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February 8, 2010
Love, Lust, Sex, Romance, Power, Marriage: Would you marry your man with kids again, knowing what you do now? Tell me about it!
Knowing what you do now, would you marry him again?
A few days ago I published a piece on psychologytoday.com called "Is Marriage Necessary?" You can also link to it via the post below.
One Boston University study found that nearly 75% of women with stepkids they interviewed would NOT do it over again–would not marry a man with kids, that is. Would you? Tell me about it (and remember your posts here are anonymous!)
February 5, 2010
Love, Sex, Romance, Marriage: Is Marriage Necessary? on psychologytoday.com
Why did our ancestors marry? And why do we? Is marriage necessary?
As we count down to Valentine's day in this Love, Sex, Romance, Power series, today I ask the question, "Is Marriage Necessary?" What can psychologists and couples therapists–and married people–learn from the history and sociology of marriage?
Have a look…and leave a comment:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/201002/love-stories-is-marriage-necessary
February 3, 2010
Will You Be Your Valentine?
You know you deserve it!
No, that's not a typo. This post in the Sex, Love, Lust, Romance, Power series as we count down to Valentine's Day is about something every woman with stepkids need to learn: self love.
As I was researching my book Stepmonster, one woman with teen stepkids told me her secret motto was, "Love yourself because your teen stepkids sure won't!" Unfortunately this observation often holds true for younger and even older stepkids, too. In terribly loyalty binds, they perceive ...
February 2, 2010
Love, Lust, Sex, Power, Romance: Is There a Third Partner in Your Marriage?
Lose the third wheel--by obsessing less about your husband's ex
As promised, an article about love, sex, and romance in stepfamilies as we count down to Valentine's Day. Today's guest post is by Susan Wisdom, LPC. Susan wants to know, Why are you obsessed with your husband's ex? And she wants you to put your marriage first. Have a look…and leave a comment!:
http://www.stepcoupling.com/2010/01/why-do-you-care-about-the-ex/comment-page-1/#comment-295
February 1, 2010
Love, Lust, Sex, Romance, Passion, Power
Repartnership with children can be a complicated dance. How to make it sexy?
Fourteen days until Valentine's Day. What does this holiday mean for those of us in a remarriage or repartnership with children?
Over the next 14 days check in for posts about love, sex, romance, passion, and power in a remarriage with children.
Today you can check out my article for StepMom Magazine: "Get It On–Sex and the Woman with Stepkids." Yes, you'll have to subscribe to StepMom Magazine to read it–but it's...
January 19, 2010
Stepmonster in Boca!
If you live near Boca Raton or know anyone interested in understanding stepfamilies who does, please pass it along: I'll be in Boca Raton on January 27, talking about stepfamily and stepmother reality and answering questions for the JCC/ B'nai Torah Synagogue Author Forum Series.
I'll be doing a reading here. Well, not exactly, but close enough.
The venue and address:
B'nai Torah Synagogue
6261 SW 18th Street
Boca Raton, FL 33433
(561) 392.8566
Time: 7:30 pm.
All are welcome!
January 15, 2010
Stepmonster Giveaway
Enter a Stepmonster giveaway!
If you'd like a free copy of Stepmonster or know someone who would, click this link to a giveaway…deadline to enter is January 18.
January 12, 2010
Mary Kelly-Williams Stepmonster Support Group in Boulder, CO on Wednesday Jan 13
If you live in Boulder or have a friend who does, be sure to check out the Stepmonster support group run by therapist Mary Kelly-Williams of www.marriedwithbaggage.com
Mary knows stepfamily issues and can help. She also does stepmother coaching via phone and Skype. Check out the meet-up link:
http://www.meetup.com/Stepmoms-AKA-Step-Monsters/calendar/12096233/?a=nr1o_grp&rv=nr1o
Mary Kelly Williams of www.marriedwithbaggage.com is running a Stepmonster support group. She knows her stuff!
January 11, 2010
Tell Me About It: Your Favorite Discussion Board
Reader Ali recently asked me to recommend a discussion board for her so she can connect with other women with stepchildren online. There are so many, a couple of which I have listed on the side of my blog under "resources."
Online support boards for women with stepkids--are any particularly helpful for you, and why?
Please tell me about the discussion board for stepmothers you like best, and why. That will really help me make a recommendation for Ali–and all the women who come here. Thanks for ...
January 7, 2010
Jacque Fletcher on How to be a Stepmom's Friend
Wouldn't it be nice if your best girlfriend always gave you the benefit of the doubt when you confided in her about how tough it can be to have stepkids?
Did you ever confide in your best girlfriend about some aspect of stepfamily life that was driving you insane–rejecting, rude stepkids come to mind–only to find her looking at you like you were the Wicked Queen from Disney's Snow White? It really, really hurts when a trusted confidante doesn't get where you're coming from–or, even worse...
