Sam Jolman's Blog, page 4
April 8, 2024
March 22, 2024
The Sex Talk You Never Got
“So Sam, what do you do for work?” asked John.
John had us hostage. Our family had escaped to the mountains for a getaway trip last fall. And we stayed in one of those time share resorts. You might know the type where, where if you endure an hour long sales pitch, you get a discount on your stay.
John was our sales-guy-turned-captor but thankfully he seemed human enough. While our boys raided the snack area, John grilled us with questions about our lifestyle and financial state, trying to make a s...
March 5, 2024
February 29, 2024
Is Shame Ever a Good Thing?
“Those who look to him are radiant;
their faces are never covered with shame.” Psalm 34:5
Last weekend, our son performed at his school’s talent show. He’d been practicing Für Elise on the piano for months (which made a great soundtrack for cooking). He worked his reps to imprint it to memory, leaving no risk to chance that he’d get it wrong. The show is not obligatory. He volunteered himself for this level of prep and agony. And as we drove to his school the night of the performance and sat w...
February 14, 2024
January 31, 2024
Your Other Marriage Vows
“Couples choose each other with an unerring instinct for finding the very person who will exactly match their own level of unconscious anxieties and mirror their own dysfunctions and who will trigger for them all their unresolved emotional pain.” Gabor Mate
Behind every church is a dark alley where the bride and groom sneak to before their wedding ceremo…
