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The Subconscious and Models

“Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.”- James Allen In Frogs into Princes, Bandler and Grinder state that modeling is not about what people say, it”s about what people do. But it is also about what people experience. You cannot know everything about a person”s state just by looking […]

Fundamental Steps

“A man only learns in two ways, one by reading, and the other by association with smarter people”- Will Rogers When you model someone, it helps to follow these basic steps: Eliciting strategies: Here you consider various aspects of the person”s thinking and behavior. You are deconstructing their success into discrete pieces of information. Your […]

Meta-Programs and Modeling

We also use the word model when we talk about a person”s “model of the world.” This is similar to the scientist”s model of how something works, but it is more informal and may be largely unconscious. It is generalizations about the nature of things. People draw upon such generalizations in making decisions and interpreting […]

The Essence of Modeling

“We Learn . . . 10% of what we read, 20% of what we hear, 30% of what we see, 50% of what we see and hear, 70% of what we discuss, 80% of what we experience, 95% of what we teach others.”- William Glasser Bandler”s gift for modeling was perhaps the most powerful initial […]

The Path of Mastery: True NLP Skills

“A human act once set in motion flows on forever to the great account. Our deathlessness is in what we do, not in what we are.”- George Meredith  In the previous lesson, The Conflict Between NLP Methodology and its Trail of Techniques, I provide you with a good distinction between limited practice of NLP and […]

Meta-Questions for Integrating the Spirit and Skills of NLP

 By observing and questioning creatively, it is possible to create unexpected and novel solutions. This is very important, because we are highly conditioned; in a sense, we are only partially conscious. NLP is about “owning your own brain.” One way to do this is to break familiar patterns, to not be satisfied until a novel […]

The Unconscious

“The conscious mind may be compared to a fountain playing in the sun and falling back into the great subterranean pool of subconscious from which it rises.”- Sigmund Freud An understanding of the unconscious is crucial to NLP methodology. Patterns II: NLP was inspired by the Milton model and recognizes that the unconscious is responsible […]

The Importance of Modeling

Good training flows from good models; it manifests those models in its approach to teaching as well as its content. If models were not important, you could learn everything you need regarding NLP from courses.   Would you rather learn a collection of techniques, or have the same abilities as those Bandler used in creating the […]

Types of NLP Practitioners

You don’t have to spend much time among NLP practitioners to notice that they are quite diverse. I”m not referring to their ethnicities or religions. I”m talking about their skills and attitudes about NLP. I want you to do two things with this section. First, identify which category you best fit. Then, consider these categories when you […]

The Conflict Between NLP Methodology and its Trail of Techniques

This lesson can help you save a lot of money and time if you are considering getting NLP training. I”m going to explain core ideas that can make a big difference in your approach to getting training. If you want to understand NLP and select NLP training, you must look beyond its techniques. NLP is […]