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I’m thrilled to share that my long-awaited novel has finally emerged from the shadows of my laptop, where it patiently awaited its moment. Life’s responsibilities had kept it tucked away, almost forgotten, but today marks a turning point as I present it to you for your reading pleasure. This day holds even more significance, as it’s my husband’s birthday – what better gift than a self-penned novel to celebrate him?

Happy Birthday, dearest husband! May this day be a reflection of the joy you bring into my life, multiplied tenfold. Here’s to more love, laughter, and inspiration for my future tales.

Now, dear readers, allow me to introduce you to the world of my creation: a rib-tickling romantic comedy that promises to keep you delightfully engaged until the very last page. Join Rajib and Saachi in a whirlwind of hilarious mishaps as they navigate a maze of secrets and parental expectations while venturing into the perplexing realm of real love amidst a sea of fabrications. But wait, the stage is set for a comedic collision as the magnetic Raina strides onto the scene, capturing both Rajib and Saachi in her charismatic aura. The question that hangs in the air like confetti: Who will win Raina’s affection in this uproarious love triangle?

For a taste of the literary feast, the first chapter is served hot and fresh on my blog. Dive right in, and don’t forget to share your thoughts in the comments.

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Chapter 1 – Rajib and Saachi

“Why can’t you just tell them the truth?” Rajib shrugged.

For the last two hours, Saachi had been requesting and begging and pleading with Rajib to help her, but in Rajib’s opinion, it was just an insane idea. Rajib could not believe what Saachi was asking for.

“Please, Rajib, let’s get married this Sunday.” Saachi’s face glowed under the dim fairy lights. The restaurant owner seemed to have invested so much in the Diwali décor that he didn’t want to take it off until Christmas.

But Rajib’s face was dull and grey like his dark grey sweatshirt with the bold printed words ‘University of Toronto’, which he had teamed with black trousers. “Saachi, I thought we were meeting to have dinner because you wanted me to try this, your new favourite restaurant. And Sunday? It’s the day of our common birthday party, like the old days. Our families will be there, and maybe some relatives too,” Rajib thought for a moment, “and our parents will repeat the same old story of how we were born on the same day. Argh!” He made a bored face.  

Every year, Ruchita and Sujata would take this opportunity to describe the wonderful day of Rajib and Saachi’s birth. The two babies had looked like angels wrapped in cream-coloured swaddle cloths; their cradles adjusted next to each other. Twenty-nine years ago, on the morning of October 26, Rajib was fetched out of Ruchita, and Saachi decided to pop out on the same evening. She couldn’t stay in anymore; after all, her bosom buddy was already out, breathing fresh air. Now howzzat for a coincidence!

“That’s the best part of getting married this Sunday. They will have something new to discuss on our next birthday – how we got married on the same day.” Saachi winked.

“I don’t get it. I seriously don’t get it. Where did this marriage thing come from between us?”

“I love you, Rajib, I always did. And you love me, too.”

“We are best friends.” Rajib clarified.

“Yes. We are, and that is the base of our strong relationship.” Saachi held her palms together like a big knot and grinned. Stupefied with the proposal that Saachi had just thrown at his face, Rajib frowned. His vision blurred for a minute. In fact, for a few seconds, he couldn’t see Saachi. He could feel the steam rising in front of his eyes, his ears felt the heat, his nose stung, and he coughed slightly. Was the haze in his mind manifesting itself as smoke?

“Here are your chicken sizzlers,” chimed the waiter.

Rajib took off his spectacles and wiped them with the table napkin lying next to his tall glass of Long Island Ice Tea. He adjusted them on his nose, getting a clear look at Saachi. Saachi gave the waiter a wide smile. “Thank you, just in time.”

“And just as you like it.” The waiter smiled back. “Enjoy your meal,” he said and moved back towards the kitchen.

Rajib waved in front of his face to clear the remaining steam from the sizzlers. Saachi adjusted the table napkin on her lap, adding another layer to her ruffled blue midi-skirt. She looked smart yet casual in her formal white shirt. She had kept Rajib waiting in the restaurant for thirty minutes because of an annoying client’s last-minute unscheduled meeting at her office. This client wanted her bedroom walls repainted because the colour she’d last approved did not look the same as she had imagined. It did not leave Saachi any buffer time to go home to change and freshen up, or rather, doll up for the big proposal to her best friend. Not that she cared! Rajib had seen Saachi in far worse avatars, the worst being her mud-covered one when she had tried to jump over a muddy pothole to save her shoes but had missed royally. She’d looked like a grumpy hippo struggling to escape a muddy lake. That’s what Rajib would often call her, though, at the moment, he looked much of a grumpy hippo himself.

“I don’t believe it. You rang me up to say you needed to discuss something urgent. Is this your urgent?” Rajib poked a fork in the chicken. “The nerve of you!” He stuffed his mouth with the chicken and put the fork down forcefully.

“Rajib, you are my best friend. We’ve been together for close to three decades now. Who else could I turn to for help?”

Yup! Born on the same day, studied in the same school and graduated from the same high school, though with different specializations – they were indeed best friends. Saachi continued coaxing. “We have shared everything from our tiffin boxes at school to subject notes during graduation. Don’t forget I also lent you that baggy jacket of mine, which you haven’t returned yet.” Rajib stopped chewing for a second, and before he could say anything, Saachi started again. “That’s okay! That’s completely fine.” Rajib rolled his eyes as Saachi continued, “You can keep it, and I will keep those sunglasses of yours.”

Rajib nodded once. “And…”

“And the sneakers.”

“And…”

“Yeah. Fine. I have your iPod, too. But that’s not the point.”

“Exactly, Saachi. That’s not the point. Getting married is not the solution to your problem. In fact, it is not even a problem. It is your life, and you have the right to choose how you wish to spend it. Your parents have supported you throughout, from letting you choose the curtains of your room to your career. Unlike my parents.” Rajib folded his arms in front of his chest and exhaled sharply. “Anyway, I’d still suggest talking to Kaka-Kaki. If you want, I can come and give moral support. Or help you explain. Sujata Kaki will definitely understand. You are her daughter, her only child, and she will not throw you out.”

Rajib had a point. He adored Saachi’s parents, who had raised her with much regards for her free will. She had been free to choose her career, to the extent that her parents were okay with her taking up a job in an interior designing company while thinking all the time that she was an Architect. 

“No, she might not throw me out, but she might just kill me,” Saachi said and looked the other way.

“How do you know? Have you told her about your situation?” Rajib eyed her.

“No, not yet, but I thought I should prep her for the big reveal. So, I decided to show my parents a movie focussed on this topic.” Saachi closed her eyes and paused for a few seconds. Rajib looked at her expectantly.

“Well, Ma just went berserk. She said, ‘Tch Tch Tch. These movies have ruined the lives of young girls.’” Rajib burst out laughing. He laughed so hard that he had tears in his eyes. He even earned a few turned heads towards their table. “Yes, I had to tell her I was twenty-eight, not a young, naïve girl, dammit! In fact, no, correction. On Sunday, I turn twenty-nine. But dude, listen, this is not funny. My parents will never accept that their daughter is a lesbian.” Saachi cupped her chin with her right palm.

Saachi had a point. Her parents supported her super hectic job because they were happy to have their only child staying close to them. So close that Sujata and Arun had set a ‘stay-in-Kolkata’ condition for potential grooms. In fact, it’d be even better if he agreed to reverse conventions and come and live with Saachi. But Saachi despised the whole idea, wanting instead to get out of these boundaries and go far, far away. And for her, Rajib was the only hook that could pull her out – like a frog from its well.

“It’s not so simple for them to take in, but that’s not how you tell them. You need to sit and talk.”

Saachi pursed her lips and let out a big sigh. “You think I didn’t?”

“You did?” Rajib raised his eyebrows in anticipation.

“Not exactly, but I told them about an imaginary friend, Aarya. I told them that she is gay and how her parents supported her.”

“And?”

“And my Ma asked me to stay away from her. Because that imaginary Aarya might hit on me and ask me to get married to her.” Rajib again burst into laughter, and this time he had the whole restaurant looking at them. Saachi threw her napkin at Rajib.

“I told you it’s not funny.”

“I am sorry,” Rajib said, controlling his laughter.

“As a last resort, I requested my company to transfer me to their Mumbai office, and they readily agreed, but you don’t know my Ma. She said, ‘No, No, No, the only way you can step out of Kolkata is if you get married to someone outside Kolkata.’” She mimicked the voice of Sujata squeakily and then slapped her forehead. “Ma is going nuts about getting me married.  Every time I reject one of her prospects, she’ll say, ‘A girl should get married and bear children before she crosses the mark of thirty. She also says my biological clock is ticking, and I’ll have issues in the future. How do I explain to her that the biology she believes in is not the biology I am looking forward to as my future?” She raised her hands in the air and exclaimed angrily. “I can’t do it! I can’t marry any random man in Kolkata and be….” Saachi paused and looked up. “I want to go out of here, free of restrictions, no stupid alliances, and no more meeting inane boys.”

“Despite all that,” Rajib moved his hands in circles. “Our marriage is not the solution to this problem.”

“Why not? It’s a good plan. We don’t have to really get married – we just act like we are married. Then we can move to Mumbai.” Saachi was full of energy as she blabbered her plan.

Rajib cleared his throat. “Ahem, Saachi. I live in Toronto, not Mumbai.”

“Oh! Shut up,” Saachi shrieked. “I know your company has fired you, and I also know that you have found a job in Mumbai.”

“How did you know that?” Rajib shrieked even louder than Saachi.

“Taani told me.” Saachi took a sip from her tall glass of Coconut Mojito, sliding back in her seat. “And I also know about your breakup with her.” She gently bent forward again and tapped on Rajib’s left hand.

“Oh, she could not keep it to herself, right? Why did she have to call you? And what did she say? Why did she break up? Was it because I had sucked the life out of her like a vampire?” Rajib pierced his fork into a tiny shred of chicken multiple times, but the stubborn piece refused to get stuck to the tines. Irritated, he tossed the fork on the plate, picked up the chicken with his fingers, and chewed on it as if trying to push all his anger onto the innocent morsel. “Saachi, I was fired. I was depressed. How can she call and rant out to you?”

Saachi sat straight again and cleared her throat. “Taani did not call me. I called her. I needed information about the process of moving to Canada. That is when she told me about everything.”

Rajib swallowed, trying not to choke at the same time. “I gave my heart and soul to the company, and they fired me. And you know how my parents are. Being in Canada was one of Baba’s deepest desires, which he fulfilled through me. I feel I am crushing his dreams under my incapability.” His face dropped. “And Taani, I loved her so much, but she broke up with me. She felt I was just a miserable loser who couldn’t stand up to his parents. But the truth was she was unhappy that I wanted to move to Mumbai. She was afraid I wouldn’t be able to deal with a long-distance relationship.”

Saachi nodded her head, caressing Rajib’s hand. “So, when do you plan to break this news to Ruchita Kaki and Arun Kaka?”

“No, I won’t tell them. I will quietly fly to Mumbai and pretend I am in Toronto.” Rajib folded his arms tightly against his chest. “Baba will never be happy about me moving to Mumbai, for he wanted me to be that one in the family who was a Canadian from Kolkata. Now I don’t know. He is going to be so furious. And Ma, remember when I was leaving for Toronto for my masters, how she had called everyone in the family to see me off at the airport. Oh, it was like a mini procession. I was so nervous, what with the whole pressure of moving to a new country, living with new people. Everyone here had huge expectations of me to complete my studies, get a job and never return, except for vacations. Not a single person was upset that I was leaving, not even Ma. In fact, she declared at the airport that she would get the best daughter-in-law for her NRI son. What NRI? What is this fascination with settling outside India? I don’t understand.” Rajib rubbed his face with his palms. His father had always aspired to settle in Canada like his elder brother but couldn’t ever make it. He later opted to live his dreams through his son. So here was Rajib, forcing himself to live his father’s dream life.

Saachi snapped her fingers in front of Rajib’s face and pulled him back to the present. “Hello! Can you hear me? Hello!”

 Rajib rubbed his forehead. “Oh, God! Ma and Baba are never going to accept this.”

“Idea!” Saachi smiled, and her hands moved dramatically. “Marry me.”

“Again? Saachi, I won’t.” Rajib pulled a face.

“No! No! I mean, we can act that we are married.”

“What’s that supposed to mean?”

“Look, your parents would not be happy about you going to Mumbai instead of Toronto. They will be heartbroken, of course. Their dream of having an NRI son would break into a million pieces. Moreover, they’ll be shocked to know you no longer have a job in Canada. To save you from all this drama, why don’t we tell them that you want to marry me, which is why you are returning to India? My Ma, in turn, will help convince your Ma now because I will be married to you, and she does not want her daughter to go far away from her. You know your Ma has a very special place in her heart for my Ma.”

“Impossible. Sujata Kaki can never manage that.” Rajib scoffed.

“Of course, she can! My Ma and Ruchita Kaki are staunch friends.” Saachi started counting pointers on her fingers. “They have grown up together. Lived in the same neighbourhood. They are close companions, so close that they had everything in their lives done in sync. They went to the same school, graduated from the same high school with the same specializations, are now working as teachers in the very same school, and got married in the same year to men who bear the same name, Arun Pal. And they even got buns in their ovens around the same time. Do you need more reasons?” Saachi stopped talking in anticipation of a response from Rajib. She moved her eyebrows up and down rapidly.

Rajib looked at her with suspicion-filled, narrow eyes and moved his head. “Nah! I don’t think this will work. And that buns-in-the-ovens comment was cringe.”

“Oh, come on! It is far easier to act married than to act like a Toronto citizen while in Mumbai.”

“Yeah, that’s true, the time zone difference.” Rajib sighed.

“Exactly, think about this. You have to go to Mumbai. You got no choice. I want to go to Mumbai – it is my choice. If we separately go and tell our parents the real reason why we want to go to Mumbai, it might break their hearts. Trust me, it’ll be much easier to convince them to accept our marriage than to open up to them about our reality.” Saachi air-quoted the word marriage and again took a sip of her Coconut Mojito. She looked into Rajib’s eyes. “Once in Mumbai, no one would know, and no one needs to know. We can be on our own. Do whatever we want, and you don’t need to worry. I will find accommodation for myself and move out. I won’t burden you.”

“You can never be a burden for me. We can stay together.”

“Perfect.” Saachi clapped, and Rajib raised an eyebrow. “I mean until we find someone for you.” She winked.

“Saachi, this fake marriage and living together all sounds fine and exciting. But what will happen when we really find someone? We aren’t going to stop going out and meeting new people. How will we manage that? We have to tell them the truth one day.”

“One problem at a time, Rajib. We will see to it when that day comes. We’ll figure out a plan. But for now, are you with me?”

Rajib looked at Saachi for a few minutes. “I don’t know. But getting a flat in Mumbai will be easier if I am with a wife.” He narrowed his eyes and pursed his lips, contemplating the situation for a few seconds. Then he shook his head in agreement. “But, remember, I am doing this only for you.” He shook a finger at Saachi.

“Oh, I’ll never forget it.” Saachi got up from her seat and stood in front of him. “So, Rajib Pal, do we hug and call this a deal?”

“We do, Saachi Pal.” Rajib stood up and hugged her tightly, filled with exhilaration and nervousness at the same time.

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Navigating Your Path: Triumphing in Academia and Beyond with ADHD

Transitioning to college can be a transformative experience, especially for individuals with ADHD. ADHD, a neurodevelopmental disorder affecting attention, impulsivity, and emotional regulation, presents unique challenges in college. This blog post aims to provide invaluable guidance to teens with ADHD as they prepare to embark on their college journey, equipping them with strategies to conquer obstacles and thrive academically and personally.

Choosing the Right College and Major

Selecting the perfect college and major is pivotal for every student, particularly those with ADHD. Consider these factors when making your decision:

College Size and Location: Tailor your choice based on personal preferences. Smaller colleges offer personalized attention, while larger institutions provide diverse opportunities. Location impacts accessibility to essential services and support.Curriculum and Teaching Style: Opt for majors aligned with your strengths and interests. Creative and hands-on fields may resonate better than memory-intensive subjects. Teaching styles should resonate with your learning needs.Support Services: Seek colleges offering comprehensive support services, including academic accommodations, tutoring, counselling, and mentoring. Online resources like CollegeDunia and Shiksha can aid your research.

Applying for Accommodations and Support Services

Accessing accommodations and support services is crucial. Ensure you follow these steps:

Documentation: Provide diagnosis and functional limitations documentation from a qualified professional.Contact Disability Services: Reach out to your college’s disability services office. Follow their application process and guidelines.Early Application: Apply for accommodations before starting classes or within the first weeks of the semester.Communication: Regularly liaise with the disability services office, professors, and advisors to ensure smooth implementation.

Developing Effective Study Habits and Skills

Thriving academically requires honing effective study habits:

SMART Goals: Set Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound goals.Structured Schedule: Organize your time meticulously using planners, calendars, or apps. Break down tasks into manageable steps.Optimal Study Environment: Choose a quiet, well-lit space free of distractions. Incorporate tools like noise-cancelling headphones and fidget toys.Effective Study Techniques: Employ active reading, spaced repetition, retrieval practice, elaboration, and mnemonic devices.

Finding a Supportive Community and Network

Building a solid network helps combat isolation:

Support Groups: Join online support groups like ADHD in Adults and CHADD for connection and guidance.Counselling and Therapy: Utilize professional counselling and therapy services from platforms like YourDOST and Hopequre.Mentors and Coaches: Seek mentors and coaches through Mentor Together and ADHD Coaches.Social Engagement: Engage in clubs, volunteer work, and events to foster friendships.

Looking after Your Mind and Body

Prioritize your mental and physical well-being:

Medication: Consult a doctor for appropriate medication management.Healthy Eating: Eat various fruits, vegetables, and lean proteins and avoid processed foods.Adequate Sleep: Ensure 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night.Physical Activity: Do some exercise for at least 150 minutes every week.Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness to manage stress and enhance focus.

College presents both challenges and opportunities for individuals with ADHD. With these insights and resources, you can confidently approach college, overcome obstacles, and achieve your academic and personal goals.

Sources:

National Sleep Foundation: How Many Hours of Sleep Do You Really Need?CDC: Physical Activity Basics for AdultsMayo Clinic: Mindfulness ExercisesAmaha Health: Find the Best ADHD Treatment in IndiaWebMD: ADHD Symptoms, Types, Testing, and TreatmentMayo Clinic: Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) in Children – Symptoms and CausesVerywell Mind: 7 Tips for College Students With ADHDCHADD: Selecting and Applying to Colleges for Students with ADHDHelpToStudy: Best College Majors for ADHD StudentsAffordable Colleges Online: 20 Best Colleges For Students With ADHD

Study Tools:

Noise-Cancelling HeadphonesFidget ToysTimersPlannersSticky Notes

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Cultural Charms and Moral Marvels: Exploring ‘Moongphali’ – A Vibrant Tapestry of Childhood Tales

Moongphali is a delightful book of short stories tailor-made for young readers, crafted by Neha Singh and Mukesh Chhabra’s creative duo, with Sonal Gupta Vaswani’s enchanting illustrations. These tales balance simplicity and captivating narratives effortlessly, gently conveying essential moral values. Each page bursts with vibrant graphics, vividly encapsulating the spirit of every story, making them even more enchanting for young minds.

One of the book’s exceptional qualities is its celebration of India’s cultural tapestry. Through characters hailing from diverse backgrounds and regions, the book paints a rich portrait of the country’s heritage, fostering a sense of inclusivity and unity.

For me, diving into Moongphali was akin to revisiting the cherished stories of my own childhood. Among the tales, “Poonam’s Chappals,” “The Perfect Doll,” and “The Hundred Rupee Note” stood out profoundly. These narratives delve into themes of envy, greed, honesty, and creativity, guiding protagonists through challenges that mirror real-life scenarios. The stories serve as engaging and relatable life lessons by showing how these characters overcome obstacles and glean wisdom from their experiences. The book captures the essence of ordinary Indian families, endowing the tales with authenticity and relatability.

While Moongphali is a gem, a few areas exist where further refinement could elevate its impact. Sometimes, a deeper exploration of specific stories would have added layers of nuance and resonance. A more gender-sensitive language could have been employed to avoid stereotypes and promote a more inclusive narrative. A prime example is a scene in which a father questions his son’s choice to play with a doll by asking, “Are you a woman?” Such instances, especially in a children’s book, can perpetuate harmful biases that contradict the book’s overall positive message.

Furthermore, a handful of stories within the collection appear simplistic and predictable, leaving limited room for imagination or discussion. While these stories are charming in their own right, a touch of complexity could have amplified their impact and prompted deeper contemplation.

I wholeheartedly recommend Moongphali to those searching for heartwarming and enlightening reading material to enjoy or share with loved ones. This book beautifully encapsulates the joys and hurdles of childhood, delivering invaluable life lessons in the process. Its universal appeal ensures that children and adults can revel in its charm, making it a four-star addition to any literary collection.

Click here to check out – Moongphali

Raju’s Cosmic Quest: A Tale of Curiosity and Chicken Wisdom

Also available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Audible, Amazon Music, and Google Podcasts. Just hit play above or search for ‘Witty and Whimsy Tales’ on your preferred audio platform. Sit back, relax, and prepare to be captivated. Enjoy!

Meet Raju, a clever little rooster in the bustling village of Bantupur. Raju had a beak for books and a knack for knowing things. He wasn’t just any old rooster; he was the village’s feathered philosopher!

One sunny morning, Raju discovered a dusty book in the corner of the barn. He flipped through its pages and learned about the grand solar system – Earth, the sun, and a cosmic jamboree of planets, moons, and stars! Raju’s feathers ruffled excitedly, and he knew he had to spread this celestial gossip.

With a flap of his wings, Raju gathered all the clucky comrades in the chicken coop.

“Hey, peck-tacular pals, listen up! I’ve got egg-citing news!” Raju crowed with glee.

The curious chicks blinked their beady eyes, eager to know more. Mita, a curious chick, chirped, “What’s cracking, Raju?”

Raju replied with a wink, “Prepare to be shell-shocked! Our Earth isn’t flat – it’s round like a juicy mango! And guess what? We’re doing the moonwalk around the sun, and star-studded parties are happening in the sky!”

The chicks exchanged puzzled glances. One chirped, “You’re pulling our tail feathers, Raju!”

Another added, “Yeah, and I suppose the clouds do the cha-cha with rainbows, huh?”

Raju wasn’t one to chicken out. He flapped his wings and declared, “No yolk, my friends! This is as real as a worm after rain. I read it in this book!”

He dashed to the barn, returning triumphantly with the book clasped in his beak. Raju opened the pages to reveal a dazzling picture of the solar system. He pointed to Earth, the sun, and the rest of the cosmic crew.

“Lookie here, this is our cosy Earth, there’s the sun throwing a party, and these are the other cosmic rockstars!” Raju cheerfully clucked.

The chicks stared at the colourful page, scratching their heads and flapping their wings.

“But Raju, that’s just a scribble scramble! I’d rather chase my own tail,” piped one chick.

Another quipped, “Yeah, and I’d bet my beak that the moon is made of cheese!”

Raju felt like a lone chicken in a storm. “Oh no, you feather-brains, this isn’t just doodles! It’s science – the kind that even the wisest owls hoot about!”

The chicks burst into laughter. “Raju, you’re the cluckiest comedian we know! Round Earth? Dancing planets? Next, you’ll tell us clouds can moonwalk!”

They laughed and clucked, leaving Raju with a heavy heart. Feeling as blue as a robin’s egg, he flapped away to hide behind a haystack and let out a cluck of disappointment.

As Raju sat there, his feathers drooping, he couldn’t fathom why his friends wouldn’t believe him. He wondered why they didn’t want to join the cosmic fun. But amidst his feathers of sadness, Raju also dreamed of finding a friend who would listen, learn, and share a laugh about the universe’s quirks.

He imagined a friend who would flap their wings in excitement at every new discovery, and together they’d explore the world’s wonders – one feathered fact at a time.

The story’s moral is about the importance of open-mindedness, embracing new knowledge, and valuing the curiosity and enthusiasm of others. It highlights how individuals sometimes resist accepting new ideas or information that challenge their beliefs. The story encourages readers to approach unfamiliar concepts with an open heart and a willingness to learn rather than dismissing them outright. It also emphasizes the significance of friendship and finding like-minded individuals who appreciate and share in one’s passions and interests. Ultimately, the story teaches us to be supportive, kind, and respectful towards those who bring unique perspectives and insights into our lives, fostering an environment where learning and discovery can flourish.

Mastering Work-Life Harmony: Empowering Working Parents for Success

In recent years, the pursuit of a harmonious integration of professional and personal lives has gained traction, leading to the prominence of work-life balance. While this concept resonates with many, working parents often encounter challenges due to conflicting demands from employers, families, and society.

India’s Work-Life Balance Reality:

A study by Arcadis, a consultancy firm, has shed light on India’s work-life balance situation. Shockingly, Indian workers contribute an average of 2,195 hours annually, surpassing the global average of 1,855 hours. This discrepancy is evident compared to cities like Hamburg, Germany, where employees clock in only 1,473 hours per year.

Root Causes of Imbalance:

The absence of supportive policies like flexible work arrangements, childcare facilities, parental leave, and equitable pay contributes to this imbalance. Moreover, employers often impose unrealistic expectations, demanding extended work hours, high performance, and constant availability. Simultaneously, families may hold outdated gender role expectations, pressuring parents to juggle household chores and childcare responsibilities.

Consequences and the Path Forward:

Juggling these conflicting expectations can lead to stress, burnout, dissatisfaction, and guilt among working parents. As a result, it becomes imperative for working parents to master the art of effectively managing expectations to foster both personal and professional fulfilment.

Tips for Effective Expectation Management:

Clear Communication:

Openly communicate your expectations with your employer, colleagues, and clients. Clearly outline your priorities, limitations, and any commitments. For instance, if childcare responsibilities necessitate you to leave early or work remotely, provide advance notice and detail how you’ll ensure task completion. A recommended resource for mastering clear communication is “The 4-Hour Work Week: Escape the 9-5, Live Anywhere and Join the New Rich“.

Realistic Negotiation:

Be honest about your abilities and capacity. Avoid over-committing by negotiating realistically with your employer and stakeholders. Consider requesting extensions or task redistribution if your workload seems overwhelming or deadlines are too tight. “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change” offers insights into effective negotiation.

Wise Prioritisation:

Prioritise tasks wisely by focusing on critical and urgent matters. Delegate or defer less essential duties to maintain focus. This approach prevents energy and time wastage. For comprehensive guidance on prioritisation, consider “The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do, and How to Change“.

Holistic Balance:

Strive for harmony between professional, parent, and individual roles. Reject sacrificing one facet for another. Embrace your responsibilities while nurturing your well-being. A recommended read for holistic balance is “The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results“.

Balancing expectations as a working parent is undoubtedly challenging. Still, these strategies can significantly contribute to a more fulfilling work-life balance. For further inspiration, delve into “The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun“.

Sources:

Work-Life Balance in India: Policy, Practices and the Road Ahead | SpringerLinkWork-life balance statistics in India worst among peer countries – CareerizmaHow To Manage Expectations at Work (and Why It’s Important) | Indeed.com10 Steps for Handling Unrealistic Expectations at Work | Indeed.comWork-Life Balance in India – InHunt World

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Unlocking Your Best Self: A Roadmap to Radiance with ’52 Small Changes’

“52 Small Changes: One Year to a Happier, Healthier You” by Brett Blumenthal is an invaluable companion for those seeking to enhance their well-being through gradual yet impactful shifts. Blumenthal’s adept guidance empowers readers with 52 thoughtfully crafted concepts spanning the realms of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual wellness. A year-long journey of self-improvement unfolds as each weekly proposal is supported by research and communicated succinctly and clearly.

The book can spark real change in your life by covering all aspects of your well-being. Blumenthal’s suggestions are imbued with practical wisdom, rendering them both attainable and enriching. The chapter dedicated to the “Purpose of Life” particularly resonated with me, provoking profound introspection and prompting a reevaluation of personal aspirations and values. Equally noteworthy are the insightful directives about essential practices such as hydration, nutritional balance through increased fruit and vegetable consumption, and adopting a multivitamin regimen. These seemingly minor adjustments harbour a remarkable potential to invigorate health and vitality.

While the book undoubtedly brims with inspiration, a discerning eye may uncover specific recommendations that appear commonplace or peripheral. Those well-versed in exercise, meditation, and sun protection might perceive limited value in their respective chapters. Similarly, some directives, such as stress reduction, financial enhancement, and fostering optimism, might strike readers as overly simplistic. A more granular and actionable breakdown of these goals would be welcomed to amplify the book’s efficacy.

In its entirety, “52 Small Changes” is a steadfast compass for those committed to an enduring journey of self-improvement. Though not a groundbreaking manifesto, the book navigates the realm of possibility with pragmatic and attainable advice. Blumenthal’s work provides an invaluable resource for individuals seeking a harmonious and elevated existence. Whether in search of motivation or practical steps, this book exudes the potential to embolden and shepherd any seeker toward a brighter, more enriched life.

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Elevate Your Child’s Confidence: A Blueprint for Nurturing Healthy Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is a powerful force that shapes how children perceive themselves, their abilities, and their place in the world. It influences their thoughts, actions, and relationships, making it a cornerstone of their overall well-being. Nurturing robust self-esteem in children is vital for fostering happiness, confidence, and success throughout their lives. However, the challenges of today’s world, such as academic pressure, peer influence, and the impact of technology, often cast a shadow on children’s self-worth. This article will explore actionable steps parents can take to help their children develop and maintain strong self-esteem, leading them toward a brighter, more confident future.

Celebrate Effort and Achievement:

Recognizing and praising a child’s efforts and accomplishments are essential for building self-esteem. Instead of generic praise, such as “Good job,” offer specific and heartfelt compliments. For instance, acknowledge their hard work in solving a challenging math problem or express pride in their musical talents when they learn to play the guitar. Emphasize their character traits and values, like kindness or humour. Be cautious not to overpraise or compare them to others, as this can inadvertently create undue pressure or feelings of inadequacy.

Use positive affirmation cards to boost your child’s confidence, motivation, and happiness.

Encourage Exploration and Resilience:

Children need opportunities to explore their passions, learn new skills, and take calculated risks. Encouraging them to pursue various interests helps them discover their strengths and build resilience. Whether trying a recent activity, embarking on a hobby, or exploring a subject they’re curious about, be their guiding light. Instil a sense of autonomy and independence by letting them make decisions and set achievable goals. Remember, setbacks and failures are part of growth. Rather than criticizing or blaming, help them cope with disappointments and learn from their mistakes. Guide them towards understanding the value of effort and perseverance over instant results.

Unconditional Love and Acceptance:

Children need to feel loved and accepted for their achievements or appearance, not just for who they are. Shower your child with affection, both through words and actions. Remind them often that your love and pride in them are unwavering. Listen attentively to their thoughts and emotions, even if you don’t necessarily agree. Respect their individuality, flaws, and strengths, refraining from comparing them to others. This unconditional acceptance forms the bedrock of their self-worth and empowers them to embrace their uniqueness.

Model Self-Esteem:

Parents are powerful role models, and your behaviour shapes your child’s perception of self-worth. Lead by example: show self-compassion when you face challenges, acknowledge your achievements, and exhibit confidence in your abilities. Demonstrate the importance of nurturing all aspects of your well-being, including your interests and relationships. By embodying healthy self-esteem, you inspire your child to do the same.

Create a Nurturing Environment:

A supportive and consistent environment is crucial for a child’s growth. Ensure their basic needs are met while fostering emotional security, trust, and freedom. Maintain a positive atmosphere at home where your child feels comfortable and valued. Establish clear boundaries and routines, reinforcing them fairly and kindly. Instead of punitive measures, opt for positive discipline techniques that promote responsibility and problem-solving skills. Engage your child in family activities, nurturing their ability to interact respectfully with others.

Cultivating healthy self-esteem in children is an ongoing journey that requires dedication, patience, and understanding. By implementing these five steps, parents can play a transformative role in their child’s self-development. Remember, a child with strong self-esteem is better equipped to face life’s challenges, form meaningful relationships, and achieve their dreams.

As you embark on this empowering path with your child, consider using self-esteem games to make the process more enjoyable and impactful.

Sources:

Positive Psychology: Self-Esteem for Kids Nemours KidsHealth: Your Child’s Self-EsteemADDitude Magazine: Improving Self-Esteem in Kids with ADHD

The Search

My story ‘The Search’ is now on Penguin India blog as one of the three winners of #beafilmystorywriter contest. It’s about a daughter’s quest to find her missing father in a war zone.

Read it here:

https://penguin.co.in/the-beafilmystorywriter-contest-winners-revealed/

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Tuk Tunes & Science Dreams: An Unlikely Journey to Friendship

Also available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Audible, Amazon Music, and Google Podcasts. Just hit play above or search for ‘Witty and Whimsy Tales’ on your preferred audio platform. Sit back, relax, and prepare to be captivated. Enjoy!

Once upon a time, there were two excited pals with big dreams and tiny budgets. Meet Ravi, the guitar-strumming rockstar-wannabe, and Priya, the science wizard with a backpack full of brainy ideas. They both had their eyes set on Mumbai, the city of stars, to chase their dreams!

Living in Bangalore, they were low on cash but high on enthusiasm. So, they decided to find a ride together online. Lo and behold! They discovered each other like a perfect melody finding its rhythm. “Hey there, Science Queen! I’m Ravi, the Rockstar!” Ravi exclaimed with a wink.

“And I’m Priya, the Genius Scientist,” Priya replied with a twinkle in her eye. “Ready to hit the road?”

They agreed to share the ride, and there it was, Ravi’s magical ride – a colourful tuk-tuk named “Tuk Tunes.” It had stickers of music notes, stars, and even a mango (because why not?). Priya thought it looked fun but wondered if it would survive the journey. Conversely, Ravi thought Priya was brilliant but might need a little kick of adventure.

On their way to Mumbai, they went, dreaming extensively and singing louder! But, oh boy, they had different playlists in mind. Ravi wanted to groove to Bollywood beats, while Priya preferred classical tunes to tickle her brain. “Come on, Science Queen, loosen up! Let’s do the Bollywood boogie!” Ravi urged, shaking his hips.

“Rockstar, my brain needs peace, not a Bollywood blast!” Priya replied, smiling.

They couldn’t agree on the speed, route, food, you name it. Ravi wanted to stop at every street food stall, while Priya was eager to taste her research quickly. “Slow down, Rockstar! My brain needs fuel, not just junk food,” Priya chuckled.

“I can’t help it, Science Queen! My taste buds dance to the flavours!” Ravi laughed.

Amidst their quirky banters, they discovered some fantastic sights. They marvelled at cows crossing the road (yes, cows!), found wild monkeys stealing bananas, and even raced against a speedy auto-rickshaw (Tuk Tunes won, of course!). The funniest was when Ravi got stuck in a dress shop, surrounded by colourful sarees, while Priya giggled like crazy!

They also learned about each other’s hidden talents as they journeyed on. Ravi wasn’t just a singer; he could play the guitar like a rock god! Priya’s scientific mind was unstoppable, and she even fixed Tuk Tunes with a paperclip once.

“Science Queen to the rescue! You owe me a concert!” Priya teased.

They realized they were quite the team – Ravi’s adventurous spirit balanced Priya’s logical thinking. “Rockstar, you know how to make a dull ride fun!” Priya said appreciatively.

“And you, Science Queen, turn ordinary moments into magical memories!” Ravi replied with a wink.

As the days flew by, they became best buddies, supporting each other’s dreams and singing silly songs together. “We’re the dream team, Science Queen!” Ravi declared proudly.

“Absolutely, Rockstar! Your tunes and my brainpower – unstoppable!” Priya giggled.

Finally, Mumbai appeared on the horizon, the city of dreams, where their journey would end. They parked Tuk Tunes near the famous Gateway of India and shared a warm, hilarious farewell. “See you on the big stage, Rockstar!”

“And you, Science Queen, in the Nobel Hall of Fame!” Ravi replied, giving her a high-five.

As they went their separate ways, they knew they’d cherish this crazy adventure forever. They might not have hit the big stage yet but they found something more valuable – a lifetime friendship. And who knows, maybe someday, they’ll reunite to create a science-rock fusion that’ll shake the world!

And so, our funny duo, Ravi the Rockstar and Priya the Genius Scientist, waved goodbye to each other with big smiles and even bigger dreams. The end… or should we say, the beginning of a fantastic journey!

The story’s moral is that friendships can be formed in unexpected and challenging situations. Despite their differences and initial disagreements, Ravi and Priya discovered they had more in common than they thought. Their journey together taught them to value their different gifts, and they grew as people. The story emphasizes the importance of open-mindedness, understanding, and finding common ground with others, even when they seem very different from ourselves. It teaches us that embracing diversity and valuing each other’s strengths can form meaningful connections and create lasting friendships that enrich our lives.