogger behind Life Your Way. She and her husband have four beautiful girls plus one baby boy, and together they live, work and homeschool on a little slice of heaven in wild, wonderful West Virginia. Mandi loves coffee, chocolate, easy meals, beautiful things and minimalist spaces.
How Do You Make Decisions? {And Why We Decided to Sell Our Dream Home}
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July 19, 2014
Giveaway: Crunchmaster Gluten-Free Snacks {4 Winners!}
I first discovered Crunchmaster Multi-Seed Crackers when our youngest daughter was on a gluten-free diet for about six months. While I was happy to leave behind most of the gluten-free stuff we tried, these crackers became instant favorites, and I have continued to buy them as a treat for myself ever since. (I even packed them in my hospital bag when Jackson was born!)
Last month, Crunchmaster sent us some of their new Kids Crisps to try, and these went on my list of favorite snacks. The girls love the Cheese Crisps, but my favorite are the Cinnamon Crisps, which are coated in cinnamon sugar and oh so tasty!
In addition to the Crisps and Multi-Seed Crackers, Crunchmaster offers a variety of snacks, including:
Popped Edamame Chips
Multi-Grain Crisps and Crackers
Baked Rice Crackers
Whether you’re exclusively gluten-free or just looking for a delicious snack, these snacks are worth trying! Sign up for a $1 off coupon here.
Enter to Win
This week, I’m excited to give you the chance to try them for yourselves (or to get a box of your favorites if you’re already a fan!). Crunchmaster is giving FOUR lucky Life Your Way readers a case of the Crunchmaster snack of their choice!
To enter, fill out the form below (be sure to choose your favorite variety and flavor here):
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The giveaway ends at 11:59 p.m. ET on Friday, July 25. The winner will be selected randomly and notified by email, and this post will be updated with their name as well. Unfortunately, due to the international laws governing sweepstakes and lotteries, we’re only able to offer these giveaways to U.S. residents 18 years and older.
Giveaway: Crunchmaster Gluten-Free Snacks {4 Winners!}
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Weekend Reading: July 19, 2014
From Instagram: 17lbs 6ozs! I’d say we’re back on the growth curve – woohoo! ❤️
Five weeks after he stopped gaining weight altogether, little man has put on almost a pound-and-a-half, and I’ve never smiled so big as I did while double- and triple- checking his weight on our brand new digital scale.
The last month has also brought a slew of milestones: crawling, pulling up, two tiny bottom teeth and sleeping through the night once again.
Now that we’ve got his weight gain back on track, we’ll be testing solids to see if his body is ready to handle them at 9 months old. But knowing he’s growing is good enough for me!
Here are some of my favorite posts from this week. As always, check out what I’m reading and what I’m pinning to see the other posts that make me stop and think (or, you know, drool…). You’ll find new posts all week long!
Being Real About Green Living
When “Natural” Isn’t Working: Hope For the Discouraged Crunchy Mother | Keeper of the Home
Why this is a post I never thought I’d write | Keeper of the Home
Why I Quit No ‘Poo and My Beauty Routine These Days | Keeper of the Home
Just Do It
The End of the Day Philosophy | zenhabits
Thinking about doing something is not the same as doing something. | Jamie the Very Worst Missionary
5 ways to beat writer’s block. | Jon Acuff
More Than a S’more
Thin Mint S’mores | Crazy for Crust
Inside Out S’mores Brownies | Just Baked
S’mores Birthday Cake | A Subtle Revelry
Have a great weekend!

Mandi Ehman is the blogger behind Life Your Way. She and her husband have four beautiful girls plus one baby boy, and together they live, work and homeschool on a little slice of heaven in wild, wonderful West Virginia. Mandi loves coffee, chocolate, easy meals, beautiful things and minimalist spaces.
Weekend Reading: July 19, 2014
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