Sam Jolman's Blog, page 2
March 25, 2025
Zoom Conversation: Ego Strokes
Friends, thank you for your patience in awaiting this post and this conversation. As so many have battled super viruses this winter, I took my turn with the flu in early March. But I am alive and kicking and look forward to talking again.
I will teach as usual for a short bit and then we’ll jump into conversation. Where do you notice ego driven sexualit…
March 22, 2025
Ego Strokes
“Narcissism is not fundamentally about self love, but about an escape from love.” Chuck DeGroat
Standing at the vending machine in our school’s cafeteria, my crumpled dollar finally accepted, I punched the code for Funyons and reached down to retrieve my delicious fake onion rings. I stood up and found myself face to face with a high schooler. My 8th grade frame froze.
“So did you get any?” he asked.
My mind spun into motion trying to make sense of his question. I took it this was not about the sna...
February 23, 2025
SCHEDULE CHANGE: Zoom Conversation
Good people, I am so sorry but I need to move our conversation meeting time. I completely forgot about an important family event we have Monday night. We are switching to:
Thursday, February 27, 6:30 MT/8:30 MT
The same link will work. But I’ve attached it below again. Please accept my apologies. And please keep filling out the survey on the best time for…
February 21, 2025
Zoom Conversation: Romance Is Dead. Long Live Romance.
Faithful Readers,
After I hit send on my post last Thursday, I jumped on a plane with my whole family and headed to Dallas, TX for a speaking gig. A church marriage ministry put on a Saturday Valentine’s coffee date and invited me to come cast a vision for healthy romance and sex. How cool is that!? I had an absolute blast.
When I speak, I read faces a lot
February 13, 2025
Romance is Dead. Long Live Romance
Here’s your calendar ding reminder that tomorrow is Valentine’s day—the day we collectively love to hate or at least ignore. Around this time each year, a dissenting chorus of voices rises up against the commercialization of love. Even if you celebrate and like this day, maybe you’ve felt this too. The sentiment goes like this: No one should tell me when I have to act romantic. No one should force me to buy flowers and chocolates and plan a date night. I can do that on my own. Love should not be...
January 23, 2025
Zoom Conversation: Joseph, the Broken Hearted
Well friends,
In speaking about Jesus and the scandal of God’s love, Dallas Willard said, “The major problem with the invitation now is precisely overfamiliarity. Familiarity breeds unfamiliarity—unsuspected unfamiliarity, and then contempt. People think they have heard the invitation. They think they have accepted it—or rejected it. But they have not.”…
January 16, 2025
Joseph, the Broken Hearted
“Joseph was a good man and did not want to embarrass Mary in front of everyone. So he decided to quietly call off the wedding.” Matthew 1:19 (CEV)
“We had a kind of love, I thought that it would never end
Oh my lover, oh my other, oh my friend
We talked around in circles, and we talked around and then
I loved you to the moon and back again
You gave everything this golden glow
Now turn off all the stars 'cause this I know
That it hurts like so
To let somebody go” Coldplay (Listen here)
Christmas is far go...
December 16, 2024
Zoom Conversation: The Killer and the Lover
Friends,
This conversation and accompanying post were late to get to you this month and for that I am sorry.
I actually wrote a whole different post in November but it stirred up something in my own trauma story. I tried to push through but realized that goes against the kindness I value. So I set aside that post for now to engage my own healing first. …
December 15, 2024
The Killer and the Lover
“The Lover keeps the other masculine energies humane, loving, and related to each other and to the real life situation of human beings in a difficult world.” Robert Moore & Douglas Gillette
“Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold.” Jesus (Matthew 24:12)
During Thanksgiving week, a man took a Greyhound bus to New York city. After spending a number of days bumming around, he woke up Wednesday at 5:30 am in his hostel room. He dressed, walked several blocks to a Starbu...
November 11, 2024
Zoom Conversation: No, This is Not Permission to Lust
Well, friends, let’s gather again and talk.
Have you ever considered that your face (eyes, gaze, countenance, attention) could be a means of blessing and generosity to those around you? Before you ever say a word, your hold power in your face simply in how you animate it. You can give a generous gaze or take with consuming eyes. That to me is where the …
