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December 10, 2009
The Real Scandal of "Sexting"
Poor judgment + risk-taking + society's double standards = vulnerable teen girls
If you have a teen step/daughter or know anyone who does, you'll want to read about sexting. Check out my newest post on psychologytoday.com–and leave a comment!
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/200912/the-real-scandal-sexting/comments
December 8, 2009
What Do You Think? What the Divorced Mom Has to Say
What your husband's ex wants you to know about being divorced mom...
Thanks to all of for your very moving comments/ letters to your partners' exes and for reading my guest post, "What your child's stepmom wants you to know about her life" on the No One's the Bitch web site.
Jennifer Newcomb Marine has written a response, "What Your Husband's Ex Wants You to Know About her Life." Very interesting! Have a read and let me and/or Jennifer know what you think:
December 7, 2009
Talk for Steps in New York City
Stepfamily members often feel stressed over the holiday season. Come talk about it--and other step issues--this Wednesday Dec. 9
Come join me for a discussion of stepfamily life this Wednesday, December 9 at 6:30 pm. at the Calhoun School, 81st and West End Avenue on Manhattan's Upper West Side.
Whether you're a "step" of some sort, the spouse or friend of one, divorced or separating, thinking about repartnering with kids, or just curious–all are welcome. I will facilitate discussion, answer y...
December 3, 2009
What Would You Like Your Husband's Ex to Know About Your Life?
Do you wish your husband's ex could have a better sense of what you struggle with?
I have a guest post on Jennifer Newcomb Marine and Carole Marine's No One's the Bitch Website today. As you know, I strongly feel that women don't need the additional pressure of "fixing it" with hubby's ex. Civility is often a difficult enough goal, and we need to be very careful about siphoning energy away from self-care and tending to our marriage, given how depleting stepmothering is, and how vulnerable...
December 2, 2009
Why the 2010 Census Matters for Stepfamilies–and Stepmothers
Please check out my newest piece for the Huffington Post on stepfamilies and the 2010 U.S. Census. Without accurate numbers, there won't be enough research–or support.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wednesday-martin/stepfamilies-to-uncle-sam_b_373314.html
December Stepmom Magazine…
The December Issue of Stepmom magazine is here (www.stepmommag.com)! Lots of great reading as you gear up for your winter holiday nervous breakdown–Mary Kelly provides a priceless window onto an ex-wife's (temporary) divorce regret; the sassy and hilarious Belle Mere remembers her first Christmas with sprogs; Erin Erickson on being a heavy-lifting "single" stepmom whose husband is out of town more often than not; Peggy Nolan on a stepfamily wedding; therapists/authors/experts Jacque...
December 1, 2009
Cooperation and Conflict: Why It's Easy to Hate the Other Woman in Psychology Today
Befriending your husband's ex is a new cultural pressure. Shooting for civility is usually a tall enough order!
I explore the phenomenon of co-wife cooperation and conflict worldwide in my most recent piece for Psychology Today. Have a read–and post a comment please!
November 30, 2009
Who's the Bi*ch?
Tune in to Dr. Phil on Tuesday Dec 1 to hear Jennifer Newcomb Marine and Carol Marine discuss evolving from Mother/Stepmother enemies to friends
There's a new cultural pressure in town–to befriend your ex's wife, or your husband's ex. As you might know from reading my posts, I feel strongly that any woman married to a guy with kids and an ex should feel free to just say no to this pressure–to focus on her marriage and her own mental health and adjustment, given how depleting and decentering...
November 27, 2009
Happy Thanksgiving!
Spongebob floating by our window...Happy Thanksgiving!
November 23, 2009
How are YOU going to handle the holidays?
Other women with stepkids want to know: how are you and your partner handling the holidays this year? What are your "family" or couple rituals for the holidays? Any new strategies to share? Or aggravations? What are you afraid of…and looking forward to? Sound off…post a comment!
How will you survive/celebrate the holidays?
