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A New “Leading with Honor” business testimony

We’re ecstatic by this new Leading with Honor testimony from a large construction company owner – please celebrate with us:

“As soon as I could get my hands on a copy of ‘Leading with Honor’, I read it. Shortly thereafter I bought more copies and gave to each of the key people in my company. Over the next year, we reviewed each chapter and discussed its content in our staff meetings. A framed copy of ‘The Honor Code’ hangs in the front hallway of our company offices. I have told many people that the book has had a greater impact on my life than any other secular book that I have ever read. In a world characterized by a continual parade of dishonor before our eyes, it is so refreshing to hear someone stand up and proclaim, ‘There is a better way!’”.

14 Leadership Lessons from the Hanoi Hilton

Publishers Weekly calls Leading With Honor “moving” and “inspiring.”

Foreword Reviews says it is “provocative…an exceptionally well-constructed and well-written book.”

Business Book Summaries described it as “a gripping personal narrative” whose lessons will help leaders at all levels.

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The latest recommendation from Lee’s bookshelf – “In Extremis Leadership: Leading As IF your Life Depended On It”

The latest recommendation from Lee’s bookshelf – “In Extremis Leadership: Leading As IF your Life Depended On It” by Thomas A. Kolditz. The book describes a variety of high-risk situations that are ideal settings to seek and find great leaders, assess how they might be different, and to glean valuable insights for extraordinary leadership in our everyday lives.

Please read more on the Good Reads website about this recommended book.

If you’ve read it, please share your comments – thank you

 

 

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The 4 Symptoms of Working with Dysfunctional Dominant Personalities

One third of the population has a “Dominant” personality.  I happen to be one of them and many of my friends and clients are also.  We have high confidence in our opinions which like most strengths can be good or bad – strengths taken too far usually become struggles.   A deviant and devious, version of this group is the Dysfunctional Dominant who always has to be right regardless.   Have you worked with a dysfunctional dominant personality?  Or, does it hit closer to home and you recognize those dominant tendencies in your own life? In essence, it’s the inability to be wrong. I call it “A Progression in D Major” because there are several “D” steps to this destructive leadership behavior.

The Symptoms

One of the Dominant personality’s best talents is their ability to quickly “get it right.” They typically build a track record of successes and these further stroke their ego which, in turn, adds to their already high confidence. But, no one can be right all the time; and when they’re confronted with being out of step, they have great difficulty accepting it.

Perhaps you have heard it said about a powerful leader, “There’s a graveyard just outside his/her office for those who dared to confront them with the truth.” [Tweet This]

Of course if you continually shoot the messenger, pretty soon that is a stack of dead messengers and no more messages. A good tipoff on the dysfunctional dominant is that they attract weak “yes” people and get rid of those who stand up to them.

The Pattern

Observing this a few years ago, it occurred to me that what I was seeing was a Progression in D Major. How far the progression goes depends on the level of dysfunction of the individual. You can probably think of bosses, famous politicians, high profile coaches, and religious leaders who went down this scale.

Note the progression below when they are caught in a mistake.

Step 1 – Deny

Example – “That’s not true.” “It never happened.” “You’re wrong.”

Step 2 – Defend

Example – “You don’t understand; there is a good explanation.”

Step 3 – Demonize

Example – “They are out to get me. They are jealous, etc.”

Step 4 – Destroy

Example – In this step ruthless tactics are employed to undermine or eliminate the opposition.

After watching many leaders over the last thirty years, I’ve observed that the outwardly confident but inwardly insecure Dominant person is the most likely one to be caught in this progression. And behavioral assessment like Leadership Behavior DNA can help pinpoint the specific natural behavior and communication style of each member of your team.

The Next Step

“Admitting that you recognize these dysfunctional, dominant tendencies in your own life is a significant step towards a renewed personal leadership outlook.” [Tweet This]

There’s time to correct past mistakes and re-commit to honorable leadership. And if you’re being led by a Dysfunctional Dominant personality, know that their behavior will eventually catch up with them; the best thing that can do is to daily commit to leading with character, trust, and courage in all of your relationships.

So, how have you related to a Dysfunctional Dominant personality in the past? When has your honorable leadership made a difference? Please share your comments and thoughts in this forum. 

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Confirming Unique Natural Behavior and Communication Style – Leadership Behavior DNA

Leadership Behavior DNA™ is one of the premier assessment services to grow mature, trained leaders in your organization. Many of our clients take the next step and use one or both of the training options below to enhance their objectives – watch Lee Ellis’ brief introduction and review a sample report.

 

 

 

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Stuck in Challenging Leadership Situation? See Inside

In challenging conversations, which team members withdraw from the conversation? Which ones try to dominate? What if everyone chose to engage instead?

The Courage Challenge card is a popular tool that Lee Ellis uses in coaching and training, and it’s available to you! Download a copy and/or purchase copies for your entire time in the Online Store.

And please share with others – thank you!

 

 

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Leading with Honor Wisdom for Today, May 15, 2017

“Live your values. Be faithful to your spiritual core, your conscience, and your deepest intuitions.” – Lee Ellis

 

 

 

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A Leadership Tribute – Happy Mother’s Day!

Some quick facts about these amazing, maternal leaders:

– Today, 54% of new mothers have at least some college education.  That’s up from 41% 20 years ago in 1990.

– Women make 80% of the general purchasing decisions for their families . . . 93% of the food purchases . . . and even 65% of the auto purchases.

– Moms are getting older and more educated.  In 2008, 14% of new moms were 35 or older, and 10% were in their teens.  Those numbers were the exact opposite in 1990:  There were more moms in their teens back then.

– It’s split almost perfectly 50-50 . . . half of women say that they decided to have a child when the time was right, and half say pregnancy just kind of happened and they rolled with it.

 

 

Source: Phillips & Company

 

 

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Leading with Honor Audio Book – Drive and Listen!

The Leading with Honor Audio Book, narrated by Lee Ellis, continues to be a popular resource! Take Lee with you on your travels this Summer – listen to an audio sample on Amazon.com.

And if you’ve listened to this audio book, please share your comments – thank you!  

 

 

 

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2 Quick Boosters for Fulfilling Your Values

Need a practical boost to maintain and fulfill your values on a daily basis? Here are a couple of important leadership things to remember from ‘Leading with Honor’:

Inspiration is Important and Must Be Ongoing. Emotions are the energy that drives us to accomplish our deepest desires.

Find your inspiration from various sources: Spiritual Foundations – renew them and be true to your faith; Family Relationships and Traditions of Your Heritage;  Personal Development through Conversations, Books, Blogs, Podcasts, Events, and more. And as a leader, are you authentically sharing with others to help them develop?


Stay Connected to People Who are Like-Minded.

Who is speaking into your life? Do you have authentic relationships? Be discerning. Don’t let those with negative values pull you down.

Please share your wisdom and experience on this topic in this post – thank you

Also, read the entire article on this topic entitled “Lead from your core values: 3 Ways to Get Ahead of the Competition”

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Leadership Learning: 3 Minute Clip on Florence Nightingale

Some of today’s most respected leaders today have learned the discipline of studying other people’s lives through biographies to learn from their mistakes and capitalize on their strengths.

Take 3 minutes and watch the biography of woman nurse pioneer, Florence Nightingale. Then please share your comments – thank you

 

 

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Giving Back Spotlight – The Yellow Ribbon Reintegration Program

As Summer 2017 gets into full swing, my many military personnel are either transitioning in or out of deployment across the world to defend our free dom. Lee Ellis and Leading with Honor support The Yellow Ribbon Reintegration Program’s mission is to provide quality Joint deployment support and reintegration services to all Service members, and their Families ensuring they are informed, and self-sufficient, thus enabling them to sustain the rigors associated with deployment or mobilization.

Please learn more about this fantastic program – thank you

 

 

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