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Why You Can Find Hope in Stress

 

Note from Randy Alcorn: Today’s guest blog is from our newest EPM staff member Karen Coleman. Karen is a dear sister who brings with a deep love for the Lord and a heart for ministry. She and her family served 23 years as missionaries in Africa.

Karen and I also worked together years ago at Good Shepherd Community Church when I was a pastor. Nanci and I have always loved and appreciated Karen, and we respect deeply how she has, in recent years, faced great difficulties with God’s grace in view. It’s a privilege to have her on staff with us at EPM.  

I was thinking (stressing?) about my stress level yesterday, and decided to go online and take the Holmes and Rahe Stress Inventory. My total was calculated and it was actually off the charts in the highest category, which then warns rather ominously: “You have a high or very high risk of becoming ill in the near future.” As a cancer survivor, this is not the kind of news I take pleasure in hearing!

In the past two plus years, I’ve been through a series of transitions, some very big and painful—including two major moves (across states and continents) and nine minor moves (living with friends or house-sitting for the past year), a year-long battle with cancer and its brutal treatment methods (with 3 major surgeries, thousands of dollars of bills, and Christmas day in the ICU), major job transitions, loss of involvement in a ministry I had valued and enjoyed for over two decades, an empty nest (with my sons not only leaving home but also leaving the continent), and far-reaching relationship difficulties that have struck a blow to the foundation of who I am. Reflecting on all I’ve experienced, I think I have good reason to be stressed, overwhelmed, even devastated. But in fact, most of the time, I don’t actually have the typical feelings associated with such a high number of stress-producing life events.  I wanted to figure out why.

Last fall, when my life circumstances truly seemed to be falling apart, I read Randy and Nanci’s insightful book Help for Women Under Stress.  I bookmarked this passage:

Hope is the light at the end of life’s tunnel. It not only makes the tunnel endurable, it fills the heart with anticipation of the world into which we will one day emerge. Not just a better world, but a new and perfect world. A world alive, fresh, beautiful, devoid of pain and suffering and war; a world without disease, without accident, without tragedy; a world without dictators and madmen. A world ruled by the only One worthy of ruling.

This hope isn’t mere wishful thinking or an unrealistic dream or fantasy. Rather, it is a hope secured by the blood-bought promise of our Savior and King. After making the pledge that He will end all suffering and death and wipe away every tear, “He [Christ] who was seated on the throne said, ‘I am making everything new!’ Then He said, ‘Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true’” (Revelation 21:5). Jesus was saying, “That’s my promise, bought by my blood, permanently inscribed in the scars on my hands and feet.” This is a promise we can take to the bank. In a world where little seems certain, this is certain!

How do we gain this godly perspective that allows us to see beyond our stress? One way is by seeing how God uses our circumstances for His glory and our good. Once we understand that stress is a powerful tool in His loving hand, we will never look at it the same way again.

That is a game-changing perspective! Think about that for a moment—“stress is a powerful tool in His loving hand.” Granted, there are times when stress feels like a sledge hammer, pummeling and flattening me right down to the ground, or like a chisel, whittling away what I thought were important parts of me. But He is still—and always!—loving, and using it all for His glory and my good.

I’ve had my share of “wishful thinking” and some romantic notions about how I always imagined my life would be. And it’s not necessarily wrong to plan for and dream about the future. The problems—and the stress—come when we pin our hopes on our own plans regarding the world and people around us. “Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails” (Proverbs 19:21). As Randy and Nanci explain, “The fulfilled life largely consists of unclenching our fists, releasing our plans and giving ourselves over to His purpose.”

There is a great passage in 2 Corinthians 4 and 5 that reminds us how to “see beyond our stress.” I like these verses in the Message version:

So we’re not giving up. How could we! Even though on the outside it often looks like things are falling apart on us, on the inside, where God is making new life, not a day goes by without his unfolding grace. These hard times are small potatoes compared to the coming good times, the lavish celebration prepared for us. There’s far more here than meets the eye. The things we see now are here today, gone tomorrow. But the things we can’t see now will last forever… The Spirit of God whets our appetite by giving us a taste of what’s ahead. He puts a little of heaven in our hearts so that we’ll never settle for less.

That’s why we live with such good cheer. You won’t see us drooping our heads or dragging our feet! Cramped conditions here don’t get us down. They only remind us of the spacious living conditions ahead. It’s what we trust in but don’t yet see that keeps us going. Do you suppose a few ruts in the road or rocks in the path are going to stop us? …Cheerfully pleasing God is the main thing, and that’s what we aim to do, regardless of our conditions. 

So when the inevitable ruts in your road or rocks in your path start causing you stress, stop and take heart in the lavish celebration to come, and refocus your attention on cheerfully pleasing the God who daily bears our burdens (Psalm 68:19).

That is the main thing, and a great recipe for stress relief.

Randy and Nanci’s book Help for Women Under Stress is being offered at the lowest EPM price ever—only $4.99 (retail $14.99). Sale ends Thursday, April 16.

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An Invitation to Study What Scripture Says about God’s Happiness and Ours

I’d like to share more about an upcoming Theology of Happiness course I’ll be teaching June 3-5 at the Portland, Oregon campus of Western Seminary. The course is available for graduate credit, but anyone is welcome (and encouraged) to audit it. It begins Wednesday, June 3 at 1 p.m., goes all day Thursday and ends Friday, June 5 at 5 p.m.

Here’s what I wrote regarding the theme of the course:

Unfortunately, many believers today are taught that God wants us to be holy, but not happy, and that joy and happiness are fundamentally different. We’ve even been left with the impression that God Himself isn’t happy. So during the course (which is a prelude to my book Happiness that will be out this October), we’ll explore the questions: Is God happy? Should His children be?

Joy, gladness, delight, celebration and happiness in Christ are based on solid redemptive facts, including God’s love and sovereignty. Through the “good news of great joy,” God makes possible a settled happiness despite life’s difficulties—not a superficial “don’t worry, be happy” worldview that ignores human suffering or promotes prosperity theology. We don’t yet live on the New Earth, but we will. The “already and not yet” truths of life in Christ have breathtaking implications for our present happiness even under the Fall and Curse.

We’ll study our God-given quest for happiness and the triune God’s own happiness that makes Him the source of ours (with special attention to the happiness of Jesus). We’ll examine the rich constellation of Hebrew and Greek happiness synonyms in Scripture, and the God-centered partying of Israel’s feasts; how the most popular Bible translations have obscured many happiness passages; how the now pervasive evangelical contrast between joy and happiness is unbiblical and misleading, and flies in the face of church history’s positive use of happiness.

We’ll look at the inseparable nature of holiness and happiness, and examine happiness in adversity. Finally, we’ll discuss how to cultivate a deeper happiness in Christ that enriches us, encourages our family and friends, and draws unbelievers to Jesus.

For more information and to register, contact Western Seminary at www.westernseminary.edu, 1.877.517.1800. (Those interested in auditing the course can go here for more details.) The registration deadline is May 27.

I look forward to this class, and I really hope to see some of you there! Please let me know if you plan to join us!

Randy

The Cornerstone of Redemption: Christ’s Physical Resurrection

The apostle Paul considered the physical resurrection of Christ’s body absolutely essential to the Christian faith. Paul wrote to the Corinthians, “If Christ has not been raised, your faith is futile; you are still in your sins. . . . [and] we are to be pitied more than all men” (1 Corinthians 15:17, 19).

The physical resurrection of Jesus Christ is the cornerstone of redemption—both for mankind and for the earth. Indeed, without Christ’s resurrection and what it means—an eternal future for fully restored human beings dwelling on a fully restored Earth—there is no Christianity.

The empty tomb is the ultimate proof that Christ’s resurrection body was the same body that died on the cross. If resurrection meant the creation of a new body, Christ’s original body would have remained in the tomb. When Jesus said to his disciples after his resurrection, “It is I myself,” he was emphasizing to them that he was the same person—in spirit and body—who had gone to the cross (Luke 24:39). His disciples saw the marks of his crucifixion, unmistakable evidence that this was the same body.

Bruce Milne writes in The Message of Heaven and Hell:

The physicality of the resurrection is emphasized by Jesus himself in his drawing attention to the wounds still visible in his body and even, in Luke’s account, in his sharing a meal with the disciples. They must grasp that this is not a matter of a “spirit appearance,” but the utterly unprecedented, unique, world-transforming, heaven-anticipating, sovereign action of the Creator in the first installment of remaking the world.

This Easter weekend, may we celebrate the magnificent, cosmos-shaking victory of Christ’s physical resurrection!

 

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Hail of Bullets...And a Miracle of God

The JESUS Film is arguably the single greatest evangelistic tool in history apart from the Word of God itself. I’ve visited their work in four countries and love what they do. I'll never forget years ago crowding into two homes in East Asia where Christians were showing the JESUS video to their neighbors. I counted 33 in one home and 37 in the other, eyes glued to the screen, listening in their own language to every word spoken by Jesus, straight from the Word of God.

I loved this recent story they shared from a dedicated evangelist leading a team in a dangerous nation:

“We were driving from the meeting place where many had just become followers of Jesus, many through the JESUS film. Five Christians of our evangelistic team were in one car, and 15 in a van.

“As we passed through the gate I saw two men with assault rifles. They motioned for us to stop. I shouted to the driver, ‘Don’t stop…move…move!’

“As we sped away they showered our vehicles with a hail of bullets. We could hear the bullets striking the metal. But no one was hit. When we arrived at our base, and got out to examine the damage, there was not a single mark, not a single bullet hole on either vehicle!

“We were all amazed. God had protected us miraculously. Had we stopped, they would have killed us all. We knew then He had more plans for us…”

That plan is a passionate vision…to place a DVD of “JESUS” in every home in their closed nation.

Right now, throughout the Middle East, staff and workers are requesting 64,000 DVDs to give out over the next three months. Your gift of $48 will provide them with 12 DVDs. You can make it possible for families cut off from the gospel by terrain, culture…or fear for their own safety…to watch “JESUS” again and again, in the privacy of their homes.

The JESUS Film is one of the ministries EPM is honored to support. I’ve seen the work and the workers first-hand, and can vouch for the integrity, vision, and biblical foundation of this ministry.  I encourage you to consider if God would have you invest in eternity by getting involved in financial or prayer support for this wonderful work of the Lord. If you’d like to support their efforts to send DVDs to the Middle East, visit their site.

 

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The Trend in the Church Towards Silence

Ephesians 4:15 tells us we need to “speak the truth in love.” As Christ-followers, we are not to choose between being loving and being truthful. We are to be both. And notice too that we are to speak.

Yes, there is “a time to keep silence, and a time to speak” (Ecclesiastes 3:7). But we dare not embrace the ease of silence and turn our backs on the hard work of truth-telling done in love.  

When we believe and teach the Bible with courage and compassion, it’s guaranteed you and I will be seen as bigots—unless we either outright deny the Scriptures or are so quiet about our beliefs that no one finds us out. (Imagine an ambassador who lives in fear of divulging his King’s policies.)

Of course we will be mocked and despised by some. But our call is clear: in the balance of grace and truth, to follow the example of Peter and the Apostles, who told the Sanhedrin: “We must obey God rather than men” (Acts 5:29).

I appreciate what Andrew Wilson has to share about the subject of silence in the church, especially in regard to sexuality. (I originally saw what follows, including the summary, on Justin Taylor’s excellent blog.)

Andrew writes:

I’ve heard rumours of a silent trend beginning to take hold in some city churches in the UK and the US. I don’t just mean a trend that takes hold silently; presumably most trends do that. I mean a trend towards silence: a decision not to speak out on issues that are considered too sticky, controversial, divisive, culturally loaded, entangled, ethically complex, personally upsetting, emotive, likely to be reported on by the Guardian or the New York Times, uncharted, inflammatory, difficult, or containing traces of gluten. Since I do not attend a city church, but am a proud member of the backward bungalow bumpkin brigade, this is coming to me second hand, and it may turn out to be a storm in the proverbial teacup, or even (for all I know) entirely fictional. But let’s imagine that there were such things as well-written booklets which had been discontinued simply because they were about sexuality, and leaders who were avoiding making any public comments at all on controversial ethical issues, or churches whose lectionaries or sermon series were systematically avoiding passages which addressed pressing contemporary questions, presumably in the name of being winsome or wise or likeable or culturally sensitive, because of the number of Influencers and Powerful People in the area. Without knowing any of the behind-the-scenes discussions that had taken place – all well-intentioned, I’m sure—what would I say then?

In seven points, Wilson shares his response:

Winsomeness is a good servant and a terrible master.
Likeability stops at the water’s edge.
Pastors are to proclaim the whole counsel of God, not just the parts that won’t cause any fluttering in the Fleet Street dovecotes.
Ducking difficult ethical questions leaves churches in confusion when they most need clarity.
Ethical confusion makes church discipline much, much harder.
Silence unwittingly reinforces the dominant cultural narrative.
Those of us who instinctively cheer when we read the previous six points are probably in the greatest need of hearing what the advocates of silence have to say.

Go to Wilson’s blog to read the full article.

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Going to the Party

Imagine someone takes you to a party. You see a few friends there, enjoy a couple of good conversations, a little laughter, and some decent appetizers. The party’s all right, but you keep hoping it will get better. Give it another hour, and maybe it will. Suddenly, your friend says, “I need to take you home.”

Now?

You’re disappointed—nobody wants to leave a party early—but you leave, and your friend drops you off at your house. As you approach the door, you’re feeling all alone and sorry for yourself. As you open the door and reach for the light switch, you sense someone’s there. Your heart’s in your throat. You flip on the light.

“Surprise!” Your house is full of smiling people, familiar faces.

It’s a party—for you. You smell your favorites—barbecued ribs and pecan pie right out of the oven. The tables are full. It’s a feast. You recognize the guests, people you haven’t seen for a long time. Then, one by one, the people you most enjoyed at the other party show up at your house, grinning. This turns out to be the real party. You realize that if you’d stayed longer at the other party, as you’d wanted, you wouldn’t be at the real party—you’d be away from it.

Christians faced with terminal illness or imminent death often feel they’re leaving the party before it’s over. They have to go home early. They’re disappointed, thinking of all they’ll miss when they leave. But the truth is, the real party is underway at home—precisely where they’re going. They’re not the ones missing the party; those of us left behind are. (Fortunately, if we know Jesus, we’ll get there eventually.)

One by one, occasionally a few of us at a time, we’ll disappear from this world. Those we leave behind will grieve that their loved ones have left home. In reality, however, their believing loved ones aren’t leaving home, they’re going home. They’ll be home before us. We’ll be arriving at the party a little later.

Remember, Jesus said, “Blessed are you who weep now, for you will laugh” (Luke6:21). He said, “There is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents” (Luke15:10). Laughter and rejoicing—a party awaits us. Don’t you want to join it? Yet even that party, in the present Heaven, is a preliminary celebration. It’s like the welcome at the airport for a woman who’s come home for her wedding. Sure, she’s home now, and it’s wonderful, but what she’s really looking forward to is the wedding, and the wedding feast, which will be followed by moving into her new home with her beloved bridegroom.

To be in resurrected bodies on a resurrected Earth in resurrected friendships, enjoying a resurrected culture with the resurrected Jesus—now that will be the ultimate party! Everybody will be who God made them to be—and none of us will ever suffer or die again. As a Christian, the day I die will be the best day I’ve ever lived. But it won’t be the best day I ever will live. Resurrection day will be far better. And the first day on the New Earth—that will be one big step for mankind, one giant leap for God’s glory.

 

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Do We "Go to Sleep" When We Die?

“Soon you will read in the newspaper that I am dead. Don’t believe it for a moment. I will be more alive than ever before.” —D.L. Moody

Ecclesiastes 12:7 says, “The dust returns to the ground it came from, and the spirit returns to God who gave it.” Regardless of how literally or figuratively it can be interpreted, the natural understanding of Christ’s story of the rich man and Lazarus is that at death, the human spirit goes either to Heaven or Hell, one a places of conscious happiness, the other of conscious misery (Luke 16:19-31). Other passages that aren’t parables seem to make this very clear, including Luke 23:39-43, 2 Corinthians 5:8 and Philippians 1:23.

However, while I believe this, as I develop in my book Heaven and this brief article, the fact remains that some sincere Christians believe in “soul sleep,” the idea that when we die we lose consciousness until the resurrection. I’ve received many letters from people who argue this coherently and passionately, and cite Scripture to support their position.  In the following video, EPM’s Julia Stager offers the finest and most complete summary of the pros and cons of soul sleep that I’ve ever seen. She concisely, clearly and carefully examines what the Bible has to say. All in less than five minutes!

I highly recommend that you not only watch this video, but consider showing it to friends, family, your Bible study group or playing it for your church or class and/or drawing attention to it in social media. In my opinion, you may never hear a better explanation than this one:

While teaching a college class on Heaven, I briefly commented on the meaning of Philippians 1:23 and the question of soul sleep.

 

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Alex and Brett Harris: Continuing to Do Hard Things

Nearly seven years ago, I shared on my blog about the release of an excellent book called Do Hard Things: A Teenage Rebellion Against Low Expectations, by Alex and Brett Harris. It’s still a book I highly recommend to all young people. And middle aged people. And old people!

I said then, and still wholeheartedly believe, that Alex and Brett are the real deal—Christ-centered young men of character and vision, committed to serving Jesus with humility and excellence.

I did their dear mother’s memorial service in 2010, and dedicated my book 90 Days of God’s Goodness to her. I keep in touch with Brett and Alex. I love these two young men, and the wonderful wives God has given them.

So where has the Lord taken the Harris twins since Do Hard Things was published? This article from The Gospel Coalition shares how Brett and Alex have remained faithful while doing hard things in very different ways—each true to their particular calling and life circumstances. This is worth reading:

Alex and Brett Harris Are Doing Hard Things

By Sarah Eekhoff Zylstra

“Do hard things,” Alex and Brett Harris told their fellow teenagers six years ago. Get up early. Step out of your comfort zone. Do more than what’s required. Find a cause. Be faithful. Go against the crowd.

Be better than your culture expects.

The Harris twins, then 18, were leading by example. They worked through the summer to finish their (homeschool) high school at 16, then clerked with the Alabama Supreme Court. They organized a statewide grassroots political campaign. They started a blog, coined the “Rebelution” movement (the website has more than 40 million pageviews), wrote a book (which has sold 470,000 copies), and spoke at conferences.

And then they turned 20.

But they didn’t slow down. The twins enrolled at Patrick Henry College, took first place in the moot court nationals, and wrote another book. They dated and married their wives, cared for and buried their mother, and chose directions for their careers. Since then God has taken Alex and Brett, now 25, in starkly different directions that illustrate the Lord's mysterious plans and purposes as he calls us to forsake all and follow him.

Read the rest at TGC.

Overcoming Pornography: Cultivating Our Inner Lives

Today’s blog is the final post in a three part series on overcoming pornography (see part one and two). In this post, I’d like to talk about the importance of cultivating our inner lives.

1 Peter 1:13 says we are responsible for the way we think. We are to take charge of our minds and focus them on what is right, not wrong: “Therefore, prepare your minds for action; be self-controlled; set your hope fully on the grace to be given you when Jesus Christ is revealed.” Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

How do we renew our minds? By filling them with what’s right and true, especially God’s Word. Psalm 119:11 says “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” Note this verse says that sin is prevented not simply by restraining the body, but by retraining the heart, from which actions flow.

The battles that are waged every day in our minds and on our computer screens take their spiritual toll.  By cultivating our inner lives, we are more likely to experience daily victories.  

It’s difficult to delete bad files in our brain’s hard drive, but we can restrict the number of new bad files. Then we can open many good files. This is cause and effect. The more we fill our minds with purity and the less with impurity, the greater our purity and resistance to temptation. We can build our relationship with Christ by praying, reading God’s Word and meditating on it, reading great books, listening to Scripture and audio books and teaching from God’s Word. We need to fill our lives with the best things, those that glorify God. Then when we see how satisfying they are, it will be easier to resist the things that tempt and destroy us. “In your presence is fullness of joy. At your right hand are pleasures forevermore” (Ps. 16:11).

As we eliminate the garbage, and replace it with what honors God, we will find it easier to obey Philippians 4:8: “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

When we choose to feed our righteous desires and starve our unrighteous ones, by God’s grace we will program our lives for righteousness. We will begin to think and live like the new creatures God has made us in Christ. We can experience victory in the war against pornography.

May we walk in that victory and experience the joy and freedom of purity.

Recommended Resources

Sexual Purity Books for Men

Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave by Ed Welch

False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction by Harry Schaumburg 

Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World by Joshua Harris

Sexual Detox by Tim Challies

Wired for Intimacy:  How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain by William M. Struthers

Sexual Purity Books for Women

No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction by Marnie C. Ferree

Dirty Girls Come Clean by Crystal Renaud

Online Help with Pornography Addictions

Pure Life Ministries

Pure Life Alliance

Setting Captives Free

Be Broken Ministries

Stone Gate Resources

Pure Intimacy

Faithful and True

BraveHearts

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Overcoming Pornography: Changing Our Behavior

In Monday’s blog, I shared about the first step of choosing obedience in the fight against pornography. Today, I’d like to talk about changing our behavior—and how it’s possible through the power we have in Christ

One night as a young pastor I chose to view pornography. I felt terrible. I’d failed my Lord, my wife, my church. I’d been a fool. I caught a horrifying glimpse of what I could easily become. But shame did nothing to deliver me. I had to start thinking—and choosing—differently.

We must realize it is possible to control our behavior and choices no matter how vile or persistent the temptations. I know many men (and some women) who face temptation toward pornography, but they consistently resist both the thoughts and the actions.

The existence of a desire does not justify or necessitate succumbing to that desire. We live in a hedonistic society that tells us desires are meant to be fulfilled. But every desire need not be fulfilled, and indeed, in many cases, should not be. We are not animals blindly compelled by desire. We are human beings, created in God’s image, with the capacity to choose. We are not victims. Every action is a choice. Every sin is a choice. Every right behavior is a choice.

If we feel our desires are so strong that we “must” look at pornography, we should ask ourselves the question, “Would I still do this if someone pointed a gun at my head and promised to fire it if I did?” If the answer is no—and of course it is—it demonstrates that we don’t have to make this choice, but merely that we want to and choose to. (Once we’re in Heaven with Christ there will be no more sin or even temptation. Until then we have to face temptations, but we don’t have to succumb to them.)

We must actively resist and refuse to give in to the evil desires and fantasies that push themselves upon us. “Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry” (Col. 3:5). This isn’t impossible. God is not cruel. He never commands us to do something without giving us the power in Christ to obey Him. We can call upon Christ for that power.

It is possible over time to redirect and change our hearts. Jesus said sexual sin begins in the heart—“I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matt. 5:27-28). All evil resides and is cultivated in the heart, and outward behavior is the product of this inner evil. That means that we need a heart transplant, a mind reprogramming, a change in our inner beings.

God says “If any man is in Christ he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Cor. 5:17). If we have truly turned to Christ, truly confessed ours sin and utter unworthiness, truly trusted him to save us from our sins, then we are a new person. In order to live like a new person, we need to meditate on and embrace this new reality. The old habits of sinful thought and action have embedded patterns. To break those habits and establish new patterns we must appeal to and cultivate our new identity in Christ, establishing a new set of habits that reinforce it.

In Friday’s blog, part three of this series, we’ll look at the importance of cultivating our inner lives.

Recommended Resources

Sexual Purity Books for Men

Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave by Ed Welch

False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction by Harry Schaumburg 

Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World by Joshua Harris

Sexual Detox by Tim Challies

Wired for Intimacy:  How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain by William M. Struthers

Sexual Purity Books for Women

No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction by Marnie C. Ferree

Dirty Girls Come Clean by Crystal Renaud

Online Help with Pornography Addictions

Pure Life Ministries

Pure Life Alliance

Setting Captives Free

Be Broken Ministries

Stone Gate Resources

Pure Intimacy

Faithful and True

BraveHearts

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