T. Strange's Blog, page 32

I just wanted to remind everyone that the Publishversary is happening in a little less than half an...

I just wanted to remind everyone that the Publishversary is happening in a little less than half an hour. Make sure to stop by for prizes and fun!

grantaireyoucantdothat:jeanprouvairycute:but les amis living in a house and adopting three baby...

grantaireyoucantdothat:

jeanprouvairycute:

but les amis living in a house and adopting three baby kitties and naming them égalité, liberté, and fraternité

(via subcourfeyrac)

"I would rather put out a campfire with my face."

“I would rather put out a campfire with my face.”

- Debra Morgan, “Dexter”

Photo

It’s BDSMonday!Today’s thought: setting up aftercare before you start playing can make...

It’s BDSMonday!

Today’s thought: setting up aftercare before you start playing can make a huge difference. Putting drinks and/or snacks (etc) nearby means you don’t have to get up later—and there are definitely scenes you don’t just get up and walk away from! (My Sir would like to add that sometimes the top doesn’t want to leave the bottom alone after a scene, not even for the few minutes it takes to get snacks)

And a reminder about my Publishversary - be sure to stop by and check it out!

Photo

"Womens’ supposed greater sex drive was an argument for their inferiority, but once the assumption..."

“Womens’ supposed greater sex drive was an argument for their inferiority, but once the assumption became reversed, no one argued that mens’ lustfulness was a sign of a fundamental irrationality that should preclude them from business and politics. Rather than a handicap, a large sexual appetite was positive once it came to be seen as a characteristic of men. Women, being passionless, supposedly lacked the drive and ambition to succeed. Much like sex, the public realm of work was dirty and distasteful, hardly suitable to womens’ delicate sensibilities.”

-

When Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men

Really interesting article about how the perceptions of sex (especially sex drive) have basically reversed gender roles in the past few hundred years.

…and no matter what the outcome is, women still seem to end up at home.

(via tooyoungforthelivingdead)

Funny how that works.

(via kiriamaya)

I’d like a return ticket to Vienna circa 1900 so I can slap Freud upside the head, please.

I’d like a return ticket to Vienna circa 1900 so I can slap Freud upside the head, please.

One Year Publishversary Celebration

I’m having an event to celebrate my first year of publication with Torquere Press!

I’ve got a ton of giveaways lined up, from me and other authors. We’ll be giving away swag packs, ebooks and print books!

Contributing authors (etc) include: 

Saya and the all the editing staff at All Data Resources LLC

Olivia Black

Lynn Townsend

Ari Mckay

Voss Foster

Raven de Hart

Neena Jaydon

V.L. Locey

Renee Rose

Reece Butler

Elizabeth L. Brooks

Huston Piner

Shelly Bell

Raven McAllan

Be sure to stop by for some fun and prizes!

(Authors: If you would like to donate a prize or just stop by the event and talk about what you’re up to, please message me or email me: tq.strange (at) gmail.com)

thaxted:ethiopienne:consent is…Non-coercive: If you’re...

thaxted:

ethiopienne:

consent is…

Non-coercive: If you’re cajoling, threatening or otherwise trying to “convince” someone to engage in a sexual act with you, you are breaking consent. If you asked 16 times and got 15 No’s and 1 Yes, you still did not adequately obtain consent. Also you’re a weak individual.

Not fixed: What I mean by this is you shouldn’t take for granted that after asking once for consent you now have consent forever. It’s not like landing a gig as a Supreme Court judge. You don’t have consent for life. It should be continuously negotiated.

Dynamic: Related to the above note, consent for one act does not necessitate consent for all acts. Consent is not an EZ Pass. It should be re-addressed constantly for different acts.

Conscious: Yeah, I want to believe I don’t have to explain this one. Bad enough I had to list it. But okay, yes, an inebriated/asleep/passed out or otherwise not fully coherent person cannot consent. There, you can’t say no one ever told you.

Unambiguous/explicit: Assume all of the following to mean “no.”—”Maybe”, “I’m not sure”, “Not yet”, “Kinda”, “Wait a minute”… I could go on.

Not contingent upon sexual interest nor sexual arousal: We know. Blue balls are a motherfucker. Still no excuse. Neither your NOR the expressed/implied interest of any potential partners is an invitation to any act. Also, neither your nor the (assumed) arousal of anyone you might want to have sex with is an invitation. Yes, someone might be aroused and still not want to fuck. Crazy times, I know.

Not compensatory: Yeah, that dinner and movie were nice. Still not an invitation to fuck. And if you thought it was, you’re a world class asshole.

Not something that requires a qualifier: No one needs to explain why they are not granting you consent. No is enough.