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The Happiness of Knowing Christ Accomplished My Redemption

If my redemption depended on me, I would be constantly anxious, worried, and distraught. I would be proud whenever I held up my part, and devastated when I saw my imperfection, knowing I have fallen short again and wondering whether this chance was my last, since one day my failure would be my final failure. Heaven would be unattainable for me. I am too small to bear the weight of my sins, too bad to atone for my sins.

This is precisely why the most liberating truth, the most happy-making reality, is that my redemption does not depend on me. It was accomplished by the God-Man Jesus. His perfection is for me an impossible dream. He brought to the cross infinity, a size and weight beyond measurement and comprehension. As Revelation 5 demonstrates, only Christ is worthy to accomplish redemption.

And because He did that for me, I am happy beyond expression. No matter what else in my life brings suffering and turmoil, weighed in the balance, the love of Jesus manifested on the cross for me infuses my soul with wonder and joy.

A thousand years from now I will know no sin or suffering. But I will still know the love of Christ, and know it with an ever-deepening knowledge, and I will experience an ever-deepening joy.

Christ’s death and resurrection bring me a happiness that makes every secondary joy pale in comparison. What Jesus did for me is the hinge of human history, the hinge that allowed my door to swing from death to life, from misery to everlasting happiness.

By far the worst agony in all human history was chosen by someone with the ultimate eternal perspective. And He choose the horrors and shame, Scripture says, for the cause of His own happiness.

What? Does that sound like blasphemy? Didn’t He do it out of love for all of us? Yes. Didn’t He do it out of obedience to the Father? Yes. Didn’t He make the greatest and most selfless sacrifice in human history? Yes.

How then can we say He did all this with His own happiness in mind?

We can say it because Scripture says it: “For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God” (Hebrews 12:2).

So what Pascal said of all men was true of Jesus also: “All men seek happiness.”

Recommended Reading Face to Face with Jesus Happiness (softcover) It's All About Jesus

Why Thinking Accurately about the Future Heaven Is Vital

Jonathan Edwards, the great Puritan preacher, often spoke of Heaven. He said, “It becomes us to spend this life only as a journey toward heaven . . . to which we should subordinate all other concerns of life. Why should we labor for or set our hearts on anything else, but that which is our proper end and true happiness?”

In his early twenties, Edwards composed a set of life resolutions. One read, “Resolved, to endeavor to obtain for myself as much happiness, in the other world, as I possibly can.”

Some may think it odd and inappropriate that Edwards was so committed to pursuing happiness for himself in Heaven. But Pascal was right when he said, “All men seek happiness. This is without exception. Whatever different means they employ, they all tend to this end.” And if we all seek happiness, why not do as Edwards did and seek it where it can actually be found—in the person of Jesus and the place called Heaven?

Tragically, however, most people do not find their joy in Christ and Heaven. In fact, many people find no joy at all when they think about Heaven.

What God made us to desire, and therefore what we do desire if we admit it, is exactly what He promises to those who follow Jesus Christ: a resurrected life in a resurrected body, with the resurrected Christ on a resurrected Earth. Our desires correspond precisely to God’s plans. It’s not that we want something, so we engage in wishful thinking that what we want exists. It’s the opposite—the reason we want it is precisely because God has planned for it to exist. Resurrected people living in a resurrected universe isn’t our idea—it’s God’s.

Nineteenth-century British theologian J. C. Ryle said, “I pity the man who never thinks about heaven.” We could also say, “I pity the man who never thinks accurately about Heaven.” It’s our inaccurate thinking, I believe, that causes us to choose to think so little about Heaven.

I talked about this subject—the theology of resurrection and common misconceptions about the afterlife—on the Love the Bible podcast with Kristin Nave, which you can watch below. I also answered some common questions about relationships, marriage, our beloved pets, and what we will do in Heaven:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uGEX6PZI2Ls?si=gJMetvTcZjeCGIFq

Here’s the questions and topics we covered, if you’d like to watch a specific part:

00:00 Introduction, and Randy's study of Heaven

06:10 What are some of the greatest misconceptions about Heaven?

11:45 Where did the Old Testament saints go when they died? What about the present Heaven now? Do its inhabitants have some form of a body?

18:14 Will we walk with Jesus on the New Earth?

21:13 What about oceans on the New Earth?

25:58 What about marriage and relationships on the New Earth?

31:27 How Nanci Alcorn's testimony has impacted others

35:14 How prosperity theology doesn't fit with life under the Curse

36:55 Are our loved ones in Heaven aware of what's happening on Earth?

42:05 Should we feel guilty for loving animals and hoping they will be in Heaven?

55:18 What would you say to someone who feels unsure if they are going to Heaven?

58:55 What goes on at Eternal Perspective Ministries and what's ahead for your ministry?

Recommended Reading 50 Days of Heaven (Special Edition) Heaven The Promise of the New Earth

Does the Message of Finding Happiness in God Really Fit with Christ’s Call to Take up Our Crosses?

The message of finding daily happiness in Christ, which I share in my book Happiness, might seem contradictory to what Jesus says about our call to sacrifice our lives for Him: “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will save it. For what does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses or forfeits himself?” (Luke 9:23-25).

Many think that Jesus’ primary message here is the virtue of selflessness and self-sacrifice. But take another look: He calls us to lose life for His sake by appealing to our desire to find life! It’s not “selflessness” in the sense of doing what’s bad for ourselves; rather, it’s honoring and following Christ and thereby doing the best possible thing for ourselves!

God commands holiness, knowing that when we follow His plan, we’ll bring Him glory and be happy. Hence, as He often did, Jesus clearly appealed to us to act in the interest of our own ultimate happiness by making small temporary sacrifices to obtain large eternal gain.

C. S. Lewis began his great sermon “The Weight of Glory” by saying this:

If you asked twenty good men today what they thought the highest of the virtues, nineteen of them would reply, Unselfishness. But if you had asked almost any of the great Christians of old, he would have replied, Love. You see what has happened? A negative term has been substituted for a positive, and this is of more than philological importance. The negative idea of Unselfishness carries with it the suggestion not primarily of securing good things for others, but of going without them ourselves, as if our abstinence and not their happiness was the important point.

Lewis went on to make this critical point: “The New Testament has lots to say about self-denial, but not about self-denial as an end in itself. We are told to deny ourselves and to take up our crosses in order that we may follow Christ; and nearly every description of what we shall ultimately find if we do so contains an appeal to desire.”

When God calls upon us to deny ourselves and follow Him, what appears to be our loss is in fact our gain. Should we want to gain our lives or lose our lives? Losing our lives in Christ is the means to the end of joyfully gaining them!

Yes, Jesus calls His followers to sacrifice—but never to sacrifice long-term happiness. Paul, writing from prison and always realistic about the harsh realities of a fallen world, nonetheless experienced happiness in Christ, which he was eager to share with his fellow believers in Philippi: “If I have to offer my own blood with your sacrifice, I will be happy and full of joy with all of you. You also should be happy and full of joy with me” (Philippians 2:17-18, NCV).

The same Jesus who calls for sacrifice, promising that we’ll share in His suffering, also tells us to lay our burdens at His feet. We’re to take up our crosses daily, yet He promises that His burden is light. Life isn’t easy, but believers have the benefit of walking the hard roads side by side with a loving Father, a Son who’s our friend, and a comforting Holy Spirit.

Following Jesus will always produce the greatest, most lasting happiness—now and forever.

Recommended Reading 60 Days of Happiness God's Promise of Happiness Happiness (softcover)

Biblically Responsible Investing: What Does It Mean to Be a Good Investor?

Investing doesn’t simply bring profits to the investor (sometimes it doesn’t even do that). It also profits the business in which we have invested. A Christian should avoid investing in any enterprise that makes its profit from people doing what they shouldn’t. For example, in most cases I believe people shouldn’t take out a second mortgage on their home. Consequently, for me to invest in high-yield second mortgages would be an attempt to profit from others’ poor decisions. I would not feel right doing that.

I wrote what follows (and much more) years ago about values-based investing, or biblically responsible investing, in my book Money, Possessions, and Eternity. I am including a small portion of it here in order to explain why I am so excited about a new book by Robin John called The Good Investor that I’m going to wholeheartedly recommend in this blog. If you have limited time, skip directly to what I have to say about that great new book.

Many Christians don’t evaluate the source of their investment income. God operates by a different standard: “You must not bring the earnings of a female prostitute or of a male prostitute into the house of the Lord your God to pay any vow, because the Lord your God detests them both” (Deuteronomy 23:18).

God does care where the money comes from. Of course, often a church or ministry can’t know the source of its contributions. The biblical principle applies primarily to the giver of the gift, not the recipient. But when pastors and leaders know that something has come from a source displeasing to God, they should address the issue, both for the sake of the donors—and those whose lives are affected by their choices—and the church or ministry. If this standard applies to the source of incoming funds, surely it applies even more to where we choose to put our money…

Consider Ephesians 5:1-11, which culminates in the command, “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.” How can we justify investing in companies that market the fruitless deeds of darkness? Isn’t funding evil a clear violation of the warning against establishing an unequal yoke with darkness (2 Corinthians 6:14-18)?

This certainly isn’t easy to track when there are so many companies with so many names. Most Christians would think it was wrong to invest in Playboy magazine. But the Houston-based Internet company Telescan specializes in data retrieval tools that it uses in partnership with Playboy’s Web sites. But who would know that if they saw Telescan on a long list of companies invested in by their mutual fund?

Hewlett-Packard supports Planned Parenthood, the nation’s largest abortion provider. Rick’s Cabaret International (NASDAQ symbol: RICK) is a public company self-described as a “premier adult nightclub offering topless entertainment.” In Putting Your Money Where Your Morals Are, Scott Fehrenbacher lists many objectionable companies that mutual funds invest in. Among these are Tenet (NYSE symbol: THC), the second-largest chain of hospital facilities in the nation, including some of which perform for-profit, elective abortions; and American Express (NYSE Symbol: AXP), which uses shareholder funds to actively promote homosexual causes.

….Those who own certain Fidelity mutual funds (which includes many Christians) have unknowingly helped support the government of Sudan, a genocidal regime that has systematically enslaved and persecuted Christians for decades. Various Christian denominations have invested in Talisman Energy, a huge Canadian oil company that does 25 percent of its business with Sudan. Vanguard and the state of New York were among those who divested themselves of Talisman after antislavery groups lobbied them. I hope by the time you read this it’s no longer true, but as of 2002, Fidelity still owned millions of shares in Talisman. Last year, I joined many others in addressing my concerns to Fidelity [I include in the book the letter I wrote them].

…Scott Fehrenbacher persuasively argues that it’s wrong for Christians to invest God’s money in music that promotes murder and rape (e.g. by funding gangsta rap), blatantly immoral movies, blood-spattering video games, pornography, nude dancing bars, abortion, alcoholism, and tobacco addiction. Some companies, including the large conglomerate that owns MTV, actively engage in trashing Christian beliefs and morals. That we would invest God’s money in companies sponsoring anti-Christian philosophies and activities seems unthinkable. Yet it happens every day.

The average Christian whose retirement program is in mutual funds or stocks managed by others has no clue where God’s money is actually going. Mutual funds serve to separate the investor from the companies invested in.

…Values-based investing isn’t a new concept. Scott writes in Putting Your Money Where Your Morals Are:

As early as the 1800s, the Quakers withdrew from business relationships and partnerships involved in the slave trade. In the 1920s, churches and denominations in America chose to actively screen their money from being invested in “sin stocks,” defined then as belonging to companies that manufactured products related to alcohol, tobacco, and gambling.

…If enough Christians would adopt a values-based approach, we might see a shift in priorities among some mutual funds or brokerages, so we could more wisely entrust them with our investments. But even if we’re the only ones to do this, our stewardship responsibility is to God, and he is the one who will ultimately evaluate and reward us.

It is every bit as true today as it was when I wrote and updated Money, Possessions, and Eternity: Mutual funds, today’s most common investments, distribute their investors’ money in a wide range of companies, some of which do things with the money that a Christian wouldn’t condone. The average Christian whose retirement program is in mutual funds or stocks managed by others has no clue where God’s money is actually going. Mutual funds serve to separate the investor from the companies invested in.

A brand new book is out, The Good Investor by Robin C. John, that I think should be read by every Christ-follower who gives financial advice or invests in companies, even if it’s only through a retirement plan. I love that Robin is not just encouraging us to avoid investing in what’s bad—as I did in Money, Possessions and Eternity—but to turn toward investing in what will bring joy and blessing to others around the world. Giving is vital, but investing with integrity is also crucial. He is addressing not just the negative aspect I dealt with in my book, but the positive aspects of investing. I highly recommend this book and was happy to endorse it.

Robin writes:

…what if it isn’t true that we’re powerless? What if it isn’t true that our little choices have no impact on the world around us? Our everyday decisions can make the world more what we long for it to be, more what God longs for it to be. And something most of us do already (investing) can participate in the world’s healing. The allocation of capital is a powerful tool; when used thoughtfully, and in connection with its true purpose, investing can create immense value and solve some of the world’s deepest needs. Or, when disconnected from its true purpose, it can extract value and cause extensive damage.

…Our money is doing work in the world. The question is whether our money is doing work that harms or work that helps. My hope as you read my story is that you will find inspiration to imagine how your investments can do good, how your investments can help and heal.

The possibilities for doing good, bringing power to bear on behalf of those most in need of relief, gives me hope. We’re not helpless. Our investments, our lives and work, our resolve to challenge the status quo—these are seeds of beauty.

Imagine how beautiful the world could be.

Check out Robin’s trailer for the book:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZoxWy1zBoG4?si=VUJICOPO6lLTSogj

And in this podcast episode with Faith Driven Investor, Robin talks about investing in companies that actually make the world better.

Recommended Reading Money, Possessions and Eternity

An Awareness of the Supernatural Should Never Be Separated from the Daily Disciplines of Following Christ

A reader wrote our ministry:

God has been opening my eyes to the fact that this world is not all there is, but there is a true spiritual battle going on. I want to be at a church where people are living in the reality of the spiritual realm and not just saying they believe it but then living like only this is reality. What cautions/advice do you have to offer?

I certainly understand the sentiment expressed in this comment. I would like to see more vibrancy in churches, more purity, more abandonment, more sold-out commitment to Christ. I would like to see it expressed in the overflowing joy of Christ, in risking rejection in sharing the gospel, risking being called fools to stand for Jesus, and to speak up for the unborn, and being willing to sell our possessions and give to the poor and live in more modest houses and drive more modest cars, and turn off the TV and put down the smart phone to spend time with God. I would like to see more vibrant, Christ-exalting living—first in myself, and then in the Christian community as a whole.

But we need to be careful and discerning. There are groups of people who enjoy displays of the supernatural that are not true works of the Holy Spirit but productions of their desire to “see more” and “hear more” and reflect a susceptibility to power of suggestion from others. A few questions are necessary. Are they in fact more sexually pure and less materialistic, for instance, than the church at large? Are they more obedient and servant-hearted? Or are they just more excitable when it comes to miracles? When fascination with or involvement in the supernatural is separated from the disciplines of daily following Christ, it is a dangerous thing. (I know people who were seemingly following Christ based on their bold statements about the unseen realm and their great insights into demons, but in fact were not.)

I am all for miracles, and I believe God does them. But I am skeptical at times because sometimes these claims are unaccompanied by the disciplines of godly living. For instance, when someone is constantly having “supernatural experiences” but is addicted to internet pornography or is being unfaithful to their marriage vows, or is living in pride and self-congratulation, then obviously something is seriously wrong.

A thirst for awareness of the spiritual realm is understandable. I share it. For years, as a young Christian, I would pray that God would send me supernatural signs and wonders. I heard of people having angels appear, and I wanted to see them too. I prayed for at least a year, almost daily, sometimes weeping, that God would give me the ability to speak in another tongue. But over the years, I have learned to see the supernatural in countless divine appointments and moments brought to me by my Savior each day. I am all for the supernatural, and I believe God is doing a supernatural work in me often, perhaps even right this moment, but I don’t think the spiritual life involves working yourself into a frenzy. In Scripture I see the Holy Spirit doing miracles, but not people making it happen themselves or pretending it is happening when it isn’t.

So my advice is this: choose a church carefully, wisely, biblically. Make sure not simply that the doctrinal statement is solid, but that the Word of God is preached; that people are not elevated above Christ and the message; and that experiences do not overshadow the Scriptures, but are seen through the lens of God’s Word. 

Recommended Reading Lord Foulgrin's Letters Seeing the Unseen, Expanded Edition

What Will the Eternal Heaven Be Like? My Interview on Remnant Radio

Scripture has much to say about God’s eternal kingdom on the New Earth. His original plan for us, to rule the earth to the glory of God, was never abandoned. In fact, what was laid out in Genesis 1-2, the first two chapters of Scripture, is precisely what is finally realized in Revelation 21-22, the last two chapters. Christ’s redemptive work wasn’t to snatch away people’s souls to live forever in an angelic realm, but to redeem our whole persons, including our bodies, and the fallen world in which we live. God promises not only new bodies, but a New Earth! (See 2 Peter 3:13.)

In my years of writing about Heaven, I’ve found there are dozens of questions I'm repeatedly asked. But here are the top five:

Will we still be ourselves, with our memories of this life?
Will we know our loved ones and have ongoing relationships with them?
What will we do, and won't Heaven be boring?
Will we have bodies and eat and drink and travel and explore and play—in other words, will we live truly human lives?
Will there be animals—and is it possible that the pets we've loved will be there?

Speaking of questions about Heaven, I enjoyed answering several during my conversation with Josh Lewis and Michael Rowntree, on their podcast The Remnant Radio.

You can watch the full video here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yqJxrUR24Xw?si=DiJlgE-ijSYIeTlF

If you’d like to jump to different questions we covered, here is what we discussed:

7:53 What is the difference between the Present Heaven and the New Earth?

15:06 Where do people go when they die?

19:10 What about Hades and its relationship to Hell?

25:15 Will we have a personal identity in the resurrection? Will we be ourselves on the New Earth?

33:18 What about gender and marriage on the New Earth?

40:49 What about roles, leadership, and government on the New Earth? 46:28: Will there be animals on the New Earth?

52:51 Will animals talk on the New Earth? What about meat eating?

1:05:35 If there are realities Scripture reveals about the age to come, should we try to apply them to life on the earth right now?

 

Recommended Reading 50 Days of Heaven (Special Edition) Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Heaven Heaven

Find Your Identity in God, Not Your Suffering

We live in a time when we are defined as disabled, bipolar, alcoholic, ADHD, victims of lupus, cancer, Parkinson’s disease, and nearly everything else. Our condition easily becomes our primary reference point.

I am an insulin-dependent diabetic, but my disease doesn’t define me. I learn what’s necessary, take care of myself, and live. I shouldn’t become preoccupied with a disease any more than with a career, a hobby, possessions, or a retirement program. I want Jesus Christ first, and my family second, and then my church and ministry to define my life.

David Powlison, now with the Lord, wrote,

People will often express their care and concern by inquiring about your health. That’s good, but the conversation easily gets stuck there. So tell them openly about your sickness, seeking their prayers and counsel, but then change the direction of the conversation by telling them what your God is faithfully doing to sustain you with ten thousand mercies. Robert Murray McCheyne wisely said, “For every one look at your sins, take ten looks at Christ.” ...For every one sentence you say to others about your cancer, say ten sentences about your God, and your hope, and what he is teaching you, and the small blessings of each day. For every hour you spend researching or discussing your cancer, spend ten hours researching and discussing and serving your Lord.

We are to receive comfort from God and His people, and then we are to give that comfort to others. People who pour themselves into loving God and other people find their identity becomes clear. They rest in the fact that God has a purpose and plan for their lives, and they are here as God’s ambassadors and ministers to meet the needs of others. This is critical to our sense of identity. God, not suffering, should define who we are.

Recommended Reading 90 Days of God's Goodness Seeing the Unseen, Expanded Edition The Goodness of God

How Can I Discern Whether a Certain Christian Book or Podcast Is Good to Read or Listen to?

Note from Randy: This Q&A appeared in the latest issue of our ministry’s magazine. My thanks to EPM staff member Stephanie Anderson for her answer.

Question from a reader:

How can I discern whether a certain Christian book or podcast is good to read or listen to? I have a hard time knowing which ones hold to good teaching and honor what's found in Scripture.

Answer from Stephanie Anderson, EPM staff:

We are to be like the Bereans, who carefully checked the Apostle Paul’s teachings against Scripture to discern whether what he said was true (see Acts 17:11). Scripture also tells us to “test all things. Hold on to what is good” (1 Thessalonians 5:21).

Our ministry frequently receives questions about whether we/Randy are familiar with a particular resource, and the following are some evaluative tips we often use.

In evaluating books, it can be helpful to check a book's Amazon page, and see who it is published by and also who has endorsed the book. Reading customer reviews (both the positive ones and the negative ones!) can give you an idea of the book's content as well as potential pitfalls.

In her article Becoming a Discerning Christian Reader, Brandi Davis offers these tips:

Check the author’s social media and/or website. If you see ungodly fruit there, it will most likely show up in what they write.
Research the publisher of the book. Some publishers target a very specific Christian demographic, and knowing more about them may help you make a clear decision.
Read a sample. Many online booksellers allow you to read the first few pages of a chapter on their website.

In the case of a podcast, consider looking through their website and episode descriptions. See what guests have been on the podcast. After sampling some episodes, here are some questions to ask:

Does this podcast lead me to have a deeper love for God and His Word?
Does this podcast point me to Christ and help me to know and love Him more?
Does this podcast help me obey Philippians 4:8 (thinking about whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and admirable)?
Could my time be better spent studying/ listening to other resources?

Randy writes, “Our theology tends to come from whatever we trust.” We want to encourage readers to be wise and careful in what they put their trust in.

In his article 15 Discernment Diagnostics, Kevin DeYoung writes, “Mature Christians do not cast a critical eye on everyone and everything a hair’s breadth different from them. But they are discerning, and they are careful.”

Recommended Reading The Grace and Truth Paradox

Our Unforgettable Family Gathering before Nanci’s Death, and Saying What Needs to Be Said to Loved Ones

In March 2022, after four-plus years battling colon cancer, and praying for healing daily, Nanci and I decided it was time to end the treatments, which weren’t effective anymore. We planned a final vacation together. Nanci was excited to make that last journey, but God had another journey in mind.  

She took a turn for the worse, and nine days before she died, Nanci told me that she felt she didn’t have much time left in this world, and she wanted to speak into the lives of our kids and especially our five grandsons. (She called our daughters “the girls,” our grandsons “the guys,“ and our sons-in-law who are both named Dan “the Dans.”) So I reached out and asked our family to come within two days to gather around Nanci for what would be the final (in this world) gathering of our tribe of 11.  

Honestly, I can’t imagine a more Christ-honoring sendoff and short-term goodbye of a loved one than God kindly gave us. It was truly all I could’ve hoped for and prayed for. Nanci heard words of deep love and respect from her children and grandchildren, sons-in-law, and husband. 

For weeks she had hardly been able to speak a sentence without a nagging cough (her colon cancer had moved to her lungs and a third of her lungs had been surgically removed). But that day God gave her strength to share words of love and encouragement. She spoke to us for 15-20 minutes. It was Christ-centered and remarkably clear, and she spoke way longer than she had for months. God gave her a voice and His breath.  

Nanci spoke to each of the people in the room, including our daughters and sons-in-law and grandsons, and she had something in particular to say to each, from her heart, as she called them by name. There were many tears, but also laughter, and it was Nanci’s laughter that gave permission and blessing to ours.

With her permission, I then read various powerful segments from her handwritten journals. This included her own profound thoughts from meditating on Scripture, as well as many verses and great quotations she had written in her journal. 

This was not a normal journal. She would write a sentence or two about what the doctor had to say at an appointment, and then a page or two about a Scripture passage. For example, she had read Psalm 119:91, which says “All things are God’s servants,” then wrote in her journal about “My Cancer is God’s Servant.”  I read that and various other things “Grams” had written in her journal.

I reminded our family that she had written everything I was reading to them, so I was simply the mouthpiece, and all these words and insights came from her, not me. Not only were the rest of us encouraged by what she had written, she was. It was a dream come true to have every member of the family there in that room. 

That day some of our family got up and going at 8:30 AM, and by 11 AM we all came into the bedroom where Nanci was in her hospital bed. We didn’t end until 8:30 PM. Nanci slept a fair amount of the time after our morning gathering and at the end, when it was time to pray over her, she was still asleep. But we all laid hands on her and each member of the family prayed, very different and beautiful prayers. It was so incredibly heartwarming. 

The beautiful thing was that all of them had earlier—either in the group of 11 of us, or one-by-one coming in to talk to her during the day—crowded into our bedroom and personally shared their love for their Grams and a temporary goodbye, which we know will be followed by eternal reunion. 

What an emotional and meaningful and truly unforgettable time! Nanci's desire was to have an eternal impact on the lives of her grandsons, and her life did that, but that day was the culmination of her life. 

Nanci told them, “Boys, don’t ever become bitter at God for what He chooses to do. He loves me even more than you or than I love myself and He knows what's best. Trust Him no matter what hard things you go through in your life. He will always be there for you.”

One of our seventeen-year-old grandsons sat beside his Grams, listening to her struggling to speak powerful words and hearing me read amazing words from her journal. After hearing words of life, commitment and trust from his grandmother for forty minutes, he said to her, “Grams, if you can trust God facing this [suffering and death], I know I can trust Him in whatever I’ll go through in my life.” 

Another teen grandson told her, “I will never forget what you said to us today, Grams.” The others in their own ways made it clear they felt the same.  

It was all embodied in those thoughts she wrote to God in her journal and allowed me to read. The family members were blown away to hear in her own words the depth of her trust in the love and sovereignty of God. So much Scripture and so many quotes from Charles Spurgeon are woven into her journal, way more than personal details of things that were happening in her life. In her journal, Nanci said twenty times more about God than she did about herself.  

Seven days to the hour after we finished our time listening to Nanci and praying over her, and everyone was back home, I was alone with her and holding her hand when she died. There was a flood of relief for her and of joy for her. And of course, a river of grief, but it was not a flood because I had been going through grief for her for years. I was, and am, so incredibly happy for and proud of her for how she served and honored Jesus in this life and affected the lives of people all around her. I thank God every day for the blood-bought assurance of eternal reunion with Him, and with her, and with each other. 

In light of the coming resurrection of the dead, the apostle Paul could say, “Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?” (1 Corinthians 15:55).  

I realize not everyone gets the chance to have a final gathering with their family. But I do encourage anyone who has a terminal illness to use your remaining time to have God-honoring interactions with your loved ones and say whatever needs to be said while you still can. 

One of the greatest gifts you can bestow on your loved ones is the honest anticipation of reunion in a better world, the one for which we were made. In fact, even if you’re not terminally ill, if you have something you’d wish you had said to your loved one before they or you unexpectedly die of a heart attack, stroke or accident that could happen any time without warning, let me suggest that you say it to them today or if not, as soon as possible. Next month may not be soon enough. 

Hopefully both you and that loved one will still be around for a while. But the time will certainly come when they or you won’t be around. So be realistic. Use your time wisely now to speak into the lives of those around you. 

For those who love Christ, the separation brought by death will be brief; the reunion will be everlasting and incredibly sweet. For God‘s people, the best is yet to come. We never pass our peaks in this life, we won’t reach our peaks until the resurrection and once we reach those peaks, we will never pass them, unless it is because our capacity for joy will keep forever expanding. 

The kind of family gathering I’m talking about could also win the hearts of any family member struggling with their faith or who might be prone to suffer greatest grief when you die. You can give them words of assurance they will hold onto.

“Brothers, we do not want you to be ignorant about those who fall asleep, or to grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope. . .. God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him.   .   .   . We who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them.   .   .   . And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore encourage each other with these words.” ( 1 Thessalonians 4:13-14,   17-18)

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The Love and Trust of a Horse, and John Wesley’s Relationship with Horses

In Creatures Like Us, Lynne Sharpe explores the awareness and sensitivity of horses to their environment and the emotions of people around them. She’s found that horses possess a phenomenal ability to decipher human emotional cues and read body language.

Friends can discuss with one another over a cup of coffee what seems to be going on in the life of a mutual friend. Obviously, the horse cannot do this. (In fact, horses probably don't even like coffee.) But their horse may have a deeper intuitive knowledge about the human that rides them than that person’s friends do. The friends might miss the signs of a suicidal depression that the horse can clearly sense, even though they cannot communicate it, except perhaps to the one whose eyes they look into—and God gave horses just the eyes that might save their human’s life.

If you’ve experienced the love and trust of an animal, whether it’s from a horse, a dog, a cat, or any other kind of animal, you know it’s profoundly moving. And no wonder, since God has coupled mankind and the animal kingdom, not only through the order of creation, with humans immediately following animals on the sixth day, but also through His mandate that we govern the animals (Genesis 1:26).

One of our EPM staff shared this video with me of a woman’s deep connection with her horse:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RC5jjlo6BbE?si=P41Em5PI17iDgtix

That video makes me think of the 18th-century evangelist and theologian John Wesley (1703-1791) who spent an unbelievably large portion of his life on horseback as he rode from town to town, preaching the gospel in farmer’s fields and land surrounding coal mines. Since Wesley spent so much time with horses, he knew them well, and was grateful to the God who so clearly loves and praises them. He knew God had good reasons for making animals, including transporting him to maybe twenty times more people in his lifetime so that they could hear him preach the gospel.

At a conservative estimate, he preached more than 40,000 sermons, some to congregations in excess of 20,000. He regularly preached four or five times a day. His sermon register from January 1747 to December 1761 reveals that he delivered 7,000 sermons on 1,354 texts.It’s been calculated that Wesley traveled on horseback an astounding 250,000 miles, the equivalent of ten times around the entire earth.

In his journal, Wesley recorded on March 17, 1746:

I took my leave of Newcastle...my horse was exceedingly lame. …We could not discern what it was that was amiss; and yet he would scarce set his foot to the ground. By riding thus seven miles, I was thoroughly tired, and my head ached...I then thought, "Cannot God heal either man or beast, by any means, or without any?" Immediately my weariness and headache ceased, and my horse's lameness in the same instant. Nor did he halt any more either that day or the next!

I can see John Wesley practicing his sermons with and praying for his horse as he rode 25 miles day after day, occasionally as many as 90 miles, to preach three times and move on. Wesley’s closest companions were horses (who were no doubt grateful he was 5’3” and weighed only 128 pounds!).

He wrote in his journal:

Nearly thirty years ago I was thinking, “How is it that no horse ever stumbles while I am reading?” (History, poetry, and philosophy I commonly read on horseback, having other employment at other times.) No account can possibly be given but this: because then I throw the reins on his neck. I then set myself to observe; and I aver, that in riding above a hundred thousand miles, I scarcely ever remember any horse (except, two, that would fall head over heels anyway) to fall or make a considerable stumble while I rode with a slack rein. To fancy, therefore, that a tight rein prevents stumbling is a capital blunder. I have repeated the trial more frequently than most men in the kingdom can do. A slack rein will prevent stumbling if anything will. But in some horses nothing can.

After he had fed, watered, and brushed his mount, I could easily see Wesley at a campfire reading Job 39:19-25 to his horse from the Bible carried in his saddlebag (which he often read and memorized as he rode). I’d guess he read too from Revelation 19:

Then I saw heaven opened, and a white horse was standing there. Its rider was named Faithful and True…His eyes were like flames of fire, and on his head were many crowns…He wore a robe dipped in blood, and his title was the Word of God. The armies of heaven, dressed in the finest of pure white linen, followed him on white horses… On his robe at his thighwas written this title: King of all kings and Lord of all lords. (Revelation 19:11-16)

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