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Searching for Someone Who Embraces Your Authentic Self: Six sources of hope

You’ve tried it all: online dating, set-ups, flirting as the spirit moves you. All in hopes of meeting that very special someone, that person who not only accepts you for your individuality but embraces you for it.
But it’s been years and you still haven't found someone truly right. 

Of course, life ain’t the movies and it’s far from certain that your magically perfect person will ever be yours, let alone be yours forever. But as a break from my usual incessant practicality, my PsychologyToday.com article today offers my best shots at finding the key to your lock.

On One Hand, But on the Other Hand....

From Plato to Stephen Covey, it’s long been argued that a life is more meaningful if guided by a foundational personal philosophy.

To that end, My PsychologyToday.com article today  describes six tensions the resolutions of which can be core to developing your personal philosophy.

Options for Substance Abusers

Substance abusers have a hard time resisting substances' easy short-term feel-good, no matter their long-term liabilities. Perhaps one or more of the ideas in my PsychologyToday.com article today will help.

Come see me play a mini piano concert this Weds?

This Weds 7:30 to 8 PM, I play a mini piano concert at The Marsh Cabaret in Berkeley: Standards, show tunes, ragtime, + my own own compositions. After, the Craig & McGregor band plays quality jazz + Jefferson Starship singer Darby Gould: Just $10, including a free buffet!

The Zen of Bowling

Many people tend to think of bowling as Neanderthal, if only because it was a key recreation in the Flintstones cartoon.

Yet, as in all sports, competence and enjoyment is enhanced to the extent that one can be Zen about it.

Even if you’ll never again pick up a bowling ball, life lessons are embedded in the Zen of bowling. I describe them in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Tips for Anger Management

Anger-prone people usually pay a big price professionally, personally, and in their health. 

My PsychologyToday.com article today aims to help. First, I offer common scenarios likely to trigger anger and how the anger-prone person might wisely respond. After, I list the embedded principles for dealing with anger-proneness. I conclude with a few tips on how to deal with an angry person.

Dealing with Sadness: Self-help tactics

Going through life a little sadder than average isn’t necessarily a negative: It can feel mellow to you and to others who could use respite from today’s overstimulating existence. The key is to avoid mild sadness from descending into the pit.
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers five experiences that would make anyone sad. After, I list the embedded principles for coping.

Worry: Self-help tactics for reducing anxiety

There are two categories of worrying: about a specific issue or general worrying. My PsychologyToday.com article today offers suggestions for each.

Making the Most of Counseling, Psychotherapy, or Coaching

You’re spending time, probably money, and emotional energy on counseling: whether psychotherapy, career counseling, personal coaching, whatever.  Yes, choosing a well-suited counselor matters, and a previous article focused on that. But making the most of your counselor can be at least as important. I offer tips in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

8 Simple Self-Help Tactics: Ideas for the worried, the sad, and the angry

Of course, severe problems usually require professional help but garden-variety sadness, worrying, and anger can often at least be moderated with simple self-help tactics. Perhaps you’ll find one or more of these worth trying.  

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I list them in order of what’s been most helpful to my clients.